Just a question about being a Christian

Yvonda - posted on 01/02/2010 ( 137 moms have responded )

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I am 36 years old and have been married since I was 20..I have always known that my family has Christian beliefs, but I have never really gone to church for any amount of time, I know this is something I need and want to do, but I guess what I'm trying to ask is, How does a person get close to God, how do I pick a church that is for me? We don't have a lot of money, and some of the churches I have been to and seen in our city look a little fancy, so do I try to make myself fit in? I know this probably seem like childish or even ignorant question, but I'd still like any advise please

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Karien - posted on 01/06/2010

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God look at your heart! If you are true He could make a way for you. To get close to God is the same as to get close to any person. Spend time with Him. Talk to Him as much as possible and get involved in a church / bible study group. Get good reading material and just get all into it. The Holy Spirit will do the rest. Before you know it, you are close to Him. A person is as close to God as he/she choose to be. Ask God daily to send someone on your path to take you to a local church close by. God Bless!

Melinda - posted on 01/06/2010

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Hey there,

It is obvious that God is working in your life since you are searching for a closer relationship with Him. That is awesome. My dad is a pastor, so I have grown up in a Christian home my entire life. The church has been "my life". But it has been so important for me to experience a relationship with Jesus for myself.

There is an awesome book that will help you SO MUCH! It is called Crazy Love by Francis Chan. Get it! Read it! It changed my life.

Also, there is a good church in your area called southland christian church. I have never been there, but I have heard good things about them.

God doesn't want your stuff, or your money. He just wants a close relationship with you. I will pray for you that you will grow close to Jesus and find His purpose for your life.

Judi - posted on 01/06/2010

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You perhaps need to go shopping for a church.....sounds trite, I know, but when you go there and it feels like home, you have found the right church for you. It may take several visits to each church. Don't committ. Make it understood that you are loking for the place where God wants you to be. Pray and ask God to give you a clear sign that when you walk into the right building, you will know it. The church is really God's people. We all meet in God's house, but just in different rooms. When you find the right building, ask if they have a personal dicipleship programme, where one person or a couple will committ to walk with you and help you to learn more about God. Buildings where this happens, tend to be good churches becasue they connect with the people. As others have said, get a Bible. Don't just get the first one you find. Go to a Christian bookshop, explain that you want a Bible that will help you learn more and connect more with God. Preferably a modern version that uses language that you can understand clearly. Some of the spirit filled womens Bibles are good for that. They have little extras in them that expalin all sorts of stuff. Then get a study program to go with it. I don't know if you are in the USA or in Australia. Your local Christian bookstore will help you there. Get alone with God and ask him to reveal himself to you. That's what he wants. He wants you to seek Him with your heart, not your head. Ask God to give you the scriptures to match up to all your questions. He'a abig God, He can do that, no worries. No question is silly to God, It is when we stop talking to HIm, is when he really worries about us. never stop talking to HIm, even if you are angry and don't understand Him, talk to Him, becasue only He has all the answers. I once hear this........If you stand in your garage, does that automatically make you a car. NO. of course not. Just becasue your family are Christian or you were born in a Christian nation, it doesn't automatically make you a Christian. You need to invite Christ into your life. It is one simple decision you need to make to invite Him intoyour life and continue to walk with Him very day. Bless you.

Wendy - posted on 01/06/2010

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i agree with most people.. just search. you will find the one that fits you and your family. keep praying for that church family. God will answer.. :)

Amanda - posted on 01/06/2010

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you should be able to go to any church and feel at home. God will lead you to where you are supposed to be. just pray about it and he will guide you to where you are supposed to be. and i dont think you should have to make your self fit in. its not about "fitting in" its about "is this where God wants you? would this be pleasing to him?"

Lizetta - posted on 01/06/2010

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hello yvonda, No it doesn't sound childish I think most of us have felt that very same way. You shouldn't have to fit in. If you are not greeted by friendly christians than look elsewhere. unfortately there are some churches that gives christians a bad name.It's not just enough to hand shake and say glad to see you here. Us as christians need to befriend other new christians that come in. Get to know them yes even spend time with the. You'll get closer to God by praying throughout your day. reading scriptures and learning His word. Ask Him to help you make decission include Him in all things. And the money thing well there's alot of people who are feeling a little tight. There are ways that you can do things for your church that does not cost money. Get envolved with activites and chuirch, helps,cleaning,children bible classes. May the Lord bless you always liz

Teresa - posted on 01/06/2010

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Never worry about fitting in anywhere although we all feel a bit over welmed sometimes by the size of churches. God is inside of you and to reach out to him just pray. Prayer doesnt have to be big words that many of us dont understand, talk to him like you are having a conversation with a friend and then all will come naturally, and in prayer he will guide you the the church that he wants you to attend. Read the bible for about 15 mins a day and there is a little book calles Steps to Christ which will help. God Bless you and your family and may he always protect you.

Sharyn - posted on 01/06/2010

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Hi Yvonda,

Since the very beginning, God has desired a close personal relationship with us. Want to be close to him? All you have to do is admit that you can't do it without him. Ask him to forgive you for all the things you have done in your life that may not have pleased him. God loves us so much that he sacrificed his son, Jesus, to die on the cross for our sins. Thank Jesus for taking the punishment for your sins. When you do this, you will experience a peace that nothing else can give you. Having a personal relationship with God means that you can talk to him anytime, day or night, just as you would another person. God gave us the bible as a basic instruction manual for our lives. Find a bible and start reading the New Testament. I recommend the New Living Translation because it is easier to understand than the older King James. God loves you for who you are inside & out. You need to find a church that will accept you as a new believer. Will extend the love of Jesus to you. Will encourage you to grow in your faith and will pray with you and support you in your new Christian Life. I will be praying for you. Hope this helps you to grow closer to God. He's waiting for you with open arms.

Mabel - posted on 01/06/2010

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Just as someone else said dont judge a book / chruch by its cover I can tell you there is nothing fancy about our chruch everyone is very friendly , welcoming etc and come to find out everyone pretty much in the congregation is "well" off they just dont show it. My point is it doesnt matter what it looks like , what matters is that you feel at home. I also agree with the others, pray and open a bible and just start reading (no where in particular really) you can also go to www.biblegateway.com or http://www.intouch.org/site/c.cnKBIPNuEo... this is a site from Charles Stanley who is very respected in the christian community. - the main thing though is listen and you will hear God - he will guide you to where he wants you. You can also start asking some of your local friends if you could go with them to visit and see how you like it - I am not sure where you live but if you live in the Brandon Fl area you are more then welcome to meet us there as well. Good luck and will be praying for you

Valerie - posted on 01/06/2010

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First of all, there are no childish or ignorant questions when it comes to God. You say that your family has always had Christian beliefs. Have you accepted Christ into your heart? That is a very important step in growing in your relationship with God. Prayer and reading the Bible are also important. If you don't know where to start reading, pray and ask God where He wants you to start. He will lead you to the scripture that you are needing for that moment in your life. You might want to keep a journal of what you've read and what the scripture meant to you. If you don't understand what you are reading, ask God to help you and He will. I attend a church that is a "come as you are" church. The pastor calls it a "no tie zone." People stand outside the doors greeting you as you walk in. The music is amazing. The children's and teen programs are some of the best in our town. I always turn to prayer when I am not sure of anything. Ask our Heavenly Father for guidance in the church He wants you and your family to attend and He will lead the way. You should be able to feel God's love and presence the minute you walk into the church. You should be accepted and welcomed as you are. Hopefully, there are Bible study classes, volunteer opportunities, family events, etc., all things to surround yourself with other Christians. We need more mature Christians in our lives to help us grow, keep us strong and accountable. I'll be praying that you will find the church God wants you to attend and will start praying throughout the day and reading your Bible. Oh, there are also wonderful Christian web sites that can send you daily devotionals to help you get into the Word.

Amber - posted on 01/06/2010

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I have found a great church that is non-denominational. Pastor teaches only what the Bible says. The Bible can be a tricky book to understand; you don't know when to take something literally, or figuratively. He has helped my husband and me to make sense of it. However, the church that you decide is up to you. As far as the fancy churches, I have found that they can be a little more focused on the money, as opposed to really teaching you. (Just my opinion) If you would feel more focused on what you don't have and what everyone else does, attending a fancy church, then that certainly won't be the best place for you. Church is meant for fellowship and learning. The matter of getting close to God is a tricky matter to tackle. I have been a Christian for over half of my life; there are still moments when I feel distanced. That is when I pray. Being honest with God is paramount; He knows EXACTLY what is in your heart, and on your mind. Nothing you say to Him will surprise Him, disgust Him, or cause Him to love you any less. That is exactly what He wants from you....an open and honest relationship. Even if you talk to Him about the weather, sports, dishes...it doesn't matter. Be honest with Him in how you feel. While you are doing that, look in the phone book for churches in your area. That is what my hubby and I did; we found a wonderful church and have been attending for over 5 years now. Good luck to you Yvonda. I will be praying for you. Keep your chin up; it'll all work out. God Bless. :)

Heather - posted on 01/06/2010

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Quoting Jenna:

May i suggest tryin out an Assemblies of God church..I attended this type of church for a period of time and i really loved it (i need to go back). Assemblies of God churches are non-denominational, so you can be a baptist, methodist etc., and you are made welcome, Also Assemblies of God churches focus on worshiping in the spirti of the Lord at that moment..in other words if you want to raise up your hands and dance for your God..your are welcome and excouraged to do so! It is such a comfortable environment to be in this church. In our church, noone cares what you wear either. I often went in jeans and a nice top. God doesnt care what you look like or how much money you have...as long as you serve Him:) So i suggest you google an Assembly of God church in your area..and perhaps research what the Church is all about..i think you will be happy.


Assemblies of God is it's own denomination. I have been to several of these churches. My church back home in Iowa is Assemblies of God, but when I moved to Denver I tried two different Assemblies of God churches and both were horrible. One was small and totally a click. The other was huge and didn't allow time in between services for fellowship, they were pushing people out as quick as they could so there was room for the next crowd. One was totally wear what you want, jeans with holes and scruffy t-shirts, the other was 4-inch heals and mini skirts. What I'm trying to say here is that it isn't the name of the church, but the church itself. You can go to a church of any denomination and love it or hate it. It depends on the pastor and the people. The Assemblies of God I went to in Iowa was great, you could wear a dress or jeans or whatever you felt comfortable in. That is what the pastor wanted. However we did have an issue once with a lady in the congregation putting down the youth for wearing jeans, but as soon as the pastor found out he took care of it.

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Yvonda,

First of all please get you a bible and start by reading the Book of John. This a a blueprint for a new believer. As far as going to church, just try one to start out with. Ask the Lord to help you find a church that will be right for your family. Listen very closely to the Pastor and make sure he is following the word of God. That is why reading the Bible is so important. Have you asked Jesus into your heart and your life? If not pray and ask him for forgiveness. His word say "not one is rightous no not one" we all need his forgiveness. I hope this helps.

Connie C

Danielle - posted on 01/06/2010

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My husband and a I moved to Warner Robins, Ga a couple of years ago, and was to far away from our hometown to travel back and forth to our old church. Shortly after being here different people would ask me whether I attended church here, and would invite me to their church. After being invited to a couple of churches in the area we finally stumbled upon one that we felt was right us as a family. We knew it was right because felt so LOVED like we was already apart of their church family!!! We shortly joined and became apart of different ministries. Find one that you love and loves you back. We all are important in God's body!!!

Kim - posted on 01/06/2010

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Each of us wants a life that has meaning, direction, love, and peace. Having a personal relationship with Jesus makes this life possible. In your search for a church that is right for you, you must search youself first. You needs to know what your beliefs are and what you are willing to accept or not. Reading God's Word will help you greatly! In your spare time, read and study the Bible KJV/NLT. Contrary to what some people believe, God DO have requirements and commandants for His people. I say this because every church is set up differently. Yes, some go strictly by the Bible, but they still have their own rules as well. So, whatever your Christian beliefs are, then you will know which church is right for you. Also remember, there is NO perfect church, because we are not perfect. From the Pastor to the congregation, we are flawed "For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God", Romans 3:23 God bless you and your family!!

Veronica - posted on 01/06/2010

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The best statement about churches is that we are all just a bunch of sinners who have discovered our need of Christ. My family attends a church that is quite diverse in the economic area and most of them are just as down to earth as we are. Sometimes the people we think are "above" us are simply shy. How to chose a church? Start praying that God would lead you to a church that emphasize helping new christians grow. All God needs is an open and eager heart. BTW, there are no dumb questions. :-)

Andrea - posted on 01/06/2010

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I like the little churches myself. They are very welcoming and nobody gets lost in them.First off you need to pray to Him and ask Him into your heart. Then start reading you Bible, it contains all your answers in it. My prayers are with you.

Cooki - posted on 01/06/2010

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First thing I would do is pray about where God will lead you. Then keep your heart open for his answer. When the time is right and you are ready to choose that church, go to several. Are the sermons touching your heart, is the worship lifting you up, are the people welcoming? Also, are there small groups that have people your own age that meet, or is there a Mom's group you can join to connect with others?

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I think it's wonderful you have asked these questions! God knows your heart and He will open doors for your and your family. Pray for Him to lead you where he wants you and don't worry about your financial status. Any church that puts that much stock into how much money you can give is not a church you need to be at. My family attends a very small community church in the country, but you may be surprised at how warm and inviting many large churches can be. Give it to God and watch Him bless you! :-)

Alisha - posted on 01/06/2010

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A great question if I do say so myself! It can be intimidating finding a church that you feel comfortable in, but the only way you will know is if you try them out! For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life -John 3:16 For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. -Romans 3:23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. -Romans 6:23 That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. -Romans 10:9 It is wise to find a Bible teaching church that really captures the truth about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ; after all He is God in human form. Great encouragement to you and your family as you continue your spiritual quest! I'm not sure where you live but I love listening to VCY and KLOVE which are two Christian radio stations.

Nora - posted on 01/06/2010

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The only way to truly get close to God is between you and Him. It is wonderful that you want to find a church family, but until then, reading the Bible and just talking to God is a great way to build a relationship with Him. Try talking to Him like you're talking to a friend since that's exactly what He is. Another good way of getting closer is to find a contemorary Christian radio station to listen to. Nothing makes me feel better than listening to a good song! As far as picking a church, I have to say it moreso picks you. When you sit in a service and feel good when you leave, you've found your church. It needs to have everything your family needs, such as childcare if you have young children, couples sunday school classes, etc. But you will just know, I promise. Money should never be an issue when it comes to church. And you should never try to fit into anywhere. If it's right for you, you will feel completely comfortable being yourself. I hope this helps!

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You have to find a church where you feel comfortable. Try out different places until you find the one that fits. God does not care what you look like or how much money you have. Just focus on God and everything will fall into place. A relationship with God takes time just like any other relationship. Good luck and God Bless.

Melissa - posted on 01/06/2010

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The best way to get close to God is to spend one-on-one time with Him....just you and Him. Spend time in Prayer, Praise and Worship; pray about things that concern you, and then listen for His voice to guide you through those concerns.

Keep in mind.....a church is not a building. It's the congregation and Pastoral Staff that make up a church. I agree with Heather Hart....Google churches in your area....mainly "word of faith", or "Rhema" churches; they teach according to the Word of God, and will help you develop a strong relationship with God.

I will keep you in prayer, Sister!!

Amanda - posted on 01/06/2010

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Yvonda,

The way to get close to God is thru prayer. Prayer is very important with your relationship with God. Pray sincere. It's not about using big words or scriptures but its about the relationship. Talk to God as if he was your best friend. Ask him for help and have faith that he will provide. Your faith will grow stronger the closer your walk is with God. Visit churches and pick the one that is relevent in your life. Worship is very important and if you have children, childrens church is also important. Also ask your children what they think of the church. The last thing you want it to drag your kids out of bed for church. You want them dragging you out of bed. If you are not comfortbale in a fancy church , then pick a smaller church. It's all about what your family needs. There is not a wrong or right building. The church is the body of people and this is what matters.

Linda - posted on 01/06/2010

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Yvonda, You have made the first step toward becoming a Christian. Curiosity. All you need to do to get close to God is ask Jesus to come into your heart and save you. You can do that at home. I did. I knelt down beside my bed and prayed right there. God saved me and I was on my journey in the Christian life. Search for a Church that preaches the Gospel. That is: Jesus was born of a virgin - He died for our sins - He rose again and is sitting at the right hand of God interceding for us. You should not have to conform to fit in. You go to Church to worship the Lord. A good radio station to listen to is Moody Radio WGNR 97.9. where I am, or you can look it up on your pc to find the call letters and numbers in the area where you are. Will add you to my prayer list. God Bless!

Katherine (Kathy) - posted on 01/05/2010

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Quoting Yvonda :

Just a question about being a Christian

I am 36 years old and have been married since I was 20..I have always known that my family has Christian beliefs, but I have never really gone to church for any amount of time, I know this is something I need and want to do, but I guess what I'm trying to ask is, How does a person get close to God, how do I pick a church that is for me? We don't have a lot of money, and some of the churches I have been to and seen in our city look a little fancy, so do I try to make myself fit in? I know this probably seem like childish or even ignorant question, but I'd still like any advise please



Hi Yvonda, I am brand new to this circle of moms app.  I first thought this is probably not for me since my son is 36 years old and my daughter went home to be with the Lord when she was a baby.  But then I seen your question and the willingness to be so genuine in your new search in regards to Christianity.  My first thougth was in regards to your feeling a little childish in asking for this kind of advice.  But it is very necessary to come to the Lord as a Child.  I believe you are sincere in your search.  I want you to know the burden of finding the right church is not on you but we just ask from our heart with our mouth first for Jesus to come in to our heart and ask him to be your Lord and savior.  All of us have made mistakes and we must ask him to forgive us and he will.  His mercy endures forever.  Then ask him to guide and put you in the right path of the church and the pastor he has for you.  You start listening to him from your heart...you may visit some churches at first that you just don't have peace about or just don't feel that is the place for you...follow that leading and he will let you know when you are where you belong.  I will pray for God to reveal his Holy Word to you and teach you how to pray in a way you can expect results.  I will ask Him to open your understanding to understand his word and his ways and give you spiritual eyes and ears to hear and see with what the Holy Spirit is saying to you.  Your main focus should be on Him and developing a continual genuine relationship with him.  In return He has never left me down when I needed him and He is not a respecter of persons...if you follow him He will always be there for you.  Ask God to reveal his word to you and he will...his word is a mystery and it must be revealed to you...not interpreted by your own understanding.  I have been following my Lord for many years and it's been an adventure.  As you continue to seek him I believe you will truly be destined for greatness...he wants so much to bless you.  God blessyou in your journey.  Kathy

Cassie - posted on 01/05/2010

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I through college didn't really go to church as much as I should have. I was lucky in the fact that the town I lived and worked in has a huge Christian college. So my "church" came from standing on the cook line cooking food, discussing things about God. It could have been scripture or problems in the world and how we as Christians handle them. I have had bad experiances in my "home" church in the way of others judgeing myself, my family, and even the minister. I have since found a church where I am comfortable and they have showed me lots of love and support while my husband is in jail. I was unmarried, pregant with my twin boys, and living with my fiance when I started going there. They welcomed me with open arms. We ended up getting married there and the few people that attend have adopted us into there families. I feel that to have a strong realtionship with God, you just have to be open with Him. Talk to Him all day! I pray or praise off and on all day. My favorite prayer is 'Lord stay with my babies and let them know You are with them' (they are almost 1) Little things also bring a 'thank You Lord!' Like the smiles of my boys or the squirrels in my trees. Right now the trouble that my family is seeing, has brought me even closer to Him, and I thank Him for giving me the chance to get even closer. I listen to Christian radio, try to go to church, carry on Christian discussions with friends and family, try to read Bible verses, and I love the Daily Bread series. I also even though I'm 26 and my sons don't watch tv, LOVE Veggie Tales! My brother just got me a new dvd for Christmas! The most important thing is to have an open relationship with Him. Prayer isn't just for asking for things. God is a friend and you should talk to Him as such. It doesn't have to be in a church, at night before bed, or first thing in the morning. It can be while you're in the shower by simply saying 'thank You for the hot water and a warm place to sleep'. Many blessings for you and yours!

Margaret - posted on 01/05/2010

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A Christian is a person who believes in Jesus as the son of God. He is God incarnate (in the flesh) he was born of a virgin, died on the Cross and arose again after 3 days in the grave. If you believe this and Put your trust in him to save you from your sins, and trust in him to direct your life according to his will then you are a Christian. Finding a church is another thing. The major denominations have long gone away from the basic teachings of the faith and a lot of the other ones have gone overboard. You need to find a church where you feel welcome and at home, pray about this God will help you. Don't worry about having a lot of money that should not matter to the church or God. He will provide what you need when you need it. If you give a litttle you get a lot. If you give a lot then watch out you will get so much more it will over whelm you. Never for get where you get what you have. Good Luck and Pray about it.

Becky - posted on 01/05/2010

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Do you have any christian friends or aquaintences that you know are christians that you admire? You could ask them where they go to church and maybe go with them. Also, bible and prayer are important but so is joining in community. So, if you can join a bible study group or maybe find someone to meet with you and mentor you that is always a great help. Then you can process what you are learning with someone who is more experienced and who can help guide you in learning about God and a relationship with him and answer questions that you might have.

Jenna - posted on 01/05/2010

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May i suggest tryin out an Assemblies of God church..I attended this type of church for a period of time and i really loved it (i need to go back). Assemblies of God churches are non-denominational, so you can be a baptist, methodist etc., and you are made welcome, Also Assemblies of God churches focus on worshiping in the spirti of the Lord at that moment..in other words if you want to raise up your hands and dance for your God..your are welcome and excouraged to do so! It is such a comfortable environment to be in this church. In our church, noone cares what you wear either. I often went in jeans and a nice top. God doesnt care what you look like or how much money you have...as long as you serve Him:) So i suggest you google an Assembly of God church in your area..and perhaps research what the Church is all about..i think you will be happy.

Malissa - posted on 01/05/2010

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I've been there! It took a lot of patience and a willing and open heart. I prayed for guidance but then I was trying to figure everything out myself right away. I realized I wasn't putting it in the lords hands and pondering what was in front of me. Once I let go a little bit and opened my mind it just happened. I think there is a plan for each of us and sometimes going through struggles makes the reward all the more meaningful. Hope this helps! God bless!

Katie - posted on 01/05/2010

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And also - pray. That's a way to get closer to God - I personally believe it's the best way. God will direct you where you need to go and take care of you, but the first step is to talk to him, pray. You don't have to have a lot of money either. My husband and I tithe and we don't have much money, but we do what we can, and God knows that. That is no one elses' business - just you and God's. He's good, he'll take care of you.

Robyn - posted on 01/05/2010

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I think the most important thing about a church is that they teach the word of God. Next important is the fellowship there. For me, I couldn't go to a church where all they taught was programs and "pick me up and send me out" messages. Church is a place to be taught the Bible and to share your life with the people there. Make those things a priority and you will find a great church :) And just remember that the church is made up of imperfect people, so there will never be a perfect church!

Katie - posted on 01/05/2010

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Yvonda-



God just wants you in his house - it doesn't matter what you come dressed in or how "social" you are - church is about him and shame on people for putting politics into it. I think you need to find a church you are comfortable being you in - you won't be fooling anyone, not even yourself if you try and fit in. There is a church out there that will welcome you with open arms and love you for you - like God. That's the only church I'd want to be involved in and have been in my church my entire life. Just make a comfortable decision and take your time making it.

Jessica - posted on 01/05/2010

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the part about visiting churches is very true..but the part about one that lines up with your belief...no offense but you not being a borned again christian just yet changes all that...there may be things that you believe that arent nessesary true...i know i did before i became a christian...when he saves you all that will be totally different..but if you are looking for a church and you r not saved yet it makes it harder ...you should find a church as i have read in so many replies that teaches and preaches srictly from the word of god and not boch it up and make it sound good..did i make any sense or i have i offended you..dont mean to by the way just tryin to help you and be truthful about it and not sugar coat it

Jessica - posted on 01/05/2010

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Quoting Kim:

I am going to answer this without reading any of the other replies. My opinion - visit every church. Seriously, if you visit one, and don't quite feel comfortable, next week, visit the next one. And even if you felt right at home at the first one, visit the next one the following week. After services, visit with the people there, ask questions. You want to find a church whose beliefs are similar to yours, and sometimes that can take weeks, or months.
Keep in mind, giving an offering is something those who can, do. Tithing is only for members of a church ... not that you cannot tithe, you most certainly can, but it's generally "expected" from those who join a specific church as a member.
I was baptised Methodist, but was raised in Assembly of God churches ... I feel comfortable in either as I have mostly attended Methodist churches since I became an adult. I have raised my children in Methodist church because that is where I feel most comfortable - not necessarily with the people ... that's the easy part ... but with the views and beliefs of the religion itself. Personally, I do not follow any one religion. I am spiritual, I believe in God and I pray to Him and seek guidance from Him. I haven't been to church in a few years - personal issues - but I have never stopped having my talks with God. The building, the religion, won't bring you closer to God. Talk to Him, pray to Him, praise Him, make Him a part of your daily life and that will bring you closer. A church provides fellowship - for many it is a part of religion they need. Read your Bible, give yourself to God and do your best to be your best. I haven't attended church, but I have not left God, nor has He left me.
I hope this helps ... and remember, this was my experience, my opinion.


 

Jessica - posted on 01/05/2010

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im glad to hear that you want to take this step of faith now the next step is doing it....first of all you nedd to ask jesus to come in to your heart and life as your personal savior.next..visit several churches you dont have to pick the 1st one you come to when you find a church that does not make you feel out of place that accepts you for who you are and not how much money you have. no this is not a childish question and you should not be afraid to ask anyone for advice...especialour familyy in this situation its a good thing. you said your fanily were all christians talk to some of them not only will it help you gain the advice you need but it will stregthen that relationship with yp

Victoria - posted on 01/05/2010

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I was thinking about this today. And I did just read something that kinda lines up with what I was thinking. Just like a book, don't judge a church by it's cover. Just because it looks fancy or the the people where fancy clothes, it's not about the outside it's about the inside. Our Church for instants, Most everyone dresses up in nice clothes and suits for most every service except Youth & Young Adults night. And it's not because we want to impress anyone (most of my clothes are from thrift stores or are gifts or bought at sales & my sister gets designer clothes as freebies in her line of work & blesses me with those too) but my heart is that I want to look my best for God, and although He doesn't see me from the outside He does see the heart that makes an effort for Him, whether it's dressing myself & my kids in "Sunday best" for a mid-week bible study or getting up at 6:30am to spend time in the Word before I wake my kids up, He see's my heart and that's what counts. He sees your heart and even the fact that you desire to know more and get closer to Him, that in and of itself is a pleasing aroma to Him.

You're still in my prayers. God Bless You.

Cynthia - posted on 01/05/2010

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Hello Yvonda,
All the posts seem to have great answers and helps for you. I so agree that a relationship with God starts in your heart with Him. Talk to Him just like you would a friend over coffee. Prayer is very very powerful. As I read a verse in my Bible today I will share it with you " And it shall come to pass, that before they call, I will answer; and while tey are yet speaking, I will hear. Isaiah 65:24." I am blessed to know that God will hear me when I talk to Him. Ask Him for help of choosing a church family to call home to worship with Him. I love smaller churches they seem to be more at home for me. I agree that you should not choose a church by the looks. Make sure you feel right at that church. Visit them and ask them about their beliefs. Read up on that so you know which one you fit with. God will help guide you! I will send prayers for you.
May God be with you!
Your sister in Jesus,
Cynthia

Heather - posted on 01/05/2010

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try a diffrent church every week until you find the one that right for you and your family. and the church that seems to wroship the all mighty dollar instead of our Lord dosen't sound like a good church anyways. To Help you develope a more Personal relationship with God try to read the Bible every night before bed for just 15 mins.

Andrea - posted on 01/05/2010

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in my opinion first start reading a bible i prefer the nkjv i find it easy to read. then as eveyone else seems to be saying find a church that lets u come as you are and that makes you feel comfortable. if you have small children make sure that you have the choise to keep them with you or for them to go to the sunday school. the church i go to gives this option and i think it is wonderful i take my 2 year old to the sunday school but there are some parents who want to keep there kids with them so everyone in the congregation is happy and comfortable were they are, we are also well fed by the word of god and that is the most important thing. good luck finding the church that is right for you i will pray for you and your family to be guided by the lord.

Christa - posted on 01/05/2010

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Yvonda, Fear is what keeps most people away from God....yet he is the answer to ALL our fears. You can ask people you know where they go to church; or you can just start going to churches. Every week pick a church and go check it out. Once you find one that feels right......there is your home. As for money and fitting in.....if you don't feel welcome there or like you don't fit in.....go to the next church. I don't think I know of a church where the amount of money someone has is an issue. I will pray for you to be able to overcome your fear; but know that God welcomes us all to come to him. Lift of your chin and know that God wants you to come and have fun finding a church that speaks to you and your needs. Try to find one that has a women's bible study group for your age....it will help you grow closer to him and will give you an outlet to meet young women who believe!!

Jaclyn - posted on 01/05/2010

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I understand how you are feeling. I am 32 years old, married since I was 20 also. I didn't grow up in church, but my husband did, so when we started dating I began going with his family. I know there are a lot of "mega" church that see way out of my league. My advise would be pray for God to hear your prayer, forgive you of your sins and lead you and your family to the right church for you. You need to decide what kind of church you are looking for. I am baptist so I would go on line and search for baptist churches in the area, read about the churches, choose a few you would like to visit and then go to one on Sunday, if that doesn't feel right for your family, try a different one the following Sunday. Hope this helps.

Tara - posted on 01/05/2010

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The best way to get close to God is thru reading your bible and prayer. A lot of people think to pray you have to say a big long fancy prayer but God simply wants you to talk to him and tell him whats on your mind. Remember that God is no respecter of persons. This means he loves you just the same as anyone else regardless of how much or little money you have. When you go to pick a church don't worry about fitting in go where you feel like your recieving a message and able to grow in your faith :).

Jallie - posted on 01/05/2010

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ok yvonda all the things that you mention above are in the hands of the lord when you go to a church .......any church .....bow head pray all these thing to him he will let you make all the right decesions that are right for you .the church is the family of people go see if you get a warm welcome if not next sunday move to the next church god will help you find the way .these are my sweetist words i love (stand still and watch god move)

Emily - posted on 01/05/2010

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Hi Yvonda, blessings to your searching :) I can't tell about the churches in your area, but my advice would be not to let fancy appearance scare you off. A real church, a living church of God will not look on appearance and will welcome you just the way you are and wouldn't make you feel you have to do something to "fit in". A good church is one that welcomes you as a child of God just the way you are. Myself I would spend time looking for a church where I feel happy about attending the services, where the messages being given correspond to Scripture and are made easy to take in and understand, and that speak to me/are meaningful to me. And where the people welcome you with open arms, take interest in you, and are NOT judgmental. I would also recommend attending at least 2 or 3 services at the same church before fully making up your mind about a specific church as a one-time visit may not really reflect much of the everyday life there. If you aren't already doing that, I would also recommend that you actually pray for guidance and that God will show you where He wants you to be. I hope this helps some. Be blessed

Kassie - posted on 01/04/2010

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I think the best way to get closer to God is to get in his word. Set aside a certain time of day that you take time out and just read the bible and pray.
For the church situation I think you just have to start trying them out. Pray before you go that you can have an open mind and heart to what God wants you to get out of your visit there. I think you also have to give a church more than one try sometimes.
My husband and I LOVE our church but, we never thought we would make it our home at first. We were really un sure about it for a long time but we lived in a small town and didn't have alot of options. It wasnt until we got plugged in and joined small groups that we felt really comfortable and at home.
You could always listen to sermons online and get your heart open and then begin to look.
I hope this helps!
GOD BLESS YOU!!

Brianna - posted on 01/04/2010

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Hey Girl

One thing to remember is that no matter the question the lord wants to it.Your his little girl. There is no way to tell you how to get close to god. If someone tells you this is how you find/know/get close to god there wrong. No one person has found this out. Why and how I know this is i am an 18 seperated mother of one and you know what the funny thing is my tatoos are what bring me the closest to god. Theres a verse and it says to tie my word to your heart and another that say inscribe them one the tablets of your heart he said about the 10 commandments and something else. ( I AM JUST SHORTING THEM I DON'T KNOW THE EXCAT WORDS) So the question is not how do i get close to god its about learning and finding out who he is to you. He says were is bridesmaids, consulor, judge, medator, protector and so much more. We have to learn the ways of his pretection and love and judgement. When you say church I know our refering to the building but WHY? Are you bond by a building to worship god. the church was created the MEN not god. The only church the lord created was when he said " Come follow me and I will make you fishers of men." the church is the true believes of christ and the faithful nothing less and nothing more. AS TO TRYING TO MAKE YOURSELF FIT IN IF THE CHURCH MAKES YOU FEEL THAT WAY THAN YOU GOT TO CHANGE CHURCH BUILDING BECAUSE I CHURCH BUILDING WHERE ANY WOMAN OF GOD NO MATTER WHERE THEY STAND IN THERE WALK WITH HIM S TO BE LOVED NO MATTER WHAT. THE ONLY ADVICE I CAN GIVE IS PRAY AND KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN AND DEMAND FOR YOURSELF THE BLESSINGS HE WANT TO PORE OUT ON YOU. Ask and You shall Recieve.

i hope this works and if you or any one else has a problem with the words spoken feel free to contact me good or bad.

I hope everything works or for the your family Yvonda

Sheryl - posted on 01/04/2010

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i did feel this way to before. best thing i can say is find a church you feel you fit in. i go to a smaller church. but that where i feel like i fit in. where i live they say if you don't the great dress up clothes it don't matter. but if they are really good faith people they are not going to care. the only way you are going to know is by going. plus, i would pray about where god wants you. you don't have to go to church every sunday to know the lord. read your bible, pray and just lesson. i know your think lesson but if you just set back and lesson he'll till you. though many ways. God is always there. best wish's!

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