"Fireproof" The Movie and The Love Dare Book

Rebekah - posted on 05/11/2009

Quoting Christelle:

We have the movie, love it, my 5yr old boy has seen it 18 times (he's after the fireman scenes but I'm trusting the good message also comes through :-) I think it's a very good movie. Haven't done the Love Dare, but paged through it.
The way the movie and the Love Dare has been discussed in our local media and Christian communities, I'm just afraid that people may see the Dare as an easy tool to fix problems in their marriage without really thinking about the principles behind - not referring to anything on this forum. I just hve heard so many women saying they're going to ask their husband to do this, and a more subtle way of approacing the problem might have been better, eg just doing the Love Dare themselves and not necessarily telling their husband that "they must do this". But. Still a great movie, I learn a lesson there every I watch it.

Wow, I find it a little risky to let a 5 year old watch the movie with some of the content in it.  Just a question how does your 5 year old see the movie? (Just curious because we are showing this movie this summer at our church and I was going to take the younger kids (ages 9 and under) out of the viewing due to some of the content, I didn't find it appropriate, maybe you can change my mind.)

As for the "Love Dare" it's not an "easy" tool by no means.  My husband and I have already gone through all 40 days and yes, we saw changes, but if you don't keep it up after those 40 days all those old ways have a tendency to come slipping back in.  The one thing I noticed with the challenge is how you really learn "unconditional" love - and when we learn that, we'll then realize "divorce" is not a option! When my husband and I were having problems in the very beginning of our marriage, we got counseling and the best advice we received was "stop using the D word and watch things change" - it was true!

Personally, I believe the "Love Dare" whether it changes your partner or not in the 40 days, it will definitely change YOU in the process.  But the question is will you continue to press forward or give up half way in? The dares are not easy and it's more like a boot camp on love than anything else.

Melinda - posted on 05/10/2009

I saw the movie and loved it. I think it's very relevent to the porblems in marriages today. I loved how they dealt with issues that couples don't want to talk about like pornography and respect and flirting. I think it opened a lot of peoples eyes and dealt with these issues in a very chrisitan way with out deminishing how fatal they can be on a marriage

Teresa - posted on 05/07/2009

We own the DVD..it was an amazing movie. It has blessed our relationship tenfold. I have wanted to do the study, but we have not purchased it or the books yet.

Christelle - posted on 05/07/2009

We have the movie, love it, my 5yr old boy has seen it 18 times (he's after the fireman scenes but I'm trusting the good message also comes through :-) I think it's a very good movie. Haven't done the Love Dare, but paged through it.

The way the movie and the Love Dare has been discussed in our local media and Christian communities, I'm just afraid that people may see the Dare as an easy tool to fix problems in their marriage without really thinking about the principles behind - not referring to anything on this forum. I just hve heard so many women saying they're going to ask their husband to do this, and a more subtle way of approacing the problem might have been better, eg just doing the Love Dare themselves and not necessarily telling their husband that "they must do this". But. Still a great movie, I learn a lesson there every I watch it.

Kathleen - posted on 05/07/2009

My husband & I saw the movie, then shortly after our church decided to have No Couples Left Behind series that featured the movie and the book. We are on Day 27 and it has been challenging, an awakening, interesting, scary and a few other emotions tested but overall thus far I can say it was well needed. I will keep you all posted. I think we could stand to do the 40-days over again, LOL.

Sarah - posted on 05/06/2009

I have heard about the Fireproof DVD but haven't bought it yet (going to soon) but was discussing the above with a friend last night and now want to do a 'date night' for her and her husband. Can some of you who were saying they have done them before give me some ideas of what was in the envelope so I can arrange one or two for them?



Thanks!

Annette - posted on 05/05/2009

Quoting Lisa:

We have a wonderful marriage mentoring group in our church. It's a group of couples that have been married for varied years. Some newly weds and some for 30 years. They all went through a training course and now they plan marriage events and they have now shown the Fireproof movie twice. We are currently during the Fireproof bible study. We have one session left, and it has been excellent. We've also had a ton of couples participate. (We have a small church, about 150 regular attenders.) I'm guessing there is 30 to 40 couples and there are some single people also coming. The study has helped strengthen our marriage, and I think it's drawing all of us that are participating closer together too. I haven't bought the Love Dare yet, but I think that will be next for me. We've also had one couple who has used the study with our pastor as part of their premarital counciling. What a great way to start out a marriage!

I didn't know there was a Fireproof Bible Study.

Lisa - posted on 05/05/2009

We have a wonderful marriage mentoring group in our church. It's a group of couples that have been married for varied years. Some newly weds and some for 30 years. They all went through a training course and now they plan marriage events and they have now shown the Fireproof movie twice. We are currently during the Fireproof bible study. We have one session left, and it has been excellent. We've also had a ton of couples participate. (We have a small church, about 150 regular attenders.) I'm guessing there is 30 to 40 couples and there are some single people also coming. The study has helped strengthen our marriage, and I think it's drawing all of us that are participating closer together too. I haven't bought the Love Dare yet, but I think that will be next for me. We've also had one couple who has used the study with our pastor as part of their premarital counciling. What a great way to start out a marriage!

Shannon - posted on 05/04/2009

I just watched the movie. Very good. My husband and I have been discussing marriages lately and have read the books "for women only - the inner workings of men" and "for men only - the inner workings of women" and have just been fasinated by the info we read. It is amazing how God has created the marriage unit. I now want to get the book "love dare", no matter how good you think your marriage is, it can always get better.

Brooke - posted on 05/04/2009

We have the movie and we LOVE it. I also have the book but haven't done it yet....being honest I wasn't quite ready to. Sherwood films puts out the best movies !

Teresa - posted on 05/03/2009

Quoting Breanna:

Ive seen it. I was out of town visiting my family when my parents rented it and asked me to watch it with them. I was out of town because I was about to leave my hubby, I found out hes been having an affair. I saw it and it gave me alot of courage to fight for our relationship. I bought the book to go along with it, and I used the book and the Bible for my quiet times...

But my husband is not a Christian, and he wanted nothing to do with it. Im very discouraged at this point and am wondering if I went about it the wrong way. I wasnt doing it to make HIM change, I was doing it for ME, but he didnt see it that way... He got very offended, saying that I was trying to make him look like the bad person.

Any suggestions? Ive finished the Love Dare and Ive prayed every day that God will soften his heart so I can be a witness to him... but its not working. Im starting to lose hope.

No advice or suggestions.... just tons of hugs and prayers!!!

I watched this movie about a month ago.  I loved it.  It moved me so much that I mailed it to my husband for his birthday, but he sent it right back.  He left us for another woman and her kids right before our now 13 month old son was born.  I've been praying for his heart every single day, but he just won't listen. :(

Joy - posted on 05/02/2009

Wow, what an amazing movie!!! My husband and I were going through some stressful times at the beginning of the year and one night we had a "date night" and watched Fireproof...it touched us both so much and our marriage has been so blessed by some of the simple lessons we learned. My sister and her husband did the love dare and said it was very challenging but worth all of the effort. I am thinking my husband and I are going to need the challenge after our next one is born and I am looking forward to seeing how God works in both of us!!!

Liz - posted on 05/02/2009

Quoting Breanna:

Ive seen it. I was out of town visiting my family when my parents rented it and asked me to watch it with them. I was out of town because I was about to leave my hubby, I found out hes been having an affair. I saw it and it gave me alot of courage to fight for our relationship. I bought the book to go along with it, and I used the book and the Bible for my quiet times...

But my husband is not a Christian, and he wanted nothing to do with it. Im very discouraged at this point and am wondering if I went about it the wrong way. I wasnt doing it to make HIM change, I was doing it for ME, but he didnt see it that way... He got very offended, saying that I was trying to make him look like the bad person.

Any suggestions? Ive finished the Love Dare and Ive prayed every day that God will soften his heart so I can be a witness to him... but its not working. Im starting to lose hope.

Been there. After I became a Christian, my DH was so offended. Just knew I didn't love him anymore, wouldn't have sex anymore (it wasn't a holy thing apparently), and the way I was changing for what I thought was the better an wasn't a party animal anymore.

 After I found out about his affairs (yes, plural) I thought about what the Word says about infidelity, but knew I wasn't going to seek a divorce.

 He agreed to counseling (which was a huge schocker to me) with my Pastor. God totally moved thru that, and he was saved a year after I was.

Seek God for your husband, and for you. Ask Him to make you the wife He wants you to be. I know it's hard to be "The Proverbs Woman", but that's what it takes sometimes. Show your husband you still love him, and most importantly of all, search your heart and see if you harbor even the tiniest bit of anger or unforgivness. Even after my DH got saved, it took a long while for me to release it to God and let Him have it.

Father, we hold Breanna up to you, and ask that you touch her husband. Father we ask that you intervene in this marraige, and that you draw her husband unto Yourself, and cause him to be the spiritual head of this house.

We ask that You give Breanna wisdom, and the words she needs to show her husband the joy You can bring to his life.

Save his soul Lord, and save this marraige.

In the precious name of Yeshua Father. Amen and amen.

Damita - posted on 05/02/2009

My husband and I watched the movie about 3 weeks ago. And I most say it's a very powerful movie that opens your eyes. I haven't read "the Love Dare " book yet however I really would like to get it.

Heather - posted on 05/01/2009

We own the movie. My husband and I both enjoy watching it. It is so touching and true to so many people.

Rebekah - posted on 05/01/2009

Quoting Annette:

Quoting Breanna:

Ive seen it. I was out of town visiting my family when my parents rented it and asked me to watch it with them. I was out of town because I was about to leave my hubby, I found out hes been having an affair. I saw it and it gave me alot of courage to fight for our relationship. I bought the book to go along with it, and I used the book and the Bible for my quiet times...

But my husband is not a Christian, and he wanted nothing to do with it. Im very discouraged at this point and am wondering if I went about it the wrong way. I wasnt doing it to make HIM change, I was doing it for ME, but he didnt see it that way... He got very offended, saying that I was trying to make him look like the bad person.

Any suggestions? Ive finished the Love Dare and Ive prayed every day that God will soften his heart so I can be a witness to him... but its not working. Im starting to lose hope.

There are no quick or easy answers. Continue to pray for your husband. Pray God will change his heart and attitude.  Get your church or whoever you have to support you to pray with you for your husband.

I loved the movie! (We even bought the movie.)It really touched my heart and made me wish my marriage could be better. I've discovered that I'm not ready myself to do the Dare. I really need to discover you I am in Jesus. I need to KNOW how to be the Christian Woman that God meant for me to be. I want to learn what my TRUE  calling as a woman is; Woman--Wife--Mother. What the Bible says about those things and not the World. I'm reading the book "Biblical Womanhood in the Home" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss.

I hope this helps and that you understand what I'm trying to say.

Annette,

I encourage you to look into "Cleansing Streams" it will really help you focus on who you are in Christ Jesus.

As for your calling - I encourage to test the waters, instead of sitting back and seeking it out.  God called all of us to spread the Good News.  The only way you will discover the giftings within yourself, is to put yourself use - find a need and fill it.  "Test the waters" and you will see the giftings come forth and find your calling.  Always be prayerful about this too - for He will direct You in the way you should go.

I will keep you covered in prayer as you seek out these truths.  I hope everyone else does too.  For as you discover more in depth these truths and realize just how much power resides within you (the temple of God), the devil will try to convince you otherwise.  He hates it when we discover real truth because he is the author of false doctrine and would prefer that we stay that way.  But not just that once you realize the authority you have in Christ Jesus, you will look at the devil differently and he will have to flee from you, your family, your home, etc.  He'll continue to find some hole though to come back and invade, but keep discovering the "truth" it will set you free.  That is why I will keep you covered in prayer.

Rebekah - posted on 05/01/2009

Quoting Breanna:

Ive seen it. I was out of town visiting my family when my parents rented it and asked me to watch it with them. I was out of town because I was about to leave my hubby, I found out hes been having an affair. I saw it and it gave me alot of courage to fight for our relationship. I bought the book to go along with it, and I used the book and the Bible for my quiet times...

But my husband is not a Christian, and he wanted nothing to do with it. Im very discouraged at this point and am wondering if I went about it the wrong way. I wasnt doing it to make HIM change, I was doing it for ME, but he didnt see it that way... He got very offended, saying that I was trying to make him look like the bad person.

Any suggestions? Ive finished the Love Dare and Ive prayed every day that God will soften his heart so I can be a witness to him... but its not working. Im starting to lose hope.

Keep pressing into God and allowing Him to change you - despite if your husband thinks it makes him look like the bad guy.  You are doing what God has instructed you to do.  Obedience to God is everything!

Keep praying! I know it is tough and sometimes seem hopeless, but God answers our requests on His timeline, not ours.  We have to sit back, leave it in His hands, and watch Him work.

Keep changing yourself.  Can be a long process or God can do immediately, either way your husband will eventually see you "continue" in these changes and it can either (1) freak him out or (2) make him want what you have.

And last, stop thinking what you did was a mistake! It wasn't - you did what God has called all wives to do for their husbands.  Your act of obedience is the ultimate sacrifice! Don't get discouraged, in the book of James it specifically says that if you ask from God and you doubt, it will not be answered.  Don't doubt, don't think you were wrong, just keep pushing forward.  We are like onions, God has to peel off those hard layers of ours to make us the sweetest part of the onion.  It's an ongoing process - but He is at work (even if you don't think so). ;)

Annette - posted on 05/01/2009

Quoting Breanna:

Ive seen it. I was out of town visiting my family when my parents rented it and asked me to watch it with them. I was out of town because I was about to leave my hubby, I found out hes been having an affair. I saw it and it gave me alot of courage to fight for our relationship. I bought the book to go along with it, and I used the book and the Bible for my quiet times...

But my husband is not a Christian, and he wanted nothing to do with it. Im very discouraged at this point and am wondering if I went about it the wrong way. I wasnt doing it to make HIM change, I was doing it for ME, but he didnt see it that way... He got very offended, saying that I was trying to make him look like the bad person.

Any suggestions? Ive finished the Love Dare and Ive prayed every day that God will soften his heart so I can be a witness to him... but its not working. Im starting to lose hope.

There are no quick or easy answers. Continue to pray for your husband. Pray God will change his heart and attitude.  Get your church or whoever you have to support you to pray with you for your husband.

I loved the movie! (We even bought the movie.)It really touched my heart and made me wish my marriage could be better. I've discovered that I'm not ready myself to do the Dare. I really need to discover you I am in Jesus. I need to KNOW how to be the Christian Woman that God meant for me to be. I want to learn what my TRUE  calling as a woman is; Woman--Wife--Mother. What the Bible says about those things and not the World. I'm reading the book "Biblical Womanhood in the Home" by Nancy Leigh DeMoss.

I hope this helps and that you understand what I'm trying to say.

Annette - posted on 05/01/2009

Quoting Kathy:

I've seen the movie (loved it!) and I have the book. It is very challenging! It took me 2 weeks to get through the first day (not to say anything negative to my spouse). I didn't realize how often I was saying negative things. Nothing huge, but stupid, snide remarks most of the time. It has led me to pray for God to control my tongue. I only want to say things that bring life!

My sister has started doing that. Speaking positive things to her family. It's making a difference in her life and family. I have to admit, I'm not at that point in my life. I want to work on ME, because I have self-esteem issues.  I'm wanting to learn how to be the woman God made me to be and wants me to be.

Kathy - posted on 05/01/2009

I've seen the movie (loved it!) and I have the book. It is very challenging! It took me 2 weeks to get through the first day (not to say anything negative to my spouse). I didn't realize how often I was saying negative things. Nothing huge, but stupid, snide remarks most of the time. It has led me to pray for God to control my tongue. I only want to say things that bring life!

Breanna - posted on 05/01/2009

Ive seen it. I was out of town visiting my family when my parents rented it and asked me to watch it with them. I was out of town because I was about to leave my hubby, I found out hes been having an affair. I saw it and it gave me alot of courage to fight for our relationship. I bought the book to go along with it, and I used the book and the Bible for my quiet times...



But my husband is not a Christian, and he wanted nothing to do with it. Im very discouraged at this point and am wondering if I went about it the wrong way. I wasnt doing it to make HIM change, I was doing it for ME, but he didnt see it that way... He got very offended, saying that I was trying to make him look like the bad person.



Any suggestions? Ive finished the Love Dare and Ive prayed every day that God will soften his heart so I can be a witness to him... but its not working. Im starting to lose hope.

R - posted on 05/01/2009

Our church also had a marriage conference this past February for Valentine's Day weekend, very similar to yours, movie, speakers, etc..It was a great blessing!! A lot of couples were blessed by it including myself. :)

Rebekah - posted on 04/30/2009

We are showing the movie this summer. But we have a date night for married people. Our church works with 5 area restaurants - Outback, Ruggeros, Olive Garden, Lone Star, and Taboon. We have couples sign up under which restaurant they want to go to on a certain night (yes, we provide child care at the church for those with kids that can't find a sitter). The restaurant reserves their table, they get a special discounted price, and we supply the entertainment. We give the restaurant an envelope, inside the envelope we provide an ice breaker conversation between the couples, a verse to talk about, discussion questions, and then we have 2 envelopes inside of the envelope - one for the wife and one for the husband - these are dares for them to complete. (Similar to the Love Dare book.) But gives them a nice night out without the kids if they have them, good conversation, and we've had much success with this and couples coming back saying they were on the verge of divorce, but this really changed so many things for them. Now, I'm looking into stuff in the Song of Solomon to add to their challenges and discussion time.