Is it wrong I don't teach my kids about Santa, Easter Bunny, or tooth fairy?

Kendra - posted on 11/22/2009 ( 67 moms have responded )

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This has been a huge issue in my family, mostly with my parents and other members against my husband and myself. Ever since I learned that these characters are ficitional, I opted not to teach my children about them as an adult. However, I tell them the real story of Santa and how the legends came about. But my mother especially believes that I am somehow robbing my children of their innocence and chance to believe. She is not a Christian and didn't appreciate it when I told her my kids DID have something to believe in: Jesus Christ. I am really just curious what others think about this.

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Heather - posted on 11/23/2009

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My husband and I believe that if we lie to our children, then they have reason not to trust us. If we lie about Santa, then how do they know that we are not lying about Jesus? I will not risk my testimony in front of my children just to have a little holiday fun that is taking our Lord and Savior out of the spotlight.

Lenore - posted on 12/19/2013

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Dear Kendra
You don't have to teach your children about the fictional characters as if they are real, but perhaps the tradition of their relation to the holidays. I think you did beautifully about the real St. Nick. After all Christmas truly is a celebration of our lord and savior Jesus Christ. The other holiday characters were created to make the holidays more magical and fun. You are not obligated to make believe they are real. Just tell them to respect that some children do believe in them and it's their parents choice of when to "out " them. My sister did the same thing with her kids. I let mine believe until she became skeptical on her own. Neither are worse for the wear. I grew up believing and when I found out I wasn't traumatized nor was my sister. She chose your route for her kids and they are great. You sound like a loving Mom. You're doing NO harm so ignore all the negative naysayers.

Danielle - posted on 12/04/2013

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I am actually dealing with this exact problem now. So much criticism from people! I choose to teach MY child what I want. I refuse to teach my son lies! There is only one person to tell my son about, and that person is Jesus Christ! I'm sick of this criticism.

Hilma - posted on 11/28/2009

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Quoting Jennifer:

I don't think it is wrong, I did not teach my children these things either for two reasons one I was devistated as a child when I found out it was all a lie and then I wonderered what else they lied about, and secondly I wanted them to know that Jesus is real even though we can't see or touch him I was worried that they would believe he was a lie too after finding out the others where. I know it can be difficult when others look down on you for it, but just remember this you are the one held accountable to God for your children so it really doesn't matter what anyone but God thinks.


That is exactly what I was thinking before I got to this answer... I always tell myself and others that it will be ME who stands before God (Yahwey) and gives account for what I allowed or taught my children.



 



Not everyone understands nor will they ever but I know in my heart what is acceptable and what is not FOR ME because if our hearts do not condemn us.... Just remind yourself who it is who will be held accountable on that day for your actions or inaction and they also will be held accountable for giving you such a bad time. I hope that does not sound harsh because it is not meant to be... it is meant as encouragement... keep doing what is in your heart and pleases our Lord!!!!!

ADELA - posted on 12/25/2013

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I really appreciate your blunt honesty and this is the true attitude and emotional response I want to illustrate to my kids. We aren't here to teach our kids about the wordly customs as the bible tells it to be separated from this world we are to stand out and furthermore there is a verse in Jeremiah Chapter 10 verses 1-5 that directly deals with this holiday and the customs of the heathen in it THE LORD STATES;
Hear ye the word which the LORD speaketh unto you, O house of Israel:

2Thus saith the LORD, Learn not the way of the heathen, and be not dismayed at the signs of heaven; for the heathen are dismayed at them.

3For the customs of the people are vain: for one cutteth a tree out of the forest, the work of the hands of the workman, with the axe.

4They deck it with silver and with gold; they fasten it with nails and with hammers, that it move not.

5They are upright as the palm tree, but speak not: they must needs be borne, because they cannot go. Be not afraid of them; for they cannot do evil, neither also is it in them to do good.

And I guess that's as clear cut as it gets there are other Holidays that it does tell us to teach our children and observe with great detail the Lord shows us how and why we should observe this day one being the Passover.
Everytime I get tempted to observe these pagan or heathen holidays I'm going to remember what the Lord said and pray that he gives me a Holy Fear of him enough to not follow down the same road no matter what others say and I do not judge anyone or Christian who does observe this Holiday or teaches their kids about Santa but as for me and my house we will obey the convictions the Lord has given us.

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Carla - posted on 12/26/2013

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I think Angela is right, it IS time to close this thread. We all have our own opinions, and our own convictions, and we have to follow what the Lord has told or shown us. If you don't believe in celebrating Christmas, and give in to public opinion and celebrate, it is sin, because you BELIEVE it is.

Paul told us all things are accepted, but not all things are edifying. We have a liberty in Jesus. Each of us views that liberty differently. I believe the verses quoted about chopping down the tree and fastening it with nails is talking about idols. Adela believes it's Christmas trees.

God bless all, we all have to live as our conscience dictates.

Angela - posted on 12/26/2013

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OK Adela Cherry - to REPEAT part of my last post:

"So some kids believe in Santa, some kids don't. No-one has to lie or pretend. They can just accept that other people believe differently. It's not telling lies when you say NOTHING AT ALL!!

So someone asks your child what they got from Santa? All they have to say is "Personally, I don't believe in Santa! But I totally respect that you do! Now, if you'd like to know what I received for Christmas, here's what I got ....."

Now, was that difficult?

So what's the problem?"

SO - USING THE FORMULA I'VE GIVEN ABOVE .....

* No-one told any lies.
* No-one's feelings were hurt
* No-one's illusions were smashed
* No-one has gone against the teachings of the Bible
* Everyone treated the situation with good manners, courtesy and realism

Oh - and by the way to ask someone "What did you get from Santa?" or to state to someone "Hey, guess what I got from Santa?" or "Well, Santa's been good to me this year ..." doesn't mean that the person asking the question or the person making the statement BELIEVES that Santa is real, or that they think the person they're speaking to believes Santa is real!

Speaking of "Santa" in these terms is just generic for referring to the giving and receiving of gifts at Christmas! Adults use these popular generic terms far more than kids - so do all adults believe Santa is real?!?!?!?!

Let's not be so heavenly-minded that we're no earthly use! God has a sense of humour but I suspect He sometimes rolls His eyes at the prim and proper preachy ways of some which strip all the joy out of life itself.

There are lots of things we do that derive from ancient religions different to our own, from foreign civilizations and from general culture over generations. These things include our language, our technology, our recipes, our skills and our traditions - just to name a few. So - hey! Let's all go hungry, homeless, speechless, uneducated and pretty much useless - because somewhere along the line we'll be offending SOMEONE whose perception just might be that we are offending God. Lighten up everyone!

He came that we may have life, and have it more abundantly.

Angela - posted on 12/24/2013

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Sorry folks - I have no idea why this has become a massive debate!

I was brought up with the legend of Santa and I really didn't give a damn about whether Santa was real, I was more bothered about what presents I was getting. When I worked out for myself that Santa wasn't real, I had a few quiet moments weighing up whether it was wise to tell my parents I knew! Because all this "magic & excitement" is NOT for the kids at all. It's for the parents to enjoy. It's not children who take the photos and describe the experience to their friends, it's parents.

And the stuff about St Nicholas isn't really valid. The legend of Santa Claus didn't just spring from stories from the life of St Nicholas (many of which were legends anyway), Santa Claus (or Father Christmas, as he's also known in the UK) is a hybrid legendary character loosely based on St Nicholas AND Yule Father. Yule Father is straight out of Norse mythology - someone who came in midwinter on a sleigh bringing gifts, good wishes and fuel to people to cheer them up in the cold weather.

So some kids believe in Santa, some kids don't. No-one has to lie or pretend. They can just accept that other people believe differently. It's not telling lies when you say NOTHING AT ALL!!

So someone asks your child what they got from Santa? All they have to say is "Personally, I don't believe in Santa! But I totally respect that you do! Now, if you'd like to know what I received for Christmas, here's what I got ....."

Now, was that difficult?

So what's the problem?

We're just going to argue round in circles here!

Time to close this thread, I reckon!

Carla - posted on 12/21/2013

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Very interesting scenario, Katherine. We certainly don't want to teach them lying is a good thing, or can be right or wrong, depending on the situation. I think you need another trip back to the Father to ask Him what to do here.

I heard a pastor speak about the lies we tell. A friend and you are out shopping. She tries on this outfit. Now it's purple with pink polka dots and makes her look like the circus had come to town, and I guess if you were very close with her you could say 'Susie, that color is not one of your best. Why don't we try this instead'. Very tactful, and probably she won't be insulted. However, if that same person walks up to you after she's bought it (without your help) and says how do you like my outfit, you should say I like the material, or the color is very interesting--something along those lines. We tell lies every day--from little innocent things like when someone asks how you are, and you feel like dog doo, and you bravely say 'fine'. That's a lie. You can say 'I've been better, but God is seeing me through', and leave it at that. 'How did you like this new recipe I made?' 'Oh, it was wonderful!' as you're heading for the bathroom.

I know we don't want to hurt other's. But God said not to lie. So we have to be a little creative in our responses so we don't hurt anyone and still keep our integrity intact. If the children at school ask what Santa brought them for Christmas your children can say 'I received ______'. They didn't say they got it from Mom and Dad because there is no Santa, they simply started what they DID receive.

God bless, honey.

Kateminola - posted on 12/21/2013

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My problem: I don't want to lie to my kids about Santa, but I also don't want them to spoil it for other kids. So by not lying to my kids I'm encouraging them to lie to their friends at school. >.

Angela - posted on 12/20/2013

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Santa may be coming
But remember who was first
Two thousand years ago
A virgin did give birth
Santa rides his sleigh
Across the open skies
Jesus answers prayers
And hears your children’s cries
Santa brings you presents
That someday break or rust
Jesus gives you treasures
That never turn to dust.
Santa puts a smile
In the hearts of girls and boys
Jesus gives salvation
And all of heaven’s joys
Santa may be special
But remember this advice
When Santa has a problem
He prays to Jesus Christ!

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Carla - posted on 12/19/2013

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Welcome, Adela. If the Lord has told you not to celebrate the Holidays, don't feel guilty. I know, I know, mothers feel guilty--it's in our DNA. Pray and ask the Lord what to tell the girls. If He doesn't want you celebrating, He has an alternative. You might type up in your browser alternatives for Halloween or Christmas celebrations. I am sure you will find TONS of fun stuff.

The gift-giving can be tailored to suit your beliefs. Go to a craft store and you can find jewelry-making materials especially for little hands, and have them make Grama and Auntie or Papa a necklace or a bracelet. They could fingerpaint a drawing and get a frame for it for Grama to keep on her wall. Grama's are suckers for this stuff! I have drawings and letters, their first e-mail to me, etc on the refrigerator. I have to rotate every couple months ;) At harvest time you can go to the farmers market or vegetable aisle and find funny shaped gourds. Dry them out (check online for details) and paint them bright colors and use them for maracas (you know, shaken in music) and have them put on a show for you and Hubby on Halloween. They can decorate the house with bright colored leaves they find in the neighborhood. Take a nature walk if there's woods around, or a meadow, and pick grasses to put in a vase to bring autumn indoors. The ideas are endless. You could take the money (or some of it) that you normally use for Christmas and buy hats, coats, boots for the homeless and take to the rescue mission. They are always needing clothes for the little kids, and this would probably mean more, in time, to your little ones than getting another toy they will just destroy in a week. It's good for kids to see how good they have it, there are sooo many who don't have the basic necessities.

I hope I have spurred your imagination a little, Adela, God bless.

ADELA - posted on 12/18/2013

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I have just made the same decision with my own two youngest children who are 4 and 6 the problem is I should have never even celebrated one Christmas or one Halloween because now they expect it and dont understand why Mommy and Daddy have done this to them. I feel hopelessly guilty because although i do now thoroughly want to obey the convictions of what God has told me in my heart to do I just know there has to be some other Activity I can be doing with my children to disuade them from all the department store toys and Hype honestly this is the 1st year i havent had even a Christmas Tree in my home and I am amazed (except when I see their sad little faces pointing out all the holiday lights) how calm and at peace i am this December I feel absolutely no stress regarding money gift giving and i really like it!! But does anyone have any ideas on what else i could substitute for them I believe its ok to have feasts and gift giving is ok but it has to be for the sheer love I have for them that i do this not because the commercial they saw about it on the television!!

Angela - posted on 12/14/2013

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Yes, I liked decorating a Christmas tree. Used to fight with my siblings on who got to do it! The novelty wore off doing this when I reached about 19 or 20.

Just can't be bothered now! We still don't have a Christmas tree up in our house and it's 14th December now! We have no decorations, trimmings or streamers up either, though there are a few Christmas cards displayed.

I must be "Scrooge", LOL!!

Carla - posted on 12/14/2013

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Angela, I was very shy and sickly. Plus we moved 13 times in my 9 years of school, so I never had time to form friendships. I don't remember if Santa even came up in conversations of my peers, to tell you the truth. And when I did finally learn the truth, my brothers and sister were just little ones, and I didn't want to spoil things for them.

I love the Christmas season. I love decorating the tree and looking at the beauty. Maybe I'm like Peter Pan, a big kid ;)

God bless

Angela - posted on 12/13/2013

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Carla - I'm amazed you believed in Santa when you were in your adolescence! Even more amazed that your peers at school etc .... didn't put you wise!

No-one told me - I just worked it out for myself when I was about 7. My parents did their best for several years after to convince me Santa was real. This really annoyed me and always made me think they were trying to keep me young!

I considered it my duty to inform my younger siblings! I would never have any conscience about telling any other children.

For me the "magic" of Christmas was NEVER about a mythical figure in red & white who delivered presents. It was about the actual presents! Oh and the nice food, a turkey meal with all the trimmings etc .... Plenty of sweets and chocolate and at least one good book that I could take to bed with me when the day was over.

We always knew that gifts were from specific people and not from Santa. Grandparents, parents, friends etc .... gave gifts and Santa only delivered them. I think when we were very young, we believed that everyone who bought us gifts mailed them off to Santa so he could bring them to our home.

We were not allowed to open our gifts until we had attended Church. Dad was a Catholic so it meant going to Mass. We'd go to the very earliest Mass available on Christmas Day at our local Church. Usually 8am. We would have LOVED to have gone to midnight Mass but we were never allowed to - I think our mother didn't want 4 kids demanding to open parcels in the middle of the night, LOL!!

These days, as a Christian (but NOT a practising Roman Catholic) I always get along to a midnight service. For me that really DOES add a little magic to the spirit of Christmas.

It looks as though my children encourage their own children to believe in Santa. I will not interfere.

I've never written a letter to Santa but I have written a letter as Santa - in fact I've written several. My friend was a teacher of small kids and I wrote a "Santa letter" to every child in her class, LOL!!

As I work with vulnerable adults with special needs, a few of my clients at work believe in Santa. There are also a few who don't. They're all told NOT to spoil the magic and excitement for anyone else. I've moved on a bit since I was that kid that wanted all the other kids to know Santa wasn't real, LOL!!

It’s sad that Christmas has degenerated into a day of drunkenness, gluttony and avarice. It’s sad that the weeks leading up to Christmas see more theft from businesses and fraudulent dealings than the other 10½ months of the year put together. It’s sad the amount of stress that ordinary decent individuals and families go through because of Christmas – many couples split up or divorce over Christmas. Extremely sad to think of the debt people get into because of Christmas – and the waste (especially food). It’s very sad that people decide to give or ask for animals or pets as presents and these often end up homeless at some animal shelter or refuge because the novelty wore off. All of these concerns aren’t because of Santa – they’re because of the imperfection of humankind.

The very first Christmas gift was Jesus himself, given to us by God. Santa didn’t deliver our Saviour to us. Jesus was our first Christmas present and our very best Christmas present ever. However for many people He’s the most unappreciated Christmas gift ever.

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Carla - posted on 12/13/2013

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I actually believed in Santa when I was 12. Our childhood was not a particularly happy one. The magic of Christmas was one of the bright spots in our lives, and I, for one, am thankful I had that to hold onto.

Everyone has to raise their children according to their conscience. As Angela says, whether they believe or don't believe, doesn't make a person any more or less of a Christian. So, if you believe it's wrong, then allowing your children to believe is a sin. If you believe it's a tradition meant to brighten a child's life a little, enjoy it. Our children are children for such a small blink of our lives. Handle them with prayerful consideration.

God bless, all.

Angela - posted on 12/13/2013

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There are several threads regarding Santa Claus on the Christian CoM forums and on the secular ones.

I fail to see why it's a big deal! Here's a copy of the post I already put on Christian Moms:

"Santa is a customary tradition – not a truth – simply an amusing tradition. Rather like eating roast turkey on Christmas Day is a tradition. In fact, rather like Christmas Day itself is a tradition – it is very unlikely that Jesus was born on 25th December. However this date is the date that most Christians keep as the date of our Lord’s nativity.

Santa is derived from 2 older traditions. One is “Father Christmas” which is another name for Santa Claus in the UK. Father Christmas is the Christian version of “Yule Father” a kindly and benevolent mythical figure from pagan times who visited in midwinter to raise spirits and distribute gifts.

The other tradition is St Nicholas. St Nicholas was a Christian saint who is said to have helped poor people by throwing gold coins down their chimney or alternatively by dropping gold coins into their stockings as they were hanging on the washing line to air. These are LEGENDS and there is no real evidence outside of these legends that St Nicholas actually ever did these things!

St Nicholas DID exist though. Dutch children put their clogs outside their doors on the eve of St Nicholas’s Day and the legend is that he fills them with sweets and small toys. Therefore in Holland, the gift giving is on St Nicolas’s Eve & on St Nicholas’s Day (5th & 6th December) – in the UK it would be Christmas Day itself.

St Nicholas is the patron saint of many causes and people and places. He is patron of a great many towns and cities in Holland – including Amsterdam.

If we’re not going to boycott the eating of turkey on Christmas Day or boycott the keeping of 25th December as Christ’s date of birth (and numerous other Christmas traditions) – then why do we need to boycott Santa?

Just a thought!"

Some Christian parents like the Santa legend and their children get a lot of fun out of it. They're no less a Christian because they shared this tradition with their children.

Children are generally happy to "believe" in Santa. But as soon as any other child in their peer group DOESN'T believe in Santa - trust me, the word gets around fast. That's when children are quick to denounce belief in Santa - they don't want other kids of the same age laughing at them! Kids as young as 3 or 4 are sensitive about this. And, believe it or not, even some 12 year-olds still believe in Santa! Any parent who allows a child of that age to still believe in Santa has acted very irresponsibly.

On the other hand, many parents (not only Christian parents but the non-Christian parents too) do not feel comfortable with any kind of a lie given to their children so they don't "do" Santa.

And just about everyone, whether Christian or not, hates the commercial spendfest that Christmas has become. Not only has it become less about Jesus, it's also no longer about giving and treating your loved ones (especially children). It has now become more about showing off, spending money people simply don't have and trying to outdo what the next person is doing for their own family.

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I have not read the other posts, so I hope I'm not repeating anything.. lol



Don't worry about what others think of your choice. I agree with you 100 % and actually posted a similar post about a month ago. I feel that when parents tell their children about these fictional characters - that they are in fact lying. I have no qualms about letting them watch Rudolph, or ready about the tooth fairy in story books because it is just that - stories.

My husband's family does not agree with this - but they are very respectful in keeping our wishes. Several aqaintences have questioned this as well, but realize it is a personal choice for our family.

The important thing is that you teach your children the truth. They will eventually hear all the other stories from school, friends, etc. but if you sit down with them and teach them the truth they will ultimately trust you over the others.

Hang in there, I know it is tough - but we are raising the next generation to be Godly seekers of Truth and followers of Righteousness :)

Judy - posted on 12/08/2009

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Hi Kendra, number one remember everybody has there own opinion on this subject matter.God put you and your spouse in charge of his little one. My two girls know both storeys about santa the worldly storey and true storey. And I explained that one storey was for fun and the other was the trurth. St. Nick the man,don't frett kids aren't dumb just talk to your kids they will listen.Theres a Proverb in the Bible I like to say over my kids..."My children have a teachable spirit."-Proverbs14:16 (AMP) God Bless, Judy

TEMI - posted on 12/07/2009

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Jesus rebuked the pharisees and saducees for mixing traditions of men with the word of God. Why should we be afraid to stand out. The bible says we are no part of this world. The only way we can show that is by sticking to the word of God and shunning all unbiblical traditions. Funny enough Jesus never celebrated his birthday and my research on easter bunny shows it is of pagan origin.

Jennifer - posted on 12/07/2009

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I definitely wouldn't say that you are wrong, but I do not feel the same way. I was raised in a Christian household with strong faith and values. As a little kid I believed in Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy and it certainly never hindered my faith in Jesus. I always knew the real meaning of Christmas and Easter, Santa and the Easter Bunny were just fun traditions. They made the holidays magical for me and I hope to do the same for my daughter. I've read some comments about how telling your children about these fictional characters is the same as lying to them and I definitely don't agree with that. It's all about having fun and encouraging your child's imagination. Don't get me wrong, my daughter will always know the real meanings of the holidays, will understand the sacrifices Jesus made for her, and this will be our top priority. I just don't feel that I need to keep these fun traditions from her in order to stress the importance of faith.

Cynthia - posted on 12/07/2009

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We had the same problem with our families. You can't go wrong with the Truth. We didn't want to teach our kids not to lie and then lie to them and call it tradition. This verse has helped we me with a lot of issues lately and I think it applies here as well.

For do I now persuade men or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ. GAL. 1:10

Angel - posted on 12/07/2009

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I was raised not believing in the tooth fairy, easter bunny, or santa and I turned out fine.. I was actually thankful that my parents didn't lie to me about this, I knew that all the other children in school believed though, so i was always careful around them. I chose to do the same with my children, they never believed in any fictional characters... my husband and his family feel like your family does... but I just didn't want to lie to my children.

Lisa - posted on 12/06/2009

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I completely understand how you feel as I get the same criticism as I do not allow my 3 children to participate in anything that does not give glory to the Lord, plain & simple, if it doesn't glorify Him then their is no purpose in spending our time doing it. This is not taking away from their innocence, taking their childhood away, or depriving them of anything. It is so sad that this is what everything has come down to in our world today, we lie to our children to help them have fun, we turn every holiday into a candy bonanza, we give excuses as to why something is okay even when it's not. Children are innocent, they will enjoy whatever you make of things, if you make it fun then it is fun, it's all about how you do things, it has nothing to do w/a character. My children listen to Christian music, read Christian books, & do not celebrate any holidays for any other reason than the true meaning or don't celebrate at all if the true meaning is something that does not glorify God. In all things we do, say, or act on we should be able to say that it glorifies Him.

TEMI - posted on 12/06/2009

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I agree with you children have a right to know the truth. Why should we make them believe a lie? It's so not right. You are doing the right thing. The bible says narrow is the path that leads to life and few are the ones finding it. A lot of people are on the braod path that leads to destruction with all the lies false teachings n so on.

Sarah - posted on 12/06/2009

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I told my kids when they were young, i didn't want to lie to them, or they'll think i am lying about Jesus too, so i told them the truth, and they accepted it very well! But my daughter was very upset that Elmo was a puppet, not a real talking monster! But my kids now are 9 and 11, and they are glad that i have told them the truth!

Tahira - posted on 12/06/2009

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Make truth the foundation for your children. I understand the childlike excitement around certain holidays, however you want your children to be grounded in truth. I teach my 2.5 yr old son about Jesus' birth and read to him these stories. He knows that his mommy and daddy and others who love him gave him the gifts he has, and that we give because God gave to us...His son Jesus. I can see now that the truth is settled in him even though he watches cartoons with Santa and all the other stuff. I believe this will form an early relationship with God....which is far more valuable than fantasies. In all of this, we still enjoy our holidays with the traditions of gingerbread house making and decorating etc. > God Bless.

Anne - posted on 12/05/2009

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The people are saying we grew up just fine doing these things, doing halloween as bible characters etc, and lying to their children I'm afraid for you! In Matthew 7:2-5, Jesus warns against judging someone else for his sin when you yourself are sinning even worse. That is the kind of judging Jesus commanded us not to do. If a believer sees another believer sinning, it is his Christian duty to lovingly and respectfully confront the person with his sin (Matthew 18:15-17). This is not judging, but rather pointing out the truth in hope—and with the ultimate goal—of bringing repentance in the other person (James 5:20) and restoration to the fellowship. We are to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). We are to proclaim what God's Word says about sin. 2 Timothy 4:2 instructs us, "Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage — with great patience and careful instruction." We are to "judge" sin, but always with the goal of presenting the solution for sin and its consequences—the Lord Jesus Christ (John 14:6).
Here some bible verses related to Halloween - 3 John 1:11 Beloved, imitate not that which is evil, but that which is good. He that doeth good is of God: he that doeth evil hath not seen God. Ephesians 6:11-18 ("take your stand against the devil's schemes.")
Ephesians 5:11-12 ("Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness" / "live as children of light") So many to list just research & check verse with bible!
Some people think it is innocent if they dress their kids in bible characters or cute things but it is still participating and promoting Halloween which wouldn't satisfy God! About telling the truth to your child! Why are people more worried about what others think than what God thinks? Romans 9:1 I say the truth in Christ, I lie not, my conscience bearing witness with me in the Holy Spirit, There are too many bible verses to list for lying! If you don't know if something is right or wrong research it with the bible! Ask God to guide you in the right direction! Don't just assume everything is ok if everyone else is doing it they maybe breaking God's will for us! When Judgement day comes God will ask us why we did the things we did knowing they were wrong! I would rather be safe with God and follow his word's in the bible!

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Good for you Kendra!

My husband and I are not teaching our son about these fictional characters either. When we see them in stores and such and he asks a question like. "what's that?" (He' 2 almost 3) I talke about them as I would Elmo or The Backyardigans.

My parents didn't teach me about them and neither did my husbands parents teach him. We grew up just fine! ;-) We knew who these characters were but we knew the real story of Christmas & Easter. I promise you, your children will be just fine too.

Celicia - posted on 12/01/2009

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I want to briefly touch base about the whole issue of what to celebrate and what not to. You have to make the discerning of what God convicts you of and what not, and I find it rather harsh for some people to say that Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the tooth fairy are of Satan. Yes, I agree that the customs that the world has made them into such as the "me" complex and the "mine, mine, mine" mentality is completely unnecessary. But, I think that if some feel they can talk to their children about Santa and the easter bunny and tell them it is fiction and all in games, then so be it. I know I will be taking my 8 month old to get a pic with Santa this year, but I fully expect that next year to tell her that he is a spirit of Christmas for non-believers and even for some believers so that they can show children what faith is. Now, Halloween is not an option because of origination of the holiday and because of safety issues that can be encountered. So, to each his own, so long as Jesus is the center of the holidays and that they don't feel they are "owed" anything those holidays....
Now, as for your parents, just be strong. Don't back down from your faith and pray for them. Hopefully, if you live your lives the way that God intended, then God can use you to transform your mom. My parents don't believe in half the things I do, even though my mom is a christian. I will not allow my daughter to watch tv, now, or ever, and that's a personal conviction because I feel there is no family value to glorifies God on tv. Others may disagree, and trust me, they do, but you have to be firm. Tell her you are sorry that she thinks you are robbing them of these characters, but that you feel that they are still enjoying their holidays. Maybe not the way that she wants, but if they know no different, it can't affect them. I always think of it as a child that is born disabled some way, they don't know how to not be disabled, so they are content with what they have. But if they believe in Santa completely and not Jesus, then it's like a child that becomes disabled later in life, they resent it and wish for their past.

Jessica - posted on 12/01/2009

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I don't teach my kids Santa either. I teach them that we celebrate the birth of Jesus and that He has blessed us to be able to give presents to each other as well as people who are less fortunate. I tell them not to ruin it for others by telling them " there is no Santa". I have also told them that if someone askes what they got from Santa just to tell them what presents they got. I'm sure at one point my mother did not agree with me about not doing the whole Santa thing but I did what I thought was right. The complaining doesn't last too long. This issue isn't going to physically, or emotionally harm them so you do what you feel is best for your children and know that your not alone.

Gina - posted on 11/30/2009

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Keep up the good work. There is nothing wrong with the way you are raising your children. You are telling them the truth. That is always the best approach. My children are older now, but I didn't teach them about Santa either, and it has not bothered them at all.

Patti - posted on 11/29/2009

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Not wrong at all, it's a part of childhood that kids need ... to be allowed to be kids!

Beth - posted on 11/29/2009

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Hey Kendra,my name is Beth & I'm soon to be 53yrs.old.When my children where small I was in your shoes also.I told them about Santa the same as you.I did not want to lie about Santa because I felt if I did they would think that Jesus Christ was a lie and not real.However, I did not leave out Santa completely because of the wide spread of him not only in family but in friends also.I told my kids they could pretend & that he was pretend.I always put Jesus first and we would make "HIM" a birthday cake.Now they are grown and have children of there own & are true believers of "Jesus"."Christ"-mas is "Christ".

Jennifer - posted on 11/29/2009

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I have decided not to teach my children about Santa or the Easter Bunny as well. I haven't given much thought to the Tooth Fairy until now! But my oldest will be 5 so I guess I should be thinking about that one now! :) I catch a lot of slack from my in-laws because we've been living with them while my husband is deployed to Korea. My mother-in-law especially has a Santa Claus fetish and is really trying to push him onto my kids and trying to make me feel guilty for not wanting to teach them about Santa. I have been telling my kids (ages 4,2 &1) that there was a man called Saint Nicholas who was a Christian and set a great example on the spirit of giving but that there is no man who brings toys to the good kids. That is not how Christ works. His salvation is for the good and the bad! It is not called Santamas it is called Christmas because Christmas is about Christ.

Dawn - posted on 11/29/2009

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You are doing the right thing. We have always been honest with our kids about the true meaning of holidays. My kids (ages 12, 10 & 7) have never felt slighted or less excited about Christmas or Easter. My in-laws often try to push the Santa thing on my kids. My kids have learned to just smile and say "Santa is just pretend". It drives my mother-in-law crazy (I can tell), but she'll get over it. Ultimately, it's our job as parents to guide our kids according to Christ -- not the world. Your kids will be so grateful for this one day.

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I don't think it's wrong, but you should also tell your kids that there are children that do believe in those things and that they should not go around telling those children that Santa, Easter Bunny, and Tooth Fairy don't exist. Because then your children start robbing other children of their innocence. Depending on how these characters are depicted they can be an excellent tool to teach children the Story of Christ. Well not the tooth fairy, but that one is just for fun. When I was a kid I just remember what an awesome experience it was to believe in those characters and you know children grow out of it eventually, but why not let their imagination run wild for a little bit? As long as they know that Jesus is not a fictional character, He is, without a doubt, our Lord and Savior.

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Quoting Heather:

My husband and I believe that if we lie to our children, then they have reason not to trust us. If we lie about Santa, then how do they know that we are not lying about Jesus? I will not risk my testimony in front of my children just to have a little holiday fun that is taking our Lord and Savior out of the spotlight.


Our daughters are 21 and almost 26. We did allow them to believe in these fictional characters. I am embarrassed to admit that I did not equate lying to our daughters about Santa and the rest, with lying to them about Jesus. We DID and ALWAYS WILL Celebrate the TRUE REASONS for these Holidays.  



 



Thank You Heather for stating such an Important Truth.

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Quoting Jennifer:

I don't think it is wrong, I did not teach my children these things either for two reasons one I was devistated as a child when I found out it was all a lie and then I wonderered what else they lied about, and secondly I wanted them to know that Jesus is real even though we can't see or touch him I was worried that they would believe he was a lie too after finding out the others where. I know it can be difficult when others look down on you for it, but just remember this you are the one held accountable to God for your children so it really doesn't matter what anyone but God thinks.


That is exactly what I was thinking before I got to this answer... I always tell myself and others that it will be ME who stands before God (Yahwey) and gives account for what I allowed or taught my children.



 



Not everyone understands nor will they ever but I know in my heart what is acceptable and what is not FOR ME because if our hearts do not condemn us.... Just remind yourself who it is who will be held accountable on that day for your actions or inaction and they also will be held accountable for giving you such a bad time. I hope that does not sound harsh because it is not meant to be... it is meant as encouragement... keep doing what is in your heart and pleases our Lord!!!!!

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Quoting Heather:

... If we lie about Santa, then how do they know that we are not lying about Jesus? ...


Preach it sister!



 



What is so magical about lying to your children for years when they are young impressionable trusting souls, then turning around and punishing them for lying to you when they are teenagers because they don't trust a thing you say?



My 4 year old niece believes anything I tell her because she trust me as an adult in her life. I will not betray that trust and lie to her about something so unimportant in the grand scheme of things.  It is not important for my son to believe in Santa, it is important for him to believe in Jesus.



I am going to have enough trouble conviencing my son and nieces that a VIRGIN gave birth to a baby, he grew up and walked on water, was commited to death during an unjust night trail, exacuted, only to resurrect 3 days later.  By the way he is not holding a grudge or anything he will forgive your sins and allow you to go to heaven and meet his father, who happends to be God.



The story of Christ sounds like a fairy tale by itself, so I cannot confuse the messge of believing in God and having faith in Christ by lying about bunnies laying eggs, fat men in red suits coming down chimenys, and faires stealing teeth.

Chrystal - posted on 11/28/2009

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I feel that when I learned that these were not real I questioned the belief in God as well because like these others he is not Physically there. I don't want to confuse my children in that way. Besides I feel it takes away from the true meaning of these holidays. We spend time talking about why that day is important. Yes he still gets gifts but after we celebrate Jesus's Birthday. He just knows who it's from. Anyways I think it's a choice you make as a parent.

Rebekah - posted on 11/28/2009

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I wasn't raised with believing in Santa Claus, the Easter bunny or the Toothfairy - and I will not teach my son about these things either. In fact my mother told my brother and I the REAL story of Santa Claus, she read it out of the encyclopedia. So, no, I do not believe it is wrong. And your kids aren't missing out on anything - I didn't miss out, my parents had their own traditions for these holidays and we had tons of fun celebrating Jesus! :)

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Quoting Jennifer:

I don't think it is wrong, I did not teach my children these things either for two reasons one I was devistated as a child when I found out it was all a lie and then I wonderered what else they lied about, and secondly I wanted them to know that Jesus is real even though we can't see or touch him I was worried that they would believe he was a lie too after finding out the others where. I know it can be difficult when others look down on you for it, but just remember this you are the one held accountable to God for your children so it really doesn't matter what anyone but God thinks.


I agree with this 100%!

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I don't think it is wrong, I did not teach my children these things either for two reasons one I was devistated as a child when I found out it was all a lie and then I wonderered what else they lied about, and secondly I wanted them to know that Jesus is real even though we can't see or touch him I was worried that they would believe he was a lie too after finding out the others where. I know it can be difficult when others look down on you for it, but just remember this you are the one held accountable to God for your children so it really doesn't matter what anyone but God thinks.

Maria - posted on 11/28/2009

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I will tell you this, this is your family that you and your husband has made don't let anyone tell you what you should or should not do you do what ever is best for your family. I was raised believing that there was a Santa and the rest of the nonfictional charters also. But the fact is when I reached about 5 I new that there was no way it could be true no I did not cry or anything I just would get up earlier and watch my parents get out the gifts that they claimed Santa was bring. I finally got caught around the age of 8. I believe my parents where hurt but I wasn't. I was just happy to know that they would go through so much to please me. I learned that some children take it so hard when they found out that these nonfictional charters exists. So what I am telling you is you and your husband to what you think is right by you two.

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We believe in Jesus Christ and attend church every week. However I love Chrisrmas and don't wish to deprive my daughter of the spirit and joy of Santa. She knows about Jesus' birth. I plan to tell her about Santa as soon as she is ready. When she asks about Santa, we talk about the story of Santa. The age seems to be different for all kids. I will explain though Santa isn't real, we can believe in the spirit of Santa and not spoil the joy for younger kids.
Traci

Alicia - posted on 11/27/2009

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No,I told my kids when they were 3 years old and my Family Got Mad at me Put these are my kids Not theirs. So you did right.

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It is true that we should not judge one another but in my opinion I was raised to know both ways. But I raise my children to understand that you and everyone else are not raised the same therefore things are celebrated differently by all people. I tell them that what is in the Bible is TRUTH and it does not change EVER. If God says do it then we do it and if He says NO then we don't make any changes to Gods word. Sometimes life is not fair but Jesus's Death was not fair either. What if He would have made different choices ? Where would we be?

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I plan on telling my daughter about such characters, but making sure she understands that they are not real and are only stories for fun.

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For us it is finding a balance between what we believe and the world that we live in while in no way watering down our faith. So we have always told the kids the truth but we play Santa and the tooth fairy as a game (the easter bunny annoys me, but in Australia we eat rabbits anyway!). They know we eat the biscuit and drink the milk for Santa and that we leave the money from the tooth fairy but they love the make believe of the game. Childhood is sooo short and make believe is so much fun. So we believe in Christ in Christmas and love the stories of Saint Nickolas and being generous at christmas but still also love to play the game. Kids are not silly, they know the difference between a game and what is real.

Magnolia - posted on 11/26/2009

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I love the excitement of the holidays with my girls. They know what is real and what is not. We've told them that we (me and my husband) are their Santas, that there couldn't possibly be an Easter bunny bringing eggs because bunnies don't lay eggs. They even know that Halloween resulted because of All Saints Day and that there is no tooth fairy sneaking around their rooms at night while they sleep (we just give give them a flat two bucks per tooth - it's hilarious because they are continually wiggling teeth to see if they can cash in). The thing is...they still love to sing "Santa Claus Is Coming To Town" (Jackson 5 version), get Easter baskets and go on egg hunts, and receive way too much candy at Halloween (whether we "Trick or Treat" around the neighborhood or "Trunk or Treat" at the church) The point is, they are well-grounded in the Word of God. For example...when I burnt my hand today on the oven rack while preparing Thanksgiving dinner, my 5 year old took my hand and prayed for my healing. She didn't ask Santa or the Easter bunny or the Tooth Fairy for that healing. She called on the name of Jesus. That lets me know right there that they know Who is real and who is not. Remember: Your kids may still grow up and want to participate in those fictitious holiday activities...be it with their friends as teenagers or in their own homes when they are adults. Just make sure that they know the difference between what is Real and what is not as they are growing up...no secrets. They need to learn the truth from YOU, not the world, so when someone else approaches them with it, they can declare the truth that you have taught them...and believe me, they will.

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No it isn't wrong...but they will have to deal in the real world with these issues. You can teach them that this is the world's way of getting people to buy into products and spend money unnecessarily. Teach the meaning behind the character just like one does with Halloween and other holidays one celebrates.

Teicha - posted on 11/25/2009

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We have always made Jesus the center of our Easter and Christmas celebrations. We have been asked if we are taking the "magic" out of the holidays by not including Santa and the Easter Bunny, but my girls are just as excited as I was as a child to see what is under the tree and what is in their baskets. Our celebrations mainly include concerts in different churches and volunteering activities in different organizations and we still take pictures with Santa. The difference is that my girls know that he doesn't bring gifts to our home. The gifts are from those that love us as God loved the World.

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