Help!! What do I do with my 8yr olds lazy ways?

Teawanna - posted on 11/05/2011

Thnx I need it

Carla - posted on 11/05/2011

You're welcome, sweetheart. Am praying strength and perseverance for you.

Teawanna - posted on 11/04/2011

@Carla thnx for the suggestion...I actually have been thinking of maybe using a laundry basket to pick up all the things he's hidden and then making him throw them away and put them away instead of me going behind him and doing it. To have him do that more than once I think that might actually work. thnx again

Carla - posted on 11/04/2011

I think the question that I would be asking is WHY? Why take the time to hide a dirty diaper under a pillow instead of taking it to the trash?

When my kids were small they had their little quirks that particularly bothered me--like slamming the door. I finally made them stand and open and close the door a dozen times--quietly. They quickly tired of standing there opening and closing the door, when they could do it once and be done with it. Maybe when you find the offending diaper or garbage, have him walk it to the trash, then walk back to where he put it and walk to the trash. A couple times of having to walk around with a dirty diaper in his hand may cure him of hiding it. If he truly IS lazy, having to walk it back and forth will become tiring and he will figure out doing it right the right time is actually less work ;)

God bless, sweetheart, raising children isn't for the faint-hearted! lol

Teawanna - posted on 11/04/2011

Most of the stuff he hides is things he was told to throw away when cleaning like garbage and dirty diapers instead of it actually going in the trash I will find it the next day hidden under pillows or behind the washing machine. I have tried taking away things that he doesnt pick up, I've even thrown some things away in his face and he doesnt seem to care.

Teresa - posted on 11/03/2011

Maybe his neds aren't just right. It took us a few weeks to get my son's add meds right. and he only takes them when in school but it's enough to teach him respomsibility.

Jessica - posted on 10/24/2011

I do not have children that age but I have adhd and that's how I was when I was younger. Taking things away from me never really bothered me. There was so much more things that could interest me than the things my mom would take away. She would punish me for the things I didn't do also but when she would encourage me to live/do better it would help me to do what needed to be done. As a child when my mom took away stuff from me it made me resent her. It didn't help me to know what I did wrong was wrong. After she stopped nagging me I started to do thing she wanted to be done. I felt like she didn't have to treat me like a child always nagging and pushing me. I know as parents you want to be in control but some times letting up a little slack helps.

Kelsey - posted on 10/24/2011

I like Rebekah's advice. He needs to learn respect for his things, no matter what it is. That means keeping things picked up and helping out with chores. If he can't take care of his things, then he can't handle the responsibility of having it.Remind him that chores are a family's responsiblity.

Rebekah - posted on 10/24/2011

How about taking away the things he hides? Every time he hides something instead of putting it away, it gets taken away for awhile. Whether that be for a day or until he picks something up after himself. I'm sure once everything has "disappeared" he'll get really bored.

The key here is consistency. Take one method and stick with it. And yes, it make make you angry that he isn't listening and obeying, but remember to be slow to anger... and "a gentle answer turns away wrath".