"Practice Saved Sex" Did u know....

Marta - posted on 07/22/2009

One problem with NFP is that when you check your temperature in the morning you may not be ovulating but 5 minutes later when you're intimate with you husband the cyst breaks and woah and behold you're ovulating. It's very unpredictable because even the most regular of women can't tell you exactly when they're ovulating. For me, personally, the pill made me feel nautious and the patch proved ineffective and I've had too many friends have bad experiences with Depo Provera. I'm uncertain about getting the IUD, my mom miscarried as a result of having one, and blames all of her more recent problems on having had one. We've discussed having my husband get a vasectomy but will not consider getting a tubal ligation since it's such a major procedure with a 6 week recovery period (can't do that when you have 3 kids). Personally I think that spermicides and condoms are a great option for those who don't want to get pregnant but also don't want to pollute their bodies and undergo surgery.

Suzanne - posted on 07/19/2009

My body doesn't ovulate regularly. That's how it happened. I tracked for 3 months, did everything right, I was ovulating regularly and had been for at least 5 months, and then I ovulated a full week late. I kept telling the doctors that I knew my due date was at least a week off because I was fully aware of when I *should* have ovulated and I know certainly that I ovulated off that month or I wouldn't be pregnant, and low and behold when he was finally born, he was tiny, covered in that cheesy coating, and suffered from breathing problems. That was added to the deteriorated placenta that detactched during labor, so he was blue and unresponsive as well. He was a planned induction to avoid the risk of complications I had with the first two, and they scheduled it too early, despite my protests because my due date was off. It was just a bad situation all around.



We solved our problem with sterilization though, so it's no longer an issue for us. Even still, I think it's a poor choice too, I wish I would have known just how painful it was going to be for my husband, everyone always makes it sound like it's not a big deal, but it was. And then of course, down the road, you can't exactly change your mind either. :) I know it was the right choice for us, we approached it very carefully in prayer and scripture, but now that my baby is going in kinder, I selfishly wish I could have another one. :P

Rebekah - posted on 07/19/2009

I'm with Heather, I'm completely opposed to chemical birth control methods - women don't realize the affects of taking these that take place later down the road, etc.

NFP can work if you can actually figure out when your body ovulates - best way to do that is through a basal body thermometer, and getting a read every morning for about 3 months to track when your body ovulates. Otherwise easiest way is just to have sex with your partner beginning with the 8th day from the 1st day of when your cycle started and continuing to day 14, but doing it every other day... that worked the best for my husband and I. Course I still believe prayer is the best way! :)

Windy - posted on 07/18/2009

Dear Suzanne,



I am gratefull that you have shared your story. Your witness to the love of your children through three high risk pregnancies is great. I would also add that God wouldn't bring u to it if He hadn't planned to bring you through it. So I am assuming your trust in Him was also high.



What method of NFP were u using when u became pregnant the one time? Statistically most NFP methods are as effective as the pill. Most importantly it is still a morally sound decision--a child will not be aborted if NFP is practiced--of course I am not talking about spontanous abortion AKA, miscarriage. I know it takes great Faith to practice NFP especially when u have had complications but I would say God's will is the perfect solution to our fertility. God has allowed us to praticipate in procreation with Him, so I don't agree that there are any kids that people shouldn't be having. There are many people who come from very disfunctional backrounds that have done great services--Love--to many others. Our ways aren't God's ways, our understanding so minute compared to His.



Blessings!

Suzanne - posted on 07/17/2009

I hate chemical birth control methods, and am completely opposed to them, however, the one and only time we practiced NFP, we got pregnant. :P And we knew exactly how to do it properly, so we weren't just uneducated about it. I think NFP has a very low success rate, because women's bodies will ovulate at different times and one missed clue or one day delay in the body that the woman can't know will result in what neither of them want, or maybe shouldn't be having. I know that I was high risk and very lucky to have 3 surviving children (oh the wonders of medical techniology). Too bad there isn't a perfect solution to the birth control problem.