Lindsay - posted on 11/07/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )
My husband and I have been married since June, and we decided after the wedding for me to stop taking my birth control. So about a month later I was pregnant! We both agreed on our wedding day not to ever mention divorce. This is his second marriage, and he has a 6 year old. This is my first marriage, and my first pregnancy. Dealing with my jealousy issues of not being his first experience for either our marriage or our child has been hard on me. Well, to get the the question...During the first couple months of my pregnancy I was very moody and not in the mood for sex at all. He was the very opposite and wanted it more. This led to lots of arguments, and hurt feelings. Then just yesterday we got into another fight and I said some mean things that I knew would get to him because he had hurt me(wrong I know, but unfortunately a common theme in our fights), but being him, he has to have the last word and hurt me more, so he said "as long as were telling the truth, If you had a miscarriage I was going to ask for a divorce." This, as you can imagine, led me to instant tears and hysteria. I went out back to think and cry and be alone, and later we talked about it and I asked him if he meant that, and he said that yes he had thought about that when we had been arguing so much in the beginning but he doesn't want a divorce now because he has already had to deal with custody issues and doesn't want to do that to our unborn child. He didnt have a very good childhood himself, but I do not know how to deal with this. He has been acting as if nothing happened and been his normal self. But when he said has seared a hole in my heart and I do not know how to go on as if nothing happened. Please help! Thanks so much and sorry to get so personal!