Please Pray for us

Deborah - posted on 03/20/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )




Yesterday at my first trimester screening, my boyfriend and I found out that our baby no longer has a heartbeat. This was our first baby, and its pretty understandable that this is a very hard time for us. Please pray for our hearts to heal, and help us understand why God chose for this to happen. Thank you.


Robbie - posted on 03/31/2009




Deborah, my husband and I understand where you are in this horrible time.  one year after we were married after eight months our first child died during birth.  I was devastated!  We went on through heartbreak we had NINE more pregnancies 1 eptopic and 8 miscarriages!  Just when I was ready to give up and I prayed for God to help me an forgive me for all the anger I carried over Carter (my son) and again I was pregnant and we were at my OB/GYN and they were planning my D&C and again I was horribly upset.  My husband asked her to hold off for a week just to let us breathe.  When we came back the next week there was our first heart beat!   They watched over me for the next 7 months and finally we had a Beautiful Little girl!  after 7 years of tears and heartbreak God gave me my blessing!  Then to our suprise 10 months later I delivered another little girl.  I like to call her "my cup runneth over"  I know that things seem dark and seem out of your control, but please remember He is in control and he does not give us anything he cannot fix and you can not handle!  my prayers are with you!  love and prayers!

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Rebecca - posted on 08/07/2011




Father, thank you that you care for all the details of Deborah's life. May she know the closeness of your presence with her today.

Deborah - posted on 04/05/2009




Thank you all for the prayers. The father of our baby ended up leaving me. So maybe this was one of God's signs that it wasn't supposed to happen to me right now. I am still very upset, but God is helping me through. Thank you all again!

Crystal - posted on 04/01/2009





My husband and I had the same tramatic experience with our second child.  God is in control and He will comfort and guide you through this difficult time.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Deborah I  was so sorry to hear about your situation.  I will keep both you and your boyfriend up before the lord asking  the Holy Spirit to grant you healing , peace and joy in the mist of your sorrow.

Rhonda - posted on 03/31/2009




I am so sorry to hear about this. I know how hard it is. I too have been down the some path once before. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Oyekunmi - posted on 03/31/2009




hi there,i want you to understand that as hard as it seems God has a plan for everything and the devil has no dominion over your everything give thanks cos it culd have been worse you still are alife and still can mother and parent children you are a pillar to many generation.the lord will see you through this and you not even remember this sad time.rejoice for greater is he that is in you.he is set to do a new thing at his appointed time.just hang on to christ.peace of the lord be with you.

Danette - posted on 03/27/2009




I will be praying for you.  This same thing happened to me and my family 7 years ago, except it was our 5th baby.  Like you, I knew it was in God's plan, but I didn't know why.  Prayer was the only thing that got us through.  And, oh how God answers prayers.  One year later we became pregnant again and gave birth to a healthy baby girl.  God healed our hearts, but we will never forget the baby we lost.  I was 15 weeks when we lost the baby and we had a little service for him and buried him.  That helped a lot.  I will continue to pray for you and your boyfriend.  May God bless you.

Jennifer - posted on 03/26/2009





Our family will be praying for you! I can relate all to well with what you are going through. I had 4 miscarriages all together and I too was like you, wanting to understand why God chose for me to go through and bare all the pain. I lost my first one at 17 weeks, 2nd one I was 2 days shy of being 6 months, 3rd I was 7 weeks, and the 4th was an eTopic (it was in my tubes and they had to remove my left tube and everything on the left side).

God will never put you through anything you can not handle. When people ask me, why does God let things like this happen I am placed back with an elder of my church and when me and her talked I brought this up and I will tell you just as she told me, "The earth as we know it is the devil's playground, he is the one that has control of the earth, but it is up to us if we want to play on his playground or live our lives for the Glory of our God. The devil does so many things and will put in our minds that it is God's fault, but you have to look beyond that." Yes God knows when each and every one of His children will be concevied and when they will be born, but please do not take nor look at this as God done this to you, but merely the devil trying to put doubts in your head about your God!

Just know He loves you and He is taking care of the baby just as with everyone on the board here...we will all meet our children one day, but it just wasn't meant for us to meet them here on earth!


Gloria - posted on 03/26/2009




Sorry to hear about your loss, things Happen that is beyond our control, and we get frustrated and ask the question why did this have to happen to me? God do not put more on us than we can bear, Since God brought you to this situation, he will carry you through it. I definitely will be praying for you two, Unitl next time.........Be bless

Anne - posted on 03/24/2009




We too lost our first baby, we at 7 weeks. rest assured this precious baby is safe with our Heavenly Father. You are a mom even though you have not gotten to hold your baby.  I hardest part for me was at this early stage we had nothing to remember this child by. When our youngest daughter (She is now 20 years old) was about 3 we were talking about this first baby and she thought we should name the baby. Something I had never thought to do. I told her we did not know if it was a girl or a boy. In her 3 year old mind this baby must have a boy. She then told me we should name this Baby Matthew. I wish we had names this baby years before. Matthew was not a name we would have picked but we let her name him Matthew. When I get to heaven I will meet this baby. Even though we have called him Matthew if we get to Heaven and find out we are meeting Martha for the first time will not be important. What was important was God used a three year old little girl to bring our family much needed closure. I am afraid I have rambled on and on. I will however be better at Praying for you than relating our experience. 

Beth - posted on 03/22/2009




You are in my prayers. I lost my first at 9 weeks. I understand your pain. I know its hard now to understand but in time and it does take time you will heal. I lost my second 4 months later. I now have 2 beautiful healthy children. Its hard to understand why it happens but in the end it all works out. I will pray for you and for your heart to heal. I am very sorry for your loss. If you need to talk please contact me. My name is Beth. 540-271-1477

Fay - posted on 03/21/2009




God comforts those who mourn.

I miscarried in 2000 - last year God blessed us with twins. He is faithful!!

Thinking and praying for you at this time, His love be with you xxx

Eronmwon Ebuwa - posted on 03/21/2009




God is in control of your situation just hand everything to him and you will see the wonders he will perform in your lifes.In my tribe here in nigeria,there is this name we give a child its called EGHOSAOSE,meaning,GODs TIME IS THE BEST,he knows wat you are going thro and has a reason for it,so trust in him.GOD BLESS YOU guys.

Shelly - posted on 03/20/2009





  I am so sorry I have also felt that pain and it takes awhile to heal your heart but it does happen and as far as why God chooses this to happen he doesn't you need to trust that all things happen for his glory!  Times like this really put your faith to the test.  I'm not sure how his gllory shines through this but he does and we may not know until we meet him again!!!  Just believe that He loves you and he does not choose for us to be in pain but he did give us the freedom of chioce and you can either choose to run to him or away from him...From expieriance run to him...

Sylvia - posted on 03/20/2009




I am so sorry. I will pray that the Lord will heal your hearts and give you the answers that you both are so desperately seeking. I also pray that you both continue to pray and always look up for all your answers at such a difficult time. We serve a mighty God, to which nothing is impossible, no matter how things seem at the time. God Bless you both.

Rebekah - posted on 03/20/2009




Dear Jesus,

I lift up Deborah and her boyfriend to you.  I ask that you envelope the two of them in Your peace that passes all understanding and guards and hearts and minds.  May that peace fill them up from the top of their heads to soles of their feet.  Let them rest in the palm of Your hand realizing that what You put to death, brings life! Through this difficult time, I thank You that You are collecting the tears and holding them close.  Continue to be the bond that holds them together like glue, Holy Spirit, bring forth the comfort and healing into their hearts of this loss.  Father, I pray that their bond becomes only stronger and does not deteriorate due to this loss.  Father, hold them in Your arms of love and may they continue to trust in You, believing that all things work out for good to those who love You.  May they see in time why this was allowed to happen.  Thank You for the peace, the love, the comfort and Your faithfulness.  In Jesus' name, Amen.


Ever need someone talk to that can relate, I'd be glad to share with you.  For I miscarried my first baby when I was 10 weeks along in January of 2007.  I know God will comfort you and your boyfriend, He is faithful and will never leave us alone, He is carrying both of you through this.

Ashlei - posted on 03/20/2009




Deborah,I'm so terribly sorry.I will be praying for you both.I can't believe this.

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