How do I make our families understand?

Amber - posted on 06/09/2010

Thank you all for so many viewpoints and lines of scripture...it really brings fresh eyes on a situation I have been struggling with for months and it helps me focus more on what my husband and I need for our family and our faith!

Janell - posted on 06/09/2010

I completely understand the struggle. You need to overcome the diversity - and pray for your family. It is not their fault you have pulled away - your faith has been tested... and like Job, we are tested all of the time. Trust Him - you will prevail!! No, you should not separate from the flock, but you also need to learn how to "walk in the world" with Him by yourside. The source of all strength. And possibly - you can be a witness to an area that sounds very lost.

Ruth - posted on 06/09/2010

I can deffently relate!!! All I can say is really pray about it and talk with God and wate for his answers. Your family will one day understand....But at the same time you have to do whats best for you and your young family.

Kandice - posted on 06/09/2010

PRAY ABOUT IT! Its not their walk with Christ its yours. Do you want to make Heaven your home?

Teresa - posted on 06/08/2010

I belive in God with my heart and soul,but I can understand why you would went to move away from your family.WHen you are the one 's that are the beliver's and you need to show the rest of the family w hat its like and stay where you are at.you need to open the eyes of your family and friends and stay with your love ones.This could part of Gods plan for you and your husband to bring God to your family and friends.

Ronnie - posted on 06/08/2010

All you can do is tell them how you feel cuz you can't force anyone to have the same beliefs as you. Don't give up. Just give it to God.

Grace - posted on 06/08/2010

Amber, i am the eldest of 7 and we were all born and grew up in a christian home where both my parents were faithfull, blessed and fully surrounded with strong beliving christians, the church we went to as a family was so supportive and encourging, we ended up moving the country because of my dads health with the cold - we moved to be with my mums family who were total non believers, since the move 7 years ago we have never found such great support in churches, or true friendship, my dad no longer wants to go to church, he works an incredable ammount now hardley spends time with any of the kids (yongest is 7) my mum is juggling school and their life all on her own and if we stayed back home with the support of the church trust me it would have been alot eayser on all of our family. so yeah dont ever leave a church where your comfortable, your in my prayers

Sheryl - posted on 06/08/2010

i think i understand where you are coming from. me and my husbend frist moved here the first time for his job then there where lay offs and etc. so when my brother got in acct. and almost died and then to top it off my mom had a lil heart attack we moved back to help take care of her. we got away from the lord and people where saying stuff about my marriage that where so not true it was just a miss. yes i loved my family but my faith and family. lets just say about a month an half later we moved back. and have not left seen and life is so much better. do what you got to do. if they don't understand then just till them i am sorry but this is what i got to do. doesn't mean i don't love you cause i do. anyways that what i would say. best of luck and hope things get better you and your family.

Sharon - posted on 06/08/2010

Amber,
I can relate to the part of having family and friends not understanding where you are in your faith and journey because they are not where we are. I have learned that all things are possible through Christ who strengthens us. We alone are the only ones that can make us happy . Continue to talk to God, stay in His Word and find a church in your hometown that you feel "at home" in. If you have to move back to the church and town where you were happy than do that. I have learned two things on my "journey" and that is #1, we are responsible for our own lives and happiness and #2, we can't rely on others to make us happy. I will pray for you and your family.
Regards,
Sharon

Michelle - posted on 06/08/2010

Listen to the Holy Spirit - he will guide you.

Heather - posted on 06/06/2010

I agree with Robin. You can't make them understand, but they should love you either way. Pray about it and make sure you are making the right decision, and if God never wanted you to leave in the first place, then follow Him back where He want's you to be. Maybe even call your old pastor and talk with him about the situation. Since he knows you better he could probably give better advice.

Robin - posted on 06/06/2010

I've just learned this recently myself....you can't make anyone understand. They're not Christians so no matter how you explain it to them they won't understand. Just pray about where the Lord wants you to be and if that's back in your old town then hun go!! Sometimes you have to rely more on your church family then your blood family cause blood doesn't always understand where as church encourages you to do what the Lord wants. Go where the Lord leads you no matter if anyone else understands or not...gotta please Him first :) hope that helps.

Ms. Annette - posted on 06/06/2010

YOUR NEW LIFE speaks for its self. You must live Holy! How can two walk together accept they agree. Light and Darkness have No Fellowship, right? THOESE who love you will continue to love you regardless of your new life in Christ. and those who have a problem with your new life will SEPARATE THEMSELVES ANYWAY, you don't have to worry about. IT. Can (Light and Dark share the same space at the same time? No!! IT WILL TAKE CARE OF ITS SELF. JUST TELL YOUR FAMILY WHAT YOU ARE PLANING TO DO. YOU WON'T BE ABLE TO REASON WITH THOSE WHO DON'T, CAN'T OR WON'T UNDERSTAND. IT IS IMPOSSIBLE! JUST TELL THEM WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO, AND LET THE CHIPS FALL WHERE THEY MAY!! OK?

You take care, you and your little family. (most of all BE Blessed)!!



YOUR SISTER IN CHRIST

MS. ANNETTE

Amber - posted on 06/06/2010

Christina- I dont think our move is based completely on emotion...I feel like we should never have left there in the 1st place. The lifestyle where we live is not that of church go-ers and believers. We have no support spiritually and I have felt lost since the day I moved back near our families. I was very upset and unsure of our decision to move home in the 1st place and now I feel like we are meant to be there b/c we fit in so well at the church we were a part of and I still feel as if that is "our church" and home. I feel like we did separate ourselves from the flock when we moved back near family.



Saundra- it isn't that we have met a few people that are non-believers, everyone we know and are surrounded by are non-believers....it makes everyday living very hard and we are young christians that did not have strong enough faith to keep moving forward spiritually. And I completely agree that they will always love us just be sad we aren't around. Thank you for the advice both of you!

Saundra - posted on 06/06/2010

Amber, Sometimes we meet people who are non believers. Just stick with the Lord and he will lead you to the light. Even though your families don't understand, they will still love you, and you have to do what is right for you, your husband, and your child. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless you and keep believing.

Christina - posted on 06/06/2010

Never move on emotion, first of all! Definately go to church no matter what anyone thinks. You need to be around like-minded believers to build you up. I don't think it has anything to do with where you live. God may have you there to shine His light but you can't do that if you are not being built up in His presence and encouraged. The bible does say not to separate yourself from the flock.