My heart is a little broken

Robyn - posted on 05/22/2009

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him. (Psalms 28:7)



I hope this helps.... I am a new mom and can only imagine the heart ache you are going through.. remember Job and the trials that he went through. God blessed him for his faithfulness....as I am sure he wil for you!

Tam - posted on 05/22/2009

Kari, you and Joshua are on my heart and in my prayers. These ladies have given you some great advice, so won't add to it.

Kari - posted on 05/21/2009

Thank you all for your sweet responses. It is so encouraging to have found a group that not only responds to your messages, but will pray for you. Joshua is going to be in the Behavioral Unit until probably Monday or later, so I have some time to pray and to get ready for his return. I feel much better today. I know it was partly because of your prayers.
-Kari

Danna - posted on 05/21/2009

God IS faithful, Kari. Fall to your knees and ask the Holy Spirit to fill you, envelop you, and be your guide. God never fails and hears your cries. Allow Him to give you strength. It is in our weakness He is made strong! Danna

Shelly - posted on 05/21/2009

Kari,

God bless you for being willing to put it out there it just proves what a GREAT mom you are!!! If you were on here thinking that you can handle it all then I would be worried!!! As far as not getting clear messages just remember we are called to be still and know that He is God...Maybe this is your answer this will give you the time to be still b/c I know that when you have a child with ADHD you can't sit still as your son has proven with this...Try going on line and typing in Aspergers and you should beable to find a support group to he you get thru all of this. I'm sure that once you get on there you will find other christian moms that are going thru the same things that you are strugling with...Just know that GOD LOVES YOU and he will not give you more than you can handle, it's all in the way you choose to handle it...This maybe your answer you have been praying for this maybe Gods way of telling you this is what He wants for you for you to be able to be still and hear what he is telling you...Just know that you have our support any time you want to yell, scream, or cry we are here to listen and give you the love that you need at the time...I will keep all of this in my prayers and andk the Lord to show you what it is you need not what you think you need but what He knows you need...Lots of love in Christ Shelly

Amy - posted on 05/20/2009

i,m sorry to hear @ ur son...i have a son that was born with a heart defect. when he was born we had to go thru alot..he is 2 now and everything i fine...i know our stories are different but i was telling u that to tell u this when he was born i didn't think that we would make it thru.. i've always had faith and believed in the lord but not until my son was born did i really experience the power of god.. i was told that he was going to have all kind of problems when he waws born. he did have to have a heart surgery. but god showed me that i have to put ALL my faith and trust in him and let him handle my situation..not what dr's. tell me...i believe that everything happens 4 a reason..god puts us in good and not so good trials to make us a better person..to be more like him...my sons dr. told me that God never gives you more than u can handle.. that there is a reason i was going thru this....god will never leave or forsake you. he is always there helping u get thru everything. i named my son Ridge...because he was a ridge at the top of one of my mountains to get over...with out god i could have never made it thru. i will be praying for u and ur family!!! Psalm46:10--Be still and know that i am GOD.--just keep listening and god will give u an answer.

Stacy - posted on 05/20/2009

The Lord is faithful and hears your prayers. Rest in His strength as He guides you through this ordeal. Just because you make mistakes and can't foresee everything your child may do or get into does not make you a bad mother.

Virginia - posted on 05/20/2009

Quoting Virginia: Hi Kari

 

First, do not be afraid, because you have our mighty LORDto help you!  My daughter is 7 and has ADHD/OCD/and a non-verbal learning disabilty (NVL-trouble pragmatic/social issues.) I have struggled  with her since she was 5 and we just started medication in Nov-2008.  She is doing very well! With help from therapists and social groups she has grown leaps and bounds!  She has many friends and is extremely bright (most children with ADHD are very bright) I understand how you feel, but you must seek help with a therapist who speciality is with children of this nature.  They can set up behavoir plans to incorprate with your family so things run smoothly at home.  Make sure the school knows his medical condition and arrange for whatever services they can provide you with (IEP or 504)

I tried everything to NOT put her on the medication. (holistic, vitamins, diet etc...) nothing worked.  I prayed to the LORD to help me so I could help my daughter.  I listened to what the LORD told me to, not what I wanted to hear.  I did what was best for my daughter, not me. 

This will be a rough journey at times.  Read, research, be an advocate for your son.  Most of all pray and ask GOD to guide you along the right path to help him and your family. 

Many blessings, Virginia

Quoting Kari:

My heart is a little broken

Last Friday my son took half a bottle of my Ambien pills that I had accidentally left on the counter in the kitchen. He has ADHD and has been known to do reallhy impulsive stuff, but this one was really scary. It has been a really hard year with him and I have often second guessed myself. I cry out to the Lord every day for strength and wisdom and just an understanding of how my son ticks so i can help him grow into a man of God. it just seems like I'm getting no clear answers.

Right now my son is at a Behavioral Unit because of the overdose. They have diagnosed him with ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome. I'm trying to find out more about both of these and figure out what kind of help is out there. I feel guilty for saying this, but part of me is afraid to bring him home because I don't know what he will do next.

Thanks for letting me share. Kari

 

Virginia - posted on 05/20/2009

Quoting Kari:

My heart is a little broken

Last Friday my son took half a bottle of my Ambien pills that I had accidentally left on the counter in the kitchen. He has ADHD and has been known to do reallhy impulsive stuff, but this one was really scary. It has been a really hard year with him and I have often second guessed myself. I cry out to the Lord every day for strength and wisdom and just an understanding of how my son ticks so i can help him grow into a man of God. it just seems like I'm getting no clear answers.

Right now my son is at a Behavioral Unit because of the overdose. They have diagnosed him with ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome. I'm trying to find out more about both of these and figure out what kind of help is out there. I feel guilty for saying this, but part of me is afraid to bring him home because I don't know what he will do next.

Thanks for letting me share. Kari

Rabecca - posted on 05/20/2009

My heart really goes out to you when my now 8 year old was in kindergarden he was dx'd with ADHD oh we went through so much his impulsiveness ran our lives he even he knew he was out of control and wanted to act right but just could not do it if he was tence nervious scared mad ect.. There really was a time when he was around 2 and 3 that I though for sure next time I called poision control they were going to answer it this must be caidyn's mom what did he swallow now . Thank the Lord nothing to bad ever came out of it I mean he did super glue his teeth together once and once he locked himself in the car to eat the whole can of parm. chesse yikes now it seems funny but at the time I though what is wrong with him Lord i have had enough why would you give me a child who I love so much but cant fix and then he answered me because you will love him and you will do whats best for him what if I put this sweet boy in the hands of a non believer what would happen to him and because I needed to learn to rely on God ( thats somthing I stuggle with I want control of things) and he teaches me everyday that he is ruler of my life only when I give it over do I find what I need.I pray alot for patience and wisdom to make the right choices for him medically and with therepy and spritailly sometimes I just pray all day if I am having a tough day whatever I really need help with paitence the other day I just lost it and dumped a glass of water on his head I cried he cried then after school I told him that was wrong of me and he was like mom I'm over it we all have bad days that was mine. God wont ever bring something or someone into your life that you cant handle though it seems so at times I know I have sat there just crying wondering what I could have done so wrong and a friend of mine told me "honey you didnt do anything wrong God trusted you enough to handle him and you do it very while I myself may have put my shoes on and ran off by now thats why" trust God he will show you his way be strong in the Lord and you will be victoriuos I m sorry I really don thave much info on Aspergers other than common knowlege I know for awhile I really though my son was Autistic and that was not the case but there is a circle of moms for kids with ADHD and I m sure there are moms who have kids with both you will find support there too I belong to 2 groups I get a lot of good info and if you want to know anything about ADHD you can ask me I'll help all I can and give you good tricks that have really helped us

Audrey - posted on 05/20/2009

Kari, please know that you and your family are in my prayers. Unfortunately, we don't get to choose the kind of chidren we would like to have. But I do know that if God chose you, it's because He knows that you can get the job done. God will put no more on us than we can bear. I am telling you this because my son wears a prosthetic leg on his right foot and on his left foot he has had several surgeries. It's a hard journey but I am grateful for the trust that God has in me and in you. Continue to be encouraged!

Heather - posted on 05/20/2009

Kari, please remember that God is good, and he will never leave you or forsake you. He is in complete control of this situation. Continue putting your trust in him. I have prayed for you and your family.



John 14:1

"Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God ; trust also in me.



Psalm 33:21

In him our hearts rejoice, for we trust in his holy name.



Psalm 91:2

I will say of the LORD, "He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust."