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My 11 year old will be joining mainstream public school in southern california this next year for 7th grade. all he has known is private school for four years and when he was in 4th grade we started him in public. the school here in forest falls is similar to private as it is a small community. k-2 in one classroom and 3-6 in another. he is small for his age (always has been) and a quiet person by nature. i am worried about how he will fit in at the new school and have looked into virtual academies and charter school (basically homeshcooling) but others have said that i should just put him in mainstream as it will help him be stronger and his social abilities will be better. what do you think? with the economy down, we can't afford private school right now....

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Stephanie - posted on 04/16/2009

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Quoting Meriel:



From my personal experience, public school is not a good idea!  My son went to public school through his elementary years and the Lord was dealing with me about that... I prayed & prayed asking him for wisdom on what to do.  I was even considering homeschooling and looking into that, then the Lord opened the door for a small christian private school!  (It reminds me of little house on the prairie!)  Lo






My husband and I are very pleased and so thankful to the Lord for this!






We only have our kids for 18 years to raise them in the ways of the Lord, and trust me in flys by so fast.  My son is 15 now and I pray that we are teaching him everything he needs before going out into this evil world we live in.






There are NO CHRISTIAN advantages to public schools!  They have taken God out of there. 






Pray about it as I did, the Lord is faithful!



 



 



i have to disagree with  "there are No Christian advantages to public school." i was raised in public school and my father taught public school. i really think that it depends on the child...if you have raised your child to believe in the values that you hold.. and to love God, public school is a great place to witness We are all to be witnesses fo jesus and who is going to reach those children? i believe our children are to use this time to learn to witness to others and think how many children can be reached through becoming friends with christian families!! i was not a Christian until age 16. i had a very supportive core group of friends that i went to high school with that were witnesses to me and i am thankful for them.



 



i do realize however that this may not fit every child. it has to be a family decision with prayer and God at the forefront of it



(also: i teach in a private school now and private school does not mean that your children will be in a bubble. they may be exposed to less, but not nothing. children are children weather they are in a public or private school setting there are always problems....and always solutions.)





 

Stephanie - posted on 04/16/2009

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Quoting Meriel:



From my personal experience, public school is not a good idea!  My son went to public school through his elementary years and the Lord was dealing with me about that... I prayed & prayed asking him for wisdom on what to do.  I was even considering homeschooling and looking into that, then the Lord opened the door for a small christian private school!  (It reminds me of little house on the prairie!)  Lo






My husband and I are very pleased and so thankful to the Lord for this!






We only have our kids for 18 years to raise them in the ways of the Lord, and trust me in flys by so fast.  My son is 15 now and I pray that we are teaching him everything he needs before going out into this evil world we live in.






There are NO CHRISTIAN advantages to public schools!  They have taken God out of there. 






Pray about it as I did, the Lord is faithful!



 



 



i have to disagree with  "there are No Christian advantages to public school." i was raised in public school and my father taught public school. i really think that it depends on the child...if you have raised your child to believe in the values that you hold.. and to love God, public school is a great place to witness We are all to be witnesses fo jesus and who is going to reach those children? i believe our children are to use this time to learn to witness to others and think how many children can be reached through becoming friends with christian families!! i was not a Christian until age 16. i had a very supportive core group of friends that i went to high school with that were witnesses to me and i am thankful for them.



 



i do realize however that this may not fit every child. it has to be a family decision with prayer and God at the forefront of it



(also: i teach in a private school now and private school does not mean that your children will be in a bubble. they may be exposed to less, but not nothing. children are children weather they are in a public or private school setting there are always problems....and always solutions.)





 

Tam - posted on 04/15/2009

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Definitely pray about it. There are so many choices, but only you know what God wants for you and your family. If you do enroll him, be sure to keep the lines of communication wide open. Seventh and Eighth grades were the most difficult for us (my dd is in public school) but now that she's in high school things are evening out. I think it's just a difficult age period, no matter where the child goes to school. My 11 yo is starting to have that "angsty" period, though no where near as bad as my daughter did, granted, he's a different kid.

Pray and pray some more. :) God will show you what to do.

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While in school I attended christian school, home school and public school. Currently my husband is in administration in the Public school system, so naturally, we have our kids in public school. I feel strongly that different options are a good thing for parents because each child is so vastly different. For right now, God has us in a place where we can be a salt and a light. If I had a child that was struggling spiritually, and making bad choices, I would not think twice about choosing a different option for their schooling. As parents the best thing we can do is to help our kids develop a personal faith, and let our lives point others to Jesus.

Meriel - posted on 04/06/2009

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From my personal experience, public school is not a good idea!  My son went to public school through his elementary years and the Lord was dealing with me about that... I prayed & prayed asking him for wisdom on what to do.  I was even considering homeschooling and looking into that, then the Lord opened the door for a small christian private school!  (It reminds me of little house on the prairie!)  Lo



My husband and I are very pleased and so thankful to the Lord for this!



We only have our kids for 18 years to raise them in the ways of the Lord, and trust me in flys by so fast.  My son is 15 now and I pray that we are teaching him everything he needs before going out into this evil world we live in.



There are NO CHRISTIAN advantages to public schools!  They have taken God out of there. 



Pray about it as I did, the Lord is faithful!

Carolee - posted on 03/31/2009

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 if it s something that is possible for you Home school ! 7th grade is no fun . i have two older children who went through so much unnecessary peer pressure,{ we did a lot of  re learning } not to mention the whole scene is way out of touch with what is wise for young people to do with their lives at that age .  if you want to socialize your son  find out what he loves to do and sign him up for a class . the question is who do you want influencing your son 8 hours a day ? and that doesn't include the load of  home work they pile on that takes away from family time. can you say cram and forget . ttul

Linda - posted on 03/31/2009

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I had originally planned to enroll my child in private school.  We ended up having another child and my husband lost his job and I had an injury that put me out of work as well. When it was time to enroll we didn't have the extra money we had saved for school because we needed it for house hold expenses.  It is many years later, my oldest is in fifth grade my youngest is in first, I couldn't be more proud of my children. They are active in their church and community.  My oldest gathers groups of friends to do fundraisers, this past weekend she asked 8 friends to go bowling to raise kids for our local chapter of Big Brothers and Big Sisters.  They each found $50.00 in sponsors and the whole group raised more than $500.00 for a worthy cause.  They are all from her "public school", of all different religions, but forming a lasting bond that is responsible and giving.   I am also proud my kids go out of their way to gather with friends even if it is not in a traditional way.  Their friends love to get involved too.   Last year I spoke to a teacher at the school and we had a Perler Bead Craft night.  The school allowed the Builders Club to come and make Perler Bead crafts, they also collected items for children in Afghanistan, we adopted a soldier and collected the crafts and donations and mailed them with monetary donations from our congregation. The kids enjoy a small token of appreciation, I send them a Certificate and enclose pictures we took from the event for a keep sake.  They like getting together with their friends and having fun, we make it a way to learn and to give back.  They all learn valuable lessons by being active and making new friends.  I'm not saying you should go plan huge events, but being activley involved with your children and teaching them the values you hold dear will go alot further than any education.  I've heard about some children who came from horrible conditions and turned out just fine becuase they were raised with family that believed!!  May God Bless you and your family during your decision.  I'll pray for you as well.  God won't lead you where your not supposed to be, know in your heart you will lead your children in the direction you want him to follow.

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Sorry I haven't posted again. I do appreciate all the comments and prayers. We are still praying. Thanks so much. God Bless

Julie - posted on 03/13/2009

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My children have always been in public school and I work in public schools. However, I have close friends that have their children in private schools or are homeschooling. Public school is cheaper, for sure. How big is the 7th grade? If you go the public route, help him socially by encouraging him to become involved in some type of club, group or sport. This will give him a group of kids to "belong" to. There are a lot of small boys at 11, he'll "catch up" soon enough. Just make sure that your line of communication with him as well as the teachers is always open, that way if there are problems you will be the first to know. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Julie - posted on 03/13/2009

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He y mom - you know your son best...



My brother was the smallest boy in the freshamn class at High School - by the time he graduated he was one of the tallest!



I see no hurry to put him in public school as it is a war zone for his soul - He maybe quiet but my question to you would be - is he strong in his faith ...?



He will be exposed to so much ungodliness - even in one generation you will be sickened by how far things've gone downhill ---

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We homeschool, and with that being said it is a life style choice for us. We started b/c my 6 y/o was failing grade 1 and couldn't get the help she needed. She was also very shy and had a hard time handling being around so much noise and so many kids for 6 hours a day. She is now 8 and in grade 3 and loves being homeschooled. We have groups that we join (for PE and other activities) and she gets lots of socialization that way. I also now homeschool my son in grade 1 and next year my 2nd daughter will start homeschooling kindergarten, with my youngest still being too  young for school. 



We love the lifestyle we can live, choosing our breaks, traveling a lot, and the one-on-one in teaching, so that is why we homeschool. 



I think you have to pray and let God show you what is best for your family. 

Heather - posted on 03/13/2009

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I really think that public schools are great for kids, they are exposed to more, but I do belive it strengthens them. Otherwise when they leave for the real world they are hit with a lot. I had a lot of friends in high school that were home schooled and lacked social skills big time. Many once they left mom and dad became out of control. On the other hand, one of them was homeschooled up until high school and just got finished her training to become a minister.



The other thing I would suggest is that if you live in an area that has an open enrollment process you can sometimes open enroll your kids for free and are just responsible for driving them. I know that our school district has this and we can choose any public or charter school for free that is in our district.



One more thing, my son is in kindergarden, and came home from school the otherday and told me that his best friend didn't believe in God, but he told her all about him and she is starting to believe! Kids are amazing witnesses, and God is always in control!



Hope that helps, and I do agree with Rebekah that prayer is very important in this decision.



 

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