Preteens, cant live with them, cant kill them!

Sarah - posted on 06/11/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )




Majority of the time I dont want to truely kill her but I certainly want to smack some sense into her! The girl whined and complained that she had to squint to see in class and she had headaches. So I spend several hundred dollars on a pair of glasses that she now barely wears. Why? Because they're "dirty", according to her, and she needs $10 eye glass cleaner to correct that simple problem. I call bull on that!

She selected the glasses, her dad and I even agreed to pay extra to give her "invisable bifocals" so she wouldnt feel odd about them. How can I get her to keep the darn things on her face?!


Carla - posted on 06/12/2012




Went through exactly the same thing with both our daughters! Whined and cried until, like you, we sacrificed and got their glasses. Both wore them a couple weeks, decided they didn't look quite as cool as they thought they would, then 'lost' them!

As Linda says, you can't staple them to their faces (or can we? ;)), and you can't follow them around telling them to put them on. I needed glasses with prisms ground into them after a dog bite to my eye, AND bifocals--however, I was so happy to be able to see, and the prisms kept my eyes going straight instead of drifting off and looking wall-eyed, that I wore them consistently. There's no accounting for kids.

God bless, honey, you WILL survive this child ;)

Linda - posted on 06/12/2012




Dirty eyeglasses can be a problem, but you don't need $10 cleaner. You just need a clean lint-free cloth. A lot of eyeglasses come with a cloth these days. If they're really dirty, some soap and water. Google "How to clean eyeglasses" and a bunch of suggestions will come up. I would show these to your daughter.

She needs to take the responsibility for this. If she is at school without you, you can't make her wear them. If she is a pre-teen in public school, especially middle school, it could be that kids are teasing her about the glasses and that's why she doesn't want to wear them.

I would stop nagging her. You purchased the glasses for her. If she chooses not to wear them, then she will have headaches. Just tell her you don't want to hear about the headaches. Make sure that she knows that you are on her side, not the opposite side. You want to help her, but she ultimately has to take the responsibility for whether she sees clearly or not.

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Ramona - posted on 06/13/2012




As a mom of teens, I can say, hang on, it's going to be a bumpy ride. Too bad we can't use crazy glue!! Perhaps you can make a deal that if she is responsible with these for a year then perhaps she can see if contacts might work later.

Angela - posted on 06/13/2012




Spectacles don't need a fancy cleaning solution as the others posting on here have said. But kids love gadgets and squirty bottles. I think one (or more) of her friends have the $10 cleaner. She probably loves the cute little bottle and regards this as a must-have accessory!

Get a little (pocket sized) spray bottle, unscrew the top and pour in some window-cleaning solution. I mean the thin, clear liquid that's available in blue or green - but you can see through it - it usually comes in a trigger action bottle. A little of this tipped into a small pump-spray bottle should keep most kids happy. Dilute with water, half and half - you don't need "neat" window cleaning solution.

Washing spectacles in warm water and carefully rubbing into the lenses a tiny little amount of soft soap and then polishing carefully will cause the lenses to quickly clear when they get misted up.

Expect similar demands about other stuff in her life.

Now - PRE-teens? You ain't seen nothing yet. Wait till she's a teenager. You need to gird your loins and put on the whole armour of God (Ephesians 6:10-18).

Pat - posted on 06/12/2012




forgive me for laughing.... my daughter is 14 and is still doing this kind of stuff. it gets better sometimes,,keep praying.... they outgrow some of this drama. i wish i could be more helpful, but im in the middle of the same thing. itll get better..some day. if nothing else, it keeps you praying!!!

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