My husband doesn't want to go to chruch on sunday because it is his only day off. .

Emily - posted on 12/14/2009 ( 31 moms have responded )

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I am a stay at home mom. So my husband works. I was in college then got pregnant with my olderst daughter. Then this past year I got pregnant and had our second daughter. So going back to school was put on hold. I am a preacher's daughter and was raised to go to church every sunday. I want to bring my girls up in church too. In fact we both dedicated them to the Lord and made and commentment to bring them up to know that Lord. I want my husband to go to church with us. But he says it is his only day off , and right now he does work some side jobs to make extra money. I am not complaining. I just want to know if by him not going, will , my girls still want to go to church. Pray for me that I will be understanding and not force him to go to church with me. I know sometimes when you force people they turn their backs on ever going. He believes is God. He just doesn't think it is that important to got to church.

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Kirstie - posted on 12/19/2009

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My Mother went with her mom for years, my grandfather started going after myparrents got married. It my grandmother had not taken my mom it would have changed so much for the worse for uor family. Take your kids, get yourself fed and get the strangth you need. Go in your quiet time with God and pray. Don't let him know. If you nag him or ask him continually he will run from it. There is a great book " The Power of a Praying Wife" That will change the way you pray for him and God will draw him. He will see your living testimony without your words! God Bless

Kyle - posted on 12/20/2009

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My husband used to be like that too. he felt you didn't have to go to church to be a christian and he wanted to sleep in on his only day off. Then our church started a young married couples class and i asked him to commit to going to it with me for just 6 weeks when they did a study called Fireproof with Kirk Cameron (Good movie) and that was November of 2008. He decided to continue coming with me. I prayed alot for him. That would be my advice. PRAY, God knows how to work on his heart.

Anne - posted on 12/15/2009

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Does you church have a Saturday service? Your not "forcing" him and Praying for him are most likely the best thing you can do. I will be Praying for you for the wisdom you need.

Kelley - posted on 12/14/2009

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There are alot of churches that have wednesday family programs....does he have enough time in the evening to give to that. Sooooo many churches also have groups that do activities on different days, and to kind of stay on page many churches offer there service broadcast online, that way you could still be on page with the head pastor/preacher/preists bible focus.

mommies groups or a bible study that provides daycare while you meet would be a nice way to have some ladies join in agreement in praying that God will work this out beautifully. and you can grow and get stronger in your faith.

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Janet - posted on 12/20/2009

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I would keep praying for him but church don't take the whole day. Maybe you girls could go and Invite him evert now and again the Lord will work on him and he will come mine did and he was saved and baptised.

Donna - posted on 12/19/2009

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I believe if god gives us one day off give that one day to our father. If it wasn't for r father what would we have. What happen if god take all that he gave us and take it away, the first thing we say is let me go to church. We not in church all day and night. We have to give r father more time then we do but if it take just Sunday go and give him our biggest praise. I only go on Sunday and run out to go on Sunday. I will keep your husband in prayer, because God will move him real fast, everybody will be in church on Sunday and some other days.

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I understand with all of you, my husband decided to not attend church anymore, he didn't turn from God, but he just couldn't stand the politics of church anymore. I was in the religious bookstore when I found a book called "So you don't want to go to church anymore?" I thought this was perfect, I would read it and then convince my husband to go back to church. Well, this book changed my life! and changed the way I think about my entire christian walk.

Sandy - posted on 12/18/2009

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Its all about God's timing he may not be ready yet I will pray for your family and just to continue to pray for him. If he goes now and hes not ready he may turn away for good but if he goes when hes ready and Gods ready for him it will be worth the wait.

Ruth - posted on 12/18/2009

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i go anyway. with my 2 kidos. my hubby dosent always go but i ask every week. sometimes he goes other times not but i make it his choice, because if he wont go i try to catch a ride with someone else from church. my grandma if she can will pick us up, if she cant ill call another friend from church and see about it. if your church is doing something speical make sure he knows he may want to go for that, my dose on occacions. but agian i make sure he knows its his choice by asking every sat night if he is going sunday.

Jeanna - posted on 12/18/2009

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Pray that God get ahold of his heart and for him to have the open heart to accept God when he instills the importance of family and putting God first.

Kathy - posted on 12/18/2009

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Go to Church without him, one day he will follow suite when he sees it influneces you! My husband was like that...but our roles were reversed, I am the one that didn't want to go and am sorry for it now however...its a long story!

Pray to God that he works in your husbands heart! Don't pressure him to go, just go yourself and leave him the option of going!

Jennifer - posted on 12/18/2009

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I have the same problem. I was raised going to chruch and my hubby wasn't. He works 2nd shift and night services don't work for us. We have found a church with later services th0at works SOMETIMES!

Liane - posted on 12/17/2009

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I went through this same issue for years... I'm happy to say that I kept going without my dh and tried to set a good example. Two of our children started asking why daddy didn't go to church with us ever. I simply told them that they would have to ask him. We recently had our third child and prior to his birth my husband just started asking what time he should be ready to leave (early or late service). I never even acted surprised I would simply tell him which service we planned on attending that day. I prayed for years that our family as a whole would attend service weekly. My husband did not grow up in any church so this is a whole new world for him. I will pray that you can continue living by example and your husband will soon "come around" to seeing the importance of weekly worship as a family. I know it's hard to be patient but God answers prayers on his time, not ours! Keep praying and I will pray for you and your hubby as well.

Angela - posted on 12/17/2009

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I will pray for you and your husband. I understand you frustration. My husband works swing shift so sometimes he has off and sometimes he does not. He is also in the camp that does not think it is nessassary to go to church on a Sunday. He used to not go at all with me when my daughter was little, but he goes now when he has off and I do not ask him to. He knows I go every Sunday with the kids and one morning he had off and started getting ready and came with. Now when he has off he comes. I know this is not my doing, this was my prayers being answered by God because I did nothing different. Lead by example and PRAY,PRAY,PRAY. God will work it out somehow...I just know he will!

Suzanne - posted on 12/17/2009

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I GO WITHOUT MY FAMILY. ITS GOD THAT WE UPHOLD NOT OUR HUSBANDS,,, I UNDERSTAND THAT YOUR HEART WANTS HIM TO GO, BUT GOD WILL BLESS YOU MORE IF YOU PUT YOUR HUSBAND'S SALVATION WITH GOD.. HE CARE FOR HIM AS MUCH AS YOU WANT HIM TO GO TO CHURCH.
I THINK WE ALL FACE THIS HAS MOMS AND WIVES. GOOD LUCK.

Allyson - posted on 12/17/2009

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the church i attend makes a video of each service you could get the video and he could watch it anytime and explain to your daughter that he works alot but most kids get more joy than you think out of church

Elizabeth - posted on 12/17/2009

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My dad is not a people person at all. He went to church with us almost every Sunday unless he was on-call Saturday night and had to get up in the middle of the night. When he's at church, he doesn't talk to anyone unless they talk to him. When the service is over, he leaves while my mom mingles for about 30 minutes. He has always believed in God, but growing up, I always thought that he didn't really care that much about church and mostly went for our family's sake. Since my sister and I have grown up and left the house, he has COMPLETELY changed. I'm not exactly sure why. He still does the same thing at church (still not a people person), but almost every night, he goes to the basement and listens to sermons online. Sometimes he takes them in the car when he's working (he travels a lot). He has actually given me CDs of a sermon series that he really liked. I was shocked. I would have never thought that he would do anything like that. My dad is a completely different person now that my sister and I are grown. Although I wouldn't try forcing your husband to go to church, maybe you could start bringing up more discussions about Christianity. It could get him used to thinking about God more, and possibly spark a desire to find the answers to questions he has on his own.



I don't think that your husband not going to church will make your daughters not want to go. It will just make them more likely to think that it is ok to not go. But then again, I believe that Christians don't HAVE to go to the conventional church service. As long as a person is growing in the Lord and has fellowship with other Christians, I think it is fine. If a person gets much more out of bible studies or Sunday school than they do out of the service, then I think it is ok to skip out on the service. There are so many options for your husband to choose from even if he doesn't want to go to the regular service on Sundays.

SHERYL - posted on 12/17/2009

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I WILL PRAY FOR YOU. MY HUSBAND WAS THE SAME WAY. WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN IN 2003 HE BECAME BORN AGAIN. I PRAYED EVERY DAY THAT IT WOULD HAPPEN AND AFTER 20 YEARS THE LORD ANSWERED MY PRAYERS. MY SECRET I WENT TO CHURCH BY MYSELF AND AFTER MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN HE STARED COMING WITH US. I HONESTLY BELIEVE THE LORD TOTALLY ANSWERS PRAYERS. DO NOT FORCE HIM. AND IT IS GOOD THAT THE GIRLS LIKE GOING KEEP THAT UP.

Kathryn - posted on 12/16/2009

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Quoting Emily:

My husband doesn't want to go to chruch on sunday because it is his only day off. .

I am a stay at home mom. So my husband works. I was in college then got pregnant with my olderst daughter. Then this past year I got pregnant and had our second daughter. So going back to school was put on hold. I am a preacher's daughter and was raised to go to church every sunday. I want to bring my girls up in church too. In fact we both dedicated them to the Lord and made and commentment to bring them up to know that Lord. I want my husband to go to church with us. But he says it is his only day off , and right now he does work some side jobs to make extra money. I am not complaining. I just want to know if by him not going, will , my girls still want to go to church. Pray for me that I will be understanding and not force him to go to church with me. I know sometimes when you force people they turn their backs on ever going. He believes is God. He just doesn't think it is that important to got to church.



Bless your heart, Emily,  I understand that.   You are wise to realize that pushing too hard can cause your husband or anybody to pull the other way!  But perhaps just giving him something to ponder would slowly have an effect.  Perhaps you could mention to  him that God never takes a day off !!  I mean the scriptures say that God rested on the Sabbath, but really, I don't think God ever stops watching over us and making miracles in our lives.   Maybe if we were all in church on Sunday, God COULD actually rest on Sunday, because we'd be behaving ourselves LOL !! 



Someone told me "let God do your worrying for you, He stays up all night anyway."    Just popped into my head as kind of relevant.



I wil pray that your hubby will come around and that your kids will notice both of you as examples -- so that even if you're the only one taking them to church, you are a fine example of how a Mom can be.  When they realize that you get much of your strength and devotion from your faith, that will make an impression on them.  They may, as I did, turn away from the church for awhile, but deep withint they will have the spiritual education to deal with life's twists and turns, and if they are like me, those experiences will bring them back to the church/God  too!!   I know God has always been in my heart, and guided me even when I was not honoring Him to the best of my ability.



Praying for you and your family!! 



 

Evaline - posted on 12/16/2009

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Church is in your and ministry is what we do. When it is time for him to go, he will. Just keep praying for him and get your life right with God. He will follow. Keep your eyes on the Lord. Remember Peter sank when he took his eyes off Jesus. Read Acts 16:31.

Dyniker - posted on 12/16/2009

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I have the same problem. My daughter is 17 mts and my husband doesn't go to church with us. I grew up in the church as well. I firmly believe "Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it" Proverbs 22:6" Pray and trust that things will work out. I will pray for you.

Patricia - posted on 12/16/2009

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Hi I understand your situation My Husband when I met him both my Boy's were little & he wasn't saved but he was a catholic & insisted on the boy's going to church every sunday no matter what! He let me pick a church that was more in the middle as I too am a preacher's daughter we believe in non-denominational/ Born Again ,some people have different name's personally I just say I am Christian & have a personal relationship w/ the Lord & that I don't belong to a particular religion ,anyway I found a church that was catholic but also was alot like how we were brought up & I prayed fervently for his salvation & approx. 4 yr's ago he accepted the Lord in his Heart!! I have a severe allergy to chemicals from my 13 yr's of managing a Beauty Salon /Spa & cannot be around anything that has any sort of smell or fragrence & we both [w/ out knowing it] used to watch a Preacher by the name of John Hagee that has a television ministry and we watch him every Sunday mostly because we get so blessed by his sermon's ,& if he had a church near us we'd be there every Sunday [his is in Texas we live in Naples, Fl. ] I will pray for you & your situation .You are right don't force him the devil has way's of using just about anything to turn someone against God so just let the Lord deal w/ it nothing is too small or too large for him to handle & alway's be supportive of him & show him God's Love & if you explain once in awhile how important it is for your daughter to grow up knowing God's word & He see's how happy you are when you come home & how blessed you are from the fellowship & the sermon than you will just be planting a seed in his Heart & God will make it grow ,I hope I helped somewhat God Bless You & you are doing the absolute right thing by bringing your daughter to church every Sunday ,as it say's in the Bible" if you teach your children in the way's of the Lord when they are young they will not depart from them & will return " It might not be exact but I'm sure you know that verse & can look it up Your a Good Mother.

Verna M. - posted on 12/16/2009

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Emily, I was faced with a similar situation, except I worked too. I am now 62 years old, and can sit back and offer advice to others. The best advice I can give you is to PRAY FOR HIM, PRAY FOR HIM, PRAY FOR HIM, and very important too is to go ahead and take your daughters to church every Sunday, even if it means going by yourself. The teachings they will receive as they start in even a Cradle Roll or Nursery class will place knowledge in their little hearts and minds. When they get a little older, they will probably ask why their Daddy is not going with them. I think that you might want to quietly and calmly talk to your husband around that time and ask him if you can send your daughters to him with that question, or if he has a specific answer he would like you to give them.



It is better for children to be taken to church by one parent than to not go to church at all! You said you both dedicated them to the Lord at church. When you did that, did you make a promise/vow to the Lord to raise them up with the knowledge of the Lord? I believe that you are only responsible for the promise that you made, and not for your husband's promise. The Lord expects you to keep your promise to Him.



I hope this helps!

Heather - posted on 12/15/2009

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The best way to witness is by example. Keep going. Eventually I am certain that he will choose to come with you. As long as you keep your walk firm and keep going on your own with your kids. I would normally attach the scripture that Lola already posted. But since she already has, I agree with her.

Lora - posted on 12/15/2009

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1 Peter 3 (New International Version)



1 Peter 3

Wives and Husbands

1Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. 3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. 5For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

I found the verse hope this helps!

Lora - posted on 12/15/2009

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I have been in this same situation for years. And at times my kids say "I wanna stay home with Daddy" and it hurts my heart. But I persevere anyway. Lately my hubby has came to church 7 times in a row after I've been going for 17 years now. So, I just keep on praying God will draw him in...It says somewhere in the bible that "without a word you can win him over" It is soooo hard sometimes...And I mess up a lot...but I still pray that God will work in his heart. And your hubby too!

Nikki - posted on 12/15/2009

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I went on doing my business and kept thinking of you and just wanted to add one more thing. We serve an Awesome God, nothing is impossible for him to do. He wants us to put all our trust and faith into him. Have no fear, have no worry for they are the opposite of Faith! If we forced our husbands go, it wouldn't be God's will. He wants his children to come to him when they wish to seak him. That is what is so awesome about our Lord, he gave us choices. We can choose to follow him or not to, but it's our choice. If he forced himself upon us, he would be a dictator not our Savior. We can minister to our husbands, show our faith, do right by God and live Godly lives. When they see the peace and joy that fills our souls, I believe it is a testimony to what God can do and they can see it in all that we do. Again, keep praying, keep believing, we'll see God's grace and miracles. It will happen. And your children being so young, it could happen before they are even old enough to remember that Daddy didn't go to church at first. Strong in Christ! Again, love to you and your family.

Nikki - posted on 12/15/2009

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I very much understand your situation! My lil' ones are 7 and 6 and I take them to church every Sunday. The are involved with junior bible quiz, royal rangers (like cubscouts) and missionettes (like girl scouts). I volunteer my time there as well. My husband was brought up in church, but for him it was almost like punishment, so he turned away from church, though he believes. I want him with us at church, but I have learned that I can not make him be were he doesn't want to be. I have been blessed with friends at church and we've gone on double dates. He comes to the children functions at church to see his babies. He absolutely knows the blessings we recieved. What I do is pray! God knows my heart, my every desire. He blessed me with this beautiful man and I am believing that God is working and has put things into motion. I believe it will happen and that he will eventually come and worship with me. But that is all in God's timing. All I can do is live right, pray and be faithful. I want him to see God through me and if that helps him to be a better man, then it will be done. Have faith, keep doing what you are doing. Love your husband and PUSH...Pray Until Something Happens!! Love and blessings to you and your family.

Heather - posted on 12/14/2009

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My husband is the same way, so im not really sure what to tell you. My daughter is only 10 months old and I was going to try to get my husband to come to church with us even every now and then.

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