Natasha - posted on 01/07/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
I seem to be going through a time of venting to my husband. Here lately, it has entailed his "desire" for me. Don't get me wrong; I like it as much as the next person, but I'd like a little romance too.
My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have 3 kids ages 4, 2 (3 next month), and 8 months. I'm a stay-at-home mom, and I babysit a couple kids before and after school. I'm literally stuck at home all week. The only time I seem to get to go anywhere is to church on Sunday. My husband works nights, gets all the sleep he needs, and goes out with his buddies a couple times each month.
He doesn't seem to understand that I'm worn out from taking care of kids, cleaning the house, cooking dinner, dealing with bills and money junk, and everything else that comes with being a stay-at-home mom. And it really bothers me that, almost every time we have some quiet time together, it seems the only thing he thinks about is "getting some". I know I'm supposed to be a submissive wife, but isn't he supposed to "woo" me a bit as well?
All I'm asking for is a picked flower or a note saying how much he loves me every now and then, or just being able to cuddle without him mentioning that he would really like to "have some fun" but will cuddle with me instead because he knows I like it (makes me feel like I'm forcing him to cuddle). Nothing big and fancy, just the little stuff that shoes me he's thinking about WHO I am and not just what I look like and what he can get from me.
It's been very frustrating. I've talked to him about it many times and have gotten so tired of repeating myself that I've just begun to "grin and bear it" even though I'm not in the mood at all, which makes me feel even worse.
If you would, please say a prayer for me. He's going to watch the kids for a few hours tomorrow, so I can get my hair cut and have some time to myself, which is nice, but I'd really like to come home and not get frustrated all over again.