Are you putting your number of children in God's hands?

Erica Shea - posted on 09/03/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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My husband and I currently have a daughter of three months and are putting our number of children in the Lords hands. I was wondering if there were others out there with this same beliefs and how it has turned out for you.

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Darcel - posted on 09/21/2009

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If I were to "leave it in Gods hands" scientifically speaking I would never have a child. I believe that faith without works is dead. And I will show my faith by my works. My work will be to take my clomid on time, consumate with my husband, and pray that God will handle the rest.

Jennifer - posted on 09/17/2009

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I am. My husband isn't so sure, but he worries about the things like money. I don't. I completely trust that God provides for our needs every single day. I have never been on birth control and I never plan to take any. So far He has blessed us with 3 boys ages 4 1/2, 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 years old. My husband has told me we were done after both our second and our third but lately he is starting to talk to me about trying for a girl! :) I just have decided that I will lay it at the Lord's feet and let Him deal with my husband and his fears and let Him decide if He's going to give us any more. I have always said that we are all fools to believe that we have anything to do with creating human life. I mean, yes it's our egg and the man's seed that mix together, but ultimately it's up to God to make it into a life. If God wants a person to exist then that person will exist! :)

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Katie - posted on 09/17/2009

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As I get to know Him more and learn that He is good ALL the time decisions like this one are less difficult to make. We are happy parents of 2 children and one more due to arrive any day now.

Rabecca - posted on 09/17/2009

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I also believe I am leaving it in Gods hands when he tells me not right now and feel very confident that He has led me to the right form of birth control the pill.

I did get pregnant with my frist son on the pill and felt very assured that was because I was ment to be that baby's mom so if he wills it it will happen I know for sure we are not able fincally we cannot support another child right but we will be able to in the near future and I would never make a child live in poverty and one more kid right now definalty could lead us there but I also feel like we will have one more and we will know when the time is right because we listen for his voice in our lives.

I want to be the very best mom and wife I can be and knowing myself and knowing my strenghts and ablities God has given me I just know I was not ment to have 10+ kids 2 yes I can handle but thathaveing more than 3 would never be right for me or my husband we love being parents and stive to be the best ones possible .

My husband only had one brother and I came from a family of 6 kids I always felt lost in the crowd I guess you could say and I had a amazing mom I mean amazing I strive to be half the mom she was and I know I will be just fine but God doesnt have the same plan for us all I look at moms with 4 kids and I feel overwhemled for them thats just not what God has for my life he blesses us all with different talents and paths and know he id A okay with my choice of birth control

Victoria - posted on 09/17/2009

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Putting the number of children in Gods hands, doesn't mean not going onto formal birth control. If you have a relationship with God where you actually hear from God via the Holy Spirit, whether through witness or witnessed word, or maybe even a "brother or sister" or pastoral leader. God may tell you, use birth control. He created it after all, through whichever human He used to invent it. I believe that some people put the LORD God to a foolish test when they say "I'll let God decide the number of kids I have" it reminds me of those groups of people who won't use motorized vehicles or computers, because of a belief that God doesn't want them too. For me, I know if I didn't use birth control (the patch) I would get pregnant very easily. I have three kids, but I had many miscarriages before having any successful pregnancies and therefore because of many reasons, including health, I know I'm not called to have anymore kids, not that I wouldn't if God said have more, but knowing God has lead me to use a formal birth control, means I have put the number of kids I've had in his hands.

Christina - posted on 09/17/2009

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I have a son who is a month old and I would like to have more children but I am very content to leave this in God's hands. He is our Father and knows ourselves even better than we do.

Julie - posted on 09/16/2009

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Not completely. I kind of want to let go and let God take care of it, but I'm scared too. We are already struggling so much financially with just 1 son, and although we want another one, I am desperately trying to fix our finances before we start trying. I guess you could say we've taken the first steps by going off of hormonal birth control recently and we are going to try other methods of birth control, like VCF which is a spermicide. The percentage of "failure" is higher for the other forms of birth control, but I am trusting enough to leave the percentages in God's hands.

Victoria - posted on 09/15/2009

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Yes We have definately put the number of children we have in God's hands. When He witnessed to me to go on birth control, through both my husband & doctor, as well as directly to me, I went on birth control. We are the happy parent of three beautiful daughters as well my husband has 2 adult children, a son and a daughter.

Stina - posted on 09/04/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

After completing a women's bible study on the book "Lies Women Believe" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss, I started trusting in God to control the number of children. I have but my husband not too much . Because we were not on the same page, I decided that we will use a natural method of counting and for two years (after my last child) we were doing fine. All I am going to say is, I am currently 11 weeks pregnant. I did not miss count, my cycle was not off and here I am pregnant and happy. There nothing God couldn't do if that is his will for our lives even if we wanted to try getting in the way. Most of all I was very happy that my husband experienced this because now he sees that ultimately we are not in control. By the way, this is going to be our 6th child and if He wants to bless us with more, I am open to that.



That's how we got pregnant with our third baby.  I had my cycle down to a T.  And then one month I must have ovulated a few days late.  Her name Eliana means "God has answered my prayers."  Our family had been going through some difficult times when she was concieved and her Dad felt she was exactly that- an answer.  Me.  I took it on faith that she was an answer as far as- she was just what was needed in our life according to God's plan. 



Today she is a four month old ray of sunshine and I couldn't imagine life without her.  I'm very glad now that I became pregnant with her when I did- even if when I first found out, I was upset. 

Erica Shea - posted on 09/04/2009

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I totally agree that if God will have it to be it will be. My husband and I are just placing ourselves in the Lords hands completely. God will only give use what we can handle and He only drops you as far as your knees so there is no fear nor regret we are having the will be done in our lives.

Erica Shea - posted on 09/04/2009

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Quoting Darcel:

Please forgive me but what are you talking about when you say that you are putting the number of children you have in the Lords hands?


We plan to have as many children as the Lord blesses us with. That being as few as two and as many as 10+.

Lisa - posted on 09/04/2009

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After completing a women's bible study on the book "Lies Women Believe" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss, I started trusting in God to control the number of children. I have but my husband not too much . Because we were not on the same page, I decided that we will use a natural method of counting and for two years (after my last child) we were doing fine. All I am going to say is, I am currently 11 weeks pregnant. I did not miss count, my cycle was not off and here I am pregnant and happy. There nothing God couldn't do if that is his will for our lives even if we wanted to try getting in the way. Most of all I was very happy that my husband experienced this because now he sees that ultimately we are not in control. By the way, this is going to be our 6th child and if He wants to bless us with more, I am open to that.

Maureen - posted on 09/04/2009

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Interesting coversation ladies. Wondering how you then feel about fertility therapy including drugs, invetero and artificial insemination. You are all very fortunate to have conceived by chance. But it doesn't always happen that way. I've even known ladies who decide exactly what month to conceive - and they do ! They should be going to a casino because conception is definately a hit ( no pun intended ) or miss thing.

Jerusha - posted on 09/04/2009

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Yes, in a weird way. We have two boys, ages 2 and 4. We didn't plan either of them and I was on birth control when both were conceived (due to menstrual issues). After my second, the doctors feared another pregnancy would kill me so my husband had a vasectomy. I know that sounds permanent but I know so many people who are vasectomy babies. God gave me 2 boys while I was on birth control. I don't think a measly vasectomy could stand in His way if He watned to give me more!!

Stina - posted on 09/04/2009

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Sort of. I discovered after my second child that the birth control I was on and had been on after my first baby- was causing me to be depressed. So I talked with my husband and looked up natural family planning methods.
After about a year and a half of successfully avoiding pregnancy, we were surprised by the pregnancy of our littlest blessing Eliana. We hadn't wanted to have #3 at this time... but God has his own plan and timing in mind. We have 3 children now... and would like four. Again, natural family planning because hormones are not an option. But this time, I'm praying "Dear Lord bless us with a baby boy in about 3 years." We'll see if he answers my specific prayer in timing... and in the end, another daughter would be fine.
As for the total number of children, we will stop at 4. So I guess in the end, no. I'm not putting the number of children in His hands- only the timing of the last two children.

Darcel - posted on 09/04/2009

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Please forgive me but what are you talking about when you say that you are putting the number of children you have in the Lords hands?

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Hey Erica!! As for me and my husband, we most definatly put that as well as everything thing else in the LORDS hands... We have 3 little boys...Jacob (3/10/06), Joseph (4/25/07), and Joshua (7/17/08) I know that the LORD has blessed us with each one of these beautiful children and we hope and pray the LORD blesses us with a girl next or another little boy...It took me a while to understand and accept that it may not be in the LORDs will for us to have any more children...I am proud to say I am a Christian and I pray that the LORDS will be done in every aspect of my life...GOD Bless

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