PLEASE PRAY MY FATHER-IN-LAW IS TRYING TO TEAR DOWN MY MARRIAGE

Shenell - posted on 10/06/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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i have no nice words to say about my father-in-law so i wont say anything about him but i'll explain the situation.ive been married bout 5yrs.im just turning 27 this month so i married young.me and my husband admit to not doing the will og God by marrying to young then not waiting and trusting on him so he went in his own strength to join the army and thats when everything went sought.but the Lord will take that which we messed up and make it right.it just took a while because of the decisions we made.we been through alot as a young couple there are main reasons for divorce.
1.a move
2.financial problems
3.death
4.infedelity
those are some of the main reasons for divorce as a young couple we went through all of these and are still together there are no victims in this marriage we were both wronged by eachother.i say all that to say this.my husbands father wants his son to be the victim if he was with someone else he wouldnt of went through anything i guess.he tells his son im using him for a meal ticket he must of not known about the times i went to the soup kitchen to get bags of food to feed us and how i pawned my wedding ring for money but never left him.he says i play games and im a whore he must of not known about the women his son slept with oh yes he did cause he told him to leave me for one.we were givne a word by a deacon and a minister in 2 different occacssions.this marriage is ordained by God.we went though things for a purpose my husband is to be a pastor im to be a counselor.our troubles are testimonies.his father just doesnt understand he's now turning people in the family against us.please pray im trying not to hate.i just dont like my husband hurting.and thats what he's doing because his father is being used to destroy our marriage.

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Heidi - posted on 10/09/2009

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Quoting shenell:

PLEASE PRAY MY FATHER-IN-LAW IS TRYING TO TEAR DOWN MY MARRIAGE

i have no nice words to say about my father-in-law so i wont say anything about him but i'll explain the situation.ive been married bout 5yrs.im just turning 27 this month so i married young.me and my husband admit to not doing the will og God by marrying to young then not waiting and trusting on him so he went in his own strength to join the army and thats when everything went sought.but the Lord will take that which we messed up and make it right.it just took a while because of the decisions we made.we been through alot as a young couple there are main reasons for divorce.
1.a move
2.financial problems
3.death
4.infedelity
those are some of the main reasons for divorce as a young couple we went through all of these and are still together there are no victims in this marriage we were both wronged by eachother.i say all that to say this.my husbands father wants his son to be the victim if he was with someone else he wouldnt of went through anything i guess.he tells his son im using him for a meal ticket he must of not known about the times i went to the soup kitchen to get bags of food to feed us and how i pawned my wedding ring for money but never left him.he says i play games and im a whore he must of not known about the women his son slept with oh yes he did cause he told him to leave me for one.we were givne a word by a deacon and a minister in 2 different occacssions.this marriage is ordained by God.we went though things for a purpose my husband is to be a pastor im to be a counselor.our troubles are testimonies.his father just doesnt understand he's now turning people in the family against us.please pray im trying not to hate.i just dont like my husband hurting.and thats what he's doing because his father is being used to destroy our marriage.


 

Kimberly - posted on 10/09/2009

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Morning! The main thing is that you and your husband unite and trust God NOW.... move away (mentally) from negative situations and listen only to what God is telling you to do. Do not dwell on the past and live in right now.... "for tomorrow has enough troubles of its own..." Remember, the enemy is out to destroy families/marriages and he starts at the top; the head of the household. Know that I am praying for you and with you - I love you!



 



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Quoting shenell:

PLEASE PRAY MY FATHER-IN-LAW IS TRYING TO TEAR DOWN MY MARRIAGE

i have no nice words to say about my father-in-law so i wont say anything about him but i'll explain the situation.ive been married bout 5yrs.im just turning 27 this month so i married young.me and my husband admit to not doing the will og God by marrying to young then not waiting and trusting on him so he went in his own strength to join the army and thats when everything went sought.but the Lord will take that which we messed up and make it right.it just took a while because of the decisions we made.we been through alot as a young couple there are main reasons for divorce.
1.a move
2.financial problems
3.death
4.infedelity
those are some of the main reasons for divorce as a young couple we went through all of these and are still together there are no victims in this marriage we were both wronged by eachother.i say all that to say this.my husbands father wants his son to be the victim if he was with someone else he wouldnt of went through anything i guess.he tells his son im using him for a meal ticket he must of not known about the times i went to the soup kitchen to get bags of food to feed us and how i pawned my wedding ring for money but never left him.he says i play games and im a whore he must of not known about the women his son slept with oh yes he did cause he told him to leave me for one.we were givne a word by a deacon and a minister in 2 different occacssions.this marriage is ordained by God.we went though things for a purpose my husband is to be a pastor im to be a counselor.our troubles are testimonies.his father just doesnt understand he's now turning people in the family against us.please pray im trying not to hate.i just dont like my husband hurting.and thats what he's doing because his father is being used to destroy our marriage.





 

Karel - posted on 10/09/2009

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That's funny too because my father-in-law is a mess also. Me and my husband went thru something recently and since then he's always challenging or trying to push me to respond to his behavior but I do very well with ignoring it, IT'S VERY VERY HARD THOUGH, BELIEVE ME. I had to tell my husband, well first of all I left a good point out, he's my husbands stepfather and he actually isn't fond of him either but I had to tell my husband that some things that he(father in law) says he (husband) can respond to it or set him straight, and it won't be the same if I say something because when he accuses of me of things, My husband can just let him know, that's not a problem that we have or my wife isn't like that, One of the main problems with the stepfather is that he mistreats his wife, which is my husband's mother, BUT............. If mom doesn't say anything why would or should my husband, so know, I really understand where your coming from.

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Praying for you both Shenell!

It's amazing how God works miracles to bring us through difficult times..

He will answer prayers you haven't dared to breathe aloud and your cup will overflow with blessings!

User - posted on 10/08/2009

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I will certainly be lifting you up in prayer. Marriage is hard enough, and with the enemy using outsiders into the picture is truly ruff. I have been with my husband for 13 years but only married for three. So I understand all the things you mentioned. A lot of it I can relate to.
My advice is to Keep God as your foundation and pray daily. When I say daily I mean pray with out ceasing. The devil hates marriage, but remember no weapon formed against you shall prosper. He is already defeated so don't let him get the best of you.
Let God fight the battle for you and trust in Him enough to allow him to work through you. Your marriage is your testimony. God Bless I will be praying for you.

Shenell - posted on 10/08/2009

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thankyou so much karel we just spoke of his father at marriage counseling tonite.it was great.were keeping God first and my husband is actually taking it very well.we also have a minisrty we were spoken over years ago and weve been through alot.i also started a cicle 'YOUNG PEOPLE WHO LOVE GOD' please check it out





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my email is also melodiat2005@yahoo.com

Karel - posted on 10/08/2009

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WOW, your testimony sound very similiar to mines all you could do is pray really for GOD to deal with you on how to deal with your situation and pray for your husbands mental and spiritual state so that it bounces off of him as if he was rubber, Once you guys got married, he ws to cleave to you and leave his mother and father, It's supposed to be Y'all Against The World, And from experience know that if you guys have a marriage ministry like me and my husband i'ts not gonna get any easier, but it's IIMPERAtIVE that YOU get GROUNDED IN GOD, so that those things don't bother you. To whom much is given much is required baby,WE HAVE TO BE DURABLE(longsuffering is a fruit of the spirit, Run after GOD with all you have in you) if you want to talk or pray together you can email me at my personal email (Brunt32@hotmail.com) or we can continue to build this way and move up to acutal phonecalls :). Be blessed sweetie and I WILL PRAY FOR YOU NO MATTER WHAT COMMUNICATION CHOICE YOU DECIDE.

Shenell - posted on 10/07/2009

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thankyou marsha yes we are going to counseling with our pastors and for the most part my husband deals with his father i only spoke to him once im one to hurt your feeligs as well so to keep my christianity i just stay away from him..:)

Marsha - posted on 10/07/2009

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The devil is definately busy around here. Just keep praying about your marriage and maybe try counseling (I think you said you guys were doing that). Family can be a trip at times, but let your husband deal with his father. I have many issues with my mother in law, but I always leave it up to my husband to address her. He feels that I should do it. I feel that if I do it, someone's feelings is going to get hurt and he needs to put her in her rightful place. I'm praying for you guys.

Shenell - posted on 10/06/2009

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thanx heather again and yes i know what your aying ms watkins lol.thanx for your encouraging words were ready to fight and we have a secret weapon.GOD

Kisha - posted on 10/06/2009

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Remember, what God has put together no man should take asunder. I'm not good at quoting scriptures, but you know what I'm saying lol.

But seriously, Do not allow the enemy to destroy you and your union. You already allow him in before so he thinks he is not finished so You both continue working on your union, and your own spiritual journey and you will come out gold. The devil is a liar and do not give him anymore room in your lives.

Far as your father-in-law, continue to pray for him and have your husband deal with him.

Heather - posted on 10/06/2009

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I believe that the devil is working overtime trying to wreck your marriage because God has great things in store for you and your husband in the future. Keep trusting God. Don't give in to the devil. You and your husband are going to have an amazing testimony when this is all over and done with. I praise God for your faith in him.

Shenell - posted on 10/06/2009

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thanx heather the devil is throwing everything but the kitchen sink at our marriage its crazy

Heather - posted on 10/06/2009

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I am still praying for your marriage, Shenell. Keep trusting God. He will guide you during this time.

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