My Daughter and Father

Brittany - posted on 02/02/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My daughter loves everyone she comes in contact with in public. In private though she screams bloody murder at the sight of my husband. He's never done anything at all to her but while at home she hates him. On the other hand she is just fine with him if we go out somewhere.

Does anyone have any idea on what we could do to make the home situation better? PLEASE HELP!

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Mae - posted on 07/19/2010

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When my daughter was younger up until the past 6 months or so she wanted nothing to do with my husband and would scream and cry when he would try to hold her or if he even looked at her. His mom told us something that has proven to be true: If he is nervous she picks up on it it doesn't matter what he is nervous about. If he is relaxed she does fine. My daughter now loves to be held by Daddy and she would go to him sooner than me. Just both of you need to relax and be patient she will go to him without screaming soon enough

Lindsay - posted on 07/18/2010

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My daughter gets upset if my husband is around, but when we realized it was only when we were holding hands or cuddling, we understood that it was only jealously. My husband is in the military, so he was gone for 6 months and then came back into our lives full time. I guess, for a toddler, that was a bit overwhelming, to have mommy distracted by someone else.

Stephanie Jo - posted on 07/16/2010

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Bless your heart.Maybe daddy and her could make a picnic w/the stuff she likes to eat and her favorite doll/animal.My youngest is a mommy's girl all the way from the time she was born.Daddy needs to loveon her/play whenever possible,it does get better though.

Heather - posted on 07/16/2010

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Thanks for the update Brittany! I will continue to pray for things to keep getting better!

Brittany - posted on 07/16/2010

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Thank you guys so much for all the suggestions. She is now 16 months old. She does a little better with him now. It has shown to help some the more time he spends with just her and have play time. She still won't eat for him and stuff like that. She starts crying around him like she's afraid. I would have to say it's getting some better though. Hopefully with time it'll get even better!

Suzanne - posted on 02/07/2010

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NO ONE ON ONE TIME CAN CAUSE THIS TO HAPPEN, HE NEEDS TO SET SOMETIME WITH YOUR DAUGHTER. AS MOMS WE BOND RIGHT AWAY TO THE CHILD.... BUT IT TAKES DADS TO BOND WITH THEM, SO TRY THAT, WHEN HE COMES HOME FROM WORK ECT... SET TIME ASIDE FOR THEM TO BOND, "TAG TIME" THAT WILL ALLOW YOU TO HAVE TIME TO YOURSELF,AFTER HE IS WITH THE BABT.

Lynette - posted on 02/04/2010

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Since the problem is at home, it won't help for him to take her out somewhere. You need to schedule some time out of the house (run errands, lunch with a friend, go shopping, etc.) when he's home so they can have some bonding time. Suggest that your husband use that time to get on her level and play with her. I had to make the same suggestions with my daughter and son-in-law when our grandson was around 2, and it worked. She just needs to see him as her buddy.

Christine - posted on 02/02/2010

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Maybe he could try taking her out for a daddy daughter day, like to a movie or even hang out at home and have a tea party?

Heather - posted on 02/02/2010

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How old is your daughter? That makes a difference. My daughter did that when she was younger, just because she was use to him being at work, like Loilita said. Then she switched and screamed when I came in the room for a few months. But now she is over it... but does scream when people she doesn't know come in the house.

Lolita - posted on 02/02/2010

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I've noticed with my second child he doesn't take too well to my husband, but I think that's because he's at work all day and I get to stay home. Don't know how old your daughter is but maybe you can talk with her and see what is it that bothers her. Give her time, maybe she'll grow out of it. Also, you may have your hubby try to have a father-daughter day out, maybe take her to McDonalds or to a place she likes to go. Always give your hubby support in the matter. Good luck, hope that helps.

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