Liana - posted on 09/16/2012 ( 27 moms have responded )
I set up sometiems videos for my kids, they ar up to 3 yrs, and recently i got back to my bf (we were split for a month ) and just didnt mention about camera to him ... i had several videos , didnt have time to watch them, and plus suspecting him in anythign i would not have left my kids with him, even just to catch him on anything... or would have rushed to watch videos... so videos were there and i had no idea i should have watched them in time.. when finally i sat down to watch them, i was just going through them very quick way, in videos i go out for 10 -20 minutes for shopping or cooking in the kitchen, as soon as i am not there my bf (now ex bf ) goes to kids, puts his own thumb in his own mouth and starts sucking of it ) and at the same time he rubs the shoulders, tummies , necks, ears of my kids ) in some videos i am even there , and he is doing that in just a sec , some scenes they last for 1-3 minutes, and he is doing that with both of my kids...
I am in shock, i am going crazy, i bet he was planning smth, and started grooming ( i read they first start grooiming before they do anything ) but i bet he did smth as well as just kids ar very young you cant ask them anything, and i havenot noticed anything wrong on their bodies ... but they started screaming at nights 6 months ago.. even i told that to a doctor and doctor said its ok and it will pass away...
now i recollect many things, every sentences, every behavior and so many things, i spoke to children protection over the phone, they said ,there is nothing in it they should feel worried though they asked where the bf was, i said i split with him, yes i did but i said different reason.. as was scared and in shock and did not know how to say that...called the police and they said the same, it looks strange but there is nothing in that behavior they should be worrying, though they asked the same wherethe bf was, they took the videos , why? if there is nothing in it? what should i expect? i am going to call the socials tomorrow, though police said they would do that themselves... is such situation familiar to any of you? and is there anything in this story that can be used against me ? by the police or socials? pls reply to this post , thanks