Lindsey - posted on 12/16/2008 ( 9 moms have responded )
Hi moms, I'm seeking counsel on a family situation. My parents are divorcing. I have a brother (28, engaged) and a sister (27, married w/ two kids under 3yr). The three of us and our families are strong in our faith and seek God's will for our lives and His direction, wisdom and presence in ALL situations. My father had an affair and is the petitioner in the divorce. My mother did everything she could do to keep him. They share a business together, were divorced and remarried when I was an infant, and neither of them are walking in the truth. My mother had ovarian cancer a few years ago, had a hysterectomy, and went through chemo. She now has breast cancer. Our family has faith in alternative treatments and has seen success with them. As a result, traditional treatment (chemo, radiation, surgery) is not an option for my mom. She attends church with the three of us and our families, but appears to not think any of the messages apply to her because of the pain she's in. I feel as though her children have become her idols. She invited us to spend Christmas Eve with her even though she knew that's the time we have spent with my father's family. She's unwillingly to do it any other time and when I made the suggestion, she lost control, began to cry and clean her house destructively. She's very emotional and continues to tell us that we "cannot possibly understand what she's going through" and we "just don't get it" or we wouldn't want anything to do with my dad or his family. She's REALLY not herself and we're concerned about her. We're all (her three kids and our families) seeking Godly counsel from our pastor, elders, bible studies, and trusted friends we know are in God's word.
I guess I don't know exactly what I'm asking...perhaps affirmation. But I think part of it is that I just want to know that I'm not missing something or not blatantly living outside of God's commands. I'm sorry this got long - it's even more complicated than I included. Got anything?