Hey mammas, I need some help with a non sleeping toddler?

Josslyn - posted on 10/13/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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ok, so baby has been sleeping through since she was 6 months old, now she's 14 months and keeps waking up at night sometimes whining, crying or screaming, she use to settle herself when she woke up but now you can forget it, she cries until I fetch her out the cot and put her in our bed. She doesn't want tea or milk, and when she's in our bed it takes her about an hour to calm down.

She hasn't been eating and drinking too well but it's expected from a toddler, but now she has become constipated which isn't helping the situation much.

I'm starting to go insane with the lack of sleep, and it's not fun!!

some people say it's a growth spurt and others say it's nightmares, but she shows no signs of having bad dreams such as pointing at shadows in the room etc.

Does anyone know what's going on?? I've started thinking about crying her out, but I can't do it unless I've figured out what the problem is and excluded any medical or mental problems, I don't want to cause more harm if you know what I mean.

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April - posted on 10/24/2011

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My daughter has the same problems when she's teething. She finally finished with her most recent set of teeth. I give her ibprofen (advil) before bed, then she sleeps fairly well for about 6 hours at which time she's ready for another dose. Constipation and a tummy ache could certainly cause it too though.

Katie - posted on 10/18/2011

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A lot of times a child does got through a period of difficulty sleeping before a big developmental milestone of some sort. Can't say that I've ever heard of it making the tummy hard though. My son had night terrors. He would scream and cry, but not really be awake. It would take him a while to go settle down, but when he woke up he had no recollection of it even happening. Not sure if that could be what is going on with your child or not.

Summer - posted on 10/18/2011

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Did she have anything added to her diet just before this started? It could be that she is getting bowel problems because she is eating something that does not agree with her. You may need to ask your doctor about seeing someone about food intolerance. I developed a problem with cows milk in my teens, though did not know what was setting me off till my early twenties, but for me it was the protein, not lactose, and I never had constipation or diarrhea just wracking stomach pains.

Carla - posted on 10/14/2011

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Yay! Sleep helps, huh ;)

I am no pediatrician, but, to me, a hard tummy means stomach/bowel distress. Make sure the pedi checks EVERYTHING out, not just what he has quickly diagnosed via phone.

God bless, darling

Josslyn - posted on 10/14/2011

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I'm using Laxette at the moment, it's a natural product made from pure fruit sugars, it works like a bomb, but she still wakes up most nights, paediactrican will see her next week, he says it sounds like a "developmental leap" meaning she is growing so fast and becoming so clever that it's bothering her sleep, also the reason why her tummy is hard, coz her body is absorbing nutrients too fast. Thanks mamas, we at least had a good night last night.

Crystal - posted on 10/13/2011

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She's right at the age for a peak of seperation anxiety, sounds like it could be that. But the constipation can definitely add to that or be the bigger problem. There are a lot of factors that can contribute to the cause. Try not to let it get you discouraged, you can do the best you can and God has equipped you with all that you need! Push through with prayer. I also suggest talking with your pediatrition or a child psychologist (they help with normal problems too! where pediatritions often do not help).
I've read some books by Dr. Brazelton that I believe are good, but you may find some reading material that can be helpful.
Lastly, I recommend the Focus on the Family's website on parenting. They have a ton of great resources! Here is a link to a toddlerhood article: http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parentin...

Carla - posted on 10/13/2011

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As Linda says, if I have an upset tummy, you can kiss sleeping good-bye. I don't know what you can get in the store, and from your expressions I take it you're English, but if you can find watermelon, whether fresh or frozen, or sometimes in juice, that is a GREAT bowel cleaner-outer ;) (Found that out by accident, my poor little grandbaby!) If it takes her an hour to calm down after she's in your bed, it's obviously something more than just being lonely. Try the prune juice or watermelon, and if that doesn't help, I think a call to the Dr would be in order. Also, the Christian music down low is a great soother, but if her tummy's upset, get that taken care of.

God bless, honey, hope this resolves itself.

Linda - posted on 10/13/2011

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If she's constipated, that could be contributing to her not eating and not sleeping. Perhaps she has gas. I would start giving her some prune juice and/or more fruit. See if the problem gets better. Kids do go through phases. Sometimes, we just never know. One thing you could try, whether it is bad dreams or not, is to put her to bed with some soft Christian music playing, and make sure you pray over her to get a good night's sleep. We receive not because we ask not!

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