Farrah - posted on 05/21/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )
Farrah - posted on 05/21/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )
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Liz - posted on 05/28/2010
it sort of is the point of this post Heather because the lady is asking what other mum's think, so let's give her a truthful answer so she knows how to deal with it in the future, that's what this circle is all about is it not?
Liz - posted on 05/28/2010
Well said Cheryl!
Maresa - posted on 05/28/2010
personaly i don't think there is any sin in a morning after pill, i don't see how that pill can be any different than a reg pill you take daily, it's not even 24 hours for goodness sakes. believe me i don't believe in abortions and i do believe in God, I love God and am very grateful to Him for the son i have after 13 years of trying, put your faith, your trust in His hands (Gods hands) let Him guide you. be prepared always, go on the pill or use the sponge or something, good luck. and God Bless
Sheila - posted on 05/27/2010
ok, so I read through several of the other posts, and didn't see anything about what I'm about to say. In scripture, God tells us wives to submit to our husbands. Sounds to me like that is what you did. God promises protection to those who obey his commands. As far as your husband being unsaved is concerned, pray for him daily. I have a dear friend who prayed Ephesians 1: (sorry that I can't remember the exact verses) for her husband daily, and through her faithfulness to God, and submission to her husband, even when it was something that she felt like she couldn't agree with, she watched her husband get saved. Again, I can't remember the exact scripture, but God promises that an unsaved husband/wife will receive salvation through the saved spouse who is faithful to God.
Did you do the wrong thing? Like so many other women have stated, I think that is something that you have to settle with God. Nobody can answer that except you, but I have it on good authority that if you did, You are already forgiven!
Josslyn - posted on 05/27/2010
1 Peter 5:6-7
6Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 7Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
God loves you dear sister, he knows what you going through, may you gather strength and be humbled through him so that your anxious heart may find rest.....
Sarah - posted on 05/26/2010
The whole thing scares me, but I think I remember hearing that one of those morning after pills cannot abort a baby that's successfully implanted?? Research it a little and maybe you'll feel better about your choice.
Heather - posted on 05/26/2010
Please take a moment to think about what you are posting. This is not a debate about Plan B, but a mom looking for support. I do not want any more posts about what Plan B is. If you have something encouraging to say to Terina, please do so, but leave off any comments about Plan B.
Christy - posted on 05/26/2010
From what I know of the morning after pill it's not ment to kill a fertilized egg, but to make the enviornment so it can't be fertilized in the first place...that being said everyone is different in the Bible Paul talks about stumbeling blocks....when early believers were eating food that had been offered to other "gods"...some thought this a sin and others didn't because they knew they were just statues and not "gods" as there's only one.....so if this bothers you, then talk to your husband about your concerns....tell him how you feel and trust in God to lead you both through!
Amy - posted on 05/26/2010
this is from the FDA: How does Plan B work?
Plan B works like other birth control pills to prevent pregnancy. Plan B acts primarily by stopping the release of an egg from the ovary (ovulation). It may prevent the union of sperm and egg (fertilization). If fertilization does occur, Plan B may prevent a fertilized egg from attaching to the womb (implantation). If a fertilized egg is implanted prior to taking Plan B, Plan B will not work.
I would think taken early enough the egg shouldn't be kept from attaching or being fertilized. it takes 2-6 days for the sperm to reach the egg. as to how you feel, i would talk to your husband and if you feel that way tell him that it cannot happen again. pray for him to get saved. it may take years, but God will answer. I agree, God is a loving, forgiving God. He loves and forgives you-forgive yourself.
Angela - posted on 05/26/2010
Wow that's hard to answer Terina. I use the Mirena IUD currently. I guess I would tell you to be better prepared next time so you don't have to make such a difficult decision. Know that as many ladies have said you are forgiven and so greatly loved by our Saviour. Don't beat yourself up!! :)
Mariah - posted on 05/25/2010
It is no ones place to judge anyone. Terina you have to face yourself and God in the mirror everyday. If you have a problem, PRAY, PRAY, PRAY. God will forgive you. The hardest part is forgiving yourself. No one truly knows what we will do until we are in that situation.
I believe your biggest problem is your husband not being a Christan. I was in a long term relationship with a non christian. I overlooked all of the things and reasons why it wasn't a good idea because I loved him. After 10 years and so much heartache I had to walk away. He still calls (he even married someone else) and wants our old relationship with his new one. I finally stopped answering his calls. You're going to have to look within yourself and ask God what you need to do.
I know how strong love is with someone especially if you have a child/ren together. The most important thing is that no one should make you do something you are not comfortable with or goes against your beliefs. If they have a problem with it, it's their problem not yours. Unfortunately, your husband made it your problem because he didn't respect your wishes. I think you need to pray and together see a Christian counselor. Until your husband is a Christan you are never going to see eye to eye.
Know that no one judges you! We are all equals and make mistakes. You have to forgive yourself because as soon as you ask God for forgiveness, it's given and we all love you for the strong, wonderful, Christian mom, woman that you are!
Josslyn - posted on 05/25/2010
Honey, I fell pregnant ( twice that is, first baby lost to complications) on Nurr esterate AND after using the morning after pill, God will give you that gift when he sees fit, I opted for the use of these for I had an unpredictable and irregular cycle and hormone imbalance, the doctor suggested hormone treatment in the form of this contraceptive to regulate my cycles and level my hormones and we also didn't want children too early in the marriage. People might see contraception in a bad light ( not going to say sin for as Victoria said, it opens a can of worms) but God has the power so no form of contraception can take over the power of Gods hand, It'll happen when it's meant to happen. Pill or no pill......
And as the other ladies have said, Our God is a forgiving God, lay your worries upon Him.
Pam - posted on 05/23/2010
No one but you can say if you did the right thing or not.To let you know the morning after pill stops your eggs from being released no eggs no baby. I looked it up for you.Some people will say it is wronge but it is a personel decision for you to make.Maybe you might want to talk to your preacher.Seems to me if your husband made you take the pill you might have a bigger problem .Hope this helped
Vanessa - posted on 05/23/2010
I think that this one we really cannot answer for you. I think that the guilt your feeling is the Holy spirit dealing working within you. My advise would be to seek God for wisdom and encouragement strength and direction. Remember who you are in Christ and let your husband know that. Decide on which things you are not willing to comprimise on and let your husband know what ever God has revealed to you and stand firm. God will work with him
Liezl - posted on 05/23/2010
I'm not judging you. I'm sad for you because your husband could ask you to do something like that. It's not like you're being naughty teenagers. You're married. I'm Catholic and our vows ask the question, "Will you accept children lovingly from God?" and if you are a Christian, you cannot possibly answer "no". I'd be upset if my husband made me take the morning after pill. It would be as if he's telling me to have an abortion, or else. Not a nice thing to do. Don't feel bad. He's the one who should feel bad.
Suzanne - posted on 05/22/2010
grace and forgiveness go hand and hand, satan would love for you to feel "so guilty" that your christain walk would you doubt. ask God for both grace and forgiveness. good luck.
Janet - posted on 05/22/2010
If you are feeling bad you know the Holy Spirt has been talking to you.No one has to judge you, but it seems that you are,but good news God loves you and he will forgive you ,if you ask. I will pray for you cause I know you are hurting over this.Pray for your husband too that he would know all children are a Gift from God.
Heather - posted on 05/22/2010
It will not work if the egg is implanted in the lining, if it is fertilized and not implanted it will still abort it. If you want all the details, you can check out this article:
But that isn't the point of this post. God loves you Terina! Don't ever forget that!
Cheryl - posted on 05/22/2010
Samantha, Are you sure? I think you have it backwards with the birth control pill.
Samantha - posted on 05/22/2010
just so you know, the morning after pill, plan b, is an emergency contraceptive that prevents ovulation. if you had conceived, it would not work, it is not the abortion pill. it does not wok by preventing a fertilized egg from implanting on the uterine wall, it simply prevents ovulation in the first place like other hormone birth controls, it is just a higher dosage. this is in no way abortion, its the same as taking any other birth control pill. if you feel bad about it, then just dont take it in the future, but just wanted you to know you did not prevent a fertilized egg from developing. =)
Diane - posted on 05/22/2010
Terina, you asked God to forgive you and now you must forget it and move on giving Him the glory.
We are not supposed to dwell over past sins....because if we do we are dishonoring what God did for us.
So live for Him, put Him first, you learned and have been FORGIVEN...now love on your husband showing him respect and if you walk with Christ...your husband hopefully will come around and become a believer too. That will not happen if your negative and keep reminding him of the events that took place. Smile and have the great life God wants you to have.
Live each day as if it's your last........God is Great, God is Good......and YOU ARE HIS.
Heather - posted on 05/22/2010
I know how you feel. I took the morning after pill before my last pregnancy. I thank God on a regular basis that it didn't work, and we have been blessed with our twin girls. I did not understand back then all the details what exactly was taking place. While I still believe that it is wrong (because I believe life begins at conception not implantation), I am thankful that God is more powerful then any drug! I do not believe that we should ever use this as a reason to test Him, but He is forgiving, and maybe someday He will use you to comfort other moms in your situation. You have received some wonderful advice from other loving moms on here. I will pray that you are never faced with this situation again, and that God does grant you with beautiful children in the future. And of course for your husbands salvation.
Praise God that He is so loving and forgiving! God loves you!! He is so amazing that He loves all of us no matter what mistakes we make. He knows we aren't perfect and that we fail, but He is always there ready to forgive, and keep pressing forward! God is so good!
Ronnaya - posted on 05/22/2010
Don't feel bad! Its not like you had an abortion you just took protective measures to make sure you wouldn't get pregnant! Don't be hard on yourself!!! You should be extra careful next time and let him know that you did not feel comfortable with the situation and that it will not happen again!
Sara - posted on 05/21/2010
I agree whole heartedly w/ Julie, LeeAnn, and Myriah. One more thing to remember, God is bigger than any pill you take, and if a baby is meant to bless your family, it will happen! By the Grace of God we have been forgiven of our sins. Ask forgiveness and move on. He will.
Myriah - posted on 05/21/2010
My husband stopped going to church for a while adn was fighting his own demons. I stayed very much a Christian and continued to go to church...
Having said this, I can understand how you feel. It sounds like you did not want to take the pill but instead did it for your husband. Be strong in your faith and stand up for what you believe in. If he doesn't want to have a baby yet, then make him realize that you two need to take steps in this area and that the morning after pill is not one of them in your eyes. I too did the morning after pill and my husband and I so regret it now. The thing that matters is listening to how you feel, praying and letting God guide you. I think you are a very strong woman to even talk about this. God bless!
LeeAnn - posted on 05/21/2010
I think this is something women struggle with: conviction vs. condemnation, whatever the struggle may be... the Holy Spirit convicted you, so repent; do NOT let satan convince you to beat yourself up, that is only to his advantage. The fact that you have shared this only brings glory to God, that in your time of trouble you called on Him and He is a forgiving God.
"and call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me" Psalm 50:15
I'll be praying for you
Diane - posted on 05/21/2010
Cheryl you said it very well. I think she knows what she did or she wouldn't feel bad. But I am glad you also said that God forgives if you acknowledge the sin and make the corrections necessary to never do it again.
I will say this Terina...no one can make you do anything you do not want to do unless they psycially hold you down against your own will... and that is a crime. I would not put all the blame on your husband by saying he made you do it. You took the pill and you could have refused it. I do agree with Victoria that submission to your husband is biblical and a good thing...but not when the request is anything like this. Some things as Christians we should refused to do even if the person asking is our husband.
Go immediately to God in prayer and talk to Him, pouring out your heart and your feelings. He will listen. He is a loving but just God, but will certainly discipline those He loves.
I had an abortion when I was a young woman. I did not regret it until twenty years later. It about destroyed me, until I came to know Christ. He can change you if you only walk in the light of His love.
Krista - posted on 05/21/2010
Technically this is not abortion if that is what you are relating it too. IF the egg was fertilized the uterine environment is rendered inhospitable so that the egg can't implant. It is not a fool proof system. It is NOT abortion because the egg is not implanted.
I think for you that it is a learning and growing experience for your personal self and your walk with God and your relationship with your husband. Spend some time in reflection and learn from the experience - it could be invaluable in sharing with other women in the future.
Victoria - posted on 05/21/2010
You can look at this 2 ways, 1) You submitted to your husband. Sure that's good & has it's place, but there are times that we need to stand up for our faith, what we believe. 2) You did something that YOU believe is morally and spiritually wrong....therefore in YOUR eyes at the very least you sinned (I'm NOT gonna open this up as whether you sinned in God's eyes as I don't wanna open a can of worms). Well you feel bad, and that's okay, Gods forgiveness is there, receive it and move on, DON'T let anyone condemn you, for in Christ there is NO condemnation, so just receive His forgiveness and move on.
On the other side of things I strongly recommend you talk at length with your husband, explain your views & beliefs and what this did to you emotionally. Let him know that this is NOT something you want to be faced with again.
I'll keep you in prayer, for this could be difficult for you especially since your hubby is not a believer, also that God will give you strength as satan (through thoughts and other people) and unfortunately many Christians will try and judge you & make you think that you need to work for your forgiveness, YOU DON'T! It is simply by grace through faith, because of the FINISHED works of Christ. God is loving, lean on His love to help you through this.
Julie - posted on 05/21/2010
God is a forgiving God. It sounds like you felt alot of pressure from your husband. Ask for forgiveness and then let it go -- accept his forgiveness. God doesn't want us to wallow in guilt. That's why Jesus died for us. I would definitely take some measures so you don't have to do that again. Go on the pill until you are ready to have a baby or some other form of birth control. Then you won't have this kind of pressure in the future.
Cheryl - posted on 05/21/2010
How do you want us to answer? I think you know otherwise you would not have felt bad all day. I think you need to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel and that you will not ever do that again. If he doesn't want to have a child right now, he's needs to be proactive and make sure his condom is on correctly, I would also keep track of your schedule and basil cell temp (it's a special thermometer you can get at CVS or whereever) and not have sex when you're ovulating just in case the condom fails.
God is forgiving, you need to spend some time in prayer, maybe journal the experience and copy some verses that speak to you.