how do i get my husband to except God?

Patricia - posted on 11/12/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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I am a 30 year old mother of 3 , and married now for 8 years. I have found christ 2 years ago and now I am a sunday school teacher. I would love my husband to join me a church but he refuses.What can I do to ease him into comming with me?

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Andrea - posted on 11/15/2010

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First, pray pray pray. Keep on praying and as long as he is alive, there is always hope for him. Second, let your life, your actions speak on their own. Let the things you do be the witness to him. If you are being that godly woman (proverbs 31), if you are being that godly wife, godly mother, a woman of virtue - that light of God that shines within and through you, will shine onto him as well. Let him see the Lord through the actions (not words) in your life. Which brings me to number three, even when you know the perfect thing to say, sometimes it is better to not say anything - sometimes not saying anything is just what God wants you to do. 1 Peter 3:1-4 says, "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." --- That they WITHOUT A WORD may be won by the conduct of their wives. It is hard to do at times to not say a word, but it is best most of the time. Not only let him see the beauty on the outside, but even moreso let him see the radiance and beauty that God has created on the inside. Pray, seek the Lord, be patient, and let your life's actions live as your witness. I will pray for your husband and for you.

Debbie - posted on 11/26/2010

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Yes the best thing to do is pray for him but the next best thing is to be an example of Christs Love. He will see Jesus in you. I have this saying posted on my site and it goes like this...."We come to Love, not by finding a perfect person but findind an imperfect person and Loving them perfectly. That is the best thing you can do. God Bless and just keep trusting the Lord to do the changing of your husbands heart. "HE" will!.....Hugsssss!

Anne - posted on 11/26/2010

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Keep Praying for Him and let God know the desires of your heart. Don't force him to do what he doesn't want because he might do it because of you and not of himself which might not result to a full commitment to God or even cause problems to your marriage. It may take sometime for him to take the step but I believe God's timing is the best and with Him all things are possible. God bless you and will be with you in prayers.

Alisha - posted on 11/24/2010

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Pray, it is all in God's timing and by you being respectful of your husband no matter what he believes, will be part of your testimony to Christ. I would really try to read the Bible every day to your children and get started on your own daily devotions so you can grow and understand what God wants for you. There is absolutely no way you can get your husband to believe, that is completely his choice, but you can talk to the Lord about that! Praise God you have accepted Christ and are able to minister to your children and your sunday school children!!!! I'm so excited for you! The best thing you can honestly do is read the Bible every day! A great book I went through is "Come Walk with Me" by Carole Mayhall. It is a great book to get you into to digging deaper into the Bible by giving you different techniques on how to study God's Word. It would also be helpful if you had one or two other believers that you could get together with each week or so to discuss what you all did that week. Me and two other women I know went through this book and met about every other week and sometimes every week and it was amazing what God showed us! Your greatest ministry is first your relationship with the Lord, then your husband and your children. I will be praying for you!

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Rebekah - posted on 12/04/2010

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Prayer!!!! Be the example and win him over with the Proverbs 31 guideline and with your quiet and meek spirit. But most of all prayer! Nagging him won't do it. I'll be praying for you.

Joyce - posted on 12/03/2010

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Patricia I have been married for 41yrs. and 29yrs my husband wasn't a Christian but I prayed,Stayed in God's Word and would ask him every week if he would like to go with me and 29yrs. later he accepted Christ in our home when our Pastor and his wife just came to visit. So sweetie don't ever lose Hope because God does answer prayers and one day your husband will be in church with you too. I will pray with all of you. God's Word Says if two gather in His Name well just know how awesome when He hears all of us praying . God Bless you and keep pressing on.

Jessica - posted on 11/29/2010

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Oh Marissa!! Please read Corinthians! You are bound to your husband UNLESS he leaves. At this point, if he is a non-believer, you are free to go on and remarry..otherwise you are commanded to live with your husband and he is blessed through your faith so that your children will be blessed :)

Jessica - posted on 11/29/2010

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According to the Bible a women can change her husband's heart though her words and meek spirit. I suggest trying this. Be his wife, partner, lover, confidant, help meet and give the glory for your change in spirit to God. It is possible through your love and acceptance that he will be led to God.

Marissa - posted on 11/29/2010

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Oh and BTW. The bible also says that God can see the very intent of your heart and God knows your husbands heart better than anyone. So if he really wants the walk with God that you have. God will give it to him, but he has to show god he is a willing vessel. God will also know if he's playing you. So pray for a spiritual revelation from our King and ask HIM to show you what is right to do.

Marissa - posted on 11/29/2010

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I have to say at 22 I don't know much, but there is one thing I do know a little something about. My ex-husband is an atheist. There was nothing I could say or do to "ease" him into coming to church with me. If your husband isn't an atheist, and he just doesn't want to go to church show him this scripture right here...Its 2 Corinthians 6:14- Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?.........Im not saying you should threaten divorce or any of that nonsense but what I am saying is that he needs to know. In his stubbornness to not attend church with you he is not only hindering your walk with God but it is also hindering your children's walk. I wish I could go on and on about this (because I could) but like I said Im only 22. What do I know right?

Patricia - posted on 11/27/2010

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Thank you ladies so much. I cant believe how there are so many of you ladies that where in the same spot as me.I am very active in my church .I am a sunday school teacher , i help out with all the churchs activites and sometimes my husband gets upset the I volunteer my time to much. I love going God work and sometimes it cause friction between us. I would like him to except God into his life so that he can understand what I do and why I do it.Thank youlLadies so much for all you kind works ,I know that I have to be patient and that is what I am going to do. I am glad I had posted this up.all you words gave me hope to see that there are women out there going through the same thing. God Bless you all !

Carla - posted on 11/27/2010

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@Debbie--I love your post about love. I tell my girls they are looking for a custom-made man in an off-the-rack world. If you look for the perfect man, one that wants to go shopping with you, gossip and pain toenails, he probably already has a boyfriend ;)

Marriage is taking two imperfect people from two different environments, different people raising them, different life experiences, and blending them into one perfect union. This takes a lifetime! Don't be impatient, God knows what He is doing!

God bless!

Anneka - posted on 11/21/2010

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Pray for him, seek God and continue to live ur life doing the will of God. We cant change them only God can jus like me I couldnt change my ways and habits untill I surrendered to God.Keep prayn and standing on the word of God,fasting helps and jus submit to God. Hope this helped:)

Fleur - posted on 11/19/2010

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Don't push him. Pray for him. Try to invite him to family events at church, but focus on you and your relationship with God. Being an example is all you can do sometimes I have learned.

Carla - posted on 11/18/2010

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Patricia, that's the best place to put all your problems ;) God bless, honey

Patricia - posted on 11/18/2010

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Thanks you agian everyone for your support and advice.I think I may have to leave it in Gods hands and do alot of praying.God bless.

Karen - posted on 11/16/2010

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YOU JUST HAVE TO PRAY AND LET GOD DO HIS WONDERS IT MIGHT TAKE AWHILE BUT IT COULD HAPPEN IF YOU FORCE HIM YOU MIGHT JUST PUSH HIM FURTHER AWAY

Carla - posted on 11/15/2010

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You too, sweetheart, we are praying your husband comes quickly to the Lord.

Patricia - posted on 11/15/2010

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Thank you all ladies.I guess when My husband is ready I will know.And alot of praying would hurt.Everyones ords are so incouraging and reasuring.I guess in my heart I want him to finf the Lord and be more apart of my family.But i have to be patient and let God take over.Thank you agian, and I hope everyone has a Blessed Day

Carla - posted on 11/13/2010

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Sweetie, the most common mistake is trying to do God's work. Paul said that a husband is saved by his wife's chaste conversation. Loosely interpreted that means that your conversation is no longer the gossip and nagging that you used to do, but you are positive and loving.

It took my husband 20 years to re-commit himself to the Lord. You talk about frustration! Of course, I was walking one foot in the world, the other in the Lord, as well. Once I REALLY got it together, it was 6 years until he made the leap again.

Just get out of the way, pray for him, and for yourself. Love God, love him, and he will be back in the fold before you know it.

God bless, honey

Charlene - posted on 11/12/2010

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I was saved long before my husband. It can cause such heartache in a marriage, but it doesn't have too. The bible says the un believing partner is sanctified by the believing partner. While this doesn't mean he is saved, it means that he is exposed to Christ. The very best thing that you can do (in only my opinion of course), is to pray for him, have others pray for him, and ask Christ for the grace to be the very best "Christ like" wife you can be......if you walk in the spirit you will find that you won't be so frusterated and you will be able to a light to him as you walk in a Christ like manner (the fruits of the spirit). Don't stop sharing the gospel and talking to him about it, just not overbearing or arguementative (Hard I know).....One scripture I love is "be ready to give and answer to everyone who asks......in gentleness and peace.....God bless you, I will say a prayer for you both.

Christelle - posted on 11/12/2010

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Patricia, I too was saved before my husband and it took almost 3 yrs. for him to finally come around. The reality is, I needed to let go and let God. For the first couple of years, I found myself getting so frustrated with my husband because he really had little to no interest in coming to church. While he would come with us once in a while, he was doing it for me and getting little to nothing out of it. I would walk out of church convicted and on fire for the Lord and he would walk out of church well rested from catching a few zzzz's. Anyway, one Sunday as we were driving home from church I found myself getting so frustrated with him that nothing was penetrating his heart and the Lord pricked my heart right then and there and spoke to me in that still small voice, "You cannot save him, only I can do that. Surrender and let me work in him." Trust me, surrender was not what I wanted to do, I was angry and frustrated with him and I wanted to stay that way, so I stayed there for the rest of the ride home and then I got on my knees and surrendered my husband's salvation. There was and incredible difference in me and my outlook from that point on and honestly I don't know how long it took for my husband to come to Christ after that but it seemed like it happened instantly...all I needed to do was let go and surrender. So, my suggestion to you is stop trying to get your husband to go to church with you, don't try to "ease" him into coming with you...surrender it all, lay your husband's salvation at the feet of Jesus and let God do the work. Then, just pray for him, love him and lovingly submit to him. God bless!

Heather - posted on 11/12/2010

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I agree with Kristina, it's not up to you, it's up to God. The best thing you can do for him is to pray for him, and to let Christ shine through you in your home. If you are living for Christ he will notice the difference, and if it is God's will, He will soften his heart and he will want what you have. I will say a prayer for your family.

Another thing is that Christmas is probably one of the best times to get him to go with you. So pray about it and ask God to soften his heart. Don't nag him between now and then, but when Christmas rolls around ask him if he will come with you. If he says no, ask if there is a reason he won't. That might help you know how to handle the situation better.

Kristina - posted on 11/12/2010

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You cannot change your husband. God is the only one who can change him. The only thing you can do for him is Pray Pray Pray. It may take longer then you wish but know it is in God's time and His plan. Will be praying for you and your husband *hugs*

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