Just a question about being a Christian

Yvonda - posted on 01/02/2010 ( 137 moms have responded )

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I am 36 years old and have been married since I was 20..I have always known that my family has Christian beliefs, but I have never really gone to church for any amount of time, I know this is something I need and want to do, but I guess what I'm trying to ask is, How does a person get close to God, how do I pick a church that is for me? We don't have a lot of money, and some of the churches I have been to and seen in our city look a little fancy, so do I try to make myself fit in? I know this probably seem like childish or even ignorant question, but I'd still like any advise please

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Kelley - posted on 01/02/2010

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Ok, I might get wordy but hang in there with me.
I was raised a traditional christian (as far as Jesus- son of God- died on the cross etc.) but really that summed up Christianity for me.)
My husband when I met him, knew Christ. I, on the other hand knew Bible, (Lutheran catacism for 2yrs. etc). Can you guess who the real deal was??? It was Todd (my husband). it fustrated me, because even though I had bible knowledge he had a relationship with Jesus, My husband had faith!
It wasn't until a couple years later when I went forward on a Wednesday night service and I got on my knees at that alter and confessed my own sins and that I believed Jesus is God's only begotten son, born of a virgin, he died on the cross to pay for my sins, raised from the dead, and then I asked HIM to come into my heart, to be my Lord and I received Him as my Saviour. Atfer this I was hungry for God, not just the pretty sunsets and the givver of things asked for but the God of Moses the one who parted the Red Sea, Jesus the opener of blind eyes, the real Deal! So I got the Bible on tape (no CD's at that time) and listened to it while I was working. Then and only then did My God- 'The God of Abraham, Issac and Jacob, -My savior JESUS' show me the wonder of HIS word. this is because when I accepted Jesus and Lord and Saviour the the the Holy Spirit came in my heart, and opened my eyes- spiritually. In the new testament Jesus said that only the Holy spirit reveals certain truths to us...(I'll send the bible ref. later)

this next part is VERY IMPORTANT *
1st step - have you accepted Jesus Christ as your personal lord and saviour? Or are you looking for religion?

I'll send more in a few moments....I gotta' go put dinner on the table :)

Victoria - posted on 01/02/2010

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The right church will make you feel at home & comfortable, it's teaching will line up with the scriptures and be at least somewhat challenging to you, so that you will grow. But even while you start your search for a Church get into the word of God, get a bible, the NIV, NTL, Message or Amplified translations are all the good & easier to understand than the KJV. Getting into the word will bring you closer to God as He is a God of His word. Also start up an open dialog with God through prayer & praise, it's always good to start to pray & praise through the scriptures and as you develop your prayer and praise life it will just start to flow from your heart anyway.

You'll be in my prayers. If you open to God, He will lead you.

Donna - posted on 01/02/2010

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There are many churches you can attend. Find a church you feel welcomed and make it a place where you feel you can grow in your relationship with God. Also grab a bible and a christian book about having a real relationship with God(try a christian book store). Remember you dont have to go to church to start a relationship with God. God is everywhere. Pray read your bible that is a great start and yes find a church you feel comfortable in. I'll pray for you that God will be very near to you.God will bless your family in a real way. Love and Prayers to you all.

Holly - posted on 01/15/2010

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The best way to find guidance is to ask God himself! Do this by making sure you spend time with Him every day - how better to get to know Him and His will for your life? Like any other relationship where you want to get to know the other person, you have to spend quality time with God! Begin to pray that He will open and close doors, make it clear where He wants you! He'll bless you immensely for following Him and even for spending time with Him! You'll begin to notice His promptings in your every day life, it's amazing! You'll probably even be able to see where He's led you in the past, even when you weren't asking for help, even when you weren't really deserving of His guidance. He's been there for you and has led you to this point! I pray you'll spend time with Him every day and learn to listen to His still small voice - He'll never lead you wrong!

KIMBERLY - posted on 01/13/2010

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No question is ignorant if you don't know the answer. I can only tell you from personal experience and I am sure you will get all kinds of answers. Weigh them out and pray about each one and let God guide you. For me, the best way to get close to God was for me to spend time in prayer above all. I had to learn how to pray in a way in which I could also get quiet so that I could hear what He has to say, and sometimes, more often than not, that takes time and diligence. I also don't like to call myself a Christian per say as there are so many stereo-types associated with that. I like to say, "I am a believer in Jesus, the Christ." To pick a church I found that the best way is to make sure they minister the good news of the gospel...afterall, that is what Jesus said to do. It is a good fit if you feel loved, safe, comfortable and you are being fed spiritually. This may take several trips to many different churches until you find the one that when you are there, you just know it is the one. Another thing is to read the Psalms. This will give you great insight into who God is, as well as what He wants for you. As a beginning believer :) to read all the other stuff without understanding of the scriptures might become overwhelming and confusing. I am by no means saying do not read the Word of God (bible) but be ready to be asking God a lot of questions...I mean, the bible is the blueprint for us to go by, and we must read it, but I feel that at times to just be you and God is the best avenue to get to know Him. Another thing is that as you begin to hear Him, test that spirit as you want to make sure it is Him you are communing with and not other spirit world. To do this, if it lines up with the bible, and is love, then you are in tune with Him. The enemy is the exact opposite of God and will try to trip you up with the word of God but changed in even the smallest of ways. Trust your instincts and the love you feel when you are communing with Him...Good luck and I look forward to hearing about your beautiful journey. Just remember, He is all about love.

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Toni - posted on 04/30/2011

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First of all, PRAY and ask God to guide you. Next, read your Bible, starting in the book of Psalms. There is SO much in the Psalms that help us know & respect God better and understand that He knows & understands us. Continue reading your Bible often and go ahead & visit some churches. Many are informal these days, if that helps you feel less "conspicuous." Also, compare what they teach to what the Bible says & do your best to choose a church that has people who actively & willingly serve God and also do their best to follow God's word (the Bible) instead of picking & choosing what parts they will accept... God will honor your efforts & draw you closer to Himself through Jesus. :-)

Rachelle - posted on 01/22/2010

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you can get close to God without gooing to church. but if going to church is something you want to do then you need to try a few churches and the one you feel most comfortable at is the one you should go to. be careful of a church that is more concerned with how much money you give them than welcoming you. hope this helps.

Tammy - posted on 01/22/2010

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I think you should start reading the new testment. The Bible is how God talks to us. He loves all and doesn't judge. His Grace is so wonderful. Hope you find it soon.

Elda (Ellie) - posted on 01/21/2010

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First things first, Have you prayed and accepted Him as your L-rd and Savior? Have you given your life to Him? If so He will lead you to the church family He wants you in. If not, then that will be your first step and if you are not sure how, there are thousands of people on here who would joyfully tell you how.

Shalaina - posted on 01/18/2010

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I'm glad you posted this question. We have moved and I always think about finding a new church but am intimidated also. I think it is time to take the plunge. I wish you luck on finding a new church! Stay strong, we will find one that is like home to us! God Bless!

Brenda - posted on 01/15/2010

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There are a lot of good answers for church so I'll not go there. As far as a relationship with God is concerned, ask Him. Be open. Read a bible. I didn't see the NCV mentioned. It's the one I can understand. Get involved in small groups. If you see someone that has what you want, ask them to help you get it. They may go to a women's bible study. I do. The old saying goes (Just do it) I'll pray for you to get what you need.

JANE - posted on 01/14/2010

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God is present among you always,trust in Him to lead you to the church that His Holy Spirit guides you to. Spending time within God 's Word is the best way. I always start my day off with asking the Lord to lead the way.God is the only one that you need to fit into.Pray about the church and He will tell you,when I hear His voice I always ask if it comes in the name of the Lord. Satan can not lie in the name of the Lord. As far as money goes, God says to test His word about tithing.( MALACHI 3:6-10) GODS WORD NEVER CHANGES.Believe me He doesn't need your money, But He does want your obedience.I believe that you are asking for advice,because God is calling you to fellowship with other brothers and sisters in Christ. God puts people in our lives for many reasons(never to bring us down) BUT TO LIFT US UP!!!! I PRAY THAT YOU FIND WHAT YOUR HEART IS SEARCHING FOR,LET THE HOLY SPIRIT GUIDE YOU. GOD BLESS!!!

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finding a good church where you feel at home is one of the hardest things to find unfortunately. It should be easier. I am lucky to attend the most amazing church I have ever seen! I am not you "typical" looking christian mom, I have alot of tattoos and dress a little punky, so most churches I have gone to I have instantly felt judged and outcast. The pastor of my church knows alot of people across the country, maybe he would have a suggestion for you? Our churches website is www.thepursuit.org Good luck and God bless!

Elizabeth - posted on 01/13/2010

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It is important to go to church...I notice a difference in my marriage when we have missed a few weeks or so because we are a tad more testy towards each other. My husband and I moved to Florida a few years ago and it was the first time we had to actually find a church together. We started by looking on-line and just started going to churches in our area. We went to 3 and made sure we went more than once and kept going to our current church because of the way we felt there. We still do not really know anyone there, but we love the pastor and the worship. That's how we knew this was a fit. Also I have been a part of many different churches and hte ones worth attending will not judge you. My pastor now said on the first Sunday we were there that this is a church for everybody. They do not care if you are a single teenage mother, drug addict, have tattoos everywhere or anything. That we are here to teach you about Jesus. And I LOVE that because some other churches care about what you wear or do not wear. If a church is any good then it does not matter how much money you have or do not have they will accept you for being Gods Child. There will always be people who are not as accepting you just have to look for the ones who are because we are there! Following Jesus's example and loving everyone for who God made them.

Synetta - posted on 01/11/2010

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you have to seek God for your self!and even though the church look fancy does not mean anything just try a few churches feel the vibes of the people ask the Lord to help you find a church home he will help u

JANE - posted on 01/11/2010

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Quoting Celicia:

Just like a book, try not to judge a church by it's cover. I've learned that there are some really "fancy" churches that are that way, not because of money, but because the Holy Spirit is ever present in that church so God has multiplied it's blessings. It might be overwhelming, but a church that is filled with the Holy Spirit will make you feel at home. No matter where you go, there will be hypocrites and some people will judge you, but just try to remember that you are there for God and no one else. Try working on your relationship with God by praying everyday and reading the Bible. Only you and God know where your faith is, but I have learned that those that have Christian beliefs don't necessarily have a relationship with Jesus. The only way to fix that is to make a relationship with Him. He hears all you say and all you think, so talk to Him. Read the love letter He created for us (the Bible)! Don't just read it, study it. Breathe it and love it. There are many people in this world that are not allowed to go to church but they have stronger relationships with God and the majority of "Christians" in America because they will sacrifice everything to get their hands on the Bible just to memorize as much as they can. So, don't be so stuck on the church aspect, that will come in time and you do need it to get education from someone that has a firmer understanding on the Bible, but it is NOT a requirement to having a relationship with Jesus. Pray about it and trust in God to point you in the right direction. Do some research on the internet. That's how I found the church I'm going to be attending for the first time. They have their mission statement posted and they are strictly a Bible church, so I know what the expect before I walk in the door. God bless!!!


Very well said, I know that the Lord is smiling right at this moment for those very words that were spoken. God Bless, Praise and Glory to our Lord and savior Jesus Christ.

Anita - posted on 01/10/2010

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First of all my name is Anita and I want to say how you get close to god is ::: hearing and reading Gods word... EVERYDAY..if we dont focus on it we cant grow... I always put a praise and worship tape in and pray before I read my bible.. I love listen to praise and worship music.. you need to pray for god to show you where he wants you to go to church at..he will .. but I want you to know I go to an assembly of god church and it is a big one close to 500 or more every week.. but we wear blue jeans and some dress up (ITDOES NOT MATTER WHAT YOU WEAR .. GOD LOOKS ON THE INSIDE NOT ON THE OUTSIDE)and the more I get involved the more you feel like that big church is like a small church.. and everyone is close to each other..you have to go to church and say I am going to give it one month and get involved... and by the end of that month you will know if that is where god wants you at... but get involved.. dont let the outside of a church fool you .. how big it is ...

well I hope this has helped you .. if you need to talk just email me .. have a blessed day in the lord..

Erica - posted on 01/09/2010

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It's not ignorant at all. Well you should desire a church setting where the Holy Spirit is present....do you have a prayer life with God? If not you can always go down in prayer and ask him to lead you to a church where you can get your spiritual blessing...every house is different. God want you just as you are, please don't get intimadated by people when you go we all need help from the Lord. When it's time for you to join a group of people you will know, but for now just take your time and trust in God to lead you to the right place for your blessing.

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hi there yvonda

I am a born-again Christian and have been since I was 19. I have two little girls aged 3 and 17 months.

To answer your question, it is important to find a church where you fit in. I suggest church hopping for a few Sundays till you feel you can find one where you feel comfortable. Most importantly however its not about the money or the people per say but whether they are preaching from the Bible - the Word of God. You could feel most comfortable in many places but unless they are challenging you to broaden your faith and get closer to the Lord then you could ask yourself what's the point. Lastly whilst having a home church is important it is more paramount that you have a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, where you accept him as your personal Lord and Saviour and live for Him. Hope this helps a little......?

Maggie - posted on 01/09/2010

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You just visit churches until you find one that is a good fit for you. A true church (instead of people just "playing" church) will accept you for who you are -- it won't matter if you don't dress fancy, etc. As far as getting close to God, you have to spend time in the Bible. Churches can help with that, but you kind of have a "man in the middle" when you try to reach God through the church alone. God is a personal God and wants us to approach him individually. We can have a very intimate relationship with him, which is a wonderful thing!

Jess - posted on 01/08/2010

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That is a great question. The answer is go to the church that you feel most comfortable at..no matter what the financial standing is of the other parishoner (sp). You will not know how the church of people are until you spend some time there. I have been to many churches just one time because I did not feel at ease there. You are still attending church and working to find a good fit for you family at the same time.

Jennifer - posted on 01/08/2010

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Personally I found it very helpful to "fit in" with a women's biblestudy. I go to a nondenominational one that happens to be at my church. We have free childcare and the women there are so down to earth, I have learned more about Christ in the past 4 years with them than at any other time in my life. Maybe finding a bible study would be a good move for you too.

Doris - posted on 01/08/2010

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Praise God for you and your honesty! The Word of God (Matthew 19:13-14) speaks of the little children. God wants us to come unto Him with a child-like heart. Children are teachable so do not think that your question is childish. You have had some wonderful responses to your question and I truly pray that you find the church that you are seeking, but search with a pure heart. Your question along has opened up the ear of God to hear your cry. You mentioned that your family have Christian beliefs, but you did not say whether or not you are saved. If not, receive Christ as your personal Saviour by simple reading Romans 10:9, then repent of your sins and ask God to come into your heart.



If you are saved and just need to be reinforced with your beliefs, begin to read daily and pray often. I work with a group of young women in my church and the bible that seems to work for their understanding is Nelson Study Bible. As for the church, ask God to lead you to where He would have you and your family become members. Stay focused on God and not on the people (or the preacher), but be sure the Preacher is preaching and teaching from the Bible. The Holy Spirit is your guide and will always let you know when it "does not feel right or sound according to the scriptures. Prayers to you and your family.

Margie - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hello Yvonda and may God bless you. Those are some very good and valid questions, but I have one very important question for you: Have you received Jesus as your Savior? Going to church doesn't make one a Christian. Following Christ is what makes a Christian, acknowledging Jesus as God the Son, believing that He was born from a woman, believing that He died on the cross without ever commiting a sin, yet bearing the weight of our sins, believing that He rose from the dead on the third day so that you and I could also rise up from our sin and be saved. That makes one a Christian. After all that, you go on a search for a church that preaches the Truth, not a watered down version designed to keep you as a member so they don't lose your tithes and offerings. Even if you have to visit dozens of churches, do what you have to do to find one that will witness to your spirit. I'll leave it at this and if you need more, you can contact me either here or on facebook. I'll be praying for you that God will open a door to a church that you will KNOW is the right one for you. God bless you and keep you.



In Christ,

Margie Morales

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The most important thing is having a relationship with jesus. praying and reading the bible and listening to praise and worship songs are how i get closer with Him. and doing these things even when it doesnt "feel" like He is there makes all the difference. Finding a church can be very overwhelming! but i know for me I just prayed about it until i was somewhere where i felt i was supposed to be. It was like the Lord was leading me there. Maybe it will be in a form of the church needing help in a certain area like sunday school teaching or the choir that calls to you or maybe it is just someone that you meet or the sermon that you hear. But i know without a doubt that if you spend time with him wether in the car or at home or right when you first wake up or whenever you can, He will lead you to the church he wants you to go to!!

Might i suggest one with a womens bible study where you can relate to others and where other women might have had the same experience that you are going through and might be able to help.

Ann - posted on 01/08/2010

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I'm 36 too! I think that rich or poor if they teach from scripture, follow the two greatest commandments ( you can sometimes tell by how surfacy they are) then... you've found you're church home! I know, sounds easier than it is. I'm looking for something closer to my home.

Belinda - posted on 01/08/2010

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You can call the churches and check out what their beliefs are and if they preach from the bible. If you are serious about seeking God, he will lead you where you need to be. Find a church that teaches from a King James Bible and is not afraid to preach on sin. If you feel stepped on, beat up, and made out to be bad person, in other words, if you feel a conviction, you most likely are where God wants you to be.Don't be afraid, because God is beating up on all of us because he loves us. Don't try to make yourself fit in, it will come naturally! Good Luck and God Bless You and Your Family.

Chrissy - posted on 01/08/2010

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find a church that feels like home they are out there feel welcomed, and comfortable it dosen't matter what you wear and if they care then it isn't the place to be you will know when you are at the right one it will feel right.

Lydia - posted on 01/08/2010

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Hey there

I speak from experience and I hope this will be of help. I am a christian ever since I was born into our family. In my christian walk with God It has been an experience of a life time... Being close to God is not about spending or camping in or around church!!! It is a personal experience. I believe you need to talk to Him spend time reading the Bible, its the same as trying to getting to know who I am or anyone else. Ask God to fill you with His Spirit so that He may guide you to the right church that is spirit filled. They will fellowship with you and help you grow in your walk with God. The catch here is for you to ask Him to be in your heart and build that relationship... the church won't do it for you ... hope I am making sense... take care!

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God will always show you who your shepard is for your shepard will show u destiny in your faith.

Robertine - posted on 01/07/2010

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It sounds like you are searching for the Lord. Pray and ask the Lord for guidance. The Lord says in HIS word to acknowledge HIM in all yours and He will direct your path. YOu want to be in a church that preaches the truth. You don't want to be deceived in any way. Come to God as you are. The Lord is not looking at how much money that you have or don't have. He's pulling on the reigns of your heart.

Here are some scriptures that will lead you on the right path. St. John 3:1-21, Acts 2:1-41. These are scriptures that lead to salvation. The Lord loves you very much. It is not HIS will that any perish. He died for your sins and He has a plan for your life. I ask that you read these scriptures and please pray. The Lord sees your heart.

Sharon - posted on 01/07/2010

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First of all, you pick a church that feels comfortable for you and your family...there is no right or wrong answer other than, knowing that they really and truly preach the word of God and not legalisms. You will know, when you find the right church! Your whole family will know when you feel good about going there! Your "conscience" also known as God...will let you know.



To answer your second question about getting close to God can be done without going to church. This is your personal relationship with him and how you grow with him by reading the word. Church is helpful, don't get me wrong...Church is a building of people that will help you learn about what the word means. They will teach you by example and by explanation. For some it takes a long time to feel that you are getting closer but just as any human relationship, the more you put into it, the more you will get out of it.



Money shouldn't be an issue, if you feel that those churches are putting too much emphasis on titheing or appearances, than it probably isn't the church for you. They shouldn't care about your money but rather they should care about you and your salvation. Making yourself fit into someone's "mold" is not a place you want to call your church home.



There are no ignorant questions. Just remember, God loves you for all that you are and you aren't! That is how the people of the church shoudl receive you as well!



God Bless You and enjoy your walk with Christ!

Rachelle - posted on 01/07/2010

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Pray about it and God will certainly lead you to the right place! He has always done so for me and each time I asked God for guidance about where to go, things completely fell into place, and usually quickly. He already knows where you need to be, what the desires of your heart are, and He loves you and wants to bless you in whichever church you are led to. Getting plugged in is so vital in your walk with Christ.....He is all about building relationships with one another and getting connected to a body to build unity. You learn so much from other individuals who have the same beliefs and faith as you do. This way you can grow into what God has planned for you!

Kris - posted on 01/07/2010

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as for trying to "fit in" at a fancy church (if you choose on eof the fancy ones) remember that the only opinion that matters is God's! he doesn't care what you wear, just the condition of your heart :)

Cindy - posted on 01/07/2010

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Hello Yvonda, nice name by the way, very unique in my eyes. My name is Cindy and I too am a Christian. I have given my life to God and accepted Jesus as my LOrd and saviour since the age of 8, I am now 33 years old. To briefly answer your question I will firstly say that I've learned many things from God through my trials and tribulations which we all have. Downfalls in life help people run to God for help and direction etc. This is God's purpose that we lead on him and not our own understandings.



The purpose of church is to become educated, spiritually with the word of God so u will gain a border understanding of where our father's heart resides, what he thinks, feels, his likes and dislikes etc. This will get us closer to him and it will show us what our purpose of life is...as for finding a church you and ur family must pray about it. When you do God will reveal to you, husband or children what church will spiritually feed and give u the true knowledge of Christ. Ask for God's wisdom and he will give it to u freely. Please never worry about what u where as long as you do not dressed provocatively show honor to God of course and do not cause anyone to stumble by wearing tight clothes and such. However if this is all u have u come as u r of course and God will work it all out for you. God wants ur heart he doesnt care what u wear as long as your heart is right in HIm.



Pray, fast, read the bible...communication with God is key. And loving HIm first then ur neighbor as youself will help u become a become Christian everyday.



God bless you and I hope I helped. Please do not hesitate to ask any other questions if you have any.



BTW my church is www.hopecenterarts.com check it out if you like

Clare - posted on 01/07/2010

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The Bible says 'For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes on Him should not perish but have ever lasting life'-John 3:16. The only way we can know God is by trusting in His Son Jesus, trusting that He came to earth to die on the cross to pay the debt of our sin, to save us from having to pay the debt ourselves (hell) and instead be able to go to Heaven to be with Him. We could never pay the debt ourselves, even with good works or living a 'good' life because the Bible says that 'All have sinned and come short' Romans 3:23. If you trust that Jesus died for YOU, to pay YOUR sin debt and sincerely regret and ask forgiveness for those sins then the Bible says that 'If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness' 1John 1:19. Once you have done this the Bible tells us in Corinthians 5:17 that we are now 'New Creations' and the 'old things will pass away and all things will become new'.How exciting! The Lord will lead you to the church he would have you go to. If you find a church that believes and teaches the above, you wont go far wrong and God will bless you for your faith in Him. I pray that you will come to know the Lord of heaven and earth as your own Saviour and Friend :)

Beth - posted on 01/07/2010

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there is no such thing as a 2 childish ? when it comes 2 God!Jesus tod us 2 come 2 him as lil' kids w/ childlike faith! if u have some christian friends in ur area that u know, ask them. otherwise, keep looking. the place God wants u 1feel like home 2encourage u 2 grow in ur walk w/ God 3encourages u + ur husband 2 grow closer in ur marriage 4has a way for ur kids 2 meet + learn from God's word w/ others their age.

Charlotte - posted on 01/07/2010

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You are seeking, and that's what God wants, honest seekers. Tell Him you know you are a sinner, but you accept Jesus' sacrifice on your behalf. Ask Him into your heart and life. You can ask God for anything, no matter how small. Try to get a Bible and when looking for a church, see if it follows what the Bible really teaches.

Evelyn - posted on 01/07/2010

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One good way to get to know God is to talk to Him, everyday and in every circumstance, you don't have to have your hands folded and eyes closed to do it. Read His Word and ask Him to reveal it to you. Ask that real (cause there are alot of wolves in sheeps clothing out there) Christians be brought into your life to encourage you and to help you.
Thats a star anyway, all the best to you and your family
Evelyn

Britney - posted on 01/07/2010

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You get close to God by studying his word and being around christians and attending services and Bible studies and through prayer. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. James 4:8. Where do you live? The church in the Bible is the Church of Christ and I am sure there is one near you I can locate for you. What city & state do you live in?

Gianna - posted on 01/07/2010

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Ok to start off money is the last thing you need to go to a church! my church has over 6000 people attend every sunday yet you've got people rich n poor there. Finding a church isnt like finding a job, you ask around if you'd like and see what others say about a church, but truthfullly the best way is to walk into one for a service and see if its your thing. My church is great for introducing new people to christ unlike some churchs who freak non believers or just new followers. You don't need a church to get close with God, but it certainly helps. I've benn attending church since a baby and recently have not gone due to a busy life which is no excuse, but i will say going does make all the difference. if you are ever in the area here are two churchs i HIGHLY recommend..... Phoenix 1st assembly of God in Phoenix, Az and Radiant Church in Surprise, Az. Those are both very big churchs which most people like, but there is a small chuch in Wickenburg, Az that is also a very nice one. Hope you are able to find one you like and allow the Lord to show you all the amazing stuff he has to offer you, biggest thing....... his love for you! God Bless!

Tasha - posted on 01/07/2010

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Me and my family go from church to church until we find one we're comfortable in. One where we don't have to make ourselves fit in or feel like we have to fit in. It may take awhile to find you a church that you just feel like you fit but you will find one eventually. But you also don't need to go to church to become closer to God. Church is to hear his word. You can hear his word from home by reading the Bible. And only you can allow yourself to come closer to God. You just pray for God to come into your heart, to open your mind and your eyes, and you will see a big difference. I will pray for you. :)

Renee - posted on 01/07/2010

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This is something u should pray about God will direct u to the church he wants u to go to.

Dominee - posted on 01/07/2010

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Going to church is a great experience in being part of the corporate body of the church itself. Don't forget though it's also just as important to spend time reading your bible and letting God reveal himself and his design in your life through it, having your own solitude of praise and worship, and of course prayer time. When you go into the church just come as you are and trust your feelings to see if this is the right atmosphere for you. I believe it's all about your comfort level for your dress. I reccomend trying a non-denominational christian church to start off, as they are biblical based teachings without segregating into a type of Christianinty. See if the church offers home groups, Women's groups, Single Mom's, Married Couples Support Group or whatever you area of needs you might also have. I find that if people don't get connected with others inside the church and make connections they can feel disconnected still.

Dana - posted on 01/07/2010

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My response would be to find a church that is non-denominational for now. That way you are getting to know God, but don't need to get to know the religion. We attend a church that is Baptist, but I look at it more as a non-denominational. Jeans are preferred for you to wear. We hold our services in the auditorium of an old school. It is a wonderful church and I feel right at home. Before that we were practicing Catholics, but never really went to church or anything and I was okay with missing. Now, I don't like missing a single Sunday! Good luck to you. Remember, it is okay to 'church shop' till you find the one that is the best fit for you and your family.

Julie - posted on 01/07/2010

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Oops. The Vineyard website to find a Vineyard Christian church near you is www.vineyardusa.org

Julie - posted on 01/07/2010

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Good questions Yvonda - first pray, pray, pray. God will lead you where He wants to plant you. Second, find a good Bible based church. Try the Vineyard Church in Lexington. Their website is www.vineyardlex.com They will be a good solid church that doesn't have all the rules and rituals that tend to make "church" difficult. The Vineyard movement has been amazing throughout the years. You don't need a lot of money or fancy clothes to attend church. And if the church you attend makes you feel that way then it may not be the church for you. Many people start attending and will tell you they felt so at home. That is a real key.
Getting close to God is something we all who know Him desire. Draw me close, Father. Keep me close, Father. Going to church and getting involved in a ministry will help. Join a small group where you can have constant support and prayer. For women, a women's small group can beone of the biggest blessings in their lives. I did not hang around women growing up. I had two brothers close in age so I grew up a tomboy and frankly women were too "catty" and dramatic for me. When I became a Christian I met so many amazing sisters in Christ and I knew that I was missing out on a great blessing. I joined a small group and am now leading one. So many important things.
The first thing is to find a church you like and make the committment to attend regularly. God will lead you from there. Just trust in Him. I'll be praying for you.

April - posted on 01/07/2010

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If the church is a true Bible believing christian church than it won't matter how fancy you are. If that is there true attitude then I'd pick a different church but you'll probably be surprised to see how accepting they are. I'd give it a shot and be myself. A simple devotional would be a good idea if you choose to not attend church. Half.com has a very large selection and most are under $5.

Anne - posted on 01/07/2010

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I read alot of the comments and theyre Great! so youre on the right path ...I think your awesome...God does not show Favor to outward appearance at all in fact U prob Grab His attention more than they ever could..He looks for a pure Heart Hungry for Him His Word and His Truth :-) Come as your are I promise you'll never leave the same :-) I will be praying for U...and I by the way Love Fashion however I will roll in ashes and wear a sack for Christ if I had to...God loves a humble Heart...The Word of God Says to do not be comformed to this world But rather be Transformed>>>>so forget about fitting in Girl!!!!
It also says he who looses His life for Christs Sake Shall Find it...I pray God continue to enlighten your path as U walk into a wonderful relationship and NOT religion with a God who does not show favortism!!! God Bless...feel free to stop by anytime ;-)
~Anne

Nykole - posted on 01/06/2010

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I forgot.....It seems that everytime my husband and i tithe......ourmony concerns are taken care of :) But giving money is not required to grow closer to god.

Nykole - posted on 01/06/2010

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I have become closer to god through prayer. Church is something that helps me throughout the week through all the frustrating things that happen day to day. Go to a few churches, you will feel it when you are at the place that is right for you. Also, ask god throught prayer to put it on your heart. My church. I didnt necessarilly feel that i fit it i just felt thats where i needed to be and the more i went and became involved the more it seemed i fit in. Hope this helps :)

Karien - posted on 01/06/2010

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God look at your heart! If you are true He could make a way for you. To get close to God is the same as to get close to any person. Spend time with Him. Talk to Him as much as possible and get involved in a church / bible study group. Get good reading material and just get all into it. The Holy Spirit will do the rest. Before you know it, you are close to Him. A person is as close to God as he/she choose to be. Ask God daily to send someone on your path to take you to a local church close by. God Bless!

Melinda - posted on 01/06/2010

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Hey there,

It is obvious that God is working in your life since you are searching for a closer relationship with Him. That is awesome. My dad is a pastor, so I have grown up in a Christian home my entire life. The church has been "my life". But it has been so important for me to experience a relationship with Jesus for myself.

There is an awesome book that will help you SO MUCH! It is called Crazy Love by Francis Chan. Get it! Read it! It changed my life.

Also, there is a good church in your area called southland christian church. I have never been there, but I have heard good things about them.

God doesn't want your stuff, or your money. He just wants a close relationship with you. I will pray for you that you will grow close to Jesus and find His purpose for your life.

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