Please please pray for my marriage.

Kat - posted on 03/31/2010 ( 90 moms have responded )

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Hello. My Husband is moving out, he is not sure how he feels or what he wants anymore. I am absolutely gutted. I am struggling to function. I have an 18m old & am 25w3d pregnant. I want my Husband to realise he is still in love with me & come back to our family. Please have us in your prayers? Thanks in advance.

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Tracey - posted on 04/05/2010

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My heart, thoughts, and prayers go out to you. When I prayed, I did not just pray for you, but ALL of you. Sometimes we try to hold on to things, that we must let go, for whatever reason it may be, that is where Faith in God comes in. I hear you. I got tired of being sad and turned to God, don't get me wrong I have issues, we all do; but its how we handle those issues is what defines us. I am a controlling person, in the sense that if a problem comes about, everyone turns to be for the resolution, how to deal and I take it on..until I was faced with a situation, with my son that I had absolutely NO CONTROL. It was then my Faith increased beyond belief. I always said I trust God, so I was put in a position to PROVE IT. It is Never about us. Also, I loved this man for more than 20 years (since high school). I mean never loved anyone like this before, I did everything I knew, everything he asked for I did to get that type of love reciprocated Nothing. It was though he had some type of power/force over me. I continued to pray and seek God and today I am free. I realized that nobody will ever love me like Jesus and that I am a gift and should be respected, loved and treated as such. And you too my Dear are a Gift, you carry yourself as such, for yourself, your daughter and your unborn child.

Catherine - posted on 04/05/2010

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Don't pray for what you want. Pray for God's will or you will be continuously miserable

Tracey - posted on 04/05/2010

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I will definitely pray for you and your family that God's Will will be done. Unfortunately, we cannot make someone love us or realize they love us, that is something they must do on their own. All we can do is first and foremost, Trust God (no matter what); pray for strength, guidance and wisdom. Be true to yourself and continue to be the person YOU are. I know this sounds easier said than done, but with God ALL things are possible.

Kat - posted on 04/05/2010

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Hello. Thank you so much for your support & prayers. I read these & I cry so much. I know God is with me & giving me strength. I am myself seeing a Psychologist as it is important to me to cope for both my Daughter & my unborn child. I will also need this if our marriage breaks down. My Husband has said he will also seek help as it is his depression that has lead us here. (I wait to see if he does). We are also seeing couples counseling starting this week. My Hubby has moved back home as our Daughter hasn't faired very well with this. But his in not back with me or in our room. He is still uncertain about our future. He is very caring towards me & sorry for my pain. He has most all times been very warm towards me but I find this confusing. While I am tempted to beg God to bring him back to me but I haven't asked for it. I have only asked for Strength, courage & his will to be done in my life. I have also asked for his healing hand on my Husband. Which ever way our marriage goes he needs this for himself & his children. I am still so in love with him. He has always been a wonderful Husband & Father. I am so so sad all the time...

Sandra Kooky - posted on 04/05/2010

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Write down all the good things about your husband and why you love him. Put it in an envelope and either hand it to him or mail it to him. Often in marriages we only have time to focus on the negative. I'm not saying you have done this. If you fee that you can, encourage him to do the same about writing down positive thing about you. Neither of you have probably changed so drastically from "honeymoon' days that you cannot revive that fire, love, and appreciation.

Above all, go to the Lord with this. The Psalms are very encouraging in discouraging times.

I am praying for you.

Janet - posted on 04/05/2010

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I am in a similar place after 22 1/2 years of marriage. I find myself feeling totally out of place because my whole identity is built around leaving my parents house and moving with my husband, My advice to you is to live one day at a time. Do the things that help you make it through the day, don't try to look too far ahead because only God knows the final outcome. You ultimately need to know that no matter which way it goes, God will take care of you and your children. I do stand in agreement with you for total healing of your marriage.

Sandra - posted on 04/05/2010

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Hi Katrice, nothing, absolutely nothing, is too hard for our God. Keep trusting Him and put your marriage in His hand, HE WILL NEVER FAIL YOU. I will be praying for you and your marriage.

Cym - posted on 04/05/2010

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I, too, will pray for you. I know that what God has brought together, no man can separate. God will surely make a way.

Janet - posted on 04/04/2010

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Yes Continue to pray for your husband and your family seek God in everything you do. We will pray for you and your marrage but is there someone you can go for consoling like a pastor.you might need to also have someone close to you like a church friendfor the surrport.

Wendy - posted on 04/04/2010

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"An unconditional commitment to Jesus Christ must be made on order to bring about this new relationship" (John 1:12,5:24;2Cor 5:17)
I too have been separated and having faith in Christ and a relationship with Christ will help you with your marriage. Keep focus on what's important and seek spiritual advise from you local paster. I'm sorry for your troubles. I will pray for you.

Brooke - posted on 04/04/2010

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Katrice I am praying for you also. I was told once, that the Lord uses every situation to draw us closer to HIM. And when we are in a trial, like the one you are going through, if we seek God's will, and are willing to die to self, He will bless you. Draw close to Him, and no matter what your husband does, realize that you stand firm in the Lord. He will hold you up, carry you through this. And He has good plans for your life. He knows already what your husband will do, and he has already made a way for you through this. Trust in HIM and lean not on your own understanding dear. God Loves you and knows your needs. HE will meet all your needs. Don't be afraid. The Lord is your confidence.
I'm praying for you and your family. And the Lord is holding you all in the palm of His hand.... *HUGS to you*

Jessica - posted on 04/04/2010

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My family & I will be praying for you! & I hope you can find comfort with your church family! I know ours has helped us so many times.

Cecilia - posted on 04/04/2010

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Pray that he will seek God for the right answer and that if it is God's will he will come back, I had the same problem and I got down on my hands and knees and prayed harder than I have ever prayed, and he didn't leave me. Trust in God.

Stephanie - posted on 04/04/2010

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You will DEFINETLY be in our prayers----keep depending on God and I pray in Jesus' Holy Name that HE will restore your marriage and it will be more blessed than it ever has!!!! We come to you Father in agreement and we worship You, Lord....Amen

Katina - posted on 04/04/2010

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Katrice,I will be praying for you to have strength...I know its hard to think about being without your husband,But just remember God is in control,and we do go through seasons..Hang in there sis!!

Rhonda - posted on 04/04/2010

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You will definitely be in my prayers. It is very hard but you need to let go and let God handle everything. You can't change your husband, only God can. I know from experience. Right now you need to concentrate on your babies, pray and let God use you for His glory. I wish I could you you a big hug but realize you are loved, prayers are with you and we but especially God are here for you. You are not alone. I hope you have support from your family and your church family. God bless you. Rhonda.

Marcy - posted on 04/04/2010

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Katrice, my heart and prayers are with you and the kids. The Lord knows all and is in control, the hardest part is waiting, believe me I understand!. I'll continue to pray love and Aloha, Marcy

Cammi - posted on 04/04/2010

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You are in my prayers as well, Katrice. As we speak I am dealing with the same situation as you. We had been together 12 years, married for almost 10 and have a 5 year old daughter. I, too, am devasted, so I understand how you are feeling. We both must pick up and carry on for our children's sake, as hard as it may be at times. Know that you are never alone. Keep your faith and things will all work out for the best in the end.

Angela - posted on 04/03/2010

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My family and I will pray for you tonight Katrice. We will pray for peace and restoration. Have you seen the movie Fireproof and the companion book Love Dare. it's been an awesome tool for restoring marriages in our church community and wider community, if you could get him to watch it. The main thing is staying strong in your faith and in yourself, and getting support from others. Love to your precious family, from our family in NZ.

Lilly - posted on 04/03/2010

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I know what you are going through, and how you feel. All of these above posts are very much on the mark. I've been through it myself. I wrote a companion book to help people pull through separation or divorce with the grace of God. Healing Within The Storm is at Amazon.com or lulu.com. Check it out. God bless you and may you come through with a deeper walk with the Savior.

Sheryl - posted on 04/03/2010

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just rem. you do what you do for your family! just keep praying and asking for the strength. i'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

Debi - posted on 04/03/2010

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I will pray for yalls situation. It's even harder when children are involved. How many years have yall been married and what are your ages? Is he around people that are an encouragement to him or a detriment? Do you have local support?

Try not to stress too much as you need to stay healthy for this new baby and for your little one. I know that's easier said than done, but know I am praying for you.

Teresa - posted on 04/02/2010

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my dear father in heaven i come to you asking that you help this family LORD. I ask that you lead and guide them in the path that you feel they should go .Father GOD give them both the strength to hold on and grow in the spirit of your love and faith. Father God keep them whole/together for they are all your children and need you so desperately FATHER. FATHER GOD i pray for this family in your holy name JESUS that thy will be done. Thanking you in advance believing it is already done. AMEN teresa your faithful/humbel servent

Lollette - posted on 04/02/2010

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I will pray for you and for your husband, Katrice! Hold on to your faith in a God who is in control of everything. I think your husband is feeling overwhelmed with having to deal with his growing family.

Deana - posted on 04/02/2010

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Katrice, You have many people praying for you already. I strongly agree with Jodie Delquadri's post. I believe you and your husband should seek Christian counseling, maybe through your church or some other organization. If your husband is not interested, I believe you should still get counseling for yourself. My husband was ready to walk out on me and I found out about it through my pastor. He encouraged me in what my part was in the problem and the solution and he continued talking to and counseling my husband on his part of the problem and solution. But even if my husband had left, I was uplifted and encouraged by my pastor and believe with his and God's help and strength, I would have somehow pulled through. But we are still together, still with problems we work through, but stronger than before. I will continue to pray for you.

Rhonda - posted on 04/02/2010

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Hi Katrice,
10 years ago I faced the same problem you're facing now. My husband of 15 years decided that he didn't want to be married anymore(at least not to me). As you, I too, was absolutely stunned, gutted, at a total loss asto what to do. After several nights of crying and blaming God, I remembered how we came together. I remembered how the Lord showed me that he was the one that He had designed for me. I picked myself up(it wasn't easy, trust me) and I boldly exclaimed to the enemy that I was taking back what he stole from me. It took many a long and sleepless night, tons of tears, and some deep soul searching, but I told my husband that if he wanteda divorce, he would have to get it and pay for it. I would not, I refused to sign any papers. He balked, he screamed, he shouted, he threatened. But in the end, God won out. And here we are about to celebrate 25 years in August. Stand strong, Katrice, keep your hand in the Master's hand, trust in Him and allow Him to lead you in this. He won't steer you wrong. I'll be praying for you.

Alice - posted on 04/02/2010

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Dear Lord,
You are the one through whom all things are possible. Whatever your will be, please let it take hold in Katrice's life and marriage. Wrap your arms around her family and bind them with your love. Your will and your way, Lord. Let thy will be done.
Amen!

Praying for favor in your life.

Pamela - posted on 04/01/2010

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I will be praying for you and would also like to encourage you to read some books that may help you both. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman it talks about filling up each others love tank, Love and Respect by Emmerson Eggrich he talks about communicating with love and respect, For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhan she talks about what men think about, how men view us and more, you can also get Godly advise from Focus on the Family website family.org, The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren he talks about God's purpose in our life, why things happen the way they do. I hope this is helpful for you I know it was for me. Remember God is in control only God can change your husband not you. God is an awesome God, lean on Him for your strength.

Jodie - posted on 04/01/2010

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I would encourage you to really plug into your church. Get yourself a support group of Christian women who you know will tell you what you need to hear (in line with Jesus and God's plan and design, not simply on your side). And guard yourself from the lies and deceptions of the world! If you can, encourage your husband to seek counsel as well. I strongly believe that Christ can pull us through any struggles we may have in our marriages, we just have to look for the answers in HIM. Stay strong, and in the meantime we will all be praying that your husband discovers the truth about love, that it is a commitment, not just a feeling, and that if he learns to love you the way that God intends for you guys then your marriage will be greatly blessed!
In the midst of all of this, just remember that you are greatly valued by God, and He cares so much for you. Remember that your marriage is designed to be a lesson to us about Christ's unity with us; continue to strive for that unity with your husband, but be encouraged that you are in an ETERNAL marriage with your PERFECT SAVIOR, who will never leave you nor forsake you! And He will be greatly glorified by your faithfulness, patience, and reliance on Him.
My heart goes out to you, and I pray that God really moves in great ways in your lives.

Diane - posted on 04/01/2010

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I will also pray for you and your marriage. Like Bianca said, God is in control. You should continue to be a Godly wife and mother and continue to go to Him in prayer. God will deal with your husband.
I wish I could do more, my heart aches for you and you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Stephanie - posted on 04/01/2010

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You will lbe in my prayers.

I hope You seek comfert in family and maybe have someone from Your family or church move in to help You and Your baby for alittle wile.

Kat - posted on 04/01/2010

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Thank you all so so much. He has gone away tonight to a friends for the long weekend. I know the Holy Spirit is with me because I am strong & not a mess on the floor. In my weakness he is my strength.
I so appreciate you praying for us. God Bless xo

Ida - posted on 03/31/2010

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Havenly Father..i'm praying for our sister Katrice, please help...help their marriage and Family to be a good family as You like, pls God i know You can do something for them...I know and I believe that's nothing imposible for You God...tks God Im praying in Jesus Christ name, amin.

Rhonda - posted on 03/31/2010

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I am praying for you and your family! May you feel the peace of the Holy Spirit while God shows your husband the way back to you! God bless you and your family and may your 3rd little one be healthy!!!

Anne - posted on 03/31/2010

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Katrice I too will be Praying for The Holy Spirit to soften your husbands heart.

Blanca - posted on 03/31/2010

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Katrice, I will pray for you,your husband, your children and your marriage...remember that God is Sovereign over everything and HE is in control..trust him and continue to seek his guidance and wisdom. My heart goes out to you and I will continue to pray for this situation.

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