Collette - posted on 01/05/2012 ( 29 moms have responded )
Hi! My name is Collette. I hope someone can give me some advice on my 15 year old daughter...I ask her daily after school if she has homework, and 99 % of the time she tells me no. However during a parent teacher conference, we were told that in the majority of her subjects, she will have homework daily or every other day. Every 2 1/2 weeks we receive a progress report and find out that she is failing a class..AND it is because she is not doing her homework! I have grounded her from sleepovers, her phone, the computer. I told her that from now on there is an 1 1/2 of studying every night. Still though I receive the progress report telling me that she is failing, and because of homework. She stays after school for extra help also. I can accept and understand if she was struggling with the class, but not that she is lying to me about it. There have been a few other incidences with her lying about something big, and being caught doing it. I just hate that I can't trust her and it makes it so difficult for me to enjoy listening to her talk about things when I don't know if it is the truth or not. I want to be able to have a strong close relationship with her, it is something I didn't have with my parents, and I always wanted to make sure I had it with my kids. I'm afraid because she only has a few more years before college, and it feels like we are drifting further apart and I don't want to loose her.
Well, thanks for reading my post and I hope someone can suggest a few things that I can try.