How Do You Balance Everything???

Shelly - posted on 03/04/2009

Nevar,

  This is why we are all here to give advice, encouragement, and yes even a slap back to reality.  We all need it once in awhile I'm glad that you got what you needed from all of these women...May God continue to bless you with what ever may come your way!!!

Nevar - posted on 03/01/2009

You have all been so helpful. Thank you for your honesty, prayers, and encouragement. I have taken it all to heart and I am putting it all into practice. Thank you so much!!!

Mornique - posted on 03/01/2009

I understand! What I ended up doing was prioritizing everything. I dismissed activities that were not important. God, husband and children. Outside of that nothing else is really important. (except for your job but then do not over do it there too) Learn how to say no. Always find time for yourself

Shetora - posted on 03/01/2009

P.s. Elizabeth George's book "A Woman After God's Heart" has been a great help and also "Lies Woman Believe" which has a chapter on time management.

Shetora - posted on 03/01/2009

Nevar, I was struggling with this also until I realized I was putting more pressure on myself then was necessary. My husband is a leader in our outreach ministry and he spends alot of time out of the house. When it becomes overwhelming I only do what is absolutely necessary for that day. If, and I do mean If there is extra time, I will add other odds and ends. It is important though to prioritize. #1 should always be spending time with God and in His Word. All other things can be worked out. Don't spread yourself so thin. Real friends and family members will understand if you can't make every occasion. It will take time but you will get it. I will be praying for you sis. DON'T GIVE UP!! GOD BLESS!

Michelle - posted on 02/28/2009

Nevar,

I have the same issues, I try to prioritize and schedule and at some point it all seems to fall apart, usually when one of the kids get sick or I get out of the routine.  I also had some struggles on figuring out how to put God first and for me it all started out with prayer.  I have told myself that no matter how busy things may be I have to set a certain time aside each day, and although it may not be the same time everyday, I spend a good 20-30 minutes in prayer.  I have noticed that things although still hectic most of the time, they are alot easier to bear and I don't feel so overwhelmed like I do when I don't take the time to pray.  I was told once that if you do something for 30 days then it becomes a habit so I'd like to challenge you to set time aside for the next 30 days in real prayer.  I make a list before I sit down to pray so that I don't leave anyone or anything out.  I even pray about things that may not be important to anyone but me, for example, my daughter and I made this project for her school and it had to do with tons of pictures and the whole thing turned out so great that I want to frame it and so she can keep it for always but I was so worried about her taking it to school and so I prayed and asked God to protect it, I told him what my plans were for it and so now I'm not so worried about it.  But I think sometimes we get things in our minds and don't take them to God b/c we think he won't care but the reality is that he does.  If it's important to us then its important to him, at least that's my belief.  Hope this helps, good luck and really try it for the next 30 days, I promise you will notice a difference.  I will be praying for you as well.

Shelly - posted on 02/28/2009

Nevar,

  You need to decide whats important...Yes in our minds it's all important but when you get that buisy your selling your self, your family and God short...Your need to prioritize figure out what things are absolutely needed put numbers to them 1-10, 1 being the most important 10 being the least.  You can not do every thing the two things that loose out the most is #1 you and  #2 is God.  You worry about taking care of every one else and forget about your self...Well guess what if your tank is running empty you have nothing for anyone else.   One way of starting  your day is when you get into the shower in the morning cleaning the out side take care of cleaning the inside thats one of the best times to have a talk with God.  Just let your family know that thats your time there will be no knocking on the door or yelling for mom that is YOUR time to rejuvenate so you can take care of them.  Good luck and I will keep you in my prayers because guess what if the Lord came to your house today do you think he would be worried about if you have dust on your shelves or spots on the carpet?  NO he's worried about the dust and the spots on yours and your familys heart...Please take care of your self!!! 

Gayla - posted on 02/25/2009

Hello Nevar!

Matthew 6:33 states: But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you.  God comes first, then husband, then kids and home.  'when God is put first in our life, He gives us the strength to do what is important.  Life does get crazy and as a wife and mom, the care of our husband and kids and home are priceless, but ongoing!  Our joy is to be found only in Christ who then gives us joy to care for our loved ones.  There may be some activities you can say no too.  Do you and your husband go on dates?  I encourage you to at least once a week!  We have four kids and the two older ones babysit for our two younger ones!  The care of our family doesn't end, but if our focus is on glorifying God, He will give us the strength!  God bless you!