Men who are forced to pay child support for kids that aren't theirs!

Angela - posted on 09/04/2012

In the UK, a duped "father" who was able to get DNA evidence that the child was not his, would no longer be required to pay child support. It would certainly take him a little longer to get his money back but he should get it back eventually - although the authorities would NOT take it from the mother, I believe the tax payer would bear the cost.



I understand the Law is a lot harder on duped fathers in the US. Their stance is that it's not fair on the child for the child support to be withdrawn from the original source. I personally believe that the real reason is that they don't want single parent mothers to be reliant on welfare benefits when the child support money dries up from the original provider. Even worse is when a biological father who has never had unprotected sex with the mother still has to pay the price. The scenario here is that the mother, wanting to conceive a child, took the trouble of retrieving the used condom and impregnating herself with the contents ... Even worse is the mother that has NEVER had sex of any kind with the father but retrieved a condom that he used with somebody else!!!



This problem will continue whilst:



a) Couples who are not committed in marriage have sex with one another and are not even mutually exclusive or careful with contraception.



b) Women will use their fertility as a tool and a weapon to ensnare men. Get pregnant (deliberately and deceitfully) and you've as good as ensnared the man into a permanent relationship - or so they believe!



c) IF the man who got you pregnant disappears, then just pin it on someone else you had sex with at around the same time.



d) You find you're pregnant and there is more than one man in the running for fatherhood. You may or may not know which one is your child's father, but you will "pin it" on the man with the best-paying job, the best bet, the most reliable & responsible person, the one likely to be the best provider. Whether or not he is the true father, whether or not you even KNOW if he is the true father!



There are any number of individuals whose fathers are not the same men they believe them to be. So statutory blood or DNA tests at birth are not a viable option for any country's economy!

John - posted on 09/04/2012

"Florida Supreme Court case raises fundamental questions about the nature of fatherhood and legal responsibilities.

February 9, 2007 — Sixteen months after his divorce, Richard Parker made a devastating discovery in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. A DNA test revealed that his 3-year-old son had been fathered by someone else.



Mr. Parker immediately filed a lawsuit claiming fraud by his apparently unfaithful ex-wife. He took his case all the way to the Florida Supreme Court.



Last week, the Florida justices ruled 7-0 against him. They said that Parker must continue to pay $1,200 a month in child support because he had missed the one-year post-divorce deadline for filing his lawsuit. His court-ordered payments would total more than $200,000 over 15 years to support another man's child.



"We find that the balance of policy considerations favors protecting the best interests of the child over protecting the interests of one parent defrauded by the other parent in the midst of a divorce proceeding," writes Justice Kenneth Bell for the court.



"We recognize that the former husband in this case may feel victimized," he writes. He then quotes a scholar to explain the ruling: "While some individuals are innocent victims of deceptive partners, adults are aware of the high incidence of infidelity and only they, not the children, are able to act to ensure that the biological ties they may deem essential are present."



In effect, the high court is saying it's partly Parker's fault for trusting his wife.

The Parker case illustrates an increasingly contentious debate over the rights and responsibilities of divorced fathers who have been duped and don't challenge paternity at or near the time of divorce. But it also raises fundamental questions about the nature of fatherhood and the legal responsibilities that can attach to a father-child relationship — even when that relationship is the result of fraud and deception by a wife and mother.



Most states have laws that permit courts to order men who have been deceived to continue to make child-support payments even when they have no biological connection to the child. The idea is to minimize any disruption in the life of the child. In recent years, some states have begun passing laws that give deceived dads some ways to fight back." I believe this type of injustice is allowed and accepted because our leaders are engaging in sexual relationships with married women in such large numbers, they don't want to be founded out. These same leaders male and female would fight at establishing a national DNA paternity bank/registry which could be used to link paternity. Fear of discovery, preachers, community leaders, attorneys, supreme court justices, etc. The greatest problem that exist in this country is "corruption."

Josslyn - posted on 05/05/2010

This is true within the constitution of a common law marriage whereas the male figure has been in a relationship longer than 6 months with a woman and they live together whether the children are his biological children or not and he is the provider for the home, as well as within a marriage with the same circumstances ~ It is really unfair..This is the South African constitution don't know of other countries

Alisa - posted on 05/03/2010

This is not a good law in my opinion. Because if a man is married and his wife has an affair and gets pregnant he is stuck paying child support for that child, simply because he was married to the mother. There are situations that I am aware of this happening and the man took it to court and asked for a paternity test. The courts sometimes allow this and then make the bio father pay.

Claudia - posted on 04/28/2010

here is the thing .. if a man is good enough to step and be the father figure to a child while in a relationship then once that relationship is done he should cont just like a birth father has to. now for a man that is put on a birth certificate and turns out to not be the father then he should have thought of who he was laying down to sleep with before he did. and once you find that you arenot the father then go to the courts with a dna test to show so the court will desolve the order and you will be paid back any and all money you gave to the childs mother.



it all comes down to commen sense. if you are with a woman that you iknow well this issue wont come up but its when you sleep with random and too many that this comes in to play. it still sucks but it is what it is ...

Nadine - posted on 04/28/2010

I simply agree! I have heard roumors of this when I was growing up. Now, being 28, it still doesn't shock me. But it would be hard to do if the state required a blood test.