Birth control a sin?

Kyle - posted on 05/06/2010 ( 60 moms have responded )

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I saw this question in a response to a different question and I am curious to know other Christian ladies opinions.
Do you consider birth control a sin? (medication birth control)
If so are there any birth control methods you do not consider a sin? for example condoms or ovulation schedules.

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Trina - posted on 05/10/2010

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Hmmmm....such an important biblical question for such a large spectrum of beliefs on this website. I just hope that it doesn't add confusion. Rather, pray, pray, pray about it.

Heather - posted on 05/07/2010

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I was listening to program with Nancy Leigh DeMoss today, and she brought up this subject. Here is what she had to say:

What about child-bearing—God’s way versus the world’s way? God’s way is that God made women to be mothers. Did you know that men can’t have babies? That’s one distinctive thing about us, by the way.

When Adam named his wife Eve, do you know what Eve means? The word Eve sounds like, “living, life-giving, life-bearing.” Adam named her Eve because her name sounds like a woman who gives life. He knew that she was designed to be a bearer and a nurturer of life.

You say, “Well, you’re single, so what use is it? You can’t be a mother.” Do you know, I believe God—all of us, even if He never gives you a mate—God made all of us, in one way or another, to be bearers and nurturers of life, to mother.

Some of you have younger sisters. Some of you have younger women in your dorm hall or floor. There are younger women that God brings into our lives, chronologically younger and spiritually younger. God wants us to be nurturers, disciplers, bearers, and nurturers of spiritual and physical life. So the Scripture’s view of children and motherhood is that motherhood is a good thing and that children are a blessing.

What has the world done? What has Satan done to that way of thinking? He’s convinced us that children are a burden. They’re not a blessing. They’re something you won’t want too many of, and part of it is that today, if you get pregnant with your third or fourth child, even in the church, you’re going to have people looking at you like you are really strange.

“Didn’t someone tell you how not to get pregnant?” These are the kinds of things you’ll hear people say today. “Oh, I’m so sorry for you.” Now, I just want to tell you, I hope you never talk that way to a woman who’s expecting. Can you imagine what a downer that is?

Where did contraception come from? It’s an invention of an era that came to decide that women should control their own bodies and that sex was purely for pleasure but not for procreation and that wanted to separate the sex act from the responsibility of parenting.

Can I just tell you that way of thinking is really contrary to God’s way of thinking, and to believe God’s way, you’re going to have to swim upstream? You’re going to have to be counter-cultural, even in the church.

I know that Nancy Leigh DeMoss is not an end all. I just wanted to share this.

Jess - posted on 05/13/2010

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Sperm are not to be confused with a baby. You are not killing a human being by using birth control. When you have sex thousands of sperm die without your help (ie. Birth control). Also, I would like to point out that the only birth control that kill sperm is spermicide. There are many different prophylactics out there that work in a variety of ways. The most common is the pill which thickens the lining of your uterus or prevents the ovulation of an egg making it impossible (or at least very difficult) for you to get pregnant.
Please keep in mind that this is not the same method as spermicide. I also cannot stress enough that there is a big difference (you know like half the gametes difference) between a baby and sperm.
Furthermore, everywoman's walk with God happens at a different stage in life. Perhaps a young woman has not settled down with a partner and has chosen to be sexually active or promiscuous. It would be in her and her future children's best interest to prevent pregnancy until she is older and most ideally married. That is not an attack on anyone that has had children outside of wedlock. But those of you that have understand how difficult it can be to raise a child alone.
Please, Please do not limit yourself from healthcare education in the name of your religion. There is nothing wrong with learning how thing work, exactly, before you make a decision about it. Being a Christian does not mean you cannot be educated about important things like your body and sexual health.

Tamara - posted on 05/11/2010

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This is why there are so many atheists in this world that will never know God! Because so many people take the bible and twist it in such a way that people reject God fearing that any wrong move is going to land them in a pit of fire.
The closest that Scripture comes to specifically condemning birth control is Genesis chapter 38, the account of Judah's sons Er and Onan. Er married a woman named Tamar, but he was wicked and the Lord put him to death, leaving Tamar with no husband or children. Tamar was given in marriage to Er's brother, Onan, in accordance with the law of levirate marriage in Deuteronomy 25:5-6. Onan did not want to split his inheritance with any child that he might produce on his brother's behalf, so he practiced the oldest form of birth control, withdrawal. Genesis 38:10 says, “What he did was wicked in the LORD's sight; so He put him to death also.” Onan's motivation was selfish: he used Tamar for his own pleasure, but refused to perform his legal duty of creating an heir for his deceased brother. This passage is often used as evidence that God does not approve of birth control. However, it was not explicitly the act of contraception that caused the Lord to put Onan to death; it was Onan’s selfish motives behind the action.
My source: http://www.gotquestions.org/birth-contro...

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Hello to other Christian mommies out there!

My husband and I have been discussing this topic a lot lately. My son just turned 4 months and we aren't quite ready for the next one yet, although we'd be delighted if it did happen. That being said, there are a lot of very different beliefs out there. We found a very good teaching from a Christian pastor. He goes straight to the Bible to find out what God says about marriage, "timing", birth control, and other things surrounding this topic. He doesn't stretch or misconstrue scripture. He also outlines exactly how different forms of birth control work as well as "the pill". The video is an hour long. Here it is:

http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/reli...

I hope this is helpful to some of you!

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Heather - posted on 05/13/2010

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I think we have covered every side of this issue, so I am going to close this conversation to further comments. Thank you to everyone who contributed!

Renee - posted on 05/13/2010

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i do not believe it is a sin. if God wants you to have a child he will give you a child. also if you are praying and have a close relationship with Him you can ask him if he wants you to stay on BC or get off it. my pastors wife did this and was pregnant within a week or two

Nicola - posted on 05/13/2010

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Autumn, its the same for you as for me the pill isn't just a form of birth control for me but it also helps stop my PCOS developing more and keeps my hormones under wraps a little better (for those of you who don't know women with PCOS have too much testosterone (not sure if that spelt right)).

Lindsey - posted on 05/12/2010

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i dont know if i would consider it a sin but i dont think hormonal birth control is right.I think it is playing God because it changes the lining of your uterus and messes with hormones.Me and my husband use condoms

Autumn - posted on 05/12/2010

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Jennifer, I have trusted in God most of my life and shortly after I was remarried to a man that He sent to me. I had my cycle and it continued for two months straight. If it wasn't for the pill regulating me after that I don't know if I would be functioning today. After a month I started reading in Matthew about the woman who had had that issue for twelve years and I don't know how she did it. I thanked God when it stopped and went back to normal. I think that God knows what we need and he won't punish us if we need or choose to use birth control. It's as individual as to what makes someone struggle. God knows our hearts and if we mean things for good or evil. That is what it's all about. The way we feel in our hearts and wether after we've made a mistake we come back to God and ask His forgiviness.

Nicola - posted on 05/12/2010

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jennifer,
its not the withdrawing that was evil it was his reasons because he was being selfish and not forfilling his dutys for god by producing a child on behalf of his brother because he did not want to bear a son for his brother.
And god will produce a child if he really wants you to, he also works in strang ways and can take a child a way no matter how much you want them. I TTC for 5 months (as I have PCOS) and I found out I had become pregnant when I was having an early misscarriage and I had prayed everynight for a baby. 3 months later I did get pregnant with my son. I believe medicine is a blessing from god as he put these wonderfull discoveries in our mind and they save lives, The pill only came around about 50 years ago (it was harder to get to begin with) and its made to stop a egg getting fertilised the egg is hardly ever realised, the sperm are hardly likely to get in as your mucus thickens it also stays in the hostile state that it is in when your not ovulating which mean the sperm can't live in it for very lone, has anyone thought that maybe just maybe god wants us to slow down in reproduction so we don't over populate the earth leaving no where to grow resources? He wanted us to populate the earth to begin with but maybe now were getting close to his quota so he wants us to slow down, maybe this is why women are now having so many fertility problems and are having so many m/c maybe its a sign from god to slow down.

Jennifer - posted on 05/12/2010

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Yes, Erin, you are right! Some men still practice withdrawal even now. And there is in the Bible, (Genesis 38:1-11), where this happened and it was evil in G-d's sight. Not only that, but life starts at conception, this is why in the Bible a woman is called mother when she concieves, as opposed when implantation occures. This reinforces that it is abortion if you concieve and implantation is prevented. As a matter of fact, not too many years ago a misscariage would have been refered to as a natural abortion.

Maybe this is just me, but I feel that if you truely trust in G-d and are submitted to Him, He will not bless you with a child before your time, neither will He deny you a child if it is your desire. It is better to put your trust in G-d then to put your trust in man (Psalm 118:8).

Michelle - posted on 05/12/2010

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Sorry one more hting I wanted to say...

I also believe that the world has skewed people's view of children. They are nothing but blessings. I know from personal experience what it is like to be ridiculed for being pregnant and to have questions and on top of that a high risk pregnancy. Not easy things to deal with.

But as Christians, we need to be building up the world with our army for Christ. For some families, that will be 1 soldier. For others, 11. No matter what the case, that child, that baby, that little soldier for Christ, is a blessing.

So, like what was posted eariler, I hope we can start to have a radical change in our understanding of big families and the blessing of children.

Bottom line is: Children are blessings! Let's lovingly celebrate every life and every child!

Erin - posted on 05/12/2010

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I don't think it's about personal opinion, it's about God's opinion. Birth control is meant to prevent ovulation, however it is not always effective, and when ovulation occurs is when forming of an embryo is possible (when sperm penetrates egg). If a woman is on birth control, and ovulation is not prevented for whatever reason, and an embryo is formed; the birth control actually causes early termination of the embryo-- in other words abortion. The killing of a fetus is a sin, just as abortion at any point in pregnancy. That is why I would consider birth control a sin. God is our provider, and all things happen in God's timing. If my husband and I had waited until we were financially stable to have a child, we would not have our son who is now 2, and we are doing just fine. It is amazing to see how God provides just when we need Him.
There are ways of preventing pregnancy such as following your menstrual cycle and calculating which days you should avoid relations. I don't think that condoms are sinful since there is no baby or embryo involved as sperm never reaches egg.
Also a note: during Biblical times, as means of prevention, men would practice the method of removing themselves from the woman just before ejaculating. (It seems to me that method would be comparable to using condoms.)

Michelle - posted on 05/12/2010

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Is it a sin? I don't know.
Is it what I choose to use? No.
Why not?
A lot of reasons.
1) I don't think it's natural or healthy to be putting so many extra hormones in our bodies. As Christians, when else are we pumping our bodies with extra stuff and saying "Well,God you can still make do whatever." On top of that, I don't believe we know the full long-term effects of taking birth control for long amounts of time.

2) The Bible doesn't talk about birth control explicitly. I understand that. But it does talk about the ultimate model for marriage: Jesus is the head of the church. Husband is head of the wife. Not getting into submission and all that. But see, the relationship is such that Jesus and the Church are open and accepting of one another. What happens when they unite? New Life is created. The same should happen for a husband and wife. They should be open and accepting. And what should happen when they unite? New life. It's part of that great mystery of marriage where we get a glimpse of God's Kingdom in Heaven. Someday we'll be fully united with Christ in heaven and we'll experience the ultimate consummation of our marriage to our Bridegroom, Jesus Christ.
I hope that makes sense...

3) I believe that God can do anything too! If He wants you to have a baby, by golly, you certainly will!! To me, it just makes sense then to take that middle hindrance out of the way. Why even chance loosing a baby or messing with your cycle should you become pregnant?

4) Along with the natural thing in point 1, I think as women it's a disservice to our own bodies to not know our cycles and the way we work. Our bodies are AMAZING!!! Do you know that you can pretty easily tell when you are fertile!? And you can even use a little handheld device to help you decide. I mean, honestly... it's easy! And you get the pleasure of knowing yourself and understanding your body. You can make informed choices with your husband too. It also takes all the pressure off the woman to be sure to take the pill or whatever. It's a choice with the man and woman together.

OK... I'm being choppy and not as eloquant as I want! LOL! I'm going to be done now.

I hope I shed some new light on something for someone.

Melissa - posted on 05/12/2010

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I don't believe birth control is a sin. I've been happily married for 8 years now and we just had our first child. We've been so financially unstable to this point that if we would have had a child, we probably would have ended up homeless. We would not have been able to take care of the child, and that would be tragic. I think God understands why some couples use birth control...it's not a sin to want to wait until you can provide for a child to have one. It's just being responsible.

Mary - posted on 05/11/2010

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I heard an interesting program about this on Albert Mohler's website this week. I had not used birth control pills because I had friends who had problems with them - and I would have never remembered to take them everyday at the same time. But I did not know that some birth control pills do not actually work the way they are advertised. Preventing conception is supposed to be how the pill works, but sometimes conception happens and implantation is prevented - this is in effect an early abortion. This is something that the birth control industry has tried to sweep under the rug, but it does happen and anyone who takes bc pills should be aware of this possibility.

I do not believe other methods of bc (that strictly prevent conception) are wrong if used only for a season.

Andrea - posted on 05/11/2010

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I'm not sure I've ever really thought bout it but in doing so after reading your post don't believe contraception is a sin. I know young teenagers who use it and am not sure how I feel about them having to use it but as a wife I think it is appropriate for parents to not get too overwhelmed with children. LOL. I personally, since having my daughter only use condoms and/or the calender method. I worry about the side effects of birth control and my ability to have more children in the future as I definantly want more!

Tomesa - posted on 05/11/2010

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i am grappling with this. i am not Catholic but i understand why many Christians believe that birth control is a sin. i am not sure if there are any birth control methods that are not a sin...i know i am pregnant with my last child though...i simply believe that God will give me one more child and then close my womb, and i am ok with that. however, as i said, i have been grappling with this question!

Adrienne - posted on 05/11/2010

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I definitely do not believe birth control is a sin as long as it is a method that prevents fertilization. I believe medicine is a blessing from God as is our ability to use it with wisdom and prayer. Birth control in conjunction with a life surrendered to God and his guidance in your family plan is the key. It is, of course, not for everyone. Christ allows some things for some people that are forbidden to others. Listen to what He tells you. I don't believe there can be a blanket answer to this one.

Tyneisha - posted on 05/11/2010

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Im christian and i don't believe it's a sin. I can see if it were actually terminating pregnancies. It prevents ovulation. It keeps an egg from being released. If there is no egg, than there is nothing for sperm to fertilize, so no pregnancy. Don't think it's deep enough to consider a sin.

Merry - posted on 05/11/2010

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I was on trinessa birth control pill and I didn't know it could cause a fertilized egg to die. It said thin lunging on the uterus but until recently I dint know what that ment. Anything that says "thins the lining if the uterus" is something I wouldn't do. I believe in life from conception, not from implantation. So I wouldn't use any pills or IUDs or most anything except for condoms or my diaphragm. I believe it's a baby from the conception so it's an abortion to terminate it. Sooo I use a diaphragm.

Kristina - posted on 05/11/2010

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All of the birth control out there (IUD, pills, etc) do make the woman have a spontaneous abortion if an egg does get fertilized. I do believe that is wrong in any form. Condoms only catch the sperm and just knowing your cycle and how to plan around fertile times is the best forms of birth control I believe. Hope this is helpful for you.

Autumn - posted on 05/11/2010

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I was placed on birth coltrol pills for a reason other than not getting pregnant. I don't don't consider it a sin if you're not ready to be a parent. Abortion isn't an option in my mind I'm talking about contraception. However I've gotten pregnant before using contraception. If God wants to give you a child it doesn't matter what you do to prevent it. We aren't God and only He can tell us when we are to have our children.

Pamela - posted on 05/11/2010

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I am a little confused here. Where does the idea that the pill (which I think is what you mean by medication birth control?) kills the sperm? It doesn't kill the sperm. (Frankly even if it did, that's not much of a problem in that millions of those little fellas die anyway). The pill releases estrogen and progesterone which work in combination to prevent ovulation. Henceforth, because there is no egg to be fertilized in the first place, you can't get pregnant. It also works to thicken the mucus around the cervix thereby preventing the sperm from entering into the uterus. In some cases (but not all), it can effect the lining of the uterus, making it a bit more difficult for an egg to implant - however I do know a number of ladies who've been on the pill and have found themselves still with those little bundles of joy :o). So regarding the pill as a form of abortion is not really all that accurate.



Because my husband was uncomfortable with the pill (messing with the hormones and any future negative effect that might incur in my health), we have used condoms for the past 18 years of marriage. We have two wonderful sons (both conceived while not using a condom - they were not planned. Le oops.) and neither of us have really never felt compelled by the Holy Spirit to have more. I think we need to have a respect for the fact that each person is capable of hearing from God what he desires for them. He knows where each of us is at; he knows what each of us can handle. Some couples are given what I would a grace from God to have many children. I don't however think that all women are given that grace. I really believe that God allows us the freedom to prayfully consider how many kids we may or may not want.



Needless to say, I really don't agree with DeMoss on this. Not all women want children; not all women are nurturers. Many women are single - with nary a man in sight as a potential spouse. Are they less womanly because they don't have children? I don't think so. For whatever reason, God hasn't brought a husband to them (and some of them so want one). The hard reality is, he may never bring them a husband. And they may never be given the opportunity to bear any children. But honestly, I don't think they are less for it. Because our biology is not what necessitates our identity. Our role, male and female, is to follow Jesus. Men are to be nurturing too (Paul himself often used terminology that showed his nurturing side with the men and women he discipled; God the Father occasionally describes himself as a nursing mother). This isn't just a female thing. The more I think about this, the more I suspect that we learn how to nurture one another. I don't think it's all biology.



So all this said, I don't see any problem with birth control (medication or otherwise - however, when I talk about birth control I am not talking about abortion - which is a form of birth control but extreme, expensive and unbiblical). I think we really need to allow each couple to determine through prayerful consideration what God wants for their family. It won't look the same for everyone.

Tiffany - posted on 05/11/2010

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my opinion is that it is not a sin. Abortion is a sin. Birth control in any form (with the exception of the "morning after pill", or plan B pill which i believe is a form of abortion) is just for the use of prevention. I have never felt convicted about using birth control so i would say it would be something that every Christian woman would have to talk to God about. He will give you the answers you seek. I do agree with a lot of the others moms opinions too. But it isn't our "opinion" that matters. Good luck and God bless!

Amie - posted on 05/11/2010

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I too believe that you should pray and leave it in God's hands. I don't think "birth control" is part of God's plan, but knowing your body and being in tune to when you ovulate and when your body is non-fertile is part of being a woman. Having that wisdom and knowledge comes from God and if He wants to give us another child, then He will make it happen no matter what. That's sort of scary, I know because I have struggled so often with this truth. That means that I have to let go and let God, because as He has written, we belong to Him right? I have 8 children now, and my husband and I have been praying about what we are to do. This is not easy, especially when society doesn't view you as "normal".
Aside from that, how else can we explain why some women have many children and some are left barren? We all have a purpose while we are here, and it's searching and praying for what that purpose is, thats exciting. Most important, we should love and disciple the children we are blessed with, either through natural birth or adoption, because we don't know how long we will have them :)

Nicola - posted on 05/10/2010

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I agree with catherine weedall.
I do not feel contraception is a sin, the pill usually stops you ovulating (it also make your cervical mucus thicker so its harder for sperm to penetrate) and if it happens to not work in most cases any babies are uneffected by it. Condoms create a barrier and so and so forth. I don't see any harm in sperm dying or an ovum dying as a males sperm die regularly inside the body and a womens body passes out the ovum every month as they can not survive with out each and a baby can only be created when they meet.
I do how ever feel that the morning after pill (or emergency contraceptive pill) is a sin as it can kill the ferilised ovum so it just passes out insted of implanting.
I also feel that adortions are an abonination and a horrible horrible sin the moment those cells join as far as im concerned thats a baby and when you have an abortion you are killing a human and even worse your own child with out reason, I geuss I can understand and im sure god does that if its a ectopic pregnancy and theres no chance for the baby and theres a potential for the mother to die then an abortion is apropriate. I don't think god created medicine for nothing but I think it carrys a level of responsablity.

Rachel - posted on 05/10/2010

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I believe each person needs to pray and let the Holy Spirit guide you to a personal decision. I personally do not have a problem or see birth control as a sin. I believe you are being responsible and also are free to truly enjoy that time of intimacy with your husband. I have known many woman who have gotten pregnant on birth control and even a small few who have gotten pregnant after having their tubes tied. If God wants you to get pregnant, you will, regardless of weather you are on birth control or not.

Candi - posted on 05/09/2010

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I have been on birth control for years now. I do not consider it a sin. Birth control pills don't kill the sperm only keeps the woman from ovulating. Sperm only have a life span of about 24 to 48 hours anyways after being sexual, so it dies either way it goes. But, the pill does not kill it. I honestly see nothing wrong with being on the pill. Of course everyone has their own opinion. But, I would suggest condoms, if you wanted to use another means to keep from getting pregnant. I find ovulation schedules hard to follow really.

Sarah - posted on 05/09/2010

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I don't believe it's a sin. Sperm is not technically a new life (a baby) until it comes in contact with an egg. The birth control just prevents it from doing that, it doesn't kill it after the egg has been fertilized, therefor making it a kind of abortion. The only difference between that and a condom is that it stops the process after it's already entered your body, not before like a condom.

Emi - posted on 05/09/2010

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I read all the replays very interesting how we see things.I know that God will never give more than what we are able to handle, and the children are a blessing. I have 3 beautiful smart little boys and if I was young and had more energy I would have few more, but hence I can not handle the pg well and since I had pg every 1 year and half I had lot of condemnation that wasn't able to take care of the one that i already had. Both of my younger ones come without us planing .I would say I n my opinion , that birth control ( i have a Merinda inserted) is up to your faith and without faith is a sin. If you don't have faith to have babies for a different reasons then yes it is a sin , or if you dont have faith to have birth controll but you take it then it is a sin. Is not God that condemn but is our conscious .God Knows that we are but human and fail, plus we do not have few hundred servants and maids either as those in old times. So, look up into God and do what you have faith for, and God will see us through.I remember that he knows our heart our deepest thoughts and desires and even with birth controls if he has to give us one more child he will. So my opinion: DO what you have faith for and pray for Gods leading.God bless you all Great Mothers.

Lakisha - posted on 05/09/2010

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I don't see as a Christian that birth control would be a sin, but with all of the side effects that they cause, I really don't see the benifets of them. I had not researched Mederna, but the rest that is on the market---don't use them I don't recomend it. I say use condoms and ovulation schedules and "not tonight dear" methods. these don't have the unhealthy side effects.

Kelina - posted on 05/08/2010

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Did you know that something like 1 in 5 pregnancies are aborted by our bodies before we even know we're pregnant? I think contraceptives are a good idea or i wouldn't be able to stop having babies as i'm extremely fertile. And for the people who believe that the contraceptive pills kill fertilized eggs, that's not true. This is off of a medical website. "The contraceptive pill, often referred to simply as “the Pill”, contains the female hormones estrogen and progesterone. These hormones prevent ovulation (the monthly release of an egg or ovule).. If the sperm doesn’t have an egg to fertilize, then there can be no pregnancy." It is implants such as Mirena that Attempts to block sperm, thins your uterine lining and does not allow the fertilized egg to implant. I agree with Whitney, the plan B is not included in this. It prevents fertilization if it hasn't happened yet, but if it has, it aborts the pregnancy. But methods of birth control like the ocntraceptive pill and methods that don't abort pregnancy i think are fine.

Cheresa - posted on 05/08/2010

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Well I got my tubes tied because with all three of my beautiful children I was very ill and in the hospital. I love the birth process and wish I could have more but it just wouldn't be healthy for me or the baby.

Whitney - posted on 05/08/2010

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in my personal opinion i agree with the belief that Medical birth controls are right. and i read some of the responses below but not all. and while no, the pill does not kill the sperm in the man's body, it works in three ways for a woman 1. it tries to prevent her from being able to accept sperm 2. if she is able it tries to block it and 3. it aborts it automatically and kills it upon fertilization. so i believe that it is wrong. And while i am on this subject Btw i would like to say that i am VERY against the plan B contraceptive. it says on the commercial that it "is not the abortion pill" but after a night where a woman has forgotten her regular contraceptive and has had sex and may be pregnant and then somehow this is stopped. that my friends is abortion. very early on abortion. but abortion nonetheless. sorry but i felt the need to say that. The lord says himself to go forth and be fruitful. i can understand the point of view that today's world isn't very receptive to people with 10 kids. and that a man and a woman married are often not able to handle that. however i believe that the smartest way to go about this is by following the ovulation schedules. it's a little bit of work to pay attention and it is not exactly flexible to when "the mood" strikes. but it is just about the only way to not interfere with anybody's body and still leave man and wife free to enjoy. Condoms are alright IMO because a sperm is not a living thing. If God had meant all sperm to live there would not be nearly as many in one ejaculation. they are all possible children and possible living things yes. but they are not yet these things. again this is all just my opinion. choppy rambling thoughts and not well written but that's the best i can explain it lol

Cori - posted on 05/08/2010

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I was on the pill when I became pregnant with my son. Through my pregnancy I found out that one of my ovaries had been taken over by a type of cystic tumor. So I got pregnant on BC with only one working ovary. God is so good. He knew that I needed my son when I had him because my window of fertility is shortened due to the ovary condition.

Now that I only have one ovary the pill started making me sick. I did some research and realized that the pill also thins the uterine lining. It broke my heart to realize that there was a chance that my son's egg could have not implanted. We decided not to use any form of hormonal birth control. We still use condoms and spermicide. We've prayed about it and we see non-hormonal birth control as our way of saying to God that in our puny human wisdom we aren't ready for another baby yet. We know He is in control. He made fertile the infertile and bore our Savior from a virgin's womb. He gifted us with our son while on BC and with only one working ovary- He can do it again if He sees fit.

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no it is not a sin there is no place in the bible that says you cant. if your reasons are wrong than yes. but for the right reasons go for it I was 23 when I had my 5th child and I decided with prayer it was time to stop many health problems came about I am 62 and am living with health problems for having too many so young. yet my mother nlaw had 11 and she is in great health in her 80's

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I agree with a previous poster in that I don't think birth control is a sin because if you are meant to have another baby, God will make it happen. How often have we heard about pregnancies while someone was on birth control? Or, pregnancies because it just so happens the birth control fails, or is failed to be used correctly? Interesting comment about "Are fertility treatments a sin?"

Janet - posted on 05/08/2010

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I don't believe it is when I was 16 my periods was so bad I passed out in school. The dr. put me on birth cotrol pills to make my periods not so bad. Every month I would have stay out of school and when I was done having kids I had my tubes tied and later had alot of female problems my dr. sugested historectory.

Candi - posted on 05/08/2010

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I think God gave us the wisdom to choose if we want more than a certain amount of children. God gave these doctors the mental ability to create safe and effective birth control methods. Is it a sin to use fertility treatments? Nobody asks that. I had to use it twice. Otherwise my first 2 children would have never been born. My 3rd was truly a gift from God. I didn't have my monthy cycle or ovulate the month she was conceived! Weird but true!

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DO YOU MEAN SPERMASIDE?, THE WOMAN 'S VARGINA KILLS SPERM . SO I REALLY DON'T THINK THERE IS A "WRONG OR RIGHT WAY " OF BIRTH CONTROL. GOOD LUCK.

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Jennifer, I don't entirely agree with that regarding how birth control pills work. The birth control pill actually works in a few different ways:

It prevents ovulation (the release of the egg). If ovulation doesn't occur, then conception cannot take place.

It also thickens the woman's cervical mucus, which then works to block the sperm from getting in there.

And finally, the pill thins the lining of the uterus. This might also prevent an egg from implanting into the uterus if conception just so happens to occur. Now I can see how this might be interpreted as the pregnancy being aborted.

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I didn't read all responses, so I don't know if this was said already, but I learned something recently about birth control pills. They do not prevent pregnancy, but abort the pregnancy if conception should occure. I heard this from someone who has worked in a hospital for a number of years.

As far as other methods, they did not exsist during the time Biblical events were taking place, but I did read about a man who withdrew from the woman to prevent a pregnancy and it was written that G-d was not happy and the man died.

I hope I don't sound condemning, that's not what I'm trying to do. I'm just giving my personal thoughts on this subject. To be honest, my husband and I used condoms our 1st year of marriage. We were not walking with Ad-nai at that time. Since then, we have used prayer as our means of having/not having children, I don't believe that not using birth control will cause women to have 6, 8, 12 children. Some may be gifted to have that many, but there are those who are married and have none.

G-d will not give you more then you can handle. If He gives you a child, there is a purpose for that child and the person who has been given stewardship over that child.

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Birth control , when viewed as a stewardship of procreation is neither affirmed nor expressly forbidden in scripture. A decision to limit or plan the bearing of children should be a directive from God and not merely a decision based on self-centered convenience. For example, birth control is not acceptable to prevent the consequences of sins like fornication and adultery, which are condemned by God. A Christian should seek God's leadership before using any natural or artificial means of birth control. No method of birth control that brings death to an innocent human life is moral. Also, irreversible forms of birth control should be weighed seriously. Basically what I am trying to say is that the Bible doesn't say it is or isn't a sin, just be sure you are following the leading of the Holy Spirit in ALL issues. Because, let's face it, whether you are practicing any kind of birth control or not if God wants you to have another child you will. No man made solution is going to get in his way.

My husband and I have personally decided to give it to God, and he will either give us more children or he won't. I have 3 beautiful children (very far apart) and haven't used birth control since not long after we were married. God won't give any of us more than we can handle. I hope I haven't offended anyone, this is just one person's opinion and no offense intended.

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I had prayed about it when I was trying to decide. I found this verse. I do know it's talking about a person getting saved and become born again. But it also mentions the different ways a baby can be born -- physically. Notice below...natural descent which I believe would mean just letting it happen. Human decision....deciding to have a baby or not.. husband's will....the husband is allowed to decide whether to have some or not. This is only what God spoke to me in this verse. I'm sure other people won't agree. For me, it I don't believe it's a sin. I cannot handle alot of children for many reasons. But I'm so thankful for the two that I have and feels so blessed to have them. I prayed and asked God and He gave me peace about the decision. Pray and ask God for yourself and let the peace of Christ rule in your heart.

Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God--children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband's will, but born of God.

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I used birth control when I was younger, I didn't believe it was a sin.And i know of several younge ladies that the dr has put on birth control to control thier periods is that a sin too? I believe it is a sin to bring children into this world that you can't give them the time and things that they need.

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I don't believe birth control is a sin & I don't believe it's the worlds way of thinking to use our God given wisdom to control how many children we have, especially if we have health issues, physically or mentally and there are those who just can handle more, sure there are some women who are cut out to have lots of children and some who are only meant to have a few and some only 1 or 2 or even none, that doesn't mean we can't be nurturing to other around us & it doesn't mean we're any less women or Godly women at that. I fully believe that God lead me the way of using the birth control patch after have 6 miscarriages and 3 daughters. Both my husband and I agreed that God was leading us that way. I'm fully convinced that if God means for us to have more kids, then birth control will not hinder Him, however I am also fully convinced that God has told us that 3 is enough, for many reason, the biggest being my health & I don't believe I am called to put the Lord my God to a foolish test over it.

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I don't believe that birth control is a sin.... though I think Depo is from the devil. Sorry, that was meant to be funny due to my issues w/ it. ;)



I haven't been on birth control in 5 years though and since I'm single now... most likely will never be again.

April - posted on 05/07/2010

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I personally do not think birth control is a sin. I myself am on birth control. we lost three children before my daughter and one after. I also have an 85% chance of dying to carry a child. I decided to get on birth control after my last miscarriage, it is so painful emotionally but God pulled me through.

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I personally do not have a problem with the medication form of birth control. I am on a pill called Loestrin24Fe. My husband and I have a 7 1/2 month old son & in a few years when we feel financially & emotionally ready to have another child, I will stop taking the pill and hopefully will be blessed with another beautiful baby. This is just my preference & I understand that other woman feel differently. :)

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Pray and let the Holy Spirit speak to you. I personally have never used birth control. I have been married for 21 years and have a 4 year old. I believe God gives us the family he wants for us regardless of birth control or man's intervention.

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