How do I go back to church?

Marie - posted on 06/01/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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I was raised born again Christian and my husband was raised Catholic.We have discussed going back to church because we have an almost three year old and would like to introduce her God.We are both firm on not wanting to change how we've been raised and we don't know what kind of church to attend.I suggested finding one together that we BOTH like and feel comfortable with.How can we come to a conclusion on how to raise our daughter when we both want to stick with the beliefs we were raised on?Yes,you are right...we are both very stubborn.lol.

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Bambi - posted on 06/03/2009

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Definitely church shop... and look at the teens in the church... say to yourself is this what we want our girl to be like when she is a young woman? Are they polite, caring, grounded in faith serving God willingly?? Because before you blink she will be a teen!!!!

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Tamara - posted on 06/24/2009

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I don't know that there is a answer. Except prayer! God loves you both. Teach her the word at home. I don't know if you are going to homeschool or not. I do. They have christian home school groups. They are awesome. The one my kids are in have a christian, Jesus loving enviroment . Both of you could enjoy. They have lots of activities for your child. God Bless.

Liz - posted on 06/24/2009

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I have to agree with Vanessa, if you have a choice, it's not about religion, but relationship.
Yeshua came against religion, and with good reason. It's about formality, rules, and man made things that have nothing to do with the will of God.

Vanessa - posted on 06/23/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

Well honestly..they are so similar! I would suggest submitting to your husband. This is what the bible calls us to do. Also, the longer you fight about this issue the more stress it will cause on your marriage and the longer your daughter will go without knowing the blessings of a church family. I know submitting to your husband is not a popular choice these days but I would suggest using the Lord's plan to come to an agreement with you husband.

Good luck!


Jessica.. you are right we are told to be submissive however, we are also not to be unequally yoked. Catholism and Christianity are not that similar at all. shows you just on the surface the difference between them but on the site i quoted before behisvoice.com there is a 9 part series on the pope and the papacy and shows how bad and wicked that religion is. The less we expose our children to the evil the better of we are in raising them in a christ centered environment. On the surface here is a difference that is a big difference: catholics believe that you will get to heaven by doing good works alone... christians believe that you must REPENT and accept jesus Christ as LORD. Catholics believe that a child who dies that was not baptized at birth will go to Hell, Christians know that until a child reaches the age of understanding that child is protected by Christ and will return to Him if they die. There are many other issues.... make sure you personally look into the differences b4 u go tell others that there is really not that big of difference. Those who are ignorant to the truth are those that will be the most likely to believe that a one world religion is the way we should go.

NOTE: this was written in love not 2 attack u... just be careful what you say... in Christ, Vanessa!

Vanessa - posted on 06/23/2009

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Pray about it but also let me tell you that this is the same story that my SS teachers faced... he was a christian she was catholic..and the decided that God was the most important person in their lives so when it came down to finding a church they weren't willing to budge on picking the others ones.. so they started trying out all churches and testing them out. They would get a copy of each church's "what we believe" booklets and review them and make sure that what the church believed was biblically true. If your not 100% sure about if something is biblically true, my dad created a website that exposes a lot of unsound doctrines and also can help you find answers you may not have known. And if it is not on there you can click the contact us page and he will be able to answer you then. the website is : www.behisvoice.com I will be praying about your decision! I know esp. these days it is hard to find a church that preaches sound doctrine or one that is not a part of the WCC and the ecumentical movement. My prayers, thought and support is with you dear sister!

Maggi - posted on 06/20/2009

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If you do some research on churches in your area, you may be able to come up with a short list of churches to try. You may want to look into a catholic church that has plugged in to the born-again movement(yes, there are some), or an evangelical church that uses a liturgy and serves communion. Pray together, and give each on the list a fair shake - go to more than one service, talk to people and the minister, really check out children's ministries & sunday school. Then pray together again. I believe if you seek God's help you'll find it.

Julie - posted on 06/18/2009

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Trust me,it is very hard on going back to church.I was in the very situation you were in.My husband was raised catholic & I was raised in an Assemblies of God church.You both go to God in prayer and ask him to lead the way for you.That's what I did with my husband.I took him to my church and he liked it.We are back in church and raising our children in church.The times get rough sometimes bc we've made the devil mad.God will give you peace about everything.

Blessings to your family.

Jessica - posted on 06/17/2009

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Well honestly..they are so similar! I would suggest submitting to your husband. This is what the bible calls us to do. Also, the longer you fight about this issue the more stress it will cause on your marriage and the longer your daughter will go without knowing the blessings of a church family. I know submitting to your husband is not a popular choice these days but I would suggest using the Lord's plan to come to an agreement with you husband.

Good luck!

Holly - posted on 06/17/2009

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Hello my name is HOlly and I was raised as Catholic and now I go to a BAPTIST church I love it with all my hart and sole that is my family now .Is what i would do go to a church that you know is a BIBLE beliving church and go for a month if you rnot sure go to a nother one keep til u find one ,Pray for the Lord to guide you and your husband he will help you !If you know of any friends that are going to a church ask them if you can go with them there is nothing wrong with asking .Good luck let me know what you find out if you have any more questions please look me up /

Carolee - posted on 06/08/2009

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Hello Marie ! My name is Carolee. I think that if you guys will sit down and talk about what you think the true character of God is like and discover where you both agree. Hopefully there will be agreement :D Is He a strict God who hates fun ? Is He an angry God who cant wait to send people to hell ? Is He a gracious loving God who has forgiven us and filled us with his spirit ? If you can agree on God's true character then deciding where to invest your money, time, energy, and your daughter at will be easier :D What church represents the God you both have a relationship with ?

Kathryn - posted on 06/06/2009

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My husband and I did every other weekend-catholic and non-demon christain churches for 15 years! We have a 12 and 3 year old. It has worked for us. Now we just go to a christian church, because my husband said he realized he had a religion not a relationship (not suggesting it is that way for all catholics, just it wa for him.) Pray about it and God will lead you. Its all God and Jesus and that to me is what matters the most! God Bless You, Kathy

Clarissa - posted on 06/06/2009

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Pray about it and Trust in God he will never steer you and your husband wrong. God has brought you two together for a reason now search for your purpose.

Stacy - posted on 06/06/2009

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Look at how God loves variety!! He has made every person different with a different personality. I believe that is why there are so many denominations out there. Like what Kelly pointed out "You have the same book, same God, etc..." God is still the common "denominator" All posts I think have great advice and I think if you try a few churches you will know without a doubt the one which the Lord has for you almost immediately. I will be praying for you that you find one. Having a great home church where you can find fellowship and establish sound Christian friendships with people who can help you along and pray you through your struggles is so vital. God Bless Marie!!!

User - posted on 06/05/2009

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You both have the same book, the sam God, the same belief.

My husband is an athiest, he respects my belief and the fact that I want to teach our daughter about God and Jesus, he supported me when I got Penelope christened and came with us, I go to church on my own with Penny and Dylan occasionaly will attend evenings with the men socialy, he just does not agree with organised religion, I respect this.

At least your husband believes in God and Jesus.

I would recomend looking at a few different churches, see what the atmosphere is like in them and how you fit in as a family.

I wouyld say that an Evangelical church of England church is a happy medium, they have a great family atmosphere but still practice some of the ceremonial aspects of the old church.

Good luck and God bless.

Kelly xxxxx

Marie - posted on 06/05/2009

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I really appreciate all of your responses.In this day and age,I truly believe we need God in our lives.The world had become so secular and so many are straying from the church,INCLUDING ME! I have strayed and I believe now is the time I need to go back.I've been very hesitant because of my husband and I not agreeing.I guess thats what I get for marrying as "unequally yoked."This is more about my daughter who has not experienced church at all yet and I believe it is a very important thing that needs to be in her life.I believe that God has brought struggles to my life to test me to see if I can overcome them.Ok,lots of struggles!I need to just step up and start going again.Please pray for me that I will gain courage.Thank You and God Bless

Vicki - posted on 06/03/2009

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If you put your daughter first, and let go of who's right, then nobody has to be wrong, then you can be free to take the first step. One of you needs to step up and be the hero in your family for the sake of your daughter, your marriage, and your relationship to Christ. The Hero will be the one who can put aside his or her ego.



In my humble opinion what matters most is not which religion you choose, but how your church handles supporting your childcare needs, encourages you in your daily life, and encourages you in developing a personal relationship with Christ. I also want to pat you on the back for wanting to give your daughter this experience at this crucial time in her life.



When I was a new mom, our family had a similar situation. At first I took my son to church without daddy. Then my husband started joining us on occasion, and liked it. We would also attend his church once in a while. Eventually we both came to prefer one church over the other, and he now attends with us regularly.



Hope this helps. Pray to God to guide you. Be hopeful. Be the hero in your family. Blessings to you and your family.

Te-Aira - posted on 06/02/2009

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Hi Marie, just a few words of wisdom. My suggestion to you both would be as my bible (King James Version) states "count up the cost" and "raise your child in the way he shall go and when he is old he shall not depart from it." You two sit down and each of you as individuals write a list of what each religion gives to you and what it can bring to the table. Also write a list of your spiritual views and how you feel your daughter should be raise with having a spiritual relationship with God. First you must understand that it's not completely about the religion that she is raised in but, that she must have a strong foundational relationship with Jesus Christ himself as being her lord ans savior. Just like you Marie were brought up in a Christian home you strayed but yet you are returning to which you were taught, that's the bible you believe in and stick to it!!! I pray that you both find that a christian home is the way to go. But as it was stated in the new testament, "who would build a tower and not count up the cost." The word of the bible is there to lead and be a guide unto us you know the word that you have been taught and that you've learned. DON'T JUST ALLOW IT (GOD'S WORD) TO SIT THERE BUT, APPLY IT!!!!

Yours in Christ,
T. Smith

Jennifer - posted on 06/02/2009

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You're welcome and God bless you and your family too! If you need someone to talk to about your stresses of life you can feel free to unload on me! :)

Marie - posted on 06/02/2009

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I just want to thank the three of you for your suggestions.This is really important to me and I truly believe I need church back into my life.We have gone through some very hard struggles in our family and thats all I've done is pray about it.Thak you again and God Bless all of you.

Jennifer - posted on 06/01/2009

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My husband and I were the same way. When we got married we agreed to do just as Erin suggested and go church shopping until we found one we both liked. We got lucky because we both loved the 1st one we tried, and were surprised because it was not anything either of us grew up on! He was raised Southern Baptist, I was raised Christian Reformed. The church we are now attending is Presbyterian! We both just immediately felt at home there! Pray about it and see where God leads you.

Erin - posted on 06/01/2009

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This is my suggestion, go church shopping just pick one and go. And make a check list of what you are looking for in a church. Such as: are they preaching from the bible or giving personal opinions? is their good kids programs? Is their a support group for you guys as parents to attend when you can? Does the church have a good youth group for the kids when they are older?
My hope would be as long as the truth is being taught it wouldn't matter what "name" was written on the church. Also do alot of praying, and together as a couple. Something will pop up that you both will be happy with. Just make sure you work together, this could be a very hard task. Its not as easy as it sounds! Good Luck

Heather - posted on 06/01/2009

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Pray about it. Let God lead you. I have prayed for your family to find a church that works for you!

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