My 3 year old wears me out!!!! She talks alot. Please help! lol

Stephanie - posted on 08/18/2009

Boy do I understand. My son is quiet and my 6 yr old girl talks and talks and talks. I wish I could have more patience sometimes but she definitely wears me out every single day. If I give her the really tired, sad face she will say, "sorry mommy" and she'll go play for a little while and after while I will answer her millions of questions or just sit down at bedtime and let her go at it. And she knows she talks alot. Sometimes she will be talking and she'll just stop and say "oh mom I'm tired of talking". LOL

Marta - posted on 08/18/2009

I think 3 is a very talkative age because, guess what, they have most of their words and are able to clearly express themselves. Suddenly, they don't need to throw tantrums because they can tell you! I often tell my son (almost 4) that he needs to slow down, and give mommy a minute to think about what he's just said so that I can respond properly. It keeps him quiet for a couple of minutes until I answer him.

Tanger - posted on 08/17/2009

That apart of growing up Ask yourself what if we never ask how would we know

Tonya - posted on 08/15/2009

Sabrina, all I can say, since I have a 3 yr old, is simply, "ENJOY IT!!" Right now to her, you are the smartest person she knows! I love it!

Anne - posted on 08/15/2009

Quoting Tammy:

Quoting Maxine:

I am totally at a lost at what to do with my 3 year old granddaughter who chatters constantly. She is very intelligent and repeats everything she hears. What stumps me is that she will use what you say and put it into her own conversation with someone else. It is in the same context, but different scenario. At times I think I am talking to someone much older than 3. This gets me in trouble because I expect her to understand what I am saying at times and she looks at me like, what are you talking about. This frustrates me to no end. On one hand I am glad she can comprehend as much as she does (I think) on the other hand, I have to remember she is only 3 and not expect her to understand things that an older child may understand. Any insight?

I think are are doing fine :) You have a healthy balance between teaching her new words and ideas vs. being aware that she is not a miniature adult. 

 

I have 4 children and my youngest, a girl, LOVES to talk.  It seems I had the patience for it with my eldest (and she has the grades to show for it), but not for the 7 year old :(  I just read that a 3 year old has a vocabulary of 1,000 words.  At around 21 months they go thru a language explosion, often learning more new words per week than they have in all of the months since they began to talk.  It may be linked to their increasing skills in categorization, as well as to their increasing attention to the relationship between social cues and words.  Before the explosion they pay little attention to such cues and use them in their rapid acquisition of words; however, their reading of social cues is not perfect.  Children are quite capable  and willing to learn words that are not meant for them. 

 

Children learn by hearing and imitating.  Adults reinforce language development by approving of the syntax or grammatical correctness.  Culture matters - Middle income professional families compared to families on welfare: children in the first group had much larger vocabularies as the result of their parents spending almost twice as much time talking to them.  The vocabularies of 2-year-old toddlers were shown to be directly tied to the mother's use of a wide vocabulary as well as to the amount of time she spent talking to the child.  (This is what I see in my oldest.)

 

Praise God that your child is healthy and does not have a hearing impairment or severe disability :)              I have to remind myself of that on Sunday morning when a poor singer is sitting behind me :D 

One thing I did not share earlier and Tammy reminded me of that fact,  When children are learning language they often ask questions for the sole purpose to hear mom or another adult to speak in complete sentences.  Just be careful not to talk baby talk. 

When our youngest was that age she would take one adult type word---- appropriate  unfortunate --- Or some other word that the average 3 or 4 year old would use. She would use the word for about a week I think it was until she really knew how to use the word. then she would go on to another word.  I had Licensed   Child Care in our home when both girls were little, so they had several adults to talk to during the day and we were all careful to not talk baby talk. The weekends were when we needed the hat the most. 

Tammy - posted on 08/15/2009

Quoting Maxine:

I am totally at a lost at what to do with my 3 year old granddaughter who chatters constantly. She is very intelligent and repeats everything she hears. What stumps me is that she will use what you say and put it into her own conversation with someone else. It is in the same context, but different scenario. At times I think I am talking to someone much older than 3. This gets me in trouble because I expect her to understand what I am saying at times and she looks at me like, what are you talking about. This frustrates me to no end. On one hand I am glad she can comprehend as much as she does (I think) on the other hand, I have to remember she is only 3 and not expect her to understand things that an older child may understand. Any insight?

I think are are doing fine :) You have a healthy balance between teaching her new words and ideas vs. being aware that she is not a miniature adult. 

I have 4 children and my youngest, a girl, LOVES to talk.  It seems I had the patience for it with my eldest (and she has the grades to show for it), but not for the 7 year old :(  I just read that a 3 year old has a vocabulary of 1,000 words.  At around 21 months they go thru a language explosion, often learning more new words per week than they have in all of the months since they began to talk.  It may be linked to their increasing skills in categorization, as well as to their increasing attention to the relationship between social cues and words.  Before the explosion they pay little attention to such cues and use them in their rapid acquisition of words; however, their reading of social cues is not perfect.  Children are quite capable  and willing to learn words that are not meant for them. 

Children learn by hearing and imitating.  Adults reinforce language development by approving of the syntax or grammatical correctness.  Culture matters - Middle income professional families compared to families on welfare: children in the first group had much larger vocabularies as the result of their parents spending almost twice as much time talking to them.  The vocabularies of 2-year-old toddlers were shown to be directly tied to the mother's use of a wide vocabulary as well as to the amount of time she spent talking to the child.  (This is what I see in my oldest.)

Praise God that your child is healthy and does not have a hearing impairment or severe disability :)              I have to remind myself of that on Sunday morning when a poor singer is sitting behind me :D 

Maxine - posted on 08/14/2009

I am totally at a lost at what to do with my 3 year old granddaughter who chatters constantly. She is very intelligent and repeats everything she hears. What stumps me is that she will use what you say and put it into her own conversation with someone else. It is in the same context, but different scenario. At times I think I am talking to someone much older than 3. This gets me in trouble because I expect her to understand what I am saying at times and she looks at me like, what are you talking about. This frustrates me to no end. On one hand I am glad she can comprehend as much as she does (I think) on the other hand, I have to remember she is only 3 and not expect her to understand things that an older child may understand. Any insight?

Heather - posted on 08/14/2009

My almost 7 year old son is the same way. He would talk 24/7 if he could. I generally answer around 3 questions about the same subject before I end the conversation. Sometimes its more sometimes it's less, it all depends on the subject. It also depends on the questions. If they are the but why questions 2 usually is more then enough, but if they are genuine questions that will help him learn we could go on forever. I think it is very important to listen to our kids. If you don't have time to listen, or you just need some silence for a bit, listen to what they have to say, then tell them that you would love to discuss it, but maybe another time. Don't brush them off, but explain why you can't listen just right then. This works for us. But all kids are different. I hope it helps in some way.

Michaelyne - posted on 08/14/2009

Oh Sabrina my dear, in a few years you will be saying to yourself why won't my child talk to me. Make these chat sessions a important time. Make a time in the day when it is a good time for those chats. I have a little granddaughter that loves to talk, she is six, I finally decided that we would have our little talks while I was cooking supper. She will get on the counter top and sit down and just talk away, for the most part I try to sound very interested in all she has to share. I know that I have found out a lot of how she thinks and feels during these times. I tired to do the same with my girls when they were growing up, when they became teenagers they stopped talking to me, they decided I was so stupid and so they did not want to discuss anything with me. What is neat is when my oldest daughter turned 21 she told me, "mom you know what? I think you are pretty smart for a mom." It made my day, so hang in there and just listen and keep record of all the wonderful things your child shares with you. I keep journals for my daughters, started them way to late but one day they will have something to read after I have left this earth.

Michaelyne South

Rabecca - posted on 08/14/2009

my little man is a chatterbox to he's 8 and most of the time he can talk for hours without even the slightest pause( he also has been dx'd with ADHD) and I for one am kind of a quite person and dont like alot of nonsence talk I get fustrated and say breathe baby breathe or momma needs 5 min. of quite please PLEASE!!! I love my litttle guy more than anything I just keep asking God to grant me patients which I admit is my major downfalll and then I try to put in into the perpective that one day hoprfully not in the near future he may just stop talking to me like teens do sometimes not that I couldnt do with a little less I really try to think that he just really wants me know every little detail about he thinnking that cant all be bad can it

Rosanne - posted on 08/14/2009

If she keeps asking lots of questions... try answering her with one: "What do you think?" Teach her to think carefully for herself and answer her own questions. Worked quite well for me.lol

Clarise - posted on 08/13/2009

My daughter's doctor said the same thing about her daughter when I asked her the same thing. She said that she asked her daughter (she was about 5) how can you hear God if you are talking? It worked for her and it worked for me, at least for a little while :-).

Stephanie - posted on 08/13/2009

My daughter and son ask 101 questions everyday. She is six and he is five now and they have both been asking questions since they could talk.You will get use to it after awhile. If they didn't ask questions I would worry because I am use to it now.

Suzette P - posted on 08/13/2009

i know what your going through i've been there and i'm still going through it .

Mellisa - posted on 08/13/2009

I have two boys and my youngest son who is now 12 was the same way. What I did when he would get in the mood to ask a million questions. I tell him Mommy has a lot to do right now but if you go and play right now (coloring, drawing, favorite toy and sometimes tv) we can talk later. Sometimes we talked after dinner or when getting ready for bed. My favorite was when I give him his bath just sit in there and talk while he played in the tub. That helped me a lot maybe it can help you.

Anne - posted on 08/13/2009

Sabrina I think we have all been there when our children are little. But this season in your life will be over so fast. My talkative 3 year old is not 25. My question asker is now 21.

When they were little I had a hat that if for some reason -- like a phone call or a break like at what would have been nap time after they no longer took a nap-- that I would wear and they know that they needed to save their questions, or items that they wanted to talk about until I was not wearing my hat. Each daughter had a note book that they could keep their questions or ideas in until I could talk to them again. WE also did this during t.v. programs we watched with our youngest. If she wrote them down we would talk about them during the commercials. This only worked because I then after I was finished with what I needed to do I made it point to give them my undivided attention. It felt odd at first but I knew it would work because I had used this idea when I was a student teacher and needed to help a student with something.

I know you are thinking how is a chid that young going to WRITE down what they had to say. They used sounded out words that may or may not be spelled right, or they drew pictures.



Please do not think I was trying to be rude with my first 2 sentences.