Prayer request for my daughter and me

Tam - posted on 06/25/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Ladies, if you get a moment, would you think to lift my daughter up in prayer? She's 15 and she recently gave her life to the Lord. :)

As all of us do, she is struggling right now and she's young and can't understand some things about people. She did tell me that since she started sharing her belief she's finding out who her true friends are and is taking that in stride, but it's some of our family that are hurting her.

She is going to be baptized this Sunday and invited my husband's family to come. As we homeschool and whatnot, we do not ask them to do much (like graduations, etc.) and we are the smallest "family" within the family. Anyway, not one of them are coming and she is crushed. Now, one of them is her godmother (also her aunt), who also promised to go to her soccer game on her birthday and didn't make it, etc. This is the second big thing that she has missed in a row.

She did apologize to my daughter, explaining that they had plans to go to the lake for the day (which, btw, is only about 20 minutes from the church where my daughter will be baptized).

I need prayer for love and patience with my ILs as I am offended for her sake and trying not to let it take root in my heart. I love my IL but she can really try my patience with double standards. I also don't believe that she is truly sorry. That could be bitterness, and anger in me, but I have doubts about it. I've known her for over 20 years now and I know if she really wanted to do something she would. Yet, I cannot go into that with my daughter without making her bitter about it, so I've struggled. Pray that God will give me comforting words for her.

But mostly, prayer for my daughter. This is a delicate time in her walk. While she's always known of God, this is new to her, actually living it. And it is breaking her heart. She can't understand and it's affecting her with anger and anxiety. Please pray that God moves to give her peace and if not understanding at least show her that her family loves her and that she has good, Godly friends there to support her.

Thanks so much.

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Jennifer - posted on 06/28/2009

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Hey Tam, Your right we can not change anyone only God can. I pray that today was just a blessing for your daughter and her walk with God in stronger every day. It is a blessing to watch your kids grow, especially in the Lord.

Tam - posted on 06/27/2009

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Thanks again, ladies. She and I had some time alone today and while she's not 100% I know the prayers have helped because she's much more accepting of it. She's such a blessing and this is even more so.

Thanks Angela. I've pretty much decided to let it go because I cannot change them. Only God can. I can only do what He wants. Right now that's to live for Him and love my family. Thanks for the advice though.

As far as discovering this so early on, I fear this is going to happen more and more as we get farther into time. But maybe that also means the new Christians won't take so many things for granted that "older" Christians have. :)

Thanks for all of your prayers. Tomorrow will be such a wonderful, Godly day for her.

Angela - posted on 06/26/2009

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I am so happy for your daughter & her decision! I have prayed for her & this situation. But Tam, as for you, I think you have a choice. To either confront in love or just forgive & let it go. The confront in love thing is very hard for me, but I've found it's very hard to let go & forgive unless I've tried to talk it out!

I know we all go thru this in our Christian lives, I just hate that she is having to discover it so early on!!

I am praying - for both of you,
One Christian Mom to another..:)

Anne - posted on 06/26/2009

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Tam, it sounds like your husbands family and my family background are similar. My oldest sister in front of our daughters told my husband and I we were being too hard on our girls because as long as they lived in our home (as minors) they would go to Church on Sundays with us. That being said, Yes I will keep you and your daughter in my Prayers.
Anne

Heather - posted on 06/26/2009

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Tam, how wonderful that your daughter has accepted our Lord! Praise God! I have prayed for both of you. God helps us all to grow in different ways. He has a plan in all of this. Just keep looking to him, and he will be there!

Rebekah - posted on 06/25/2009

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Quoting User:

Thanks, Rebekah.

My husband's side of the family are good people. Don't get me wrong. If we really need them, they will be right there and are wonderful for that. And I pray forgiveness if I made them out to be bad people. They have good hearts. They just don't see things the way we do and cannot understand our "obsession" with church, etc.

My husband thinks this might be a huge part of it. We are heading down separate paths. We are just interested in different things now. We think this is one reason they are not going to be there. Though I did just find out my husband didn't invite his youngest sister because he "knew" she wouldn't go--plans for the lake or not (another long story about twelve years old). We have tried in the past and it ended in arguments and hurtful feelings on both sides.

Anyway, it's heartbreaking to me because I have been so close to them for the majority of my life. It hurts, but I understand that this is God's will and He has provided a spiritual family and friends that are so encouraging. My daughter doesn't understand yet.


Thanks for the insight... I will continue to pray for your daughter, but also for that side of the family to have new eyes. :)

Lisa - posted on 06/25/2009

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I will keep you and your daughter in prayer. I have 6 kids in various stages of their walk with God, and it can be heart breaking watching them find their way. We MOMMIES want to step in and protect, but we have to step back and let God show them what he can do for them. My prayers are with you and God Bless both you and your daughter.

Tam - posted on 06/25/2009

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Thanks, Rebekah.

My husband's side of the family are good people. Don't get me wrong. If we really need them, they will be right there and are wonderful for that. And I pray forgiveness if I made them out to be bad people. They have good hearts. They just don't see things the way we do and cannot understand our "obsession" with church, etc.

My husband thinks this might be a huge part of it. We are heading down separate paths. We are just interested in different things now. We think this is one reason they are not going to be there. Though I did just find out my husband didn't invite his youngest sister because he "knew" she wouldn't go--plans for the lake or not (another long story about twelve years old). We have tried in the past and it ended in arguments and hurtful feelings on both sides.

Anyway, it's heartbreaking to me because I have been so close to them for the majority of my life. It hurts, but I understand that this is God's will and He has provided a spiritual family and friends that are so encouraging. My daughter doesn't understand yet.

Rebekah - posted on 06/25/2009

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I have prayed for your daughter.



Just a question though, have you confronted this side of the family to let them know how this affects her? Sometimes people don't realize how their actions affect others and need to be shown.

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