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hi my name is emily ,

i have a daughter she is 8 months old. I am having a hard time loseing weight i was really skinny before i had her. Now im having problems i tryed excersice and eating right and drinking water. I just dont want to be depressed anymore. I am going to be getting married in 2011 i want to look good in my dress.

if anyone can help me that would be great.


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Sativa - posted on 01/02/2010




Try a website called It is a health site that allows you to list the foods you eat ans gives you great information about exactly what you are putting in your body. HOWEVER, dont make any drastic changes without first talking to your doctor.

Danielle - posted on 12/13/2009




It is all about getting your metabolism back up, portion control, & ouput versus input. You must lose more calories than you are putting in. Please keep in mind this will be very difficult if you are still breastfeeding as you have to maintain a certain level of sustenance for your baby. I had two boys back to back and never got to lose the weight from my secong child, so when my third came around I was 35 lbs overweight. When I was trying to lose my baby weight I did Tae-Bo 7 days a week for 30 minutes as soon as I woke up. I learned that it is better to exercise on an empty stomach. I did not eat any refined sugar, enriched starch and if I ate a sandwich, it was only on 1 pc. of bread rather than two. I ate alot of tuna with no mayo; when eating the key is to avoid white stuff if you are trying to lose weight, i.e. refined sugar, enriched flour, white breads, white rice, potatoes, etc. This stuff has more starch/carbs and you have to be careful because some "whole wheat" bread has enriched flour. Try a metabolism herbal supplement (after checking with your PCP) such as chromium picolinate and/or a carb blocker. Those helped me a lot. I drank nothing but water, and if I did have to have soda or sweet drink it was sugar free. If my sweet tooth started acting up, it was sugar free ice cream or Ben & Jerry's Chocolate Fudge Brownie low fat frozen yogurt. This was rare, maybe once every two weeks. Also stay away from fast food. You have to be determined and keep your goal in mind because if you can't see it, you won't achieve it. Don't look at the scale either... it will fool you every time. I started dropping weight and went from a size 11 to a 7 in 45 days. You can do it!!!!

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With my first son, I didn't lose all the weight until after I stopped nursing him. Don't stop nursing to lose weight, please. 2011 is till a long way off! but sometimes women don't lose it till they are done nursing (I nursed him till he was 2 then within 2 weeks I lost all the extra baby weight).

If you are suffering from depression and are being treated for it, ask your doctor/pharmacist about your medication because some antidepressants can cause weight gain or make it very difficult to lose the weight you want to lose. That is one of the problems I had with my son since I had ppd. The treatment should not be stopped prematurely as it can worsen depression but it may be possible to switch to a different medication that may work better with you body.

One thing to look at is how much weight you gained while you were pregnant, if you were within the limits of 25-35lbs it should be easier to lose the weight but if you gained significantly more you may need a more aggressive program but what it comes down to is math: how many calories are you consuming? how much energy are you burning? and if the math doesn't add up the way it should then you may need to have some testing done as you could have a hormone imbalance inhibiting effective weight loss.

Healthy weight loss should occur at a rate of 1-2lbs per week. any more than that is of serious concern. Also, you need a support person to keep you going as real results may not be seen for 6-8 weeks as you will be changing so much and your body will be adapting to these changes.

All the best in your venture!

Teicha - posted on 12/12/2009




HI Emily,
I have just had my third child and for the first time have not been able to lose the weight. I have consulted a nutritionist who suggested that I start eating breakfast and continue to eat 4 to 5 other small meals during the day. He said that I reserve my heavy carbs (white rice and potatoes ) for earlier meals. I am also supposed to start a workable cardio routine every day. I hope that this information is helpful to you. I understand about not looking and feeling like yourself.

Amy - posted on 12/12/2009




I have had weight problems all my life. I still do not lose the wight. I have water retention and a thyroid disorder. I weigh and measure my food and stay away from sugar and white flour. Not always but for the most part. My doctor also suggested to eat 4 small meals aday opposed to 3 big meals a day. That helps to. God bless you.

Sally - posted on 12/11/2009




Check out "the every other day diet". sounds silly but it really works and my hubby lost a heap of weight on it. He has a summary on his website... , under profile. You only diet every second day, its simple and effective and easy to maintain in a busy family environment as you can flex around your life. Its worked for heaps of our friends and relatives as you can still eat your favourite things every second day. check it out.

Amanda - posted on 12/11/2009




Hi Emily, my little girl is 3 months old and I am fiercely trying to lose my weight. I wasn't skinny before having her, but I felt good about myself at size ten. Now I'm a 12-14. I was really heavy into nutrition and fitness before getting pregnant and had slowly lost about 40 pounds during the previous two years. Basically, eat less - move more. For me it's not about cutting carbs or anything faddish like that, I have to go low fat. Also, watching my sugar intake: no sweetened cereals, candy, soda's, desserts. But I have a hershey kiss or two after meals to satisfy that sweet tooth. I walk 4-5 times a week, for AT LEAST 30 minutes. Now a friend is generously watching my daughter twice a week so I can get back into the gym for more intense exercise. IT TAKES TIME. You can try something radical, and you might get results, but as soon as you stop whatever it is, the weight will come back, and usually more than before! Here's a good guideline:
Starch's: 6 servings/day
Meat: 3 servings/day (a serving of meat is MUCH smaller than you might think)
Fruit: 2-3 servings/day
Veggies: 3-5 servings/day
Fats: 3 servings/day (like 1/8 of an avocado)
Milk: 2 servings/day
Mark them off as you eat them (follow the serving sizes on labels) throughout the day and you'll know that you're getting a good balanced diet and not eating too much. Good luck! And don't give up. :-)

Heather - posted on 12/11/2009




Some moms never lose all of the weight. Others lose it right away. It just depends. It sounds like you are off to a good start, what kind of exercise are you doing? Going up and down stairs a lot helps if you have those in your home. Tae Bo with Billy Banks is great. The T3 really helped me. But really any cardio work out should help.

Amanda - posted on 12/10/2009




Sometimes it just takes time. It can be really un-motivating if you aren't getting results, but if you are eating well, and exercising you should start loosing weight. 2011 is far enough away that you can loose a lot of weight before then. What kind of exercise are you doing? Are you getting enough sleep (it really does make a difference)? If you are wanting to drop pounds fast there are all sorts of things you can try, but if you want to be healthy for life, and not just for the moment, I suggest taking the slow approach. Cut back on junk, read the labels on your food. Stay away from processed gunk, eat lots of fresh fruit and veggies. Eat foods high in protein (they will help you feel full, and give you energy). Eat whole grains, cut back on sugar. Make sure you are continuing to drink water. Walking is great exercise. Try lifting weights too, you may gain muscle, but you will look toned and have more energy, plus muscle helps burn more fat, so your metabolism will increase and you will loose weight easier.

I hope this was helpful. I am currently pregnant, so I am not trying to loose weight at the moment, but I am trying to not gain too much, and I am also looking forward to being able to loose my baby weight! Good luck, and congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

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