I need practical help changing my attitude to what it should be consistently.

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Like Paul, I know what I should do and how I should act but I do what I don't want to do sometimes. How can I do what I know I should do consistently?

Sometimes my answers are harsh and when I go back over the conversation I know how I should have answered or see that I could have softened my answer but sometimes it just gets away from me. How can I change this?

My attitude is not what I want it to be where some extended family is concerned. How can I change that? I believe that if I want to show Christ, I need to be more like him and if they are not church goers, I am what they see that shows them Christ.

I do know the scriptures that tells us what to do but I don't seem to be able to continually put it into practice. I regularly make mistakes.

Any ideas on how to practically show Christ daily/hourly and not make those errors?

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Holly - posted on 05/25/2012

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I am a stay-at-home mom with 4 kids under 6. I have always considered myself a pretty patient person & easy going Not too much gets me upset). But during my last pregnancy I noticed myself being irritable & in a bad mod-even raising my voice at the kids...especially if I was in pain or wasn't feeling well. What helps me keep my attitude in check is to START my day in conversation with the Lord & ask for a FRESH filling of His Spirit EVERY day. Just like the Israelites were commanded to collect manna each morning...we cannot rely on yesterday's portion to get us through today. Even if I don't have time to sit alone in the wuiet & read my Bible that morning- taking my very FIRST moments of the morning with the Father & seeking His face & asking for guidance (even if it has to be while I'm fixing breakfast, folding laundry or taking a shower) makes a HUGE difference in my perspective & attitude for the rest of the day.

Liz - posted on 05/21/2012

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The obvious answer is prayer, right? Aside from that, I recommend exercise. Specifically, outside. I know it might sound a little silly but when I run or bike (or even walk the dog) outside and away from all the noise in my house, electronic appliances, etc., I feel that the noise in my head stops. When the noise in my head stops, I am more clear in my communication with God and myself.
If I'm feeling particularly angry about something or someone, I "dedicate" some time to them. If I'm biking, I dedicate the next mile that I bike to them. I think about all the wonderful things that this person brings to my life and count my blessings. I'm sure some of the people that see me think I'm nuts as I'm moving my lips (and sometimes crying) but it works! Gratitude is an exercise, a muscle that needs to be flexed often, espcially in the most difficult situations. You could do this with a walk and dedicate 10 minutes of your walk to the person who is causing the negative thoughts.
It's not for everyone for sure but it works for me. Sometimes on these little excursions I feel like God sends me little signs that I'm on the right path - a gorgeous flower I notice, an inquisitive squirrel, the other day I saw two bluebirds flying into a nest. I thank Him for acknowledging me and keep at it.

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Carla - posted on 05/26/2012

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Very nice, Holly. Keep up the good work, and let's ALL take a page out of Holly's playbook and start our day asking for a fresh anointing.

God bless, sweetheart

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I have been working through the devotional book "Resolutions for Women" based on the movie "Courageous". This week the challenge is to be silent when an answer is not needed or whatever you have is unacceptable (sarcasm). As well as to really listen. Hear what is said and what is not being said, when they are cries for help and when they are just plain gossip.

I have been working really hard on this and it seems to line up with what I am having issues with.
I will definitely be putting the exercise thing into practice believe me, the exercise won't hurt a bit. I will also add this to my list of chores by thinking of the next load of laundry as washing out all the bad that I feel, the next load of dishes as washing off the "dirty" I feel after a day with them.

Thank you all for your encouragement.

Carla - posted on 05/18/2012

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Oops, I meant Paul didn't get this right ;) Silly me! I fixed my post so it made sense.

Carla - posted on 05/18/2012

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Yeah, Sharon, practice, practice, practice ;)



NONE of us put this into perfect use. Even Paul, who is kind of a hero to me, didn't get this right. That's why he wrote it, so we wouldn't beat ourselves up so much. And we believe his writings were Holy Spirit inspired, so the Spirit agrees also. We are humans, and live in a human body. Our spirit inside is striving constantly to overcome our flesh, but the flesh is warring constantly to make us screw up! I think this is why so many Christians 'seem' to be a little mental! With this war going on inside, normalcy is difficult, to say the least ;)



Post Scriptures about guarding your mouth (James is a good one!) on your refrigerator, stencil them on the walls, write them on your forehead so you can see it when you look in the mirror ;) God sees our struggles, and He is there to help us. Day by day, hour by hour, we work towards perfection. Just keep going, honey. You'll get it.



God bless

ZELDA - posted on 05/17/2012

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Pray! and read your word daily, it will change your attitude, we all sin and come short of the glory of the lord, but God forgives us over and over again even when we know that we are wrong. But you are willing to change, and that is all God needs is a willing heart. You have changed already and dont even realize it. God created us in his image, of course we are going to have issues and lots of them, but if we keep on trusting in God we are gonna be just fine. God bless you,

Jeorge - posted on 05/17/2012

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Well if someone rubs me the wrong way Family or not I pray for them.
First to go away(God never answers that one)
Than for them to find God or to be happy or I just say "God they are your children and you know what they need. Bless them"
It works to change your heart and hopefully there's as well.
As for the harsh words pray for patience with your self we all have our struggles. Take a breath before you quickly respond and gather your thoughts.
You like the rest of us are HUMAN sorry it is in your nature to make mistakes. It's what you do after that makes you an example of Gods love and grace.
Good luck
With God all things are possible

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