my step child is in place of safety!

Vuyokazi - posted on 08/09/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




i just found out that i have a step child a year agao and now thsi child is staying at the place of safety becoz her mother is a drunkard and puts the child in danger as they say (social worker),so i have accepted this child in my home as i don't have a choice.he is my hubsand 's child.we had our first meeting with social workers and her biological mother abt the child staying with her father and myself,and the lame excuse for asking for visitors rights while she was nt capable of her child welfare and now she wants to come and destroy my marriage by her lame visits for the child while she was nt visiting the child for a year in that placeandonly came in now that she hears that the father want to take the child..and the social allows her that right was is fair?or am being selfish?for nt wanting her in my house?


Carla - posted on 08/09/2010




If your feelings are telling you this woman is up to no good, listen to them. We are to be wise as serpents, and harmless as doves. That means if you feel she is going to cause trouble, using an innocent child, you have every right to ask that either she see the child in a neutral place, accompanied by the social worker, or during hours your husband will not be home. She knew your husband was not free when she slept with him. I am sorry if I'm not sounding very Christian right now, but this subject is very near and dear to my heart. We have to protect the household God gave us. Satan would try to destroy the family, and it is your duty to protect it.

Taking the child is indeed admirable; but put space between the woman and your husband.

God bless, honey

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Vuyokazi - posted on 08/14/2010




thanks for everthing i already taken that desion and am gratefull for yo advice womenr u truly a blessed and Calra u agot me think there ,i lke it when u said we must be wise as sepernt ..thank sisi taht the way to go ..surely it will make her boerd to come over and c the child anywa and that will make her to pull herslef together and get work adn raise her own famliy thans for advice its powerfull to my ears

Stephanie Jo - posted on 08/09/2010




This is a hard situation for everyone.I want to say that I am proud that you stepped up for this child when no one including his father.Pray to God and give him all your doubts and worries.That little boy was placed w/you by God for a reason.Just always be there for the visits and maybe your husband could go run errands or go to familys house.Show her your love for Christ.

Victoria - posted on 08/09/2010




God does everything for a reason. I know it's a hard situation, but maybe you should try to extend Christ like love to her. If she was an alcoholic then she obviously has some serious issues going on, and for you to show here Christ-likeness she will most probably never have received it before. Pray about the situation & give it over to God. Maybe you are the light that this young lady needs exposure to, so that she can get her life back on the right track.

I will keep you in prayer.

Vuyokazi - posted on 08/09/2010




and plz try to be in my my shoes..this child is 21/2 yers and my child is 4 yrs i came to know abt this child after 6months of a mariage,and apprrntly my husnad was reluctant to accpet this child as his own ,well i was nt suprised.he is claming the mother was seeking someone else at the i ask him to accpet the child and i forgave him bt i don want the mother coming to my house at all ?i don't trust her what do u think ?ca i fight her rights simply becoz the child is ended up in place of safety?

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