Katie - posted on 05/01/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )
I am having serious problems with my sons father. He is not a chirstian does not believe in God, and has not been in my sons life until now 3 years later all of a sudden he wants to get to know him. I am frustrated because I am not sure it is a good idea to let him, a nonbeliver and a person who smokes weed and who knows what else he does, into my sons life. On one hand atleast he is making an effort and he is coming to where i live. But at the same time he is disrespectful towards me, does not speak to me at all, undermines my rules and authority that i have built up for my son to abide by, and he cheers my son on for his bad behavior as if it is a good thing. This upsets me, because I don't want my son to be anything like him, but with him around he is causing my son not to listen to me, to act out even more than normal, and it is very frustrating. I am in great need for advice and guidence along with words of wisdom. Any ideas?? What should I do. Oh, also it actually says in the court papers that he has NO RIGHTS and is not aloud visitations, so i am being nice. And I live with his Dad and step Mom... Long story but i feel like his dad wants to build a relationship back with his son and I am affraid if i stand my ground and say no you can't see preston that it will tear them apart. i am not sure what to do.