Marsha - posted on 02/17/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )
I had a problem with my mother in law and wanted to casually discuss the matter over a period of time with her. My husband and father in law decided that I needed to 'confront' her. I refused saying it would be disrespectful. My father in law in turn began to put the screws to my husband to 'persuade' me to do what he wanted - not just confront her about what was bothering me but to bring up everything that she ever done wrong. They started to bully and harrass me to do it -day in and day out. I cried. I said how I just lost my baby and I can't handle this -please, at least give time. I was told if I didn't cooperate things would get even worse for me. I gave in. I just wanted it to stop. In thier defense they actually thought they were doing good but when she became enraged and it all blew up in thier face they put it all on me. My husband refused to tell her thier part. And my father in law took me aside to tell me how upset he was with me for making his wife angry. I replied that I didn't want to do it - you made me. He became so enraged that he went on a rant and threw me out of his home with a house full of people there...including my son. My father in law I believe has since bad mouthed me and intentionally caused problems in my marriage. My husband asked me never to tell her the truth because he's worried how it would affect his folks marriage. I have refrained from telling anyone, gossiping, ect. to honor my husband's request and to honor the teaching of God - not taking revenge. But, it's been two years and there has been no justice. Does anyone have any advice or encouraging words?