Homeschooling

Rabecca - posted on 11/17/2009

Can I be honest if your husband is having such a problem with it then being a christain woman and wife we are asked to allow our husbands be the leader of our homes under God of course you need to have areal heart to heart with him but if he still is having an issue and not wanting to budge my first thought is to respect his wishes pray for your family stop all the conflict and pray that no matter where God leads your kids they will be where he wants them and that he put a wisdom in his husband of making the right choices for his kids too its not like you have to be a door mat for your husband believe me I am not saying yes yes sir to him left and right I am just saying that if you come to an issue wher you both wont back down it up to us to trust God and to trust him through our husbands

I cant say i am not sure hes not right I mean I have seen some great kids come out of the homeschooling process and there are some very great moms who are blessed as teachers as well but it is a huge and awesome undertaking that a parent might not notice all of the implications and complete dedicationit takes to get them not only up to snuff educatioanlly but then to also allow them exposure to other kids outside of there peer group and teach them ways of dealing with people in situations who have different personliites and traits that they are not used to as well as just the basic social stepping stones that help mature and broden our kids horizons that they get through a piblic education and how to test ther faith and become stronger in it because of being tried out in the world to fight for what they believe its easy to do and think what everyone around you does its a stronger person of faith that can be tested and still hold firm to what they know is true .

Maybe he would be willing to let you try for a year or two or if not maybe some other sort of private or christain school you both can agree on but my main point is that you dont want to cause stress or disaray in your family or make your husband feel as if you dont respect his postion in your marriage so try your best to compermise but if not trust God that he has put this upon your husbands heart so strong that he knows what he wants for your kids and he will lead them in the right direction you know alot of times when I give it to God and say okay God this is the man you gave me and I will trust you to help him make wise dessions even if I dont understand I trust you to do your will sometimes I cant believe the amazing outcome he shows me and sometimes it my husband simpling comming back and reaffirmming that he married a smart woman and he takes what i say more to heart the next time to come to a impase in what we want and more often than not I actaully get what i want because of him knowing that I might know better in some situations than he would or because the last time we did what he thought was right and he doesnt want to be a dictator or anything just sometimes its up to us to let it go and let God

Millie - posted on 11/17/2009

Maybe - your Husband needs to see the positive points of Homeschooling. Talk to other Fathers/Parents who have Home schooled their children. Get more information about Homeschooling. Lack of Knowledge about a subject can bring negative feedback. When I decided to Home-school my eldest Daughter - my Husband was definitely against it - & it didn't help that our relatives sided with him. I prayed about it & got confirmation that this was the best route for our daughter. *Remember - God's wisdom rules over Man's & it may not make any sense to those around you but when you pray, fast & get confirmation from the Lord..know that he has a bigger plan, he will provide - be obedient because your Child is 1st God's. He is on loan you for just a few years. You are commissioned to train up your children with the ways of the Lord. I listed the pro/cons of teaching my daughter & presented it to my Husband. Told him to give me 6 months & see what GOD will do. If she didn't excel in her studies compared to those in Regular school, I would return her to school.
Long story short - She took the Aptitude Test for the State & aced the exam. In 8th grade she got a letter from a University that wanted to enroll her in college! I am not a Teacher by trade. To God be the Glory because I choose the Unschooled method - a schedule workload/ curriculum - instead , Focused on my daughter's interests - get to know her. I had to go back to the basic - Using God's Word/Truth spoken about her Identity in Christ. It takes 150% of you & them getting to know themselves to go back to the Bible for references. For example when we 1st started she had issues with how she looked or what her friends thought about her, self worth (Her 1st 5 yrs..We were in the Army & We were constantly deployed..didn't see her much). We would go to the Bible & look up what God said about Her..Wonderfully made, Smart, Loving..etc. Why I used the Bible as our Main Teaching Tool. IT's a STANDARD that never changes & Simple - Black & White (as my daughter would say). To start our day w/ Prayer & end it in Prayer. Renewing of her mind with God's Words. No subject was off limits - instead, we discover how the Bible was Filled with Soap Operas, Adventures, Wars, Mystery & then applied it to everyday life. I also had her volunteer servicing the elders in the community & our family. She got to hear 1st hand stories from the different Wars, Meet Survivor from the Holocaust, Immigrants, reconnect with our Native American Culture & Polynesian Heritage as well as being a American, this helped with her social skills.
I believe School begins at HOME & that the public systems are an extension of what we as parents believe. A child spends majority of the year in a classroom, 8 hours, 5 days a week..The Bible says..who ever your children spend the most time with - they influence their beliefs. I just want to know that GOD is 1st in my Children's life & he is not a myth. That he is real & they can talk to him like they talk to me. In fact, I tell my children - tell GOD 1st because sometimes mommy doesn't understand your situation but God can & He will let me know :) No matter what part of the World the Lord decides to send you in your ministry's..(my 4 kids) God is our Lifeline - connection.

Michelle - posted on 11/15/2009

I totally had the same problem. It is always wonderful to have the support of the father, however I have to say that sometimes people have a hard time seeing things that are "out of the box". I stuck it out with the HS and it has been a huge blessing to my son. My husband (who is his step-father) and his father were absolutely against HS, but now have come around to thinking that it could have its finer points. I do not think that having a difference of opinion is a bad thing it can just make it more stressful. Can you talk to your husband about giving a try and see how things progress with the understanding with your child that possibly going back in to traditional school will remain an option (not a punishment) for the future. I really have to say take one day at a time small baby steps will help the others to accept what is the "unknown" future.

Victoria - posted on 11/14/2009

Have you considered looking for a christian school to place you son into, maybe your husband would be on board with that.

I personally would never home school my children, God has gifted me to be a spiritual teacher, but although I have always excelled at learning, I do believe that God gave us schools & teacher for a reason, we might not always agree with everything taught, but that is where we are suppose to assist in the learning process & instill our christian values.

Ultimately though, your husband is the head of your household & as wives we are told to submit to our husbands in everything.

Wendy - posted on 11/14/2009

Hi it is great as a christian that you can home school your children for boys home schooling is the best. It mustbe tough for you that you and your are not on the same page perhaps you can give him Dr James Dobsons book bringing up boys to read it might change his mind it did mine. Perhaps You and your husband need to draw up a list stating the pros and cons of home schooling and going to school, I am not sure if this will help but I will pary for you for the Lord to intervene in your situation.