Depression

Tia - posted on 09/24/2009 ( 49 moms have responded )

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Does anyone else struggle with depression? What do you do for it? I have been trying to do my devotions every day, but I feel like I get nothing out of it. I am so frustrated right now. I've been trying to pray every day too....but I feel like I'm talking to nothing right now. I have been a christian a long time now...I've gone through dry spells, but not like this. Advice please!!!!!

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Cynthia - posted on 09/29/2009

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I have been down but I don't know if you call it depression only thing I can give u is the word & I pray it will help u

WHAT ARE SOME BIBLICAL CURES FOR COMMON DEPRESSION?
BIBLE READING: Psalm 42:1-11
KEY BIBLE VERSE: Why am I discouraged? Why so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again-my Savior and my God! Now I am deeply discouraged, but I will remember your kindness-from Mount Hermon, the source of the Jordan, from the land of Mount Mizar. (Psalm 42:5-6)

DEPRESSION CAN BE RELIEVED BY MEDITATING ON GOD’S WORD.
Depression is one of the most common emotional ailments. One antidote for depression is to meditate on the record of God’s goodness to his people. This will take your mind off the present situation and give you hope that it will improve. It will focus your thoughts on God’s ability to help you rather than on your inability to help yourself. When you feel depressed, take advantage of this psalm’s antidepressant. Read the Bible’s accounts of God’s goodness and meditate on them.


HOW CAN I BEST DEAL WITH FRUSTRATION?
Ecclesiastes 1:8 . . . Everything is so weary and tiresome! No matter how much we see, we are never satisfied. No matter how much we hear, we are not content.
Ecclesiastes 2:20 . . . I turned in despair from hard work. It was not the answer to my search for satisfaction in this life.
Psalm 90:14 . . . Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, so we may sing for joy to the end of our lives.
Acts 17:25 . . . Human hands can’t serve his needs-for he has no needs. He himself gives life and breath to everything, and he satisfies every need there is.
We are frustrated when we fail to let God be God, or when we try to understand the reasons for everything that happens. When we let go and let God work our what is best for us, we will relieve much of our frustration.

Diane - posted on 09/29/2009

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Hi Tia My Dad would struggle with deppression and I do especially around PMS time and my Dad and I find that if you get a natural B complex take around 4 tab in morning and 4 tabs in the afternoon it help us amazingly do not worry about taking to much the vitamin is water soluble it will turn your urine yellow what you don't need gets washed out like vita c, so don't worry about it. I actually asked my Dr and she said it will help also. I can remember it helped my Dad a lot.

Chris - posted on 09/27/2009

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You need to talk to your doctor. You may have a chemical imbalance that needs to be fixed. Continue to pray and find someone to talk to.

Martie - posted on 09/26/2009

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There is a type of depression called Dysthymia which is Latin for bad moods. It is usually caused by chemical imbalance in our brains. Reading our Bibles and other spiritual disciplines can help combat the depression but it usually needs medication also. A lot of times the medication can level out our chemical balances so we can bring the spiritual disciplines into place.

It can be very hard on children to have depressed mothers. Sometimes pride or wrong teaching can keep us from getting the help we need. One side effect of dysthymia is irritability. We as mothers can be irritable with our children and it seems justified. Another is not being able to sleep or sleeping too much. Another symptom is painful thinking.



Yes we need to employ every spiritual discipline we can such as praising God, focusing on his blessings etc. But it is important to seek medical help for the imbalance.



Many people will get help for a thyroid problem which has many of the same symptoms and no one calls that sin. It is also a chemical problem. But when it gets to chemical imbalances in the brain people like to label it sin. I agree depression can be caused by sin but not always. We live in a fallen world. Our bodies are not evolving into better and better bodies but are the result of a fallen world where many genetic changes have come into force.



The problem with antidepressants that it is hard to find the right one that will work for a certain person. Many family doctors are not educated in the many different meds that are available. Antidepressants are not addicting and do not work if you don't need them. They are just flushed through your system.



God has bless me with kind Christian doctors where ever we have lived. So pray for that if you need one.



I can not stress enough as a mother with grown children how important it is to deal with depression so as not to have it effect your mothering. Thankfully God was gracious to me and I have to godly sons walking with Him.

Carmen - posted on 09/26/2009

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I just dealt with PPD after my first daughter. But w/ my second one I finally accepted that it was okay to seek help. A lot of women deal with PPD or even just depression in general from being cooped up in the home with the same routine of kids, house, & husband. I talked to my regular physician as well as my OBGYN & began taking Lexapro. It didn't make me feel like I was floating on a cloud but it did make me feel okay. Like you should on just an average day that you wake up. Good Luck!

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Dear Tia, I totally understand where you are coming from. I dealt with depression for years. At first, from about 15 to 38 it was pretty low level, just a nagging constant. It got worse after I started having kids but hit it's peak about 5 years ago after my last baby. Finally I had to admit that I was dealing with something real and serious, I couldn't mask it or cover over it any longer. It was affecting my kids and then it started to spill over into other relationships, that's when I knew I had to do something. I hate meds and didn't want to be on them, but thought I would have to. A friend, due to a circumstance that "coincidentally" allowed her to see my problem ('cuz I kept it pretty well hidden) said that she knew of a good Christian counsellor. I didn't like the sound of that. I didn't need a "shrink." But she (my friend)had been a victim of Satanic ritual abuse as a child, and had been to many counsellors over the years for it, and said that this guy was one of only two she'd been to that really made a difference, that he used some techniques that not all therapists use, that actually help "process" the problem out, not just talk about it(it's called EMDR). I still didn't go:( But when my sister was having marriage problems I gave her this guys #! Because she went and experienced what he did, I decided to go. After several sessions I was better, but still waking up depressed. Finally, after about 2 months, he decided to try a new technique he was learning, called muscle testing. Now, muscle testing has been successfully used for nutritional diagnoses, but for emotional stuff it's pretty new. He did silent testing and discovered I had, around the time I was 14 or 15, opened a door to the occult, I won't go into it here (take too long) which was weird but based on my experience made sense. We did a very specific prayer for it, where he prayed and then led me in prayer. I didn't feel different after that, but about a week later I woke up with a sudden realization... I wasn't depressed. I felt around in my brain... really? I'm not depressed? Nope nothing, not a shred of the old dread. The next morning was the same, and it's been that way ever since (3 years now, nothing but typical circumstantial depressed momnts, normal type). I'm not saying THIS is your problem. What I am trying to illustrate is how muscle testing can hone in on the root problem. Which is important because I would have never remembered what happened at 14 and linked it to my depression now... especially since it didn't get worse til my 30's. I believe that a lot of people's anxiety and depression and even health problems are due to emotional and or spiritual traumas or events. The key, if you're a Christian is finding a good, bible-based Christian counsellor that is trained in this. Since this is "energy" therapy and is working with our God-given spirit, the last thing you want is a non-believer (or worse, an atheist or pagan) working with this vital area. There are lots of good articles about this type of therapy. Be aware there are lots of fearful Christians who think this stuff is "New Age." I believe it's simply working with a fundamental part of our being as God created us. And I go by "fruits." I have been blessed, and I feel God let me to this type of therapy, because I'd been praying to be free of my depression for years. I also know that he revealed it at the optimum time for me. Before that year, I probably wasn't ready or open to change. Here's a link to the site of the Christian woman who formatted the different energy therapies together: http://www.splankna.com/net-tft-and-emdr...
I'm guessing the SPLANKNA site has a way to reference practitioners in different areas. I'm in Grand Junction CO... I can't believe there's one in this small town! Hopefully there's one near you. Feel free to message me directly if you want to talk more or find out more specifics about the therapy or my own experience. I can't believe I'm finally free, and without drugs! I wish the same for everyone struggling with depression! I'll keep you in my prayers!

Gloria - posted on 10/16/2009

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Hi Tia yes I also suffer from depression, and by all the replys a lot of others do to.But any way I agree about seeing your DR. and taking meds . But meds only help some if I didnt talk to GOD daily and ask him for help every morning before I get up. I talk to him all though my work day .some even ask me how I keep my cool some day I tell them with GOD help. so keep the faith keep asking GOD to guide you In christian love

Susie - posted on 10/16/2009

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Tia, My husband died 8 yrs ago. I have been in a deep depression ever since. I personally will not take the pills my dr prescribed. I read my scriptures often for the peace it gives. Its handling the world outside that I have problems with. I just try to focus on what I need to accomplish in my day and try to do it. I helps to know someone loves me. God bless you may your pain go away or at least be manageable. ♥♥ XX

Krista - posted on 10/14/2009

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Something else I noticed........ God didn't put anyone but Christ here for our benefit.

Krista - posted on 10/14/2009

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Anti-depressants ARE an insult to the LORD, if you confess to believe on Him. Either He IS capable of all things (according to His will) or He is NOT capable of all things. Anti-depressant laden Christans are a slap in His face, it's basically saying , "God, I just can't take it anymore. You're not helping me so I'm going to find help elsewhere." "Oh, and by the way God, thanks for how much better I feel now that I have chemicals helping me. You're so good." ...-just sayin-...

Kimisha - posted on 10/14/2009

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I know exactly how you feel. I struggled with postpartum depression for over a year and was suicidal. But we must remember that God put people in the world for our benefit. We, as Christians, are sometimes afraid to see doctors and seek help because we feel like we're insulting Him. But God gave us doctors, nurses and the like for our benefit. So needless to say, I'm suggesting you take yourself to a psychiatrist. That's what I did and I'm living happily with the assistance of a medication. And it helped my spiritual life because during that depression I was hopeless. Once I got medicated and rejuvenated I was reminded of the power of God and the Lord blessed me in miraculous ways. So that's my advice.

Shakera - posted on 10/01/2009

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well, I love the Lord greatly & I stuggle with depression as well. this does not mean we love God any less. i also have bipolar ( mania ) what i have is known in my family also a chemical imbalance. sometimes we can try to pray these things away an God put meds & therapy in place for a reason. i was in denial for many yrs. i am marriedw/6 kids that is enough to add to depression. i believe to go into prayer & read ,but also seek prof. help. shakera

Kim - posted on 10/01/2009

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I was going thru the same exact thing just about 2 months ago. I am new to my faith so I thought something was wrong with me. I had no interest in anything - I was very irritable - very sad all the time. After about a month I realized it wasn't going away and my family begged me to go to the dr. She made me feel so much better - told me I was not crazy. She put me on prozac and afer about 10 days on the medication, I was back to normal. I don't know how old you are but I am 42 and the doctor explained to me at my age it is quite normal to be going thru this. Almost pre menepause even though I may not actually go thru menopause for another 8 or 10 years. Please go to the doctor - I feel so much better and you may not have to stay on the medication forever. You may just need it to get thru this little phase and then it will bring you out of it. Let me know how you do.

Felicia - posted on 10/01/2009

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God is able to help you.....Keep praying and apply gods word in your prayers .You have to PUSH

Tami - posted on 09/30/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

Hi Tia,
I'm not sure if you've heard about this but L-Tryptophan is an all natural mood enhancer.
It: Promotes mental clarity and understanding of everyday situations
· May help support healthy perceptions and reactions in daily and stressful situations
· Helps enhance and stabilize mood
· May help promote calmness and relaxation
· Helps promote healthy control of feelings and perceptions
· Helps maintain healthy levels of serotonin
Let me know if you'd like more information.



I'd like to hear more about this natural mood enhance L-Tryptophan so I can discuss it with my Dr. next week.  I know I can look it up on the net, but personal experience and input will help.

Rebekah - posted on 09/30/2009

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I think we all battle depression in some state or another at some point in our life... some people it's worse, others it's not so bad, etc. I know when I feel this way, reading doesn't help me at all - I turn on praise and worship and dance! It's the only thing that can revitalize me and see things differently. I also pray - seriously, I get by myself and just pour everything out that I'm feeling to God, and I always feel better after I do that.

A great thing to remember is that God doesn't leave us or forsake us, no matter what we "feel". And just like the Israelites wandered through the desert for 40 years, remember God is bringing you to the Promised Land, on the otherside of this wilderness experience, this "dryness", God has a shower, a mighty rain coming. I always try to remember that, instead of thinking about the things that are pulling me down, I concentrate on what God has in store for me, and then begin to prepare myself for rain! Keep plowing!!! :)

Melissa - posted on 09/30/2009

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Hi Tia,

I'm not sure if you've heard about this but L-Tryptophan is an all natural mood enhancer.

It: Promotes mental clarity and understanding of everyday situations

· May help support healthy perceptions and reactions in daily and stressful situations

· Helps enhance and stabilize mood

· May help promote calmness and relaxation

· Helps promote healthy control of feelings and perceptions

· Helps maintain healthy levels of serotonin

Let me know if you'd like more information.

Meredith - posted on 09/29/2009

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Hi Tia



Yes I do. I struggle with anxiety depression. I got a relapse of it when Jaiden was born. Trusting in God is your strong hold. But God gives us wisdom and wonderful professionals to help us too. I see my struggle with depression as a blessing because as a result I have been able to reach out to others who are lonely and struggling. What helps me is medication(Cipramil), jogging, taking one day at a time and celebrating achievements no matter how small. This helps build up your self esteem. Try not to be too hard on yourself or become despondent if you don't feel close to God, God knows your heart and knows your struggles. Take comfort in that. You are not alone. x x

JoAnn - posted on 09/29/2009

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Dear Tia,

I also deal with depression. Im on medication called lexapro. It helps.When you are dealing with alot of stress through out your life it catches up with you and that is what happened with me. My faith has become stronger through out the years. He is always there through the good and bad. I suggest talking with your doctor also writing in a journal helps sometimes, walking on nice days and just looking around and fresh air. I hope this will help some. God Bless

Tami - posted on 09/29/2009

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Sorry, I wasn't trying to imply anything directly towards you or anyone on this site about sucking it up - it was a broad comment that unfortunately a lot of Christians believe as I struggle with a cousins wife who would benefit from meds but her husband and pastor don't agree with meds.



My sister in law deals with debilitating headaches also -for the past 18 years and has finally found a med thats seems to be working. I can share more of this with you if you wish to contact me separately from this conversation

Victoria - posted on 09/29/2009

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Quoting Tami:

Ah Victoria, I think you hit the nail on the head - Too many people and Christians may be the worse ones - believe this is in your head and like you they expect you to get over it. My husband was diagnosed with a mood disorder a few years ago and at that time we were making forward moves to being more involved in our church and getting more active in our church community with attending various studies and fun time activities. This is what Satan hates - the decisions we make to strengthen our relationships with the Lord and be stronger Christians. We hit a downward spiral for atleast 31/2 years. The first year was the worst because our children saw first hand what depression/anxiety mood disorders can do to you. I almost lost my husband in 2 ways - as my best friend/partner for life and physically as a person who contemplated suicide. The family Dr didn't know enough about it so he just put him on the most popular meds and on a dose he thought was good - we struggled as believers but we also knew that God doesn't afflict us beyond what we can bear so I decided then and there that I wasn't going to let Satan win this battle - my husband -my family belong to the Lord and the last thing I was going to do was give in to Satan and let him take control of our family. So we got together with a group of Christian couples, explained the situation and they all agreed to become our prayer warriors to help us thru this.
God uses us in all situations for the good so that we can become stronger ourselves and so that we can help others. In no way would we have been able to do this with out the help of modern medicine (which God provided thru a Christian counseling group) and a lot of time in prayer and forcing myself to listen to others.

My husband was an awesome Christian when I first met him - that was what drew me to him - his hunger for a deeper relationship with God. Sadly that changed because as hard as he tried the ability to make the decisions to follow God got harder and harder. Once we entered a counseling group provided by 100 Huntley Street Ministries he was able to better understand and better comprehend things. It's been a rough road and he is finally on a medication and dosage that works for all of us.:) We have moved to a new area unfortunately away from our prayer supporters because of work but they still check in with us when we go home for visits to see how we are doing.
Unfortunately with the move it has left me without my support system in handling him so I have had to rely on Gods strength even more. In all of this my devotions have slid off to nearly none existent but I have tried to be diligent in my prayer time because I know with out Gods strength we would be divorced by now. I still struggle with devotions, I tried getting in with a small group from my church but the group is about 22 women - mostly older retired and they don't take the time sometimes to really listen to whats bothering you. They are of the old school - suck it up - and sorry to say that doesn't happen when the chemical imbalance in your brain doesn't function properly unless medicated. I find it difficult myself now as I don't have any friends here - true friends - I have lots of acquaintances but no true heart to heart friends and we've been here 2 years. Now I've been battling with Seasonal depression and that on top of keeping my family together really wastes your energy.

I can Praise God tho that my husband has been so much better in the last year - especially with the move and new job that they have reduced his meds to half what he was taking before and eventually he may be able to go off them completely. Maybe once the kids are off to university - 1 is now and 1 to go. I learned that the girls were a trigger to his outbursts and severe violent episodes. Things would pile up over the course of several days - things you wouldn't think would affect the average person but would send him off the deep end - so I would have to be sure to monitor things 24/7 to be sure no one was potentially going to cause an episode - and that isn't easy - my life the last 3 years has revolved around keeping my family sane and together. Because of that I feel my depression has reared its head. Now I'm getting tired because my husband is getting better so I'm backing off and realizing things are different. He is better able to manage things and make decisions which always fell on my shoulders.

I have to admit I get a little testy when people say that you need to get in the word more - that God will pull you out of this. Unless you've battled real depression vs the kinds you get on a gloomy day and area able to tell yourself to get over it (which I can do to myself on occasion) this isn't something that is easy to accomplish. Depression, mood disorder affects the chemicals in your brain and the ability to focus on certain tasks is if not impossible, very very difficult. So thru all this I can firmly say I'm not the model I should be for my children when it comes to devotions but I am when it comes to prayer time. If I can only accomplish 1/2 of what I'm supposed to do I've atleast accomplished something.

No one knows how long a dry spell can last - for me it's been a few years - and I've been a Christian since I was 5 so it's been a long relationship with Christ that I cherish - and I wish I could make better. So pray for us in the desert because one day we too will be where you are - in the word and in conversation with Him on a daily basis.


I think you miss understood me, I don't believe that anyone can just get over it. That would imply a magic mentallity (we all know God abhors magic). It's not something that is JUST done, it is JUSTLY done, that is the miraculous. For some it is an instintanious thing as with Jesus & the fig plant, for most it is a process that God takes us through, developing our faith & trust through comunication with him. If you are in pray with him, you are in conversation with him. Prayer is an act of faith.



I didn't just arrive here, I still have my struggles, especially with my headaches, but I won't feel guilty for taking meds & I don't believe anyone should. Meds don't heal as God does, and I am still believeing for complete healing from clusterheads (which can be some what debilitating at times, which is hard with 3 kids), sometimes the meds don't even work, or make them worse, sometimes my head hurts so bad I can't even read, let alone recieve from the WORD.



However I agree God  does notallow us to be given more than we can handle (although it sure seems like that sometime).



I think you are such a great example for your kids, getting into the word is one thing, but actively persuing it in your life is the better thing, which if you are acting as a prayer worrior, you are doing just that. I stand in faith with you, your husband & your prayer group, for all that you have brought before the LORD. Continue to stand in strength, for He is with you.



God Bless you my dear, dear Sister. xx

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Praise God Tami that you were able to find good Christian Counseling. I will be praying for you daily.

Tami - posted on 09/29/2009

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Ah Victoria, I think you hit the nail on the head - Too many people and Christians may be the worse ones - believe this is in your head and like you they expect you to get over it. My husband was diagnosed with a mood disorder a few years ago and at that time we were making forward moves to being more involved in our church and getting more active in our church community with attending various studies and fun time activities. This is what Satan hates - the decisions we make to strengthen our relationships with the Lord and be stronger Christians. We hit a downward spiral for atleast 31/2 years. The first year was the worst because our children saw first hand what depression/anxiety mood disorders can do to you. I almost lost my husband in 2 ways - as my best friend/partner for life and physically as a person who contemplated suicide. The family Dr didn't know enough about it so he just put him on the most popular meds and on a dose he thought was good - we struggled as believers but we also knew that God doesn't afflict us beyond what we can bear so I decided then and there that I wasn't going to let Satan win this battle - my husband -my family belong to the Lord and the last thing I was going to do was give in to Satan and let him take control of our family. So we got together with a group of Christian couples, explained the situation and they all agreed to become our prayer warriors to help us thru this.
God uses us in all situations for the good so that we can become stronger ourselves and so that we can help others. In no way would we have been able to do this with out the help of modern medicine (which God provided thru a Christian counseling group) and a lot of time in prayer and forcing myself to listen to others.

My husband was an awesome Christian when I first met him - that was what drew me to him - his hunger for a deeper relationship with God. Sadly that changed because as hard as he tried the ability to make the decisions to follow God got harder and harder. Once we entered a counseling group provided by 100 Huntley Street Ministries he was able to better understand and better comprehend things. It's been a rough road and he is finally on a medication and dosage that works for all of us.:) We have moved to a new area unfortunately away from our prayer supporters because of work but they still check in with us when we go home for visits to see how we are doing.
Unfortunately with the move it has left me without my support system in handling him so I have had to rely on Gods strength even more. In all of this my devotions have slid off to nearly none existent but I have tried to be diligent in my prayer time because I know with out Gods strength we would be divorced by now. I still struggle with devotions, I tried getting in with a small group from my church but the group is about 22 women - mostly older retired and they don't take the time sometimes to really listen to whats bothering you. They are of the old school - suck it up - and sorry to say that doesn't happen when the chemical imbalance in your brain doesn't function properly unless medicated. I find it difficult myself now as I don't have any friends here - true friends - I have lots of acquaintances but no true heart to heart friends and we've been here 2 years. Now I've been battling with Seasonal depression and that on top of keeping my family together really wastes your energy.

I can Praise God tho that my husband has been so much better in the last year - especially with the move and new job that they have reduced his meds to half what he was taking before and eventually he may be able to go off them completely. Maybe once the kids are off to university - 1 is now and 1 to go. I learned that the girls were a trigger to his outbursts and severe violent episodes. Things would pile up over the course of several days - things you wouldn't think would affect the average person but would send him off the deep end - so I would have to be sure to monitor things 24/7 to be sure no one was potentially going to cause an episode - and that isn't easy - my life the last 3 years has revolved around keeping my family sane and together. Because of that I feel my depression has reared its head. Now I'm getting tired because my husband is getting better so I'm backing off and realizing things are different. He is better able to manage things and make decisions which always fell on my shoulders.

I have to admit I get a little testy when people say that you need to get in the word more - that God will pull you out of this. Unless you've battled real depression vs the kinds you get on a gloomy day and area able to tell yourself to get over it (which I can do to myself on occasion) this isn't something that is easy to accomplish. Depression, mood disorder affects the chemicals in your brain and the ability to focus on certain tasks is if not impossible, very very difficult. So thru all this I can firmly say I'm not the model I should be for my children when it comes to devotions but I am when it comes to prayer time. If I can only accomplish 1/2 of what I'm supposed to do I've atleast accomplished something.

No one knows how long a dry spell can last - for me it's been a few years - and I've been a Christian since I was 5 so it's been a long relationship with Christ that I cherish - and I wish I could make better. So pray for us in the desert because one day we too will be where you are - in the word and in conversation with Him on a daily basis.

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Quoting Victoria:



Quoting Jenny:

a lot of Christians tend to believe that medication is out of the question, but it has helped me immensely. i tried the devotions and prayer, but sometimes the answer God's giving us is to seek medical help. i would talk to you doctor as soon as possible.





I so agree. So many Christians seem to think that meds is a no no. It's simply not true. God can use anything & everything for he created all. I know people who have gone on meds to help with depression and such & God has used them for a time & then had them completely healed & no in need of the meds anymore. Or brought them to a place where they only need minimal amounts.






I suffer from extreme headaches, called cluster headaches & often time God will tell me don't take the meds & then other times He will instruct me to take meds. It have the faith to believe the witness God is giving you.






He will bring you there, he will heal you of your depression, but only He knows the right method for you take.






You still in my thoughts & prayers.






 





Amen! Pray about it. God will lead you in the decision that is right for you. That decision can be different with what the problem is. I can't take depression meds because they actually make it worse for me, but I do have to take allergy meds. Pray about it first, and God will lead you in the right direction.

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Quoting Jenny:

a lot of Christians tend to believe that medication is out of the question, but it has helped me immensely. i tried the devotions and prayer, but sometimes the answer God's giving us is to seek medical help. i would talk to you doctor as soon as possible.


I so agree. So many Christians seem to think that meds is a no no. It's simply not true. God can use anything & everything for he created all. I know people who have gone on meds to help with depression and such & God has used them for a time & then had them completely healed & no in need of the meds anymore. Or brought them to a place where they only need minimal amounts.



I suffer from extreme headaches, called cluster headaches & often time God will tell me don't take the meds & then other times He will instruct me to take meds. It have the faith to believe the witness God is giving you.



He will bring you there, he will heal you of your depression, but only He knows the right method for you take.



You still in my thoughts & prayers.



 

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i struggled with depresson for years because i didnt deal with it properly it turned into many other things anxiety,ptsd,what all that stuff reall is is the devil playing with your mind the spirit of depression i heard voices and everything.i refused to take meds because i knew it was a spiritual battle i was in and i had to turn to the Lord.it was hard.i still have to pray and fight spiritually sometimes.recently i told my mom who is a prayer warrior i was experiencing some symptoms of depression again she told me to read psalm 27,and 91 everyday b4 i go to bed and when i wake up.it has really helped you may want to try it.i will pray for you also...God bless

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Yes, I've suffered for many years and I still have spells every once in a while. What I try to remember is not to rely on my feelings. I know that's hard, especially for women but the bible says "the heart is deceitful above all things, who can understand it?" Jeremiah 17:9. We are not to trust our feelings. When you're in a depressed state, turn to your bible and remember what GOD says about you. Find your identity in Him. It will take time. There's no system that will make you feel better instantly. Embrace this time (I know that sounds weird) as a season where God wants to grow you. When you rely on Him during these tough times, you grow closer to Him, you start to depend on Him, you seek Him......that's exactly what He wants from you! Find a christian radio station or put on a CD (praising God always makes me feel better)......praise Him in the storm and He will see you through it. Many blessings.

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a lot of Christians tend to believe that medication is out of the question, but it has helped me immensely. i tried the devotions and prayer, but sometimes the answer God's giving us is to seek medical help. i would talk to you doctor as soon as possible.

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Thank you Judy...that was very touching. You have truly been a blessing in my life just by sharing your heart with me and your prayers. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!

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I feel compelled to respond to you. The Lord has laid you on my heart. He soooo real. Our prayers do go past the ceiling. This is a trick of the enemy. He comes to kill, steal and destroy - but Jesus comes to give us life - to the full!
Every time I'm feeling down- really down- I look around at someone less fortunate that I am and ask the Lord what I could do for them that would bless them. The Lord pours into us-as we pour into other people. Don't worry about what they think of you-just do what you feel like the Lord wants you to do. Once I took a simple lunch to the pastors house (soup, and deli meat and bread). I had to drive around the block 3 times before I knocked on the door because I was crying so hard. The Lord blessed me so much I thought I could fly. (I found out later that the pastor was so depressed that he couldn't mow his yard.) We never know what other people are going through.
Once, I felt compelled to write a letter to someone to ask their forgiveness because I was holding a grudge against them. I really fought that one-because it was a relative, but what a giant load that was lifted from me.
The Lord is alive and active and wants to be a very real part of our lives. I'm going to pray for you right now.
Father, I pray for Tia--that you will touch her heart and mind. Give her the peace and comfort that she is seeking. Help her to know how vast and deep and wide your love really is. Show her from your scriptures that every promise is for her. Isaiah 49:15 and 16. Psalm 139, Jeremiah 29: vs11, 12 13 and many many more. I put my arms around her--reaching out with your love. When you went away--you sent your Holy Spirit so He could be with us at all times. Thank You for such a wonderful gift. Thank you for the love that you can put in our hearts for people that we havn't even met! I pray all these things in Jesus Name!

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Tia, do you know where you are moving to? There might be someone in our community near you, so you have a friend from the get go! Thanks for the update. You are in my prayers.

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Tia---Don't give up! Just keep praying ....talk to God as if he were sitting right next to you. He loves you and He even knows how you feel what you think before you say it or think it. I sufer also......if angers me to know I can't control the depression,.......Give thanks.......start a gratitude list name 5 things.......do this everyday. Say the "Lord's prayer"and or the "Serenity Prayer". Talk to your christian friends. are you taking anything for the depression. sometimes this can just be a temporay thing to keep you on the up and up. My prayers are with you and I know the Lord our God will make you strong. Take baby steps and its One day at a Time........hour, minute. You are important to God! (((((Tia))))))))

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I appreciate everyone's input. I have gotten some wonderful advice. Thank you! Since I had a miscarriage at 9 months pregnant and was diagnosed with a blood clotting disorder that happens only when I am pregnant, I have seemed to be fine with depression. Then we had our second daughter in April of 08. It has been an uphill climb for me since then. With my husband in the military and our constant moving around, I feel overwhelmed. I have plugged myself in at our church and that seems to be keeping my head barely above water, but now we are moving again for the third time this year. I thought there was some great advice. I will take this all to heart and pray about it! Thank you all for loving me and praying for me!

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hello.. i just wanted to say God is with you even if you don't feel Him. I recently had my first baby in May of this year. I suffered from the baby blues for almost a month. I cried thinking i was a bad mom and i was nervous to take care of my son alone not in fear that i would hurt him but just because i thought i wasn't good enough. There are different types of depression but just know that with God everything is possible.. it really is. I overcame my depression and now i'm as good as new! i've been restored :) so really just keep praying cause God has plans for you and just know that no matter what the devil has planned for you... God has bigger, and stronger plans! God bless you! feel free to message me at poisontheashes5@yahoo.com if you need any help. :)



-betsy

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Even God gets angry sometimes, the key is being slow to become angry. Depression isn't about being angry or unhappy. It's a lack of joy. I have suffered from depression, and I was one of the ones that tried meds, but they made it worse. So for me it was a choice. A choice to trust God, and allow him to fill me with joy. We can chose how we deal with things. We can chose to be mad at the person that cut in front of us while driving or to pray for them. That is a choice. But yes we all get angry sometimes, and yes Jesus had the right to be upset at them turning his fathers house into a market. But the Bible also says in Psalm 4:4 "In your anger do not sin; when you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent." We need to handle our anger in a Godly way. But again, this is completely off topic. Depression isn't about anger, or grief. It is something that is more then that. Depression is when we allow our sorrows to consume us. Whether we mean to or not. I believe that God is bigger then any depression. Yes he may chose to use meds to bring you through it, or he may do it on his own. He has a plan. When we trust him and follow his plan, then he will bring us through it. In his way.

Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

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I have to agree with Charlotte, I don't believe that unhappiness or depression is a sin, much like cancer and other illnesses are not sins, they are just things that attack us. How ever I do believe that they are a serious problem that we have to find the root of, and once we find the root of it, we attack the root so that it can't come back. Prayer is definately effective, but once you know what the root of the problem is & target that in your prayer, I believe it is far more effective & knowing what the root of the problem will also help direct you to scripture that will directly target your specific situation.

Your in my prayers and I'm believing that the gray clouds are parting & and you are starting to see Gods light in your circumstances.

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Aaaah! Depression has become my friend and it has taken a long time to make it that way. Instead of allowing it to be a struggle I have used all the tools possible to help to control it and allow it to be used for my good. First, I went to medical doctors to help understand my chemistry. I got to know this disorder and read up about it to find new ways to help me through it because I believe it will be a lifelong companion in some form or another. I live in Washington State and the clouds used to be an omen, "Oh no its going to be a bad day!" Well, that didn't work because those clouds really are around quite a bit up here. Then after being diagnosed with SAD, Seasonal Affective Disorder, I asked professionals, how do I deal with this? I can feel a difference in my body on a cloudy day and a sunny day! I have found that chemically what happens in our bodies that our Seratonin gets lowered and we need to build it up. So, I take a supplement from about October to May(ish) depending upon the weather. its called 5 HTP. I also take make sure I take a vitamin with D in it because without the sun our bodies do not make enough of the right chemicals to keep us balanced. I put all the lights on in the house when it is gray. I try to get outside once a day when it is gray because natural light is good for you. And...I have a light lamp. Excercise is also a help. Eating right, limit on coffee and chocolate and other carbs that bring you up fast and take you down fast. This is my physical arsenal.

I have my spiritual arsenal and my emotional arsenal as well. I have other people who I have given permission to check in with me and ask me how it is going and they know about my depression, I am not ashamed of it and they help me by making sure I am not going down deeper into it but using my arsenal against it. I do not believe that depression is a spiritual sin of not trusting in the Lord, but it is a dysfunction of our bodies (which we are in til we go to heaven). I tell the Lord about it and ask Him to help me with the solution for the day because often when you are depressed it is difficult at best to help yourself out of it. I tackle it one day at a time and when the combination of effects works then I celebrate which in turn makes me feel awesome. When it doesn't work, I give myself permission to have a bad day.

Lastly, I am a firm believer that when you are in relationship with God and trusting in Him it is harder for the enemy of our souls to get a foothold. So two of the other ways I combat this disorder is listen to great music, upbeat and I help others. You can't be depressed when you are helping others with greater problems than your own and when you are being used by your Creator.

If you have tried all there is to try and nothing is working, don't give up. Get a physical and talk to a professional. It may be that you are suffering from clinical depression and that is something that has to be treated with medication. Remember this is not a failing it is just the plight of our human bodies on this Earth. Blessings.

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Unless I seriously misunderstand, I have to say I dissagree with the idea that it is a sin to be unhappy. Jesus, we all know, was sinless in his life on earth. He wept over the city of Jeruselem, and I'm pretty sure those weren't tears of joy. He wept in Gathsemane; he was in emotional agony at the time. He got angry at the fig tree that had no fruit and cursed it. He became very angry in the temple and turned over tables and kind of trashed the place. We can't claim he was happy and joyful during these times, but we also know he was sinnless. I cannot accept that it is a sin to be unhappy; I belive that teaching is unbiblical.



Joy is a fruit of the Spirit. I don't know what all Christain churches teach, but I was taught that these fruit aren't things you strive for, but things that naturally develop in your life as you grow in God.

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I too have to fight depression. A lot of people will say "just get over it" or "decide to be happy" and while I agree that that is part of it, there could be a chemical imbalance or past events that trigger the episodes...I don't know if I am out of place in recommending these books, but they both have helped and are helping me...One is Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer...I've read it probably 3 times and you can also get a workbook to go along with it. It's wonderful. The other is The Heartache No One Sees by Sheila Walsh. There is no quick fix...I've been on perscriptions and none have worked for me. I read and pray and I've even fasted...my best advice is to just keep moving forward. Maybe if you or anyone else is interested, we could all work through the Battlefied book as a group to help keep each other encouraged. Just a thought I'll keep you in my prayers.

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I had an eye-opening message from my Pastor's sermon at the Sunday worship service this week. I hope this doesn't come across as preaching, I just figure, if it helped me, maybe there's a chance it could help you. The message is that happiness is actually a learned behavior, and if we pursue happiness in God, we'll experience happiness in life. Happiness is our moral obligation and our sacred duty.

See Philippians 4:4
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!

This next part really hit home for me, I'd never considered it like this before. Happiness is a battle to be waged, not a feeling to be awaited. There is a happiness infusion that comes from God to us, that must be received in order to be released.

see Galations 5:22 "The fruit of the Spirit is ...Joy!"

If you want to explore this topic further, consider skimming Dennis Prager's book, "Happiness is a Serious Problem". He says that unhappiness is sinful and toxic, like a virus, and that it is the easy way out. Choosing happiness takes much more effort and courage than choosing unhappiness.

Hugs and prayer to you. I also realize that chronic depression is serious illness which can make it very difficult to think clearly, or choose happiness. Some times medication is needed to help you get back on the right path, and that's O.K. I hope this brings you a sense of hope, in Jesus name.

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Ps 66:16 Come and listen, all you who fear God; let me tell you what he has done for me.17 I cried out to him with my mouth; his praise was on my tongue.18 If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened;19 but God has surely listened and heard my voice in prayer. 20 Praise be to God, who has not rejected my prayer or withheld his love from me!

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It is important that you talk to your Dr about this. There are many things that help combat depression, but don't try to do it all on your own. I have had PPD in the past, but more recently I have severe depression triggered by a miscarriage I had in May.



I hate taking drugs and putting unnatural substances in my body, but I knew I wasn't coping on my own, so I took my Dr's advice and I am on an anti-depressant. Anti-depressants aren't a "fix" for deresson; they won't make you happy; they are more like a lifepreserver that helps you swim to shore: they won't magically trasnport you to the shore, but they will help keep your head above water. I hope that makes sense.



The very best and most helpful thing I have found for my own depression is talking to others who have been through similar expirences. There are many women in my church for instance who have suffered misscarriages and talking to them has helped so much. Also, with the PPD talking to other mothers who had PPD helped so much.

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The best you can do is bind the devil that's making you feel depressed and confess what God has done for you. Say i am precious to Him He has carved me in the palms of His hands, I am the apple of His eye, He broke His body for me and shed His precious blood for me, Cleansed me from all unrighteousness, pulled me out of the miry clay and set me high upon a rock that's higher than I. He is the one who makes me to walk on dry ground in the time of trouble He carries me, He loves me and respects me. Go on and on and on...you'll feel lifted up-just confess His love, like Paul and Silas!

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I've been dealing with postpartum depression (4 month old boy). It's been difficult, too cause i've always been an upbeat/positive person.
I tried to "wait it out" for over a month, but it got worse. I was praying and trying to do things that I thought would help, with the encouragement of my husband. But, eventually my husband talked with me about taking some medication. I was very reluctant cause I didn't want to put anything "unnatural" in my body and it also made me feel like I wasn't relying on God. But, I do believe that God places certain docs in our lives for a reason though. My Family practice doctor was also my OB doctor! I told her how i'd been feeling and she placed me on a small 20mg dosage (anti-depressant). I took it for about 4 weeks and it helped me SO much! It helped me get some confidence back :) I stopped taking it about 2 weeks ago. After bout 5 days w/out it, I noticed some of the same depressing feelings coming back. I had one ''break-down (crying)''. But, for some reason, I felt a small amount of strength in me to keep going (w/out getting back on the med). The next day, I found this (circle of moms). Having a group of moms that understand and have experienced some of the same things, has been great and much needed support! My husband has been with me every step of the way, too-letting me cry on him when I need to "let it all out". I've also been listening to fun music, getting back in touch with some strong christian/mom friends that I know, exercising, etc. Being 'involved' helps! I've been doing well for over a week....which is a great start!
You've got my prayers :-)

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I agree with what has been posted so far. Do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). I don't know who wrote the quote, but it says when it seems hardest to pray, pray the hardest. Acknowledge that the devil is attacking you right now, and that God hasn't abandoned you. Cling to the scriptures that mean the most to you. I have a list of scriptures at the top of the conversation list titled Scriptures for when you are stressed. I have them posted around my house in different places to remind me that God is always with me. That really helps me a ton! Maybe you could switch devotions? Maybe the one you have isn't right for you at this time in your life. I have three different devotions e-mailed to me everyday, and one of them always speaks to me, but it's not that one is better then the other, it's that between the three something is great. Just a thought. I will pray for you! And remember, God is listening.

Jeremiah 29:12
Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.

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I also stuggle with depression and have a anxiety disorder the depression more stems from the anxiety in the past it was much worse for me I have learned to rely on God and put my life in his hands I always want to control and fix things for everyone Prasie music calms my soul if I am having a hard day I turn up the radio and sing cry with the music you name it .But I aslo just ask God a lot for pease and strenght and patience because i have a hard time keeping my cool when I feel impatient whichis alot of time I pray alot althrough the day just little prayers here and ther to keep myself centered and yes it took some time to change my thinking i also just needed to start thanking God for everything thanking him for giving me time enough to get the house clean or thanking him fo rgiving me such a wonderful husband that will waltch our son while I go to the store alone everything and finding the posative things in my life and really being thankful for all I have even if the depression didnt stem from me feeling like I was missing anything just needed to look at the good more often .

I dont know how you feel about medical intervntion but I have in the past taken medicine to control my axniety and depression and it was great I really felt like God didnt want me to go down that path any longer and helped me find a doctor that understood and get my mind right I didnt take them very long about a year after I had my son but I was so caught up in my own issues it was hard to reach out and seek God once I was able to be clear and feel better I could understand and know he was always with me and just knew that he was enough and he would be there and ther ewas a point where I just knew the medicine helped get me God started me onit bacically but I didnt need it anymore I have good days and bad days mostly good now with the bad ones few and far between but it always seems like when I dont thank him during the day and talk with him here and there and keep my focus I just start feeling that anxiety start building and I seek him and I start to feel better I guess my main thing is keep it up pray and pray alot be thankful even for things you think maybe silly start saying thanks you start feeling the blessings and I knew for me there was a point were God was like yes you need to see a doctor I prayed about it and it helped alot

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I totally agree with Shawn. satan is there to try & take your focus, he's come to rob, kill & destroy, You need to stand up in Christ. We're not under the curse any more, we don't have to put up with hormones getting the better of us. You do need to take time for your self, again I agree, go for a walk, a bike ride (exercise can help), have relaxing tub, I love to read my bible in the tub (it's my too favorite pass time mingled together). Listen to some up lifting christian music, singing praise to the Lord always helps me, when I'm feeling down.

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Do not grow weary in well doing. We will not always feel like we should but just keep doing what you know is right until your emotions catch up to you. Everyone goes through dry spells. It is satan's way of getting our focus off of our purpose. Which of course is to glorify God in all things. Go for a walk take some time for yourself. give yourself a chance to relax. Find an activity you can do that is fun. Remember women's hormones are always changing and satan likes to use them against us. Put your armor on and protect yourself in the word. He hates that. I will be praying for you. Hang in there. Tomorrow always is better!

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