Am I crazy for wanting another baby even though I just had one four months ago?
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Linda - posted on 01/16/2012
Children are a blessing from the Lord. You are NOT crazy. If you want them, and God gives them, go ahead. And, contrary to Angela's advice, I think that often you CAN nurse while you are pregnant under most conditions...but you need to discuss that with your doctor. Women a thousand years ago didn't even ask these questions...they just took them as they came (and there wasn't any formula back then either!)
Anne - posted on 01/17/2012
I have another question, your 2 older children are at least three and a half to four and a half years older than your 4 month old. Are you concerned your four month old with not anyone to play with that is close to hie/her age? We have a family in our church that the boys are almost 11 months apart both born n the same year, another family in our church have 2 chosen children and 2 birth children the second chosen and first birth child are almost 11 months apart but born in different years. I agree with the other moms that have responded, if this works for you and your family to have your children close in age it is really between God, your husband and you. No one else gets a vote unless there are health reasons not to have your children close in age.
Angela - posted on 02/05/2012
I was told by my Health Visitor (nurse who specialises in mothers, babies & toddlers) that I would need to stop breastfeeding if I got pregnant again. Therefore I took her at her word! I do understand there are many authorities that say otherwise.
Since breastfeeding has something of a contraceptive effect, you may actually find it hard to to get pregnant whilst still breastfeeding - this isn't the case for everyone though!
My youngest two are 13½ months apart in age. I breastfed my son till 4 months. I fell pregnant with his sister within a very short time of getting him on formula infant milk.
I have to admit that in some ways it's easier to have kids close together. I was absolutely longing to go back to work. Having the kids close together meant I could do just that as soon as the youngest was in school. I have four - the oldest is less than 9 years older than the youngest.
Amy - posted on 02/04/2012
I got pregnant with my 2nd when my 1st was 8 months old. They are 17 months apart. For a while it was a whirlwind of diapers, heavy double strollers, and breastfeeding. BTW, you do not have to give up breastfeeding to get pregnant, and you can still breasted when you are pregnant. I breastfed my 1st until he was a year old. But now my boys are best friends, they are 2, and almost 4, and they love each other dearly. when my big one goes off to school the little one asks me "where my brudder?" For the 2 hours he's gone 2 days a week, he really misses him. Also, they are so close in age they share all their toys, and have the same interests. I say go for it. everyone assumes our 2nd was an oops baby, but he wasn't. we tried for 3 months. don't let others dictate your life, you and your husband know what's right. Babies are a gift from God. And, despite all the craziness, there is also a lot more love in your house, we're pregnant with our 3rd and people keep saying Geez, another one? It hurts sometimes, but a lot of times its people who just don't understand. they struggled as a parent, or they don't have kids so they don't know how much love can be in a big family. god bless you and good luck.
Linda - posted on 01/17/2012
Well...ignore the other people! God's word trumps them. In our homeschool coop, I actually have a very small family since I only have four children. There are two families there with 10 children, and many more with at least five! There is a family of seven children at our church and another one with five children. And of course, we all know the Duggars who have 19 children. :)
Carla - posted on 01/17/2012
There are many people in the world who will find fault with you, no matter what you do. So--quit listening to them! ;)
You and your husband are happy with your decision, that is all that matters. We would have liked to have a dozen, however, physically and financially we couldn't. I missed having the pitter-patter of little feet, but knew we couldn't do it. Just make sure God is on the same page with you.
God bless, sweetheart
Sarahann - posted on 01/17/2012
yes i would like for my son to have a sibling close in age so he can have a playmate as well.i love having children and like seeing our family grow.i am just having a hard time because when i talk to people in the world they act like i am crazy for wanting more children. i feel like some people are ment to have lots of children and some just arent.i just dont like people acting like there is something worng with me for wanting more.children are such a wonderful GIFT from god and i am sooo blessed to have so whats the big deal with wanting more!
Carla - posted on 01/15/2012
Well, my dear, if you have two a year apart, you just have started the younger one within a couple months of the first's birth. I don't think anyone is crazy for wanting babies, unless they can't afford them. This does not seem to be your case, so if your husband and you are in agreement, AND you have prayed, what does it matter if we think you're crazy ;)
God bless, darling, just make sure you check with The Great Physician.
Sarahann - posted on 01/15/2012
my husband is a great help to me and he wants kids whenever i am ready.we have always said that we want a big family.god has always provided for us and our growing family.i just dont know if i am crazy thinking about having another baby so soon.i have a 5 and 4 year old and a 4 month old.i dont feel overwelmed with my children now.i just need advice if i am crazy for thinking about having another one so soon. i love being a mommie and having children so much i feel that is my calling in life.
Angela - posted on 01/15/2012
When you're pregnant, you MUST stop breastfeeding any already born babies. If you're breastfeeding, do you not want your child to benefit from this as long as possible?
How does your partner feel? Do you/he have adequately-paid jobs to support another child whilst the first is so young? Do you both feel you realistically have the health and strength to cope with 2 very young children so close in age? Do you have the room in your home?
Do you depend on the help of others (parents, grandparents, friends, people from Church, anyone) with the baby you have right now? If so, even when the help is freely and joyfully given, do you think they'll be happy for you to add to your family whilst the first child is so young? Or do you have paid help that you would continue to be able to afford?
How reliant are you on the taxpayer? Do you receive monetary assistance from the State because your personal income is below the threshold to be self-sufficient (welfare)?
Has your doctor/medical advisor told you that it's absolutely fine to go ahead? What does your partner say? I'm assuming that such a momentous decision MUST have been discussed with your partner and your doctor.
My friend, who is unmarried and not earning a great deal of money was told by her doctor that she had some medical problems that would likely affect her fertility in the future. He said that if she wanted children, she would be better not to waste time and have one NOW. She got pregnant within 3 months.
So if you've heard something like that from your own doctor, I could understand that you would want to strike whilst the iron is hot.
Good luck whatever you do!
Carla - posted on 01/15/2012
No one can answer this for you, Sarahann. But I CAN pose a couple questions for you to consider:
Why do I want another baby so close to my 4 m/o?
Can we afford another child, both financially and emotionally?
Is my husband in favor of this?
I don't know if your hormone level has returned to normal yet, and you don't want to make an 'emotional' decision that you regret. So, my advice to you is the same I tell all--pray, pray, pray. Answer the above questions for yourself, pray, then decide together with your husband.
God bless, sweetheart!
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