Need prayers and encouragement...PLEASE

Jessica - posted on 06/10/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




I am new to this group and have already found the women to be pleasant, encouraging, supportive, and good Godly women.

I am 29, I have 4 children 7,5,3,1 and I am 6.5 mths pregnant with my 5th. I work full time and so does my husband but his shift is from 11am-8pm so he's only home to help in the mornings. I'm tired and I don't feel like God cares to much about me right now. I know that is a fairly juvenille statment but I'm having a really hard time with life right now. I feel like a single mom most of the time and I feel alone. My job and my kids consume my life and I don't know how to change that.

My husband was laid off last thanksgiving and even though he's been working for the past two mths, catching up has been hard. I know I'm not he only one struggling and I kind of feel like a baby for whining but I think i've finally hit the bottom. I got pregnant in January, he still wasn't working at that time. We live in a 3 bdrm rent house and have no money. Why would God let this happen? My husband and I are careful, we even have 2 BC babies, so if he's not suppose to give you more than you can handle, WHY? I told my husband last night that since he's never around when I need him why doesn't he just leave, that's not me and I think it's more than hormones.

Please help! Any words of wisdom and prayers wouldbe a great blessing right now. Thank you

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Heather - posted on 06/11/2009




Jessica, I am 25 and have four kids. While my husband wants to be supportive his company just got bought out and he is now required to work 6 days a week. I hardly ever see him anymore, but God is always with me. I posted some scriptures at the top of the thread list that help me get through those stressful days. God doesn't give us more then we can handle, but sometimes he has to show us how to handle what he gives us by giving it back to him. You can't do it on your own, but you can do it with God. That is the only way that I get through. I can't even imagine a fifth, but I know that if God thinks you can do it, he is never wrong. Use this time to get closer to him. And please apologize to your husband. Let him know how much you love him and miss him, because I'm sure that he isn't happy about being away from you either. He needs your support and love just as much as you need his. I know that to get through the really stressful days I cling to the scriptures and pray a ton! You have friends here if you ever need someone to talk to. I know it isn't the same as having someone right there, but I think this community is great. I love all of my sisters here, and am really thankful for them, including you!

Laura - posted on 06/10/2009




I can relate to your situation also, but you need to remember to trust in the Lord, life will get hard at times but you need to lean In The Everlasting Arms of Jesus.

And remember the poem Footprints in the Sand.

Satan would love to tear your family apart just like Amy said Don't give him that satisfaction. Ask Jesus everyday when you wake up to be there with you. And Remember to Thank Him for all the blessings you have it may take a while to think of them but everyday you will be thaking Him for more and more.

And I will be praying for you and your family

Holly - posted on 06/10/2009




HI JESSICA my name is HOLLY and i have been married for 5 years and i have 3 kids all biys 9yr old,6yr old and a 21 month old.I can relate to you is that i feel the same way some times and satan will play you every day ,for you to give up and to get resentful .GOD will never give you more then you can handdle ,he loves you and yr family so much every day in your life you will have trials small ones and huge ones .I was wondering if you have a BIBLE ?If you get a min please go to PSALM (new testment )you need to rember this when things are going wrong or not rite or when you want to give up rember PSALM 18:2THE LORD IS MY ROCK ,AND MY FORSTRESS,AND MY DELIVER;MY GOD ,MY STRENGTHI WHOM I WILL TRUST,MY BUCKER,AND THE HORNOF MY SALVATION,AND MY HIGH TOWER!(CONTINUE TO READ IF YOU WOULD LIKE )also 37:5 COMMIT THY WAY UNTO THE LORD ;TRUST ALSO IN HIM AND HE SHALL BRING IT TO PASS.PROVERBS3:5-6TRUST in the Lord with all thine heart;and lean not unto thine own allthy ways acknowledge him ,and he shall direct thy paths.Isaiah 12:2,26:3-4.There are some verces ,i hope they have helped .I was also wondering do u have a local church that you can go to ?If you need any more help with any more questions please feel free to ask ,I will pray for you and your family ,i know how can you fit one more day of something in ,with work and all i go to church on sunday morning and i help out as much as i can and i read my BIBLE every nite and i just say a prayer every nite before i go to bed when u ask why u might not get you ranswer now as we most would like ,it may be in days weeks months but GOD will answer you one day ..he also doesnt want you and your husband to seperate or to divorce so may be in you rprayer ask GOD to help with you rmarriage and the help of the family ,I know to nite im going to pray for the bouth of you .MAY GOD bless you .oh also i am wondering if you have been saved ?Please keep in contact with me and let me know how you are doing ! THANKS HOLLY

Vicki - posted on 06/10/2009




I empathize with your situation. Ask God to be the center of your life. Ask him to guide you through this difficult phase. Ask him to bring people to help support your family. Praise him for what he has provided you, even if it seems inadequate at times.

I'll be praying for you too, Rebecca. Bless you for reaching out to the light of God's love.

Jessica - posted on 06/10/2009




Thank you both for your kind words, I think the hardest thing abou all this is I have no one to talk to.

Amy R, I knew I wasn't the only one going through a tough time but seeing how other women handle things and put their trust in God is what I need. It's women like you that make me feel that I can do it and that I really need to get closer to God. You are a blessing and an inspiration and your words mean more that you will ever know.

Amy S, thank you. I never thought of my trials in that way and it kind of comforting to think that he would have so much faith in me. I have had a hard time with my faith lately, I've been mad at God. You have made me see things a differently and for that I am thankful.

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Hi Jessica, I only have one new baby so far but I can empathize with you regarding your husband's work schedule. My husband also works evenings, and is often not home until midnight or later. I know when things get difficult it's easy to think that God doesn't care, but I think it's actually very loving of Him to bring challenges into our lives because it reminds us that we can't do it on our own and we desperately need Him! I need that reminder a lot. When we are weak, He is strong! Difficult times draw us to Him in a way that wouldn't be possible if life were always easy. Your situation does sound overwhelming, but maybe God will use this time in your life to bring you closer to Him than ever before, and then it certainly wouldn't be wasted! I will certainly pray for you! Keep us posted on how you're doing and how God answers your prayers!

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HI Jessica, I am 33 and have 4 kids also--8,7,5,3, but not one on the way! 4 years ago when I was pregnant with our 4th my husband got sick. He has now been diagnosed with a chronic illness and will be "sick" for the rest of his life, there is no cure and pain meds are the only help for him right now. I tell you this not to make you feel bad for me, but so that you know I can empathize with you. I often have felt like a single mom, my hubby can't work and so even though he is home with me, he is often lying in bed or on the couch. It is easy to get resentful and feel like we are doing it all. That is a lie from Satan designed to try and split your family up. Satan would like nothing more than to see you arguing and eventually break up your family. BUT GOD is in control, He does know what is happening and each of your babies is a gift from Him.

We also live in a small 3 bedroom duplex that we rent and don't have much money. I don't work as I am raising the kids and homeschooling them. It is HARD. And of course my hubby can't work. But God never promised things would be easy, just that He would be there for us and help us through the tough times. I don't have it all together, my house is generally a mess and I yell at my kids sometimes. However, I do know God is with me and hasn't forgotten me, just as He is with you and hasn't forgotten you. He knows you right where you are and is waiting for you to fall into His arms and tell Him you need His help to do this. I will pray that you will rest in Him and let Him guide you. It is so difficult to trust Him when not understanding His plan But know that we are promised that He knows His plans for you, plans not to harm you, but to give you a hope and a future (Jerimiah 29 I believe).

All i can say is hang in there and trust God. Don't worry about anything else right now, but sitting at His feet. I know how hard it can be to find that time, wake up early if you must or steal it in the bathroom with the door locked while the youngest nap. You will find yourself refreshed and ready to deal with things.

You might also find out if there are any programs to help you (WIC in the USA, food bank, ect in Canada) These may be able to be a little help to try and relieve some of the burden. I hope and pray that you will come through this with a stronger marriage and faith in God than when you began.

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