Christian Momma but not daddy

Alisha - posted on 08/11/2011

You are the example of Christ in his life! Pray God brings others in as well to show your husband the truth and that God is real and that Jesus is God. It is hard for people who are so wrapped up in their sin to see that there's anything wrong in their life and they may feel they don't need God. Pray God opens his eyes to his need for a Savior!

Chelsia - posted on 09/24/2010

Hi Tara, I was in your position as well. I was involved with and eventually married a man who i knew with every fiber in my being that he was not the one for me... not just because he was of another faith but he just wasn't right. i compromised my faith and went against all God's plans for me to be with this man. the day we got married i knew w/out any kind of doubt that it was wrong, but the flesh part of me overruled the Holy Spirit that was trying to bring me back to reality. As a result, he cheated the entire marriage and relationship. We were divorced (legally) 2yrs later but the marriage was never right from the beginning.
As we know, the Bible says that we are not to have a relationship that is unevenly yoked... being of 2 different faiths or being w/one who is a non-believer, you will need to pray and ask God to give you guidance and direction as to if this is the man He has sent to you... if your husband is your "Adam," God will direct your path as to how to lead him to Christ. Yes, I will be in prayer w/you and your family... seek ye FIRST the Kingdom of God.

Wendy - posted on 09/24/2010

Tara, I grew up in a home with a kinda christian mom and an agnostic dad. Let me tell you it is tough. But you should talk to your husband now about how you both want to raise the kids. Unless he is hard hearted he should be ok with the christian upbrining. Keep being light. Let God do the softening of his heart. Praying for you all. Being unequally yoked will be hard. Regardless of his beliefs you still submit to the leader of your home. Your the Vice President of the family not the Comander and Chief.

Carla - posted on 09/23/2010

@Joy, if the people at church ask about your husband, tell them he needs prayer, period. If they ask more, they are not being helpful, they are looking for gossip ammunition. We had mostly women in the last church we went to. No one asked about our husbands or lack thereof. We all knew and understood what each other was going through.

Church, we need you to pray instead of idly asking questions!

God bless, all

Joy - posted on 09/22/2010

You have my prayers. Though I admit that I'm glad I'm not alone in this. My husband is also agnostic. Its very hard to be the one to take the children to church by yourself and then have people wondering where your husband is. Thank you Monica for the 1 Peter verse.

Carla - posted on 09/18/2010

@Amy--the problems with your church are the #1 reason why people get frustrated, and why I do not currently attend a church! Everybody wants something done, but NOBODY wants to pitch in and help. 'I can't drive the church bus, because I need to sleep in that extra hour', 'I can't do childrens' church, because I like to hear the sermons'. And the list goes on and on. We were attending a church we just loved. We decided to throw ourselves in, body and soul, to make it work, because it is a fairly new church. So we volunteered to HELP clean the church. It ended up my husband, daughter, one other men and me cleaned a 4,000+ sq ft building every week. There were no announcements from the pulpit or in the bulletin about 'hey, people, clean up your pew area when you leave' or 'if you make a mess in the kitchen, clean up after yourselves'. So it ended up being a maid service. When my husband tried to address these issues, he was accused of having a spirit of division. We had volunteered to landscape the area around the church and it devolved to 'hey, Mark and Carla, we need that tree hauled away, and there are weeds out in the parking lot. Take care of it.' We had gone into church early to help get the coffee, muffins, bagels ready, and it ended up with us setting up the tables, getting it all ready, wash down and pull down after church every Sunday morning. The other people gladly handed over their jobs that we were just helping with. We are 60.



My advice to you would be call the other churches in your area and see if someone would be willing to pick you and your son up. I am sad to see so many Christians who don't show the most basic of Jesus' values, compassion.



God bless, darling.

Amy - posted on 09/17/2010

My prayers and thoughts are with all of you women. Thank God my husband and I are both believers. I am sure it is very hard when the husband or the wife is not saved. My husband does not go to church. He Dad is a pastor and that is hard growing up in a pastors home. My husband has alot of trust issues. He would tell someone in the church something and they would right away go and tell his parents. His Dad always forced his children to go to church. My husband had trouble in different churchs and it is hard for him. He does not want to force our son to go to church. My son always loved going to church but gets bored sitting in the pew listening to a serman. He like childrens church but there is only one couple doing it. I told them I would help but want someone else with me but no one wants to come to the plate and do children's church. It is suppost to be everyother week and the weeks the couple who does it is not there no one steps up. There are lots of weeks no one has it. I like my church because it is close by and a van picks us up. The two other churches we wanted to goto there is not a church van. Used to be one but they stoped it. They other church the church van does not come in our area. Plus the church has a lot of people so it is hard to get to know each other. My husband nor I can drive. I am visually impaired legally blind and my husband has seizures. So neither of us can drive.

Wendy - posted on 09/16/2010

Tara you could have taken the words right out of my mouth! I am a momma of two with an unbelieving husband. But I am choosing to be a light that He can watch and will eventually turn His heart around. It isn't easy, during this time I am the spiritual head of the household and that is a huge burden, but one I will gladly bear so that my children grow up children of God. My children have been able to learn things from watching me and going to church (and for 3 years we were able to have them in a Christian school-that was a miracle in itself!) so they are grounded in God, but when things come up I do not receive any backing and that is hard. But I know that if 2 or more people believe it will happen, the Bible doesn't lie and I've got many people praying and believing with me, some day I will get a great surprise and joy when he opens his heart's door. Just keep doing all that you know to do, pray and stand fast. It will come to pass! God's word NEVER comes back void! We can pray for each other.

Racritia - posted on 09/14/2010

i will say a prayer for you as i am a believer and my husband is not

Monica - posted on 09/13/2010

I am a mother of the 3 kids and my husband is a believer, but has not been to church in awhile. I guess you could say he is a cold believer. But I just remember what it says in 1 Peter 3:1, "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives." This is where I gather my hope from and I hope it helps. I will pray for you Tara! Please keep us updated!

Beth - posted on 09/12/2010

congradulation's on you new christian family

Beth - posted on 09/12/2010

i will have my church family pray for you and your family... beth

Stephanie Jo - posted on 09/12/2010

Keeping praying Tara and believing! My husband wasnt saved either and this year Jesus knocked on his heart and he said come in. One day Jesus will do the same for your husband. I know how hard it is to wait and want it so bad that you could taste it.Keep living for Jesus in front of him and he will accept the Lord and Savior. Our time isnt the same as the Lords. It is hard to remember.It is also hard sometimes to remember that the Lord loves your husband more than you, it was for me. God bless you and your family,my prayers are going up.

Carla - posted on 09/12/2010

Father, You hear the cries of the hearts here. They are standing for You, and in the gap for their husbands/significant others. I pray You, first of all, speak to them. Show them what they need to do to be a shining light to their mates. Give them supernatural wisdom, patience, strength, faith to carry on until You save their mates. I pray a Peace that passes understanding descend on their hearts, and that peace will show through to the world and attract loved ones to You. Holy Spirit, wrap Yourself around these women, clothe them with grace and love and the knowledge that when we ask for salvation for our loved ones, You deliver! In Jesus' Name, amen.

Brenda - posted on 09/12/2010

I am an unmarried, yet wishing to be momma to an admitted agnostic man. As Michael W. Smith sang, "Pray for me and i will pray for you." We both wear rings and are committed to each other and our son. I invite him to church, too. :(

Anne - posted on 09/12/2010

Yes Tara, I will Pray with you that God opens your husbands eyes and that your husband will accept Christ as Lord and Savior.

Rica - posted on 09/11/2010

When my husband and I first got married, he wasn't a Christian. But Praise the Lord, just before our One Year anniversary, he accepted Christ and was baptised. My husband told me that the thing that made him open his mind to beggining to accept christ was that I was there to answer any questions he had, without being overly pushy. just some thoughts.♥

Tara - posted on 09/11/2010

Of course! :)

Jenny - posted on 09/11/2010

I am in the same boat with y husband, I am trying to change my ways cause I want to be a better christan, I have a bad cussing issue etc... and I am tryin to not do tat stuff anymore but with my husband cussing and my mother in law cussing and they both drink it is hard for me, I will keep you and my husband in my thoughts and prayers and can you do the same for me and my husband please and thank you