Cheryl - posted on 11/30/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
Several years ago, we lost a baby at 5 months. the cord got wrapped around her neck so when I went in for my 5mo checkup, we lost the heart beat. Ultrasound showed great development and we opted to be induced and deliver the whole baby. We got to hold her and take pictures of Hannah. Tests showed no other problems. We purposely waited until after Hannah's duedate before we started trying to get preg. again. It just didn't seem right.
Three years later to the month, my sister in law lost a baby at 4 months. But her ultrasound showed it had been some time earlier and there was detioration. Doctors advised against inducing and delivering. She had a D&E and they never saw the baby. I don't think they named it or had a death certificate. I don't think she had any tests done to determine the cause. Her due date would have been Feburary.
They just announced at Thanksgiving that they are expecting again. While I'm thrilled for them, I'm alittle concerned that they are trying to replace the one they lost. Maybe not consciencously, but...
Has any one else had a miscarriage? How long did you wait?
We talked quite a bit when it first happened but she never seemed to want to talk about it afterwards. They are not Christians. I don't feel it's my place to say anything, but it's been on my heart the last few days.