Candis - posted on 06/26/2012 ( 25 moms have responded )
Hi; I'm new to this forum and just wanted to seek advice from seasoned women. I'm planning to get married in four months. The guy I'm marrying is fantastic! We dated in high school and just remained the best of friends after all these years. Long story short, I'm 29 (soon to be 30) and am divorced after 6 years w/no kids. He is 30 w/full custody of an 8 year old boy and a 9 year old girl. His children love me and I love them which is not the problem. My problem is that I'm starting to panic. He's not saved nor do his children go to church but he does believe that God exists. He says he will go to church w/me on Sundays and I can take the kids with me any other time. I'm just so worried that there will be a conflict b/c of us being "unequally yolked". Also, I'm worried that I will be a good mother b/c again, I have no kids. Their mother rarely sees them (maybe once every two months if that) and I know that they are seeking the love from a "mother". I can relate b/c of my own child hood being so close to theirs. I just don't know what to do. And to top it off, I'm moving to another state where I will no nobody but him and his children. To top it off, I'm leaving behind my mother (who is suppose to eventually move in w/us) who is sick but she wants to focus on the wedding and not the fact that doctors give her a year unless she has a transplant which she won't even consider me as an option. She says if she leaves in a year then that's God will and she's okay w/that but I'm not. (another issue) I'm just......AAAAGGGHHHHH!!!!
Sorry to be so long and since I'm new dumping all my issues on everyone right off but I truly need help!!!! (My former pastor did pray and fast about my fiance and I getting married and he gave the okay just in case anyone wanted to know). Thanks so much in advance.