High needs baby: When does it get better?
There are two answers to this question:
1) He may grow out of neediness in some ways. As he starts eating more solid food, he won't need milk every few hours. As he gets older, he'll have more time between diapers. He won't cry each time you leave the room, and he won't fuss after only a few seconds of playing with a toy or laughing at silly faces.
2) He may be high maintenance because you let him be. Every baby is different, and so is every mom. That munchkin went from 24/7 of feeling warm, safe, fed, and happy to cold, hot, hungry, full, sleepy, awake, and everything in between. He wants you all the time, and even if you hold him for 12 hours straight, you've cut what he did have in half. In the beginning, it makes sense to give him everything he needs, when he needs it. As he gets older, he doesn't need you as much, but you don't know how to wean him at this point. Try making him wait a minute before coming to him (even if you can see him) or using sign language and asking him/prompting him for certain things. It's hard to transition - and it's COMPLETELY normal ;)
Dunno if that helps, but hopefully it does.
Nancy - posted on 08/02/2012
Being a mom is a hard job but God gives us the strength we need to deal with each of our children. I am sorry you are going through a hard time but lean on God and He will give you strength and energy beyond belief. Seek support through friends with kids or in your situation. Don't be hard on yourself and pray continuously and seek God's will for your life as a parent to this child
Carla - posted on 07/30/2012
You're welcome, Amy. Continue to cry out to the Father. Remember the parable about the little widow lady. She kept going to the judge saying 'avenge me of mine enemies'. The judge said 'this woman's driving me crazy! Every day she's here, so I will give her what she wants.' Now, of course God NEVER gets tired of us coming to Him, but the gist of it is that even a human will give the lady what she wants, even though he didn't want to. How much MORE will our Father give us good things?
Be strong in the Lord and in the Power of His Might. Put your faith in Him, and see the wonders of the Lord.
God bless, sweetheart
Amy - posted on 07/29/2012
Gail and Carla, Thank you for your replies and compassion - I really appreciate it.
Dr Sears' online articles really explain high needs babies well.
Jill - Thank you for posting - Yes, I ordered the book and I'm looking forward to reading it. I read some of it online and really enjoyed it :) What aspects of the book did you find most helpful?
Thankfully, my son has been improving a bit in the past week or two as he becomes more mobile etc :)
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