Holly Janelle - posted on 05/30/2012 ( 56 moms have responded )
I have heard many different opinions about whether men looking at porn/naked women every now and then is cheating or not. I read just a little while ago about an woman who's been married a very long time and her kids are all grown and just found out her husband has been looking at porn quite often and quit coming to her for sex and she is extremely hurt and considers it cheating. She even confronted him about it and asked why he quit coming to her for sex and later he came to her for sex but still continues to look at porn. She is torn because she wants to stick by her vows but she is broken about the situation.
I shared this story with my boyfriend Because it really upset me and scared me and he says well it's not cheating if it's every now and then. Now if he did it every single day that would be a different story. I said well if I started looking at "big penis' "(just an example!! Not trying to be crude just trying to make a point to him) you would be ok with that me lusting after them? He said the same thing as above basically (but I honestly think It would be a whole different story if I were doing it I think he would freak out) and I said in the bible it says lusting after another is a sin so wouldn't that be sinning?! He basically ignored what I said and went to sleep since he was already tired. Arg! It's probably for the best because it would have started an argument:(
1) that's a huge turn off for me that he said that... What else does he consider not cheating?? 2) is that what I have to look forward to if we decide to get married?? 4) do you consider it cheating yes or no? 4) what are your thoughts on the subject?? I know that I'm extra sensitive on subjects like this because I was sexually,physically,mentally,verbally abused by my step father whom I knew as my father and trusted him with everything and was let down 100% and was sexually and mentally abused by another man who I thought I could count on to protect me but did the total opposite and I still struggle with these problems every day of my life and have a really hard time with sexual things when it comes to things like that and trusting period so maybe that's why it's a huge deal I me I dunno... Would love to hear what you all have to say. Thank you!