Tonilyn - posted on 05/24/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )
A couple of days ago, I found an email my husband sent to a friend from the past (Who I have told him to stop all communication with, because I could see that she wanted more than friendship, of course, after she found out he was married) I asked him to stop talking to her a few years ago. Anyway, this email started out "Hi there pretty lady" and went on to say how he was sorry that he missed her phone call again! and that got really drunk when she was here!!! I had NO idea she was even in town! and worse, that they were out together. I confronted him and asked when this happened and he said it was superbowl weekend, which was in FEBRUARY. So, he has been keeping this from me for several months. He went on to say that he didn't even know she was in town and she just showed up while he was out with his friends. He said that at one point in the night he went out to get fresh air and she followed him out and told him how she felt about him and that it should have been them that got married. He said he then got angry at her and walked away to a friends house. He said that the next morning he thought the whole thing was a dream, and didn't think it happened for real. She called him a few more times and that's when he said he wrote the email to her. She called him again, then she said that she really meant what she had said that night (because he didn't remember) he asked her, and she told him how she felt again. He told me he told her to stop and that he had a family, so does she. Then he said he asked his friends what happened that night and they told him that he got angry at her and left and that after he was gone she started talking crap about me, this woman has no idea who I am. I really don't know what to believe, I want to believe my husband but there are just too many holes in his story. If he did tell her off that night, why was she calling him after the fact? and why did he write that email? I told him that I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt because we have a family and I'm trying to see past it. God says that marriage is forever and we have to endure. I'm trying HARD, but I just can't seem to move on. It's bothering me. How can I get through this hurt I'm feeling?