Did you find out your babies sex during pregnancy?

Heather - posted on 07/22/2010

I found out with all three of my children as soon as I could. I just had to know. My husband would have been okay waiting until birth, but I want to know so that I can start calling my baby by name and picking out clothes in boy/girl colors. (But I did keep the reciepts just in case. Although we were able to get a good view of each child's sex during the ultrasounds.)

Alisha - posted on 07/22/2010

I think if you want to know, then find out! Something fun might be to announce that you are not going to reveal the baby's sex to anyone else except you and the baby's dad. If you want to know then who cares what other people think! That's part of technology these days! You are not wrong at all to want to know since it is an option. My daughter I just knew she was a girl for some odd reason, but no doctor could tell me if she was a boy or girl because every ultrasound (4 of them) she had her legs closed tight together. You can love your child without knowing their gender but I know what you mean you want to talk to your baby and know what the name will be. Frankly, it's not much of your family's business if you want to find out the sex, just don't tell them if they don't want to know.

Anne - posted on 07/22/2010

What a great question. Our daughters are 22 and 26 years old. Ultra sound when I was pregnant for our daughters it was like looking at a VERY VERY bad negative. We could see the head arms and legs. WE knew we were looking at a baby, BUT the sex of the baby was often predicted wrong.

Now not only can you clearly see if your baby is a girl or boy if they are facing the right direction, you can often tell which parent the baby looks like.

To answer your first question, one appointment the DR would tell me from the tempo of the heart beat that I was having a boy, the next appointment if I had coffee before the appointment he would tell me it was a girl. (I may have it wrong which sex baby has the fastest heart beat before birth,)

Darcel - posted on 07/21/2010

I wanted to know y baby's sex so I could go shopping! I was so excited to learn at 20 weeks pregnant that I was having a boy I couldn't believe it. I remember asking "R U SURE?!?!?" Because I really wanted a boy. The ultrasound tech said " as sure as I am legally allowed to be and took an ultrasound picture of my baby eagle spread showing all of his one day to be manly glory.

Once I knew the sex, my baby stopped being refered to as "the baby" can I started using his name. I would say "when Jason is born" instead of "when I go into labor." It made me my pregancy feel more human, like I was carring for a person, not just a grumpy bloated lady with swollen feet.

Because I like to shop and prepare properly, I think I'll always want to know the sex of my children in advance. I like gender specific clothes, decorations for a crib, etc. But each family is different. Knowing the sex is not cheating at all.

Victoria - posted on 07/21/2010

I didn't officially find out, but with my first God revealed to me that I was having a girl in August, He gave us her name in October, confirmed by both my hubby and I having been witnessed the same name on the same day, she was born in December. With my second I believed I was having a girl & I was correct, with the youngest my hubby was convinced we were having a boy, I didn't really know, we had a girl. With the youngest we had tried to find out on the ultra sound as we no longer had any infant stuff having believed we we're done at 2 (I was 20 weeks when we found out we were expecting), but she wasn't co-opperative at all, so we didn't find out until she was born, LOL!



As for the bonding part, you don't need to know the sex of the baby to start bonding. You can still talk to baby & sing (to your belly), pray for baby etc... without knowing the sex. However it's a personal decision that you and your hubby have to make.

Heather - posted on 07/21/2010

With our first I didn't because I wanted a surprise. With our second I wanted to know... but only because I wanted a girl... but he was a boy, so I didn't believe them... I think it would have been best to wait and trust God. With the twins I didn't care, so when they told us we were having two girls it made it easier to plan for them to share a room, and not worry about having the wrong gender clothes... although most of their things were hand-me-downs, and thus for boys... lol

Polly - posted on 07/21/2010

We found out with our daughter. I wanted to find out so I could get the nursery ready, start buying baby clothes and really narrow down a name. And like you said, it helped me bond with her as a daughter before being born. I like to be prepared, so if I can find out info sooner I will! lol I know some people like to wait and have it be a "surprise" and that's great. Personally I was very surprised when I found out at the ultrasound! lol We were happy with our decision and will find out again with our next.

I have a friend who likes to wait. She didn't find out with her last baby and she's not going to with this baby either. Her family was the opposite of yours. They bugged her to find out, even though she didn't want to. But she stuck to it and was/is very happy with her decision.

My opinion is, this is YOUR baby. Everyone else has the opportunity to make their own decisions for their own babies. Finding out the sex is in no way hurtful, and neither is waiting. Their opinion is just their opinion and shouldn't hold any weight in your decision.