Community Guidelines

Heather - posted on 03/08/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )




Circle of Moms as a whole has specific guidelines for users. They have made them easier to remember by coming up with No T.H.U.M.P.S. I wanted to break them down for you here as a reminder and define them so we are all on the same page. We really don't have a lot of problems in our community, but I think this will help!



...Hate speech

...Unlawful use


...Personal attacks



You may not publish or post direct, specific threats of violence or illegal acts against others.

Hate speech:

No slurs or stereotyping. This includes blaming others for being stereotypical when they have not said any such thing. This also includes being respectful of others; we are Christian Mommies, we can stand up for our beliefs without tearing others down. I know that there is a fine line between in-tolerance and standing for what you believe in, just do your best to find the balance. Try not to judge others or their walk with God. We are all at different places in our walks with Christ, but God is still working in each of us. With that in mind please keep all replies in accordance with Romans 14.

Unlawful use:

You may not use Circle of Moms for unlawful purposes or promotion of illegal activities. If it's illegal where you live or in the state of California it's illegal here.


You must be who you say you are. No false mom or child profiles.

Personal attacks:

You may not abuse, slander, or vilify another member. This means don't call out another mom and totally attack what she said. Seriously. If you don't agree with someone you can state your beliefs without tearing others apart. You can support your beliefs and why you believe that way, but do not say something like "Sallie, I believe that you are wrong!!!" You can say "I disagree with some of the other posts, because I believe..." Do not say something like "You are a horrible mother!" or "Shame on you!" Yes the Bible says that we are to make each other aware of sin, but please do it in a kind and gentle manner.

This also includes not sending private messages to other members disagreeing with them. You can post your opinion to a thread, but if it is locked the conversation is over. Do not send private messages to moms that are not in your circle unless it is a compliment or a genuine question that is not offensive.

And please do not mark posts as funny if they are not intended to be. Anything marked funny that was serious counts as a personal attack. If someone marks your post funny, please let us know who it was so that we can handle it.

Also, if you get an e-mail from Anne, Victoria or myself asking you a question please respond in a kind way. We are just trying to do our jobs and keep this site Christ honoring. If we are out of line, let us know in a gentle manner. We do make mistakes as we are human, that does not give you the right to tear us apart.

**Updated to add: From this point forward we will consider slandering another community as a personal attack against it's members. You can share why you are not a part of a community, but please remember that anyone can read what is posted here, keep their feelings in mind when wording your post or response.


You may not publish or post solicitations or advertisements in our community. Spam has been defined by Circle of Moms as any “vote for me” posts, or advertising any businesses, websites or products. (We will allow any websites that are centered on Christ and that is made clear in your post, please check with us before posting if you are unsure). Any that are posted will be deleted; this includes both conversations and links. We also discourage repeated advertising for other Circle of Moms communities. I would love to hear about any community that you administer that honors Christ, but please do not post on a regular basis what is going on in your community.

The spam policy has been updated as follows:

The following are considered solicitations and are not allowed on Circle of Moms:

- Work from home recruitment pitches

- Ads for your company or business. This includes but is not limited to dieting programs and books you have authored.

- Requests for votes in a contest being held outside of Circle of Moms

- Requests for donations to a charitable cause

- Diaper discount codes

- Communities created to promote a member's product, service, or business opportunity. Please send us your business email address and we will notify you when we are ready to support this function.

*As stated above, in Christian mommies we do not allow repeated advertising of you circle of moms community. We would love to hear about it once, but that is it. Thanks!

Like I said, we have a great community here, but I thought this would be a great reminder. Also for new members coming in we can all start out on the right foot! If by chance you do see something that violates theses guidelines, please just flag it so we can look into it.

***I wanted to add that as Christian Mommies we need to be careful about how we represent ourselves. (Please check your profile picture and make sure it is appropriate.) We are Christians. Which means we need to try to be like Christ. I understand that this is a forum and that everyone is entitled to their own opinions, however when your opinion causes another mom to cry that is out of line. This will not be tolerated. We are all passionate about our beliefs, but we need to check our responses to see if they are worded out of love or just out of the I'm right your wrong attitude (myself included). If you don't have time to re-read your post, don't post. Wait until you have more time, this way your words can be an encouragement and not a stumbling block (also please take a moment to read our belief statement to make sure that you agree).

Proverbs 15:1

A gentle answer turns away wrath,But a harsh word stirs up anger.

This is NOT a debating community. There are several of those here in Circle of Moms, if you want to debate something purely for a debate or to push your own opinion, take it to one of those. If you genuinely seek knowledge, then by all means ask away.

Psalm 38:14

Yes, I am like a man who does not hear,And in whose mouth are no arguments.

We are here to help each other, support each other, and encourage one another. Not to rip each other apart and tear each other down.

Ephesians 4:29

Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.

Like I said, we have a great community here, but I thought this would be a great reminder. Also for new members coming in we can all start out on the right foot! If by chance you do see something that violates theses guidelines, please just flag it so we can look into it.


Carla - posted on 08/05/2012




No, Ellen, but if you click on the person's name next to their picture, it will take you to their profile page. Just below their picture you will see send message, invite into your circle, etc. Click on the send message and it will bring up a message box. There are those rare times when it doesn't want to work, but if you try again in a half hour or so, it usually goes through without a hitch. Also, with the 'helpful, nice, funny' etc, you have to be signed in to be able to post or leave a comment. Then just click whichever comment you want. Be careful, though, I have clicked 'funny' by accident, then have to explain myself ;)

Does that help? God bless, hon!

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Lady - posted on 03/27/2014




Thank you for sharing, I am a Christian, 33, and a mother of three and Jamaican.

Kenny - posted on 02/27/2014




Thank you for the guidelines. Glad to be part of the community. I'm 32, a Christian, mother of three and a Malaysian.

Krimlen - posted on 02/16/2014




glad i found yr site
hope we are useful to.others n ourself be encouraged to raise godly generation

Olubunmi - posted on 10/22/2013




I was searching the internet for scriptural prayers for children and stumbled upon circle of moms. Glad to be a new member. I'm 30, a Christian wife, mother of 2 and business owner and a Nigerian.

Jennifer - posted on 05/10/2013




I'm new to this community. I'm a Christian wife and mother of a 16 month old daughter. Saying HI! :)

Jenille - posted on 05/06/2013




thnx mumy carla..i am new into this.kindly guide me how to be a part in this community. tnx

Ellen - posted on 06/19/2012




Is there a FAQ about "how to do things" on this site? Like private messaging, and explaining the "helpful, nice funny, encouraging " words? I have tried to find one, and haven't found it yet. I would appreciate any help.
Thanks, and God bless.

Raijeli Uluinaceva - posted on 10/11/2010




Love this community,thank God for u guys.I pray that God will establish the work of your hands so that what u do will find favour with others and be a blessing for many...God bless.

Stephanie Jo - posted on 07/06/2010




I love being able to come to you all w/my problems or questions. learn,hopefully be some help.

Jennifer - posted on 06/06/2010




this looks like a community i am really going to enjoy and benefit from--thank you!

Cyndel - posted on 05/30/2010




thank you for making the guidelines clear. I'm so tired of Christians bashing each other for different opinions on minor issues. I've seen it to often and it really makes me sad. Thanks again for the clear, strict rules.

Nicole - posted on 05/13/2010




I'm glad the community has such strong rules. Keeps it nice and clean and a safe place to come and discuss every day issues about our children and our Lord.
Love this community!! :)
God bless

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