Kim - posted on 12/06/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )
I just joined this community after reading several posts and being encourage and uplifted by
them. I need some christian advice. I have been married to my husband for 20 years. We have four children, the oldest boy is 18 and the youngest girl is 9. I met my husband in 1990 and we were married in 1991. My daughter from a previous marriage was 11 at the time we were married. My husband adopted my daughter and we were the perfect loving family. My husband was a christian and he led me and my daughter to the Lord. My daughter told me when she was 15 years old that my husband had molested her for 6 months when she was 12. I was pregnant with my 3rd child at the time! I was devastated! He was arrested and booked into jail for 3 months. Ladies, I took him back like the stupid fool i was. I was weak and had these kids with him. My daughter took off to live with her boyfriend and I was alone with my babies. All my christian friends and pastors were telling me to forgive him and take him back because he ask God for forgiveness and me and my daughter and was a good father from then on. Only thing is that i could never really forgive him for doing that to my daughter and the bitterness and unforgiveness starting setting in towards my husband. It was masked over occasionally because of our own children who were so small, and then we had another child after that! So we pretended for 18 years and i suddendly about 2 years ago i started pulling away from him and stopped letting him touch me. I didn't respect him anymore. By staying together with him for all these years has had a negative effect on us all. He recently cheated on me with a 19 year old girl, who just found out herself that he had been lying to her all along about his age and that he was not married. She ran a background check and found out he had molested his step daughter. She cut him off and i cut him off and now he wants to repair the marriage again! I'm done this time ladies. I have no other choice. So why do i feel like such a failure to him and my kids. This marriage couldn't of been God ordained !