User - posted on 01/03/2012 ( 15 moms have responded )
My husband and I are struggling with the issue of his family. There are three adult children in his family and my husband is the only one who is looked down upon and treated differently. His brother and his wife are pastors but they constantly look down on others and have actually bad mouthed people who have called them for advice in front of us. My mother in law criticizes every move we make (why do you go out to eat on fridays when you have 2 kids? etc.). This past month my brother in law was stationed here in CT for the entire month and my inlaws as well as he and his wife, my husband's sister and her boyfriend had family dinner every sunday of the month at my mother in laws house and on Christmas they were talking about the inside jokes from such occasions which we were never invited to even though we live 10 minutes away. We are trying to be good Christians but are really starting to resent being treated in such a way. It makes us angry and we want to distance ourselves from them for the sake of our children (don't want them to hear my mil talking down to dad in front of them) They didn't buy my kids gifts for Christmas but got something for my nephew. I don't want to dislike them but we really want to cut ties and say "this is what we're doing" in regards to birthdays and such and not have to call several times to get them involved in our kids lives. Do you think it would be ok to not have them in our lives even if they are family?