MY daughter has long hair with tangles in it. can anyone recommand a product for me. help!!!!

Suzanne - posted on 12/18/2009 ( 27 moms have responded )

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my daughter has shoulder length hair, each time she tries to brush it, there is what i like to call "spider type tangles.. SHE refuses to have it up in a pony(tom girl age 7) . please can any one recommmand a product or brush that will help, i "give up" @ times but i need help@ times they become drad locks in her head. help PLEASE

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Angela - posted on 08/20/2011

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Best thing you can have is a back wash sink like they use at the hairdressers - but this isn't practical!

Get a conditioner and use it on her hair. Don't get the pricey de-tangling kind that are specially formulated for kids, get a budget brand adult one, the kind that's really thick and gloopy and comes in a really big bottle. THe children's de-tangling conditioners work, but they're thinner and more expensive. When the product is expensive, you're more sparing with it so get a cheap one and you'll be more generous! You need to use a good amount!

After you wash & rinse her hair, roughly towel-dry it, so most of the moisture is out. Then apply a good handful of the conditioner. Rub it into the ends and the roots and all the way along the strands. Comb it through with a wide-toothed comb. Leave it in for 5 minutes or even longer if you wish.

Rinse out thoroughly. Towel dry hair carefully by avoiding rubbing the towel in 2 directions, just smooth it down the strands of hair from roots to ends. Hair is delicate when still damp/wet.

When almost dry comb carefully. Start almost at the end of the strands, say one inch from the ends, this should be quite easy. Then, start combing your next strokes of the comb 2 inches from the ends. When the comb goes through easily, start combing down from 3 inches above the ends. Keep working your way up, one inch at a time. It's also easier and less painful to comb it this way when it's dry as well.

Ask if she'd like her hair done like Princess Leia from StarWars, this might appeal to her adventurous nature. PInned up out of the way in "doughnuts" over her ears, she might avoid the tangles which happen all too easily when it's loose! Good luck!

Faye - posted on 08/20/2011

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idk how to help but my daughter has 2q baseball sized (rats) in her hair and she has extremely thick curly shoulder length hair and is extreamly tender headed and fights me when i try to brush it and she has had lice for 10 months and when i put stuff on her hair it burns her open cuts where she scratches and the knots are extreamly tight and all she does is pull her hair back and not take care of it it is so bad that it hurts my fingers to try to pull the knots apart and they r starting to give her major migranes i need help fast

Nicole - posted on 12/31/2009

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If you want to buy something for it, Three Minute Miracle! My MIL used it on my daughter and sent it home with me and it is wonderful! Worked on Scarecrow's hair (yes my hubby nicknamed her scarecrow because of her hair, but she likes the nickname now). We do leave a little conditioner at the tips and for the other girls that was enough but not for her and we always have a bottle of the stuff on hand now.

Crystal - posted on 12/21/2009

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Carol's Daughter is a product specifically designed to reduce tangles. A friend of mine uses it on her three daughters and they have exceptionally long curly hair. Carol's Daughter has a website - check it out.

Liane - posted on 12/21/2009

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Both of my girls have curly, long hair. One has really fine but kinky curls that's prone to tons of tiny tangles. The other has super thick, course and loose curls. We do use lots of conditioner and detangler to assist with brushing but what has made the most difference is the Ouchless line of brushes from Goody's. Walmart sells them and I believe Target does too. They sell them for different thicknesses and we have several. Before we got these brushes it was miserable trying to detangle their hair. Now it is much more pleasant and they can even detangle without my help!

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Ellen - posted on 12/31/2009

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Regime for my daughter's waist length hair: wash & condition daily (clean hair is much easier to brush!), she brushes in the morning, I brush as night and braid for sleeping. If we miss a wash and have tangles, I have a spray bottle of water with a little downy mixed in to remove tangles for nighttime braiding.

Dena - posted on 12/28/2009

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girl sorry no mean to diss but do not place crisco in your daughters hair. just use a deep conditioner and comb it wet.

Dena - posted on 12/28/2009

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Check out my duahgters hair cant be better then yours she is mixed latina black and has the black peeps nappy but long hair and she cries and her hair is dry, I have noticed the more its comb the straighter it is becuase I used relaxers and a 80 salon trip but she doesnt take care of her hair so i dont do that much. after she had it super straight for 2 weeks she got it wet and right back to naps, she is 9 and nappy but I wont cut her hair the shorter the tighter the naps and ricks not growing back fast. we just deal with it

Gidgit - posted on 12/28/2009

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My own hair is hard to maintain at times and so is my daughter and neices. we use Aussie hair Insurance it's a leave in conditioner it's great you can use is on wet or dry hair!

Candace - posted on 12/26/2009

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i have the same problem with my hair. it's long and thick and gets tangled even when in a pony. i use the Suave Kids detangling spray (i found it at Wal-Mart and it doesn't cost too much) and i LOVE it. there were days where i was in tears when brushing my hair because it hurt so bad and this spray works wonders! i HIGHLY recommend it! i also use separate shampoo and conditioner (i don't think the combined does anything for my hair). we don't have much money and we could afford the detangling spray that i found. so if money is an issue, this might be a good route for you.

Annie - posted on 12/25/2009

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My daughter is 4 and her hair goes down to her lower back and she gets more than her fair share of tangles. So I wash her hair with pantine pro-v. When shes out of the shower I use a detangler called ( Silk Drops its in a small clear bottle with a purple lid and writing). I run it through her hair with my fingers while its still wet, then I use a big tooth comb and work from bottom to top. Then its pretty easy to run a regular comb through her hair. At night if you comb it again and braid it before bed even if its just a lose one it helps. We also live in a very windy town and it is aweful on our hair. So we are pretty tangley by the end of the day. Will she let u do a half up half down pony tall or maybe just a small one right abve her forehead. that will keep the hair out of her eyes atleast.

Mandy - posted on 12/24/2009

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I have really long, naturally curly hair and have the same problem. My solution is to leave a little bit of conditioner in her hair after you wash it.
Make sure it isn't at the roots, since that will make it look oily. Just leave it in at the ends. This works wonders and you don't have to buy anything extra!

LaFawwndah - posted on 12/23/2009

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gurrrrl wat ur daughter needs is some crisco oil. dem tangles will b out in minutes!!! if dat dont work den wat u need is some vinegar. that should work gurrrrl. ghetto home remedies r always the best!!

Heather - posted on 12/21/2009

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My friend has this problem with her 5 yr old. She cut her hair so that it is only about 2 inches long. I personally agree. I would tell my daughter that she could wear it up or I would cut it off. I was a tom boy, and refused to wear my hair down because it got in my way... In the end, your the mom.

Amy - posted on 12/20/2009

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Easy Remedy: Try having her change out her pillowcase with a satin one. For some reason, it does help to prevent tangles through the night. CRAZY!!, but true. Also, the type of brush you use and the hair products you use will make the world of difference. My daughter has a very tender head and when she gets tangles, we have a spray in conditioner we bought from the salon. It works a TON better than the ones over the counter since the those are more alcohol/water based. Use a brush that has the plastic/rubber tipped bristles that are spaced farther apart. This helps as well when brushing. Also, make sure you start using a separate conditioner rather than a 2 in 1 product. This will help too.

Tracy - posted on 12/19/2009

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can't say I have a daughter with this problem, but growing up as a hula dancer I had many different rituals in the evening to keep my hair tangle free. of course I didn't do it, my mother did for a really long time. Claudia's advice about holding the hair in a little pony tail definitely works, when I got older and could take care of my own hair I'd part my hair in the middle and that's exactly how and brush my hair. Fast easy and it works. Another product you may want to try is coconut oil. Not sure if you can find it in stores on the mainland, but it's all natural and it's very good for the hair. Not only is it good for the hair but it helps keep lice out of the hair too. the oil makes the hair too slippery for the lice to hold on to it. Worked like a charm for me when I was a kid. Only had 1 episode of lice. If you choose to use the oil use a little at a time. You don't want your daughter to have an oily head of hair. Not only does coconut oil have benefits for the hair, but it's good for your skin too. What I like about it is that it doesn't leave that slimy icky feeling on your hands like the other products do. It's a natural moisturizer.

Anyway, hope this helps.

Claudia - posted on 12/19/2009

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my oldest has very curly hair and is so much of it to . you can use just for me products. spray gel and even shampoo. any brush will work all you have to do is start form the bottom and work your way up through what we call Yuckies! just for me products are at walmart and are under 4 bucks. if you hold her hair in a loose pony tail while brushing it it will stop from the little pulls that hurt. hope it helps

Suzanne - posted on 12/19/2009

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Quoting Susan:

I am a hairstylist, go to your locale salon and buy Biolage detangling solution , it is a mild conditoner also. If that isn't enough I suggest you use Biosilks silk therapy, ut if you do a little goes a long long way and start with a pea to dime size amount on your hand and work from ends to root.That should take care of the problem.



thank you for the tip. i have one of the products that you suggested, the biosilk. and the other i have.. but its not detangler. thank you.

Susan - posted on 12/19/2009

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I am a hairstylist, go to your locale salon and buy Biolage detangling solution , it is a mild conditoner also. If that isn't enough I suggest you use Biosilks silk therapy, ut if you do a little goes a long long way and start with a pea to dime size amount on your hand and work from ends to root.That should take care of the problem.

Kirstie - posted on 12/19/2009

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I have one like that two, She is now 10 I told her she has to take care of it or it will be short. The first few times we cut it she cried. but a little while later she was happy because it didn't hurt so bad when we would brush it. I use a spray bottle with some conditioner and water in it. It is the same as a detangler only much cheeper and we do that every time we brush it. It is easier to brush when wet. Her hair is quite long now and she maintaines it well. She rarley puts it up at all. The conditioning spray helps lots!

Frances - posted on 12/19/2009

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Well My daughter hair is the same way. What I do it load it up with conditioner and I use a Denman Brush to dentangle a section at a time. I braid the section when I am done and then wash the braid out and the hair in not tangled or knotty afterwards.

Stefani - posted on 12/19/2009

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I have the same problem with my 6yr old daughter and my 20month old son! I always say the knot-monster found them again! I have started putting my Garnier Fructis leave-in sleek and shine conditioner in their hair after baths and then brushing it. By far the best and fastest not to mention cheepest route I have taked with their Daddy's Italian influenced hair. My daughter does not use conditioner in the shower. the best brush we have ever used has widely spaced bristles and rubber padded tips. Also when brushing.. start from the bottom of her hair and work your way up this prevents pushing knots down into large areas.

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have her comb through her hair while it has conditioner in it when showering. also, if it tangles due to static, rub a dryer sheet over it and the static will disappear.

Sarah - posted on 12/18/2009

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Try to use a seperate bottle of conditionar, the ones that have shampoo and conditionar in them don't have enough conditionar and don't do a good job. There is also a detangler spray that you can buy to spray on her hair before you comb it (wet or dry). Sometimes they type of brush you use helps too. I find the ones that the bristles are more spread out work better and then if we need to we can go back with a finer comb or brush to work out the smaller areas. I also find that combing it after a shower/bath when it is wet helps too.

Ruth - posted on 12/18/2009

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first brush her hair at least 2 times a day. when she wakes up and before she goes to bed. you do it not her. seconed doller tree has detangler to use on it after its brushed to help it keep tangle free. make sure she washes it daily with baby shampoo and uses a conditoner. my daughters is at her waist now and its a daily process, i told her though if she wants it long it must be taken care of or its being cut off at her chin.

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